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Pan Female Submissive, 43,  Irmo, South Carolina
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**First off, if I dont know you, if we havent met, I am not going to accept a friend request. Please, no messages about meeting for sex. If we ever meet, its beginning a friendship (maybe) and nothing more!!**

**If youre looking for a quick play date, or a quicky hook up, I am not the girl for you.****For me, life and relationships have more depth than that, and in this, I am uncompromising.**

For me, BDSM is not about sex. Sure, what we do is arousing, and can lead to sex, but it is more about control, power exchange, and me being submissive in other ways than sex. I love a good scene where there is no direct sex involved. Where the dynamic is all about the things I mentioned, plus being in subspace. Where the energy is there, flowing both ways. Where the tops control has them in a good headspace, and where I am not feeling a sense of control, and happily so. Where I am not doing the constant thinking and filtering of everything I do, my thoughts, my reactions. Where I am freely expressing everything, not holding back, only being reactionary to the one in control. It takes some time and effort and getting to know someone to get there, but, in the end, its worth it. Its what I crave, and need, but havent had in some time. Im in no hurry, though, all in good time, as I am a patient woman.

I am a baby girl, who needs a Daddy. Acceptance of who and what I am, support and love, even (especially!) on the bad days, assuring me of your belief in my capability, encouragement and guidance to grow and progress, patience when necessary, stern words when patience is out the door, but always with respect that goes both ways! I like stickers, and to blow bubbles, splash in puddles as you hold my hand, color, and be indulged on occasion, because im worth it.

I am a strong woman, who is not one willing to lay across your threshold with WELCOME across her torso! Just because, Im the Dominant, because Im a man, these are statements that I do not find acceptable! I can be stubborn, but normally, not without cause.

I detest double standards. You should only have expectations of me, that you have for yourself. If you dont want me to do a certain thing, because it makes you feel some way, then have some respect for me and think about me when youre doing things, and dont do it if you wouldnt like it! Ds is a separate issue. OF course, there are different sets behaviors, depending on top or bottom, but the basic human behaviors apply to all.

I expect to be heard, even if it is not what you want to hear. If im expressing myself to you, then I trust that we have a mutual respect that allows me to do this when I need to. I need to be listened to and respected when I do express myself. Sure, the end result might be, be that as it may, blondy . . .. To not only hear me out, but listen to and retain what I say, because it is important to me, and should be to you, if we are in a relationship. If you try to dismiss me or my feelings or words, or keep interrupting, or youre not really listening, the next time I need to talk, I wont be as willing to open up or express myself. Perhaps a touch of middle child syndrome, ha, it is what it is!

I dont always feel like communicating. Sometimes I just need time to process before I am willing andor able to talk about something. I can have difficulty processing my own feelings, and I might not be willing andor able to handle what your opinion of the situation is at that moment. Youll have to be patient at times, but I will take time to discuss things without too much time passing, even if I find it difficult andor uncomfortable to do.

I will ask questions. I long to understand. My way of comprehending something may not be your way, and thats all right with me, too. I am not disrespectful in this, and it is certainly not about questioning someones Dominance or authority. I simply need to understand. Please, do the same, as long as it is not about grilling me, and wanting to know every detail about everything all the time. I am not about to justify everything I do, say, and think by giving a laundry list every day, so do not expect that of me.

I am not afraid to call you out on your bull-shit, and you shouldnt fear calling me out on mine. The people in my life, who I consider to be real friends, do just that. Its about keeping things real, and giving an honest opinion, not sugar coating things. Its what real people, in real relationships do, and is, in no way, a challenge to your Dominance or authority.

Things I like -*Reading*Camping*Being outside*Cooking and eating*Spending time and doing things with friends and my tribe*Spending time with my dog Nooo beastiality for this girl!! He is my therapy dog, and a huge part of my life and who I am. Be still, im rubbing your ears for my (pick one) blood pressure, anxiety, stress, therapy, etc.*Dancing and singing*Times where I just chill, and not do much of anything, either because im ill, or just need to recharge*Real people, who are non-judgemental, courteous, intelligent, and not afraid to be themselves

BDSM Things -*Sapiosexuality*Implements that sting, canes, whips, needles, quirts, hands, pinching, biting, clamps*Power exchange*Being in a service role*A good mind fuck*Time for being a little*Being bound with wiggle room for struggling*Breast play*Discipline*Role play*Giving Birthday kings, because yes, I do have a sadistic streak. I am not a switch or top, but I do so love to give a good mind fuck *BDSM events and activities*TeachU2Bgood2 says Im one hell of a cock sucker. He suggested I add this.

Faults - *I can be a procrastinator*I have difficulty with change*I am rather protective of myself, so it takes some time for me to be invested in a relationship. Then I have problems letting go.*I can be selfish about giving of me and my time. Mostly, its about my physical and mental well being, but people sometimes have difficulty understanding that, so it does not lead to quick friendships or relationships. *It takes time and effort to get to know me. Im not that all-out-there for the world to see kind of person. Again, it may seem selfish, but I am not going to invest my time and efforts on just anyone.*I can be a glutton. I like good things, be it food, sex, many long hot baths or showers, play, etc*Perhaps not a fault, but I have problems falling asleep, staying asleep, and waking up. I am so not a morning person!!*I am loyal to a fault. I want to believe the best in people, and do not take lightly the prospect of giving up on any sort of relationship. I will stand with and behind and beside someone til there is absolutely no hope left. This has been to my detriment at times.*I can get so wrapped up in whats going on with life, that I lose focus on other things. Thats where having a Daddy to help focus me comes in.










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 Submissive Female


 South Carolina

 5' 6"






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Female

Dominant Male

 Lives For:

 Body Worship

 Cane / Crop Discipline

 Hair Pulling

 Mental Bondage


 Intellectual Discourse

 Lifestyle BDSM


 Amusement Parks

 Fine Dining



 Anal Play


 Breast Play



 Electrical Play

 Massage (Giving)

 Needle Play


 Suspension Bondage



 Horror Movies

 Science Fiction

 True Crime

 Body Art





 1950s Lifestyle

 Old Guard

 Blue Grass



 Rock Music

 Seventies Music


 Antique Shows

 Art Galleries


 Flea Markets

 Garage Sales




 Horseback Riding


 Corner Time


 Local BDSM Community

 Fire Play


 Foot Worship

 Housework Service

 Knife Play

 Medical Play


 Obedience Training

 Maid / Butler Service

 Outdoor Bondage

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Public Play

 Role Playing

 Sensory Deprivation


 Wax Play

 Board Games

 Card Games



 Comedy Shows

 Historical Shows

 Puzzle Games

 Romance Novels

 Simulation Games

 Alternative Medicine














 Alternative Music


 Classical Music

 Eighties Music

 Electronica / EDM

 EMO Music

 Folk Music


 Heavy Metal Music

 Hip Hop Music


 New Age Music

 New Wave

 Nineties Music


 Opera Music


 Pop Music

 Punk Rock Music

 Show Tunes


 Country Music

 Hard Limits:

 Conservative Politics

 Liberal Politics

 Libertarian Politics

 Political Activism

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Journal Entries:
4/2/2018 10:05:07 AM
Whoa, my first block. I'm not sure what even happened. Like happens sometimes and you just gotta roll with it. Onward I go. He was the nicest beefcake though. WEG

4/1/2018 4:21:40 PM
Please, don't be afraid to send a message. I'm very approachable. If I think we're not compatible, I will not be mean or rude. I will politely tell you why I feel that way.

4/1/2018 2:31:28 PM
If you're Mr dick pic or just looking for sex, please, don't waste your time or mine. I'm not here for sex or a quickie or any sort of hook up.

3/30/2018 8:26:55 AM
FYI, if your views are mysogonistic, I'm not the girl for you. If you don't know what that means, I'm not the girl for you.

1/1/2018 9:07:23 PM
If you think my profile is too wordy for you, if you think it's some boring dissertation, if you think I need to get my brain out of my mouth, I'm not the girl for you! My former dominant and I were laughing about it. All I have in there is true. It's not that I'm complicated, people in general are complicated.

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