ok....so I have compiled a list....please read and see if we are compatible BEFORE contacting me!
Dominant – An individual that is given the Dominant or Controlling role in a relationship.
Dom – Generally viewed as a male Dominant.
Domme – Generally viewed as a female Dominant.
Fem Dom – Generally viewed as a Dominant that has "feminine" qualities, this term may be used for males or females, although the common form of reference seems to be focused on females.
Master – Dominant male individual in a formal slavery relationship.
Mistress – Dominant female individual in a formal slavery relationship.
Goddess – This is an individual that feels she should not only be obeyed but worshipped as well, it is common to be required to present your goddess with tributes or gifts to show her how much you value her presence in your life.
Top – The controlling partner during a scene. Not necessarily within a Dominant/submissive situation.
Submissive – One that surrenders control of his or her body and services to another within limits and preset boundaries, this may be part time or a full time commitment.
Slave – One that under contract, relinquishes control to another totally or on a negotiated basis.
Bottom – One that takes the submissive role during a scene, not necessarily in a Dominant/submissive relationship.
Kink Friendly – Not necessarily a participant within the BDSM lifestyle, but not judgmental or bias.
Kinky – Having sexual urges or desires that are outside the standard or acceptable areas to be socially comfortable.
Vanilla – Anyone or anything that is not considered to be in the lifestyle. The standard depiction of socially acceptable behaviours.
Dungeon Monitor – This is an individual, normally a Dominant that will observe the play activities of others and be present if assistance is needed.
Protector – One who is entrusted with the care of another's slave/sub, also one that will take the place of a Master or Mistress at any function that the Master/Mistress cannot attend.
Mentor – A trusted counsellor or guide, a tutor or coach, a teacher, advisor, and trainer.
Sadist – One that receives erotic pleasure from inflicting pain, humiliation or domination on another person.
Masochist – One that receives erotic pleasure from the application of pain, humiliation or domination on his or her person.
Dominatrix – One who makes a business of S & M scening. Often accepting money and/or gifts for this service.
Pro-Domme – A female Dominatrix, the term Pro refers to Professional, hence one who receives money for services rendered.
Pro-Dom – A male Dominatrix, the term Pro refers to Professional, hence one who receives money for services rendered.
Domina – Female Dominant
Pet – One that is "kept" by a Dominant. Commonly referring to a submissive that is pampered or spoiled.
Pup – A submissive/slave who role plays as a puppy in a fantasy lifestyle
Kitty – A submissive/slave who role plays as a cat/kitten in a fantasy lifestyle
Horse – A submissive/slave who role plays as a horse or pony in a fantasy lifestyle
Baby – A submissive/slave who role plays as an infant or small child in a fantasy lifestyle
Subby – this is a cutesy term referring to a submissive. This term is usually hated by real life Dominants.
Sub – this is an abbreviation for submissive.
Wannabee – A poseur pretending to be a Dominant or submissive with out the requisite knowledge. The wannabees confuses masturbatory fantasies with real life experience, often with injurious results
Switch – A person who enjoys participating as a Dominant or submissive depending on the moment within a relationship or scene.
Service Oriented Submissive – One who derives pleasure, fulfilment and or satisfaction from performing acts, chores or labour, sexual or otherwise. For the benefit and/or pleasure of a Dominant
Sensation Player – This is an individual that is out to get the higher high, the biggest and best scene, they are individuals that are in constant competition with themselves, waiting for the perfect sensation, the perfect pain, the perfect scene.
Player – This is someone who is not serious about the lifestyle and is just out to get what he or she can, they are basically users with a flair for kink.
Lifestyler – One who feels that he or she lives in a BDSM role 24/7.
Exhibitionist – One that derives pleasure from exposing themselves, or being watched.
Voyeur – One that derives pleasure from watching another individual.
Crossdresser – One that dresses in the clothing of the opposite gender.
Transgender – A person who is born in a physical gender that doesn't match his or her personal psychology.
Transsexual – A person who is born in a physical gender that doesn't match his or her personal psychology. These people are commonly going through gender reassignment by means of counselling, hormone treatments, and perhaps surgery to correct their situation. A transsexual is called a "pre-op" before surgery and a "post-op" after surgery.
Sissy Maid – A male who is required to dress as a female maid, cleaning and serving the Mistress or Master, it is sometimes done as a method of humiliation or degradation.
Transvestite – One that dresses in the clothing of the opposite sex, this is normally done in a very realistic style.
Fetishist – A person who regards an object or body part as sexual, this individual cannot perform sexually without the influence of said fetish.
SAM – Smart Ass Masochist, this is a submissive/bottom who rather than submitting, will challenge or annoy the Dominant in an effort to entice the Dom to punish him or her.
BRAT – A bottom that enjoys struggling against control or challenging the top.
Toy Whore – One who must have the most expensive, newest and best BDSM toys.
Show Piece – An individual that is meant to look good, may not necessarily do anything else... but definitely looks good.
Slave – Sex – A slave whose primary focus is on sexual service and pleasure.
Slave – Pleasure – A slave whose primary focus is on doing things that the Master/Mistress finds pleasurable, this may or may not include sexual activity.
Slave – Domestic – A slave whose primary focus is doing household chores, and domestic duties. Cooking, cleaning, and housework are top on this individuals list.
Slave – Working – A slave whose primary focus is based on an occupational function, nurse, personal trainer, accountant, chef, secretary... etc.
Slave – Money – A slave whose primary focus is getting money for his or her Master/Mistress. This may include currency, charge cards, gifts, and expensive toys.
Slave – Toy – A slave whose primary focus is to be a plaything for the Master or Mistress.
Slave – Show Piece – A slave whose primary focus is to look good, this is a slave one would take to social functions, or important events.
Pain Puppy – This is an individual that thrives on pain, they love to challenge themselves to take more.and will test every limit
