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I guess I have to add this....*sighs* Please be local, unattached, includes married and most importantly NO LIARS...thanks



Hello and thank you for viewing my profile..





I am looking for a special man.One that is seeking an HOH lifestyle. I am willing to be patient and wait until i find him...



First I want to say I am real with 14 years experience..My experiences range from Ds to BDSM, two different things... I am seeking both. I love the power exchange a Ds relationship possesses, I love to feel loved, cherished, appreciated, acknowledged for my intelligent, admired for my beauty, devotion, loyalty and honesty. I dont submit to just anyone, there has to be that connection.. and when it happens, its the greatest thing. I am looking for a man in many ways like myself.





1. Hashis life in order.

2. Is loyal, lives by honor and virtues.

3. One who likes rules, rituals, protocols and structure.

4. Is loved by many and admired by most.

5 Loves to Cherish what is his, protect and honor.

6 Loves to be social at time whether its vanilla or lifestyle company.

7 Loves to stay home and snuggle, spending quality time together.

8 Isnt afraid of their emotions and feelings, regardless what emotion that is.

9 One who isnt intimidated by me.

10 One who is an Alpha Male, not a role he plays.



I am looking for a relationship based on love, love for each other...then throw all the good stuff into the mix..smiles



What I am not looking for

A leach, someone who sucks me dry, then discards me, when I have nothing left.

A liar, someone who is deceitful in their words andor actions.

A user, someone who takes advantage of my good heart and nature.



What I desire to give to that special man is, everything....

I want to please him in everything I do...from massages, cooking, cleaning, submitting to his will, wants and needs. I want to be everything to him... to treat him like he is everything to me....



I have learned with each failed relationship what I am needing and seeking...for me to be complete and for me to be the best I can be for someone else..





Iam not a meek, dumb witted, uneducated, mousey kind of girl..I am a strong, smart, intelligent, goal and task oriented woman. I love to laugh... sometimes to loudly lol.. I am outgoing, fun, energetic, loving, kind, caring, devoted, loyal, sexy, sensual, passionate and submissive to the one that makes me feel empowered by his dominance..



Music I like...God Smack, NIN, Chevell, Tool, Pink Floyd, Type O Neg, and my favorite local bands are Talk to Sheep and Element A440...(older stuff more)...





I love movies, going out to dinner, comedy clubs, bars with friends, and of course coffees, munches, parties with my kinklifestyle friends..and the famous fetishballs.





If you find yourself interested in what you know so far and feel like chatting some, please email me...thanks again...Happy Hunting lol





tre


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5/16/2015 12:34:28 PM
From a very educated and experienced Dom. 


What is an Alpha Submissive?

In my experience, Alpha Females and submissive vixens are often two sides of the same strong woman: one public side, one private side. I have discovered that many women who are Alpha Females, are professional by day (Executives, Doctors, Lawyers, Entrepreneurs, Supermoms) often crave to be submissive vixens in the bedroom.

 

To be clear, I am NOT saying that ALL Alpha Females are also submissives. I am saying there seems to be a specific psychological profile which makes Alpha Female/submissive a common archetype among women. I refer to these women as “Feminist Contradictions”. Successful, strong, independent women publicly who crave to be highly feminine & highly sexually submissive privately. I describe them as “Feminist Contradictions” because most men view them as a confusing persona/sexual contradiction that most men cannot comprehend or decipher. In reality, they are Alpha Females/Submissive or Alpha submissives – a submissive female to only one Alpha male while being dominant over all others.

Many women are submissive by choice or by natural yearning. Alpha submissives crave to relinquish control to a strong, confident Dom by nature as part of their need for mental & sexual escape from their everyday "in control" persona. Not being in control is a relief from constant decision making / being in charge during their busy, stressful daily lives.

Alpha Females are by nature an incredible package of qualities and abilities: Self-confidence, Intelligence, Success, Wealth, and Style. Most men cannot handle being with a woman like that. They either feel inadequate as men or they feel uncomfortable never being the center of attention. It takes real confidence as a man to be with an Alpha Female.

It is also why these Alpha submissives can only be attracted to strong, powerful, confident Alpha Males. Weak, meek men do not attract them. Often submissive men misinterpret the public Alpha Female persona as these Alpha submissive females’ sexual persona. Men misread these women thus wanting these Alpha subs to dominate them sexually in private – complete incompatibility. A strong decisive, confident man truly arouses their feminine senses. An Alpha submissive can only submit to a man she feels is even more confident and Dominant than her public persona – respect and trust are key requirements.


Weak Doms & Vanilla Males:
 I suspect that you have notice that many vanilla males want you to dominate them sexually and many Doms tell you that you are not really submissive because of your strong, confident energy that won’t be intimidated by mere macho puffery. Neither of these groups of men recognize you as a contradiction of two different women in one. They are also insufficiently strong and confident for you. You need an Alpha male who is stronger than you, that you are willing to follow and submit to his lead.


12/30/2014 4:05:01 PM
please be single before contacting me. Ie not married, separated, or currently having casual sex with someone else...fwb's included.

5/8/2014 6:22:21 PM

Yes I changed my photo...I am tired of all the free pickaboos I give to men, who love to just view my photo. I have seen the same men over and over, for years...sorry guys...smirks


4/29/2014 5:08:30 PM

I think its very rude to leave in the middle of a conversation...only to come back days later to say hey....If you are leaving... then please have the courtesy to let me know. Its common respect...cant believe I even have to mention this...


4/25/2014 9:58:37 AM
If you like heavy metal, check out Talk to Sheep, Dead Swarm, Sectas and Death Grip at High Octane Lounge Saturday night. 13420 W Bell Rd suite 140 Surprise Az.

9/5/2013 2:11:20 PM

Don't hate me because I am honest....I see right through you...smiles....


8/7/2013 11:07:56 PM

Fetishheat this sat night 8/10 at the Venue of Scottsdale...don't miss it... ill be there....yay!


4/25/2013 10:14:16 PM

Interesting...getting hit on by Dommes and submissive women....not that I am complaining at all... I am a sexual being regardless...but strange..


1/30/2013 2:13:22 AM

Food for thought for all you men who think your Dominant.

Dominance is not... “doing what a woman wants... before she asks you to.”... A dominant attitude and behavior reflects a man who is conscious of his own power and status, who is comfortable in owning his world, and has the balls to assert what he wants and needs, not a guy who is wrapped up with concern about how to predict what she wants before she has to verbalize it so he can get the Mind-Reader Of The Year award.

 My view on born or learned roles

 I'd say that an alpha male in some sense *has* to make himself, to shape himself into the kind of man who is worthy and capable of assuming command, or else he does not have the strength and willpower to assume the mantle of a dominant male.

 However, his willpower alone cannot create within him any real tendencies and desires towards domination that are not already present naturally. When I talk about someone having dominant or submissive tendencies, I'm talking about a sexual orientation and not a general personality trait. (My personality is very strong, but I have always been submissive, to the right man, I need it to function). 

And as a type of sexual orientation, I do think that such a tendency is inborn and cannot really be cultivated.

 If a woman has strong, innate submissive tendencies then she will know it. It will be almost impossible to deny it or ignore in that case, because a strong inclination towards sexual submission will continue to assert itself... no matter how many vanilla men she has the unfortunate habit of getting involved with.

My opinion on "training to submit"

The idea that sexually submissive women need or have to be "trained into submission" has always seemed to me to be perhaps the single most ludicrous notion floating about in the BDSM community. I have long suspected that some "so called Dominants" like to focus on "training his submissives" precisely because he is sorely lacking the courage, integrity or perceptiveness to focus on training the one person he really should be attempting to mold, shape and improve..... namely, himself.

PS.Thank you for taking the time to read my journal. I may sound angry or bias, but really I am just explaining how I feel about curtain things.. look at it in a positive way...I am giving you some free unsolicited info, and If I were you, I would use it to decide or determine if your interested, or not. Cuts down alot of unwanted emails in my box..too.. smiles

 

tre

 


1/26/2013 3:09:52 AM

 *sings* whats this life for...

 Hurray for a child
That makes it through
If there's any way
Because the answer lies in you
They're laid to rest
Before they've known just what to do
Their souls are lost
Because they could never find

What's this life for

I see your soul, it's kind of gray
You see my heart, you look away
You see my wrist, I know your pain
I know your purpose on your plane
Don't say a last prayer

Because you could never find

What's this life for

But they ain't here anymore
Don't have to settle the score
Cause we all live
Under the reign of one king

But they ain't here anymore,
Don't have to settle no Goddamn score
'Cause we all live under the reign,
I said, you know, of

One king

But they ain't here anymore,
Don't have to settle no Goddamn score
'Cause we all live under the reign
I said, you know, of

One king

But they ain't here anymore,
Don't have to settle no Goddamn score
Cause we all live under the reign
Of one king

 

I love music

 

tre

 


1/24/2013 6:35:01 PM

The Astrology of Kink: The Naked Aries

 

Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…. In this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Let’s take it from the top with Aries, who is anything but vanilla.

In some ways, this cardinal fire sign is straightforward. Headstrong and willful, direct and impatient, Rams charge through their sex lives without so many of the exotic twists that slow down some other signs. Aries isn’t interested in needless variation; as far as sex is concerned, they want it vigorous, and they want it now. They rarely offer anything less than straight-up, full-tilt lust.

As direct as it is, though, even Aries has its kinks. Spontaneous sex in unplanned places is often a turn-on. Aries is not necessarily an exhibitionist, but there’s something delicious about wanting each other so badly that you’re willing to risk a charge of indecent exposure. The hallway at home will do — or the garage, or the hood of the car — anywhere, really, so long as it involves the prospect of wild, do-it-right-here-and-now action.

Aries also likes angry sex. The Aries libido runs parallel to the Aries will; switching an angry Ram into a horny one is an incredibly easy trick. Just let them know you’re turned on, and they’ll instantly forget an argument, at least for as long as it takes to work out your frustrations right there on the dining room floor.

It’s not uncommon for this sign to get off on causing pain. The Arian Mars, especially in combination with a power-sensitive sign such as Capricorn or Scorpio, can indicate a taste for full-fledged sadism. Most are content with the whimpers they get from minor discourtesies (such as penetrating a little too abruptly, or biting a little too hard) but many also enjoy the outright screams of pleasure mixed with pain. If you’re into a bit of pain as an erotic experience, Aries is often willing to accommodate; just make sure to set firm boundaries, and insist that your Aries respects them. They can be headstrong at times.

In situations that call for a clear distinction between assertive and receptive roles (such as BDSM, mentor/protege relationships, gender play, rape fantasies, etc.) many will top with great enthusiasm, though they sometimes lack self-control and subtlety. Aries is not really into the mental aspect of sexual fantasy; this sign responds more to physical than to psychological stimulation.

Arians will also bottom, but are only satisfied with a top who matches their lusty physical drives. Don’t try to top a strong Arian unless you have the Mars to see it through! They don’t like teasing, and are rarely into delayed gratification games or elaborate scenarios. Even in the most standard of sexual setups, Aries wants action, not words.


1/18/2013 10:26:32 PM

Local event....tomorrow night... down town... a chance for all you closet freaks and wanna bees to come out and see how us real folks live LOL... I dare you....you wont regret it...

 

for more info contact me or go to ....http://www.devious-minds.com/

 

 

Only the strong and eager will survive this epic event....smiles....see you there.....

 

 

 

tre

 

 

 


12/23/2012 12:03:07 PM

I am seeing wayyyyyy to many "vanilla kinsters" on this site...and not enough DOMINANTS who seek a real D/s relationship... outside of the bedroom...uhhggg its depressing really...lol


11/26/2012 12:19:20 PM

please read my profile....before contacting me....it will save us both alot of time...smiles


11/4/2012 7:31:10 AM
Today is a new beginning. I promise to myself, that I will not be suckered in by lies, will not settle for less then I deserve and will not trust anyone until they show me they are trustworthy. This lifestyle is more extreme in all ways, then a simple vanilla one. Which means trust is parimount. Once someone lies, cheats or is dishonorable in any way, and that trust is broken, it is doomed to fail. I wish more people understood that. For me trust is number one. I need the security he is honest in all things. He will stand by his words and actions....

8/26/2012 6:11:02 PM

I cant believe I have to say this but...............

 

If your only looking for idle chit chat... and have no intentions of getting to know each other and eventually meeting to see if we click, then please don't bother contacting me... I am looking for a partner.... in REAL, not online...please don't waste my time....thank you smiles...

 

ps and for those "Doms" out there that are intimated by my experience and ummm age, thanks for not contacting me....you make it easier for the ones that arent...smiles...

 

tre


8/21/2012 7:59:05 PM

sometime.......i just want to play some nice erotic...slow tunes.....run a sweet perfume bubble bath....and enjoy each others company....sit in front...lean back up against his strong hard chest and have him wrap his arms around me....rub me...love me...smiles.....sweet.....


5/13/2012 6:48:53 PM

why do some, so called "Dom's", get butt hurt when you respectfully and honestly tell them you are interested in someone else? And your intent is to pursue this new found relationship. I am always honest, straight forward and courteous. The replies I get are rude, insulting and down right disrespectful.. calling me fake ect. Just goes to show I made the right decision lol...smiles


4/30/2012 9:50:09 PM

I will keep searching...for the right man for me.. I will not give up, I am determined to find him....If I don't then I am content...knowing I didn't settle....I am deserving, I am a good woman...I am waiting.. I am a priority not a convience...smiles....


3/16/2012 4:50:49 PM

My thoughts about lying:

 

There was a discussion

 

Does it matter to you, if someone lies? Can you forgive and trust again?

Is it really a deal breaker?

 

UMMMMMmmmm yes it matters...If you respect yourself it should.

even little "white lies" are bad...its a very selfish act on the lairs part.

Why lie? what reason is there? Some say to protect the other person, I say BS. It only protects the liar.. I find it cowardly...and that includes deceiving, hiding the truth, lieing by omission and not correcting someone who is assuming something else. Its all a form of lies no matter how big or small.. Some say they do it, so not to hurt the other persons feeling, really? Its best to always tell the truth..yes they might get hurt now, but they can move on and get over it.

 

Trust is very important in ANY type of relationship, more so in D/s. There are many levels of trust that needs to be established. Honor is golden.. do what you say and say what you mean.. period.

 

I think iam the only one left that doesn't lie...I find no reason to. Sometimes that gets me into trouble lol.. but I pride myself on being honest..

 

Just my dollars worth smiles...

 

 

 


3/15/2012 6:42:55 PM

I have found alot of men are affraid to play hard...what if a girl likes it? what if a girl gets off on it? Yes, I love pain...whats wrong with that? It makes me feeeeel sooo good...MMMMmmmmmmm yunmmyyyy! lol


1/21/2012 7:55:46 PM

you know I see alot of men complaining about flaky women..I have ran into more flaky men in the last 3 days then I care to mention lol....so it goes both ways lol...its a charactor flaw in both sexes lol...*sticks out my tongue*

 

 


1/18/2012 11:58:08 AM
Having issues uploading picture...coming soon!!

6/22/2011 7:29:21 PM

lol..talking dirty to me isnt going to get you anywhere...

All that nastiness comes later...after we bond..after there is a connection...I feel like iam shake'n off dogs in heat...running up trying to hump my leg LOL....ggeeessshhhh!! I am looking for a warm loving man...who treats me with respect...and honor and charrishes me...treats me like a special woman..not a fuck toy..(just yet)

There is a time for that.. and yes I do like to be treated like that...very much so...BUT not by strangers.. or men that I just began to talk to.. Again this isnt AFF or ALT. Or any other sex site you can name..Seems its heading down that path.. and it pisses me off...So for all you good hearted men who want a wonderful woman.. you email me dont be scared..I am sweet and want to get to know you...smiles...

 

tre

 

 


6/12/2011 8:58:27 AM
I have seen a lot of pofiles on collarme...a good 75% think this lifestyle is all about sex, Either mentaly or physicaly. Its not, the sex is just an extra perk. Smiles iam not judging those who want or enjoy just the sexual aspect of it but please don't lead people to believe that's what d/s is all about and comment such on ur profiles. If ur kinky and only want to role play ur dom role so be it..but be clear..u might find what ur looking for on ALT or AFF. Just trying to help..

6/8/2011 10:53:49 PM

ok I have desided not to send emails or respond to any emails from out of state. Its really a waste if time on both parts. If you are moving to AZ then great, look me up when you GET HERE not before.. U need to move here because YOU want to, not for a woman. smiles have a nice day!!!!


5/4/2011 9:07:08 PM

 

I have noticed that there are alot of angry people here... Angry profiles ect..We all have been hurt..we all have baggage, but really, do you expect someone to read your profile and go.. "wow he sounds interesting" when all you read is bashing, complaining and demands? Bring out the honey, see how many bee's you get...Yes this place has 95% kinkster, fakes, wannabes, on both sides..not much you can do about it except weed them out..OR LEAVE. Either way..its up to you to decide who is right for you and who isnt..rely on your judgement...

 

Just my two cents..smiles..


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FloridaPrincess
 
 Age: 30
  Massachusetts