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Female Submissive, 35, maryland
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About Toygirl75
I feel like I was teenager again.
The great majority of the ads I view here on regular basis seem to be written by pompous, selfish and insecure jerks. Most of the guys seem to want a slave girl to push around 24/7, and claim that this girl should not value her own pleasure at all but only consider her Master's well being. They say they want to teach and train a slave girl to their own taste, let her grow and develop in her task - and of course the girl should be ready to move wherever she is told. Reading those ads reminds me of the discussions I had with my very first boyfriend when he wanted to talk me over to have sex with him. Everyone does that, you will love it, it will be so much better than anything else, and he might get bored if I don't give in... and all the time there is the nagging feeling in my head saying that I should not believe everything I am told. The norms imposed by the "big boys" aren't always the truth.. and carefulness is never wrong.
When I entered the BDSM world I felt those "norms" confusing me. The first guy I met wanted to have a session, and silly as I was, I believed that he really had understood that I am a beginner. Well, to be honest, maybe he had - in the same way than my first boyfriend had understood it. They both followed their own norms, the common "my ex liked this so all the girls must like it" -mentality. There are "norms" in this silly world, or at least I saw something I understood being norms, and I again didn't fit in.
It took me a good ten years to realize where my sexual preferences lie and what I might be. After understanding why the vanilla relationships never had satisfied me for a longer while it didn't take long for me to dare to seek, to try, and to find. I realized that whatever the others try to make you believe, the most important thing is how you feel yourself. Forget the others; what do YOU think being right for YOU? You have the right to seek whatever you think you need, and if you find someone that would like to provide it, that's great - as long as you remember that whatever you ask, your partner has a right to veto...
I really don't care about whatever the virtual people around me in the cyber space try to preach as the truth. I have no reason to kiss anyone's boots or need to have anyone telling me how to dress and when to poo. I won't fit in your ideal, so don't try to force me. I am me. I have my thoughts and fantasies, and if you don't like it, it's your problem. I am still looking, seeking.. trying.. I am interested in what there is, and where my boundaries are. I welcome the honest kind of guides on this stony road, but I still reserve the right of choosing my own direction despite your advices. |
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