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| I am a southern girl who has grown up with the values of respecting elders, using "Sir" and "Ma'am", and actually asking to be excused from the table or when in a room with others. This is not some kind of alternative lifestyle; it is life for me in the south.
Please take the time to read my profile before emailing me. It will certainly save you, and I a lot of time.
I don't really know what more to say other then to just continue with some of my thoughts on who I am and how I view the world. Perhaps tossed in some likes and dislikes with a smattering of what I'm not looking for.
First, I am not looking for a relationship other then friendship now. I have found that the things you tend to miss or overlook are the things right in front of your face. A most kind man here, made me realize that fact in one of his emails, although not intentional, I am still very thankful for his emails. Thank you sir.
I am not here seeking a casual realtionship. Nor am I seeking to just serve someone. I'm seeking friends with a common interst and and interst n learning more about who they are.
I am not at all discomforted by the thought of an occasional encounter with other women in a relationship, however I am not a polyamorous person.
I'm here now, to continue the friendships that I have found here and to continue to grow and learn more about myself and others.
I'm not seeking to have my limits pushed or expanded. Although I enjoy having my limits pushed and expanding myself.
I'm not looking for someone to call "master" or "lord" or any other self appointed title. And that one really gets me. I have a doctorate in mathematics, but no one calls me "doctor trish." And that's not even a self appointed title, now is it? Step off your high horse and realize that you make mistakes and drop the fantasy. Title's like this are for role-play etc. I love role-play at times. But this is not the time.
I am a strong woman, quite capable in earning her own way, successful at doing so, and certainly not afraid of it. This girl is not looking for some one to tell her to get on her knees, or that she should always be at her man's feet. That comes later when appropriate, naturally, and with full regard of it's meaning. I do, however, believe in ownership. I believe that a woman is in submission to a man and that the man is the head of the household and/or relationship.
Being naturally submissive, I sometimes find myself, as many others like me, so involved in making sure that things are taken care of that I forget I need some care too.
Ownership has littel to do with submission and everything to do with surrender. Surrender, for me, is the natural progression of submission, but that is me. The man, or woman, entrusted with that surrender hopefully realizes the person serving them is a woman, not a doorknob or some other inanimate piece of property.
If your feet need to be washed, I'll do so with a smile. Don't wipe them on me, as doormats are akin to doorknobs and other inanimate pieces of property.
My heart is not lonely, and I do not sing the song of the lost girl looking to be found or freed from some bindings she has created for herself. I am a normal happy woman. I cry monthly, and I smile most of the other time. I enjoy cooking, but mostly, I enjoy the smiles on the faces when it turns out really good.
I believe that a relationship can only be based on honesty, nothing else. Once you are honest enough with yourself and with others, then you can grow. So if youre married, don't hide it. If youre a submissive man, don't try to be dominant. Most of all with honesty, you must learn to be accepting. If your partner can not feel that he/she will be accepted for the truth, you will be lied to.
I have listed myself as a submissive. That is just a label to start conversation with. I believe that the terms master and slave are greatly miss-used so I do not use then.
Maybe someday I'll be able to make a sensible and flowing profile from my thoughts, until then, feel free to ask what you are curious about. I will endeavor to respond to any and all queries that seem legitimate.
Be well... trish
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This morning greeted me wonderfully. I had a chance to do some more unpacking last night and I was ready for the day. I sat down and retrieved my email as I normally do first thing, looking specifically for a reply from a very close friend. There is was, so I clicked on it. In huge type the first thing it said was, "Why did I find these where I did?" I was suddenly very concerned. --- A few days earlier I had been discussing with him some email that I had been exchanging with someone on Collar Me and my interest in getting to know the sender more. Yestarday morning I checked my messages here and found another note, wonderfully provocative and mentally stimulating as usual, this time asking in just the right way if I might send some additioanl photos of myself. I thought about it a bit and decided that it was not out of line, so I sent several. These were not pictures I woudl hide from my mother, but I certainly would from my father. --- As I scrolled down the email I got past the huge words and about passed out. My God! The email contained the very same photos that I had sent the day before, retrieved from one of those "post your girlfriend's pictures" site. You might be thinking it could have been anyone? No, no one had seen those particular photos, ever (I really wanted them to be special). Now I knew of two people that had seen them and who knows the 100's or 1,000's on the Internet that had by now also. I have never before in my life felt so betrayed. --- After crying on the phone for what seemed like hours and finally relaxing a bit and submitting to his direction, we got the photos removed, and started some other actions. --- The moral of all this? Step back and look at the big picture. Don't let your emotions cloud your judgment. That is, I know, a tall order when you have such a deep driving need to please. Just remember, once you give something of yourself, you loose a bit of your innocence along with it. Perhaps I'm making too big of an issue out of this, maybe it's more the principle then the photos, but you know, I can't help but wonder if someday it might cause the man I serve to question me, and all because of my misplaced trust. --- Oh yes, don't bother asking for my photo. When, or if, I feel the need for you to have one you will and without asking for it. Directing or pressing me to provide photos or other personal things will only find an obstinate bitch on the other end. I honestly feel very badly for having said that last line, but I also felt that it needed to be said. --- I wish you all the very best... trish |
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I decided today to remove my photo from my profile. --- Please, feel free to ask if you'd like to see it, however, after all the "you're perfect becasue you're pretty" type emails I'm really not interested in sharing that part of myself with just anyone. |
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Tip of the Day: Certainly a woman enjoys being complimented on her looks, or at least something about her physical appearance. It seems taht our vanity is wired to a lot of other things in us. However, "You are (any reference to a physcial feature inserted here) and I'd like to get to know you better," is not the way to do it. --- If you're not sure what I mean, then perhaps it would save a lot of additional time and effort for you to just skip me and find someone else to email. |
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I have been asked on several occasions lately about my appearant lack of "need" or comments made about not seemign to be "needy." -- I've found these questions and comments very interesting and they have led me to thing a bit more broadly on the subject of "neediness" (if that's a word). I have found through the years taht there are two kinds of people in the submissive world. Those who need to be saved from themselves and those who took the personal responsibility to save themselves. It's a matter of how you view life I suppose. I wish to be desirable to one that is confident and successful in his own right. That has stepped up and taken responsibility for himself and waht he has. Likewise, I feel that if I can't step up and be able to offer him myself in a strong, willing, and capable position, what do I have to offer? -- Please don't misunderstand, I need too. Sometimes I need so bad I can cry myself to sleep. But I know I have a dowery with depth to lay at his feet when I do finally find the one to kneel before. -- I'm not looking for someone to save me from myself, I did that for you a long time ago. |
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My thought on the "gift" - I have heard so many express in their emails to me their recognition of "your gift of submission." This is one of those things that simply is misunderstood by the general folks. Upon delving into the lifestyle of Dominance and submission, or the exchange of power, you see that submission or dominance for that matter, is given to fulfill a need. That need may be to feel the control taken, it may be the need to further surrender to the realtionship, whatever. It really doesn't matter why is it given, what is important is that it's not some flowery pretty gift that is given expecting nothing in return. Nor can you expect anyone to value a "gift" then way you wish. So let's drop the "I respect your gift," please. |
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I am beginning to wonder if I'm just the perfect female or EVERYONE. --- NOT! --- From the deluge of email that I receive, well most all of it atleast, it would seem that my thoughts posted in my profile make me the perfect woman. There is nothing on my profile to be challenged or the least bit in contrary to anyone who as read it. --- WOW --- I guess I am a true gift -- I most certainly hope that the complete sarcasm that was intended to come through in this posting was received loud and clear. |
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Email continues to come in and I am struggling to reply to all that seem realistic to me. It is taking me some time thought to get to them all, so I must beg the patience of those that have not received any kind of reply as yet from me. |
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Hello all... What a deluge of email I have been receiving. Many of them, well, interesting to say the least, and some even thught provoking. Thank you all who have taken the time and written a note.
Please, when sending a message in the future, if you do not have a picture on your profile, include one in your message.
Also, I have found that I have no interest in emails from those with empty profiles. Please, say something about yourself for the world to see. |
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| Age: 40 |
| Limbo,
Connecticut |
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