Please don't send emails to me as if we have just met in real life at the dom depot checkout. e.g. "Hi." Say something real to start a real conversation. If there is one thing I love, it is intense, deep intelligent conversation.

I don't seek you because I am weak; I seek you because I am powerful. But that doesn't mean I don't need you, baby.

For those who have read my profile and journals, and feel I am not submissive, please note:

I am a very strong and talented woman, and I am not your slave. The depth of my submission runs so deep inside of me that I cannot find the bottom of it, but I am too mature to foolishly place it on display to any man who walks by and tells me to lift my tutu. My reasons for choosing this are far different than most.

Ah. The sweet dance of opposites!

"Aggressive" is not a masterful quality. We are not cave persons. Thank you.

If you're expressing anger in your profile, calling names, accusing everyone in the world but yourself of being fake, please don't write. I firmly believe that a truly masterful man cannot be made so frustrated by those who are not his right fit. A truly masterful man doesn't have buttons to push. A man who cannot control his emotions is not someone I want to be at the mercy of. These widespread outbursts posted on a surprising number of profiles indicates to me a man who is vanilla (albeit kinky) and he has allowed himself to be manipulated, so he becomes angry at the woman who manipulated him. If she can manipulate you, she should be the dominant-- not you.

The best poem ever written. Don't worry, I didn't write it. Why am I posting it here? A truly Masterful man does just this.

http://www.magdalenewomen.com/love-a-woman

1. Show us your heroic heart. We know you want to save what is worth saving and to rescue this planet from peril. Wage a hero’s battle against poverty, needless strife, environmental ruin or whatever stirs your courageous heart. It might be a plan to increase your neighborhood safety, to improve your child’s education, to plant a vegetable garden in your backyard or to stop prejudice wherever you see it. The world needs your brave heart to take bold action.

2. Unsheathe your sword. As a man, you wield a sword of truth that can cut through cultural distractions to what really matters. The faster car, the better sports team, the bigger salary are all fine and dandy but on your deathbed, what unfulfilled vision will you regret the most? What risk did you back away from? What chance did you refuse to take? Before you die, be bold enough to discover and live your truth.

3. Dare to dream. Before you played the role of mortal, you (well, we) created the heavens and earth. What do you wish to create here and now? What beautiful order do you wish to bring forth from the chaos of this world. What implausible dream do you want to manifest for the greater good of all? It doesn’t have to be grand, like solving world hunger. It can be simple, like solving your child’s homework problem because you are dedicated to being a great father. All we care about is that something brings you alive with passion.

4. Steer the ship. Aim your life for a noble horizon. It’s not like there’s a second in command who will captain your destiny while you snooze on the sofa after too many beers and potato chips with the TV droning in the background. Get to the helm of your life and navigate by your own pole star, the true north of your heart’s burning desire. Tip: if you don’t know what port you’re headed for, no wind is favorable.

5. Bring your soul to work. Work for more than the mortgage and car payments—work because you find some measure of joy in your job. And if the job is just to make ends meet for now, then meet that employment with gratitude and a call to service. Know that it’s not what you do, but what you bring to what you do, that matters.

6. Care deeply. As a man, you might have been taught to feel lightly and think hard, to hold your emotions back, as if you can build a dam against what naturally must flow. But your caring is what this world cries for. The tender-hearted masculine is both wise and merciful. When you weep, you give women permission to be strong. When your heart breaks we want to know it so that we can heal it together.

7. Love fearlessly. Show us the way by standing firm when we are in a beautiful rage. Don’t run from our fury—after all it might contain magical wisdom. In the gale force of feminine anger, your calm is a powerful reminder that we are met and accepted by our beloved partner.

8. Ravish your woman. Every now and then, take her wholeheartedly, without apology. Press her against a wall and bind her with your kisses. Possess your goddess, oh great god that you are, and then let her possess you. Polarity is a potent nectar and the current runs both ways.

9. Slay your demons. We all have them, the dark part of our hearts, the crevices where our fear and loathing hideout. Notice what keeps you awake at night and stalk it. Hunt your darkness and drag it into the light for loving and healing.

10. Leave your mark. Don’t settle for a fleeting cameo in which your appearance in this kingdom is so quickly forgotten. What do you want your children to say about you? Your great-grandchildren? The greatest legacy is not the wealth you leave behind, but your heartfelt message that echoes forward to future generations.

~From A Call to the Sacred Masculine: Ten Daring Invitations from the Divine Feminine.

Kiss me,
and you will see
how important I am.
--Sylvia Plath

You realize that she is magic, that she is stardust and you can see all the cosmos when you gaze into her; she wants to give them to you. She makes anything possible. You inspire her to make brand new possibilities. You could never be bored with one another; she will never tire of taking you to far away stars and you will never tire of trying to teach her the beauty of life on the earth, with you.

I'm a poetic dreamer and I believe in my dreams. I believe in your dreams too. As a partner I am very dedicated, supportive, and nurturing. I'm monogamous. I like holding hands, looking at art, going to live shows, sitting under trees, on a shoreline, or on a swing. Conversation is my favorite pastime. Good local beer that tastes like flowers is one of my favorite drinks. Wine and cheese, please. I sing to myself, and to the earth. I can help people to heal.

I don't suppose I am usual. I don't give my attention to what most people in the world are obsessed with. I don't know what's in style. I think the world is enslaved. I admire Bartelby the Scribner, who simply "preferred not to," and Neo is my hero. I listen to the voices in my head. They say, "Awaken, be love."

You are compassionate, patient, virtuous in your own unique way. You have honor, but it is from a code that is unique to you-- a code you found tattooed upon your dna-- and you live your truth. You have a big heart; children and animals make you smile.You've stabilized your life, sewn your wild oats, and are ready for something serious.

"You are so beautiful helpless." -a master

Sigh. Be still, my beating heart!

Control is my kink.

When someone truly wants you, they will show it by making time and room in their lives for you. No matter how many pretty words they speak, it's all meaningless without action.

I belong in the service of the King. Are you of royal spiritual lineage?

If you'll notice, my profile is relatively serious, and my picture is of me and not a fantasy depiction. Please don't waste your time or mine if you're here to cyber-dom, cyber-f*ck, or looking for something casual. I'm a serious-minded Virgo who is looking for something far more fulfilling than a cheap thrill. You understand.

Healers present a calm and serene face to the world, and can seem shy, even distant around others. But inside they're anything but serene, having a capacity for personal caring rarely found in the other types. Healers care deeply about the inner life of a few special persons, or about a favorite cause in the world at large. And their great passion is to heal the conflicts that trouble individuals, or that divide groups, and thus to bring wholeness, or health, to themselves, their loved ones, and their community.

Healers have a profound sense of idealism that comes from a strong personal sense of right and wrong. They conceive of the world as an ethical, honorable place, full of wondrous possibilities and potential goods. In fact, to understand Healers, we must understand that their deep commitment to the positive and the good is almost boundless and selfless, inspiring them to make extraordinary sacrifices for someone or something they believe in. Set off from the rest of humanity by their privacy and scarcity, Healers can often feel even more isolated in the purity of their idealism.

Also, Healers might well feel a sense of separation because of their often misunderstood childhood. Healers live a fantasy-filled childhood-they are the prince or princess of fairy tales-an attitude which, sadly, is frowned upon, or even punished, by many parents. With parents who want them to get their head out of the clouds, Healers begin to believe they are bad to be so fanciful, so dreamy, and can come to see themselves as ugly ducklings. In truth, they are quite OK just as they are, only different from most others-swans reared in a family of ducks.

At work, Healers are adaptable, welcome new ideas and new information, are patient with complicated situations, but impatient with routine details. Healers are keenly aware of people and their feelings, and relate well with most others. Because of their deep-seated reserve, however, they can work quite happily alone. When making decisions, Healers follow their heart not their head, which means they can make errors of fact, but seldom of feeling. They have a natural interest in scholarly activities and demonstrate, like the other Idealists, a remarkable facility with language. They have a gift for interpreting stories, as well as for creating them, and thus often write in lyric, poetic fashion. Frequently they hear a call to go forth into the world and help others, a call they seem ready to answer, even if they must sacrifice their own comfort.