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Male Dominant, 49, Long Breach, California
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Male Submissive, 47, Brooklyn, New York
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About TooCoolSilas
STRICT DOM LOOKING FOR AN ALFA OR NUMBER ONE SLAVE/SUB FEMALE
Due to my wife's death back in 2007, I am now seeking a live in submissive, or preferably a slave with a penchant for dominating another slave. When I married my wife, she had her own female slave who later came to live with us. After her death I, sort of, inherited the slave. At first all went well as she is very submissive and obedient to a fault. She is a true masochist and loves pain and humiliation of all sorts with few limits. I guess in BDSM jargon she is a pain slut. At first everything went well until she told me she missed a woman's touch. She says sometimes I do not push her limits far enough. What she told me was that another woman that had experienced the same kind of pain would be more adept at giving her what she needs. I attended several local munches and after careful consideration I thought I found the one we were looking for. All went well until the new one began to look upon her as a friend instead of her slave. Even though I liked her I had to let her go. The one I am searching for while being submissive to me, must at all times be the Mistress to the other slave. Whoever fills this position in my household will be First Girl with slave rights over her. You will supervise her chores, maintain her discipline, punish her for all offenses real or imagined and always make sure both you and she follow my house rules. If you feel this is something you could take on contact me with a lengthy message as to why you think you would be a good qualified candidate and sell yourself to me by asking intelligent questions about both Me and her. The one I seek must be willing to be totally submissive to Me and totally dominant over my existing slave and really enjoy both roles.
It has been awhile since I posted what I called my STATUS CHANGE and it has been an interesting search. One failed real time try, several exchanges of emails, mostly to no avail, and several chastisements for being an ass. Mainly I have had several who say what I want is not really a poly household but a multi slave situation. That is probably true enough but I had to use Collarme's framework for what I seek. What I am not seeking in a slave or submissive woman with the following qualities;
1. A sex toy , not a lover. ( I do like to cuddle and sleep with my partner)
2. A mostly no limits slave/submissive, subject to negotiation, as far as inflicting pain, punishment etc upon.
3. Totally submissive to me and willing to follow all my house rules protocol and rituals.
4. Willing to manage my household, supervise and discipline an already existing slave.
5. Bisexual and also capable of dominating another slave.
>Actually has no use for another sub/slave female except to abuse, humiliate and use sexually. A female mysygnistic, if you will.
6. Hates or tolerates housework, but willing to do some light housekeeping.
&. High self esteem as far as her looks and appearance are concerned. By this I do not mean a beauty queen, more fastidious in her grooming and how she looks to others.
What I don't want is a sub/slave looking to join a poly situation where she expects to have a sister slave and or friend. One who takes more than twice to learn, follow directions or otherwise has to be told or shown how to do something.
In my search I have been criticized for how whoever was writing perceived my treatment of my existing slave. For instance I was told that a new slave should be subservient to an old slave. I will use a work place analogy; An employer has need for a person to fill a management position, after interviewing and checking out existing employees it is found that none of them have the qualifications needed. The only choice is then to hire from outside. My slave has neither the desire or ability to become an Alpha type. She will cry if in the same room where another female is undergoing any type of pain. I am really her first Master as before me she had only served Mistresses. She had three including my late wife and she is onboard with my quest as she misses having a woman to serve. As far as her treatment I provide just about everything she needs as I would for another addition. She came with her own funds and a source of income which I have never touched. She is free to spend it on whatever she wants. I did sell her car as she likes to drink and lost her license due to several DUI's.
I am not into threesomes on a regular basis. As far as my voyeuristic fetishes I am not a fan of observing two women having sex, I can take it or leave it alone. I do enjoy as I said earlier watching a woman inflict pain on another. I like to instruct and at time join in on such a process. My limits are; nothing life threatening, no permanent wounds, scarring, maiming or broken bones. In brief nothing that requires a trip to the Doctor or ER. No kids, animals, SCAT or so called water sports. I can think of other ways to humiliate a slave other than using her for a toilet. For the most part no blood sports or play, however the slave I have now likes needle torture and light knife play.
Since I used a work place analogy earlier let me say this; I am an equal opportunity enslaver and do not discriminate as to age, race, creed or anyother thing except sex, only females need apply. Due to my age of 59 and the slave being 45 I do prefer those over 38, but that is not a hard limit.
If you have questions just email and ask.
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STILL AWAY FROM HOME!!! I have again put my active search on the back burner as I have been made an offer I cannot refuse. $$$$ in my pocket so I will not be going back home until mid January 2013. I have been browsing here on Collarme in my spare time and sometimes have viewed profiles out of my normal search range and scope. I welcome any emails and will answer any and all.
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Just musing to myself, but just maybe someone can answer this. If I get a reply in the negative to an email, am I supposed to send a 'Thank you for your reply" or just let it be and forget it. Is there a Ms or Mr Manners on CM to ask such questions? |
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I realize that what I am seeking in a slave is slightly unusual even in the world of Collarme. I understand that most women are looking for a one on one dynamic with a future Master and I wish you all well in your serach. Because I am asking someone to move into a Multi-slave or poly household I try and be selective in my approach. So if I contact you and this is not your cup of tea either tell me up front or don't reply. In my case since I have a slave now, I don't really need another, I just want one. My main profile explains why partly. I will always welcome questions and just enjoy chatting with like minded people. I did include switches in my seeking list, but let me clear that up a little. I want a woman who is a switch when it comes to another woman and not ME!
Also if in the course of getting to know someone I am asked for money for any reason I will cease contact. I have no problem with paying for the expense of relocation once we have made a firm deal, but I am not going to support you until that happens. |
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This reminds me of back in High School when they had school dances. Those male or female without a date gathered against opposite walls and looked wistfully across the dance floor at each other. Presumingly they had come to meet and dance. Soon the braver of the wall flower males would venture across to ask for a dance. Nine out of ten times the guy was turned down. The same seems to hold true for the bar scene and here on Collarme. At least in the previous cases you got a verbal NO. Here its a simple ignore. In all incidences people of both sexes supposedly gathered to meet someone. But then maybe its just me, too old, too ugly and too jaded for this venue. |
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In browsing profiles I frequenty l see wording to the effect that if you are not a couple or just a single male do not message me or I will delete you. I do not classify my self as the other half of a couple even though there is a female in my situation. It is strictly a Master/slave relationship which CollarMe dosen't have a classification for. My profile explains my present search. But I am respectful of what people place in their profiles and will not message anyone so stating. A shame as I have read some inticing profiles with that disclaimer! I cringe when I read a profile by a slave claiming she is looking for a sister slave for her Master. That is a decision best left to the Master and not a slave. |
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Is there an unwritten rule here on Collarme, I don't know about? A few days ago I was browsing the site and saw a few profiles that interested me, so I marked them as favorites until I got back to them as I was signing off and did not have time to write. Later when I did everyone DELETED THE MESSAGE UNREAD. I later came across a profile saying if anyone put her on their favorites first she would BLOCK them. What's with this??? |
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Since I began my quest for another slave in my household I have come to several conclusions. Some, not all, when they say no 'fake Masters' really mean if you are not going to send me money don't bother me. I see many profiles that say one line messages will be deleted. So I make an effort to write more than one line, be polite and see later that my message was; DELETED UNREAD! I realize that the women on this site get tons of email and can sympathize with their delima. I seem to only get email from foriegn places that will cost thousands of dollars to relocate them to me. Most are scams, others do not meet my qualifications. Yes I do have qualifications, after all I have a perfectly good slave so I am not desperate for companionship. On a few occasions I asked simple questions and was told they do not do cyber. I was only trying to decide if they would fit my needs, not doing on line cyber! I can be reached for discussion at toocoolsilas@yahoo.com for an IM chat. Just put 'from Collarme' in the message line. |
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It seems strange that those that read any message I send, block me afterwards. I am always polite and only say what it is I seek without being vulgar or discourteous. Neither do I persue an unanswered post nor push a uninterested reply. Most that do this never reply anyway. Why????????? I answer all messages I recieve no matter the content. I have counseled those that seem to think this is a pure dating site as well as the regular ones. I very seldom get a polite 'thank you, but no thanks' just ignored, what ever happened to manners, if you do not want messages why are you here? |
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Since I added the STATUS CHANGE to my profile, after my wife died, I have gotten some very interesting inquiries and a few that made me say WTF! When I asked one woman why she wanted to move in as my slave, when I had another, she said "I haven't had a better offer." One down! Another sounded promising, but after a week of promising IM's and emails she hit me up for $300 so she could buy birth control pills, and me neutered? Another, of which I have kids older than her told me she would love to live in a poly household, but never asked one questiion about the other woman. Then besides the birth control pills I have been asked to help buy books for school, help with the final expenses of a dying relative, and of course the age old problem here on CM, hardly anybody reads profiles anyway. |
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Most women set out to change a man, and when they have changed him they do not like him. (therefore my resistance to change) |
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