Good day to you... What I've written below is a short synopsis of myself, and who and what I am seeking... The "lifestyle" is too multi-layered, and undoubtedly prone to be complicated, to get into detail(s) about any one specific area to the general public, so my preference is to speak one-on-one with someone... Where I am in my life right now, I am comfortable with who and what I am... It's take 40+ years to get to this point, and my learning process is constantly evolving and expanding... A huge part of becoming self-aware meant embracing the light and dark side of myself; both are incandescent and unquenchable... And then there's the vanilla side, lol... I enjoy being 'domestic', being in the kitchen, and on the occasion, entertain... I adore my felines, Kai and Kisa, am passionate about photography, BBQ's, music, movies, etc... I love day/weekend trips... Oh, and I collect gargoyles... I'm romantic, a realist, sometimes too literal for my own good, a liberal, a conservative, an idealist, an optimist, a traditionalist and more... (my political views are liberal; please take this into consideration if you're inclined to contact me) They're all a part of my individuality; my "balance"... Also, I've been very fortunate to have been able to travel to amazing places throughout my life... Sedona, Az, Austin, Tx, Manassa, Va, Salem, Ma, Ellis Island, NY, Aruba, and Scotland, UK, have all made wonderful, lasting impressions on me... I wouldn't rule out travel in the future - there are far too many places I'd love to visit... For the bikers out there - while I appreciate beautiful motorcyles, I have to say I do not share your passion for riding them; we will not be a match straight off... I am at a place in my life where I want to share myself, and my life, with someone special... I take commitment, honesty, reliability, stability, monogamy, communication very seriously... Why..? Because they describe only a portion of what an exclusive relationship is founded upon... I know the difference between what I want, and what I need - for myself, and within a relationship... Devotion, loyalty, and intensity...the investment of time and energy it takes... To sum this up, I seek a mature relationship with an experienced Dominant Gentleman between the ages of 44-54 years old, and is taller than I am... Being local is preferable... It is important that those who read my profile understand that while I seek a relationship, I'm not in a rush to be in one... I seek someone who is patient, and is willing to establish strong communication and clarity before meeting in person... Should you wish to contact me please include something with more substance than, "hi, how are you?", and have a decent profile... I do not accept chat or friend requests - period... If you're wondering why I haven't listed any likes/dislikes regarding BDSM activities, please refer to my first paragraph... And last but not least, please have a sense of humor, I love to laugh...!!! If you wish to see more of my pics, or to read more about me, I have a full profile on FL with a familiar name... Thank you for your time, TBT "Submission is a state of mind Romance is an expression" -R.D.M.- If you're wondering what the Culloden Memorial Monument says, it reads: "THE BATTLE OF CULLODEN WAS FOUGHT ON THIS MOOR 16 APRIL 1746 THE GRAVES OF THE GALLANT HIGHLANDERS WHO FOUGHT FOR SCOTLANDS BONNIE PRINCE CHARLIE ARE MARKED BY THE NAMES OF THEIR CLANS"
Orchestra Seeks Dominant
What would be more rewarding:
A) Directing the beautiful, exciting and intoxicating music presented before you?
B) Feeling satisfaction and pleasure infuse you, because you would be part of the entire process?
C) Knowing the music is claimed, belonging only to you?
I believe the answer should be all of the above.
The Dominant I am looking for must be explicitly self-aware, experienced, and very comfortable with his role in life. He is naturally confident, and understands control is not about ego, arrogance or being domineering. Respect – for himself and others, being honorable and honest, as well as having integrity and values, are ingrained at the core of his foundation. He stands firm in his beliefs and philosophies, while keeping an open mind to those of others. He is protective, romantic and has a penchant for being wonderfully, and maddeningly, unpredictable and spontaneous..
He is tall, keenly intelligent, subtly yet clearly possessive in public, and extremely thorough. With his investment of time and dedication, he will intuitively know when he can deftly push me past certain boundaries, in order to achieve the most spectacular results. This takes skill, it takes control, but most of all, it requires implicit mutual trust.
He learns with patience.
He inspires with passion.
He listens with sincere interest.
He creates with vivid imagination.
He leads with clarity of judgment.
He expects open and constant communication.
What I want is a long term, committed, devoted and fulfilling relationship with the Man, the Dominant, I have described above. I am open to the possibility of marriage, which means I seek an exclusive relationship, not inclusive...
I cannot envision having less, because I am worthy of his caliber of dominance.
And he is worthy of the depth of my symphony of submission.
Hanna soundtrack - The Devil is in The Beats & Details (DJ Revan mix) BETA VERSION
-Some of my favorite quotes:
~"I will hurt you, but I won't harm you.."
~"You are loved by those who are breathing, and by those who still livethrough the air you breathe."
"A life without music is impoverished." David Barenboim - Pianist & Conductor
"Cowardice asks, Is it safe?
Expediency asks, It is Politic?
Vanity asks, It is popular?
but Conscience asks, Is it right?"
William Morely Punshon
"Man cannot live without faith because the prime requisite in life's adventure is courage, and the sustenance of courage is faith."
Harry Emerson Fosdick
"A strict belief in fate is th worst kind of slavery; on the other hand there is comfort in the thought that God will be moved by our prayers."
Epicurus
"It is possible to give without loving, but it is impossible to love withoutgiving."
Richard Braunstein
"Where your pleasure is, there is your treasure;
where your treasure, there your heart;
where your heart, there your happiness"
St. Augustine
"A mountain shames a molehill until they are both shamed by the stars"
Anonymous
"Never be haughty to the humble; never be humble to the haughty."
Jefferson Davis:
Speech in Richmond - July 22, 1861
"There is much to learn from beasts..."
Count Dracula
Bram Stoker's Dracula
Francis Ford Coppola
And last but not least:
"If men are so wicked with religion, what would they be without it?"
Benjamin Franklin
How important is it, really, to show your hair..?
"Crown of glory", so on and so forth... For many cultures a womans hair, and a mans, is something that is considered highly valuable, and intrinsically beautiful... It is cut, styled, curled, ironed, braided, and colored... Hell I'm sure I might've missed something there..
The reason why I bring this up is because I was recently contacted by someone who was vexed that I didn't have any photos posted of my hair, and was clearly a hair fetishist... I'm on a long hair group, so to their way of thinking I should of course show it... They also went on to "strongly recommend" that I try a specific product because it smells great, and to imply that I was perhaps hiding something about myself due to lack of said photo(s)...
Well, isn't that something...
Hair is an aspect about a person that truly is individual... I wasn't offended by this person because I've heard it all before, and then some... When someone has longer-then-average locks they generally care for it somewhat differently than with short(er) hair... I, for one, usually have my hair up because it's easier, and it's a time saver; I'm out the door in a matter of minutes, lol...
Also, unless I'm attending a function, there isn't any reason for it to be down... It's very rare that I have it down when a photo is taken; I'm just not one who feels any need to show it off... And, there are very intimate qualities about it that I'm unwilling to share with just anyone...
I can't tell you the number of times I've had my hair down and folks will touch it, stroke it, or tug on it without the courtesy of asking me beforehand... I understand it's different, and attracts attention, however it's rude and invasive... The one and only time I laughed outright, and in the best possible way, was when an older man approached me, grinned, and asked me if he could have "just a little bit off the ends" - he was completely bald... :0)
I've had long hair for most of my life; it simply is a part of my personality, my life and lifestyle... I may trim it, cut it for a certain style, but I won't ever be the one to showcase it in any way that isn't true to myself...
TBT
I'm sitting here wondering why Dominants post nude pics of themselves... Maybe it's just me, could very well be I'm in the minority... It's more of an observation than anything else, literally and figuratively... It's kind of like Speedos - they are not flattering, sexy or attractive...
Like I said though, could be just lil' ol' me...
TBT
Something smooth for tonight...evidently I need it...
Deep Dish - Valentino Flying (Sultan and The Greek Remix)
I really enjoy trance and techno tunes, though I'm very choosy about them... It's all about the vibes, and how they make me feel...
TBT
I've found one thing to be true, at least for me, over the years... Outside the 'sanctuary zone' of my home...? People have the unerring ability to make me think, "people can really suck." And that feeling lingers sometimes, like driving by a garbage site and you can't get the smell out of your vehicle for hours... Yuck... Although it doesn't happen as frequently as it used to, the "lingering", if you will, stays with me and temporarily shuts down the gentle, compassionate, and thoughtful submissive inside me... Eventually I snap out of it, but during that time frame I'm not completely myself... It's not something I'm proud of, but I am stating the truth...
TBT
Question: What is the difference between being assertive, and being confrontational..?
I'm not looking for a strict dictionary definition of them, but how, if at all, Dominants and submissives define either/or for themselves... No, I'm not taking a poll but genuinely wondering how people handle situations as they arise which would prompt one reaction, or the other...
Being assertive would generally say that someone would probably respond with less emotion, and more logic, and being rational... Confrontation, the opposite...
How does someone realize that they've stopped being assertive, but in fact they've crossed the line to being confrontational..? My thoughts about this question applies to both within the lifestyle, and in the vanilla world...
TBT
Two female singers, same classic Roy Orbison song... One sings it in English, the other in Spanish, both incredible.!
I wrote what is below over 5 years ago, and in that time frame I've found three aspects that haven't changed..
1- My opinion
2- While I try to be courteous and civil about different points of view on this topic in particular, I have become less inclined to be 'pc' about it
3- That folks are, more often than not, less the former of number 2
Broaching the subject: "gift of submission"...
My intention is not to offend how others view, or feel about their submissive nature, but to express what I personally think about it... While I don't expect people to agree with what I have to say, I do understand and respect the points of view, of others...
The 'gift' word has been used to describe how either a female submissive feels about themselves, or how a dominant views a submissive; rarely have I seen a male submissive say, 'my gift', when describing themselves - not sure why that is... And, I've yet to see a dominant say they want to 'gift' their dominance to a submissive... Curious, eh..?
Submitting, is not a gift...
Submission, is not a gift...
Being submissive, is not a gift...
When you cannot read music, but can play an instrument by ear..? That is a gift...
If you can read music..? That is a gift...
Presents or tokens of love, given and/or received...? Those are gifts..
In fact, let me sum this journal entry up with what's below:
Whether submissive or dominant, you inherently are, what you are...
I love the violin...always have, played when in grade school, and then again in High School... I'm drawn to violins like no other musical instrument ever made... A close second are drums, but I digress...
My all-time favorite is Itzhak Pearlman...hands-down... Hilary Hahn, classical through and through, and then there's the all-girl string group Bond...
And now..? Lindsey Stirling is...well... She's fabulous... Love.!
Music happens to be one of my passions, a hardcore, non-negotiable, MUST have in my life... I realize I have somewhat of an eclectic taste in tunes, so for those of you who find what I share unpalatable, well that's okay... But if you do..? Lol, rock on.!
