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What Is A Dom

I am a dominant man. I am just that.
I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part.

Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser.
I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body.
I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.
Yet to you, I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness.
I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions.
You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions.
You tell me of the needs of your heart and body.
You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.

You are a woman.
You are not weak or inferior because of it.
You are a treasure to be cherished.
We are not equal.
I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you.
You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart.
Your belief in me gives me courage and direction.
Your strength disperses my doubt.
Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.

We are not equal. We are halves of a whole.
We compliment each other and make each other complete.
My desire to dominate you is instinctive.
It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine.
We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood.
You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion.
You expect a man to stand strong and be a man.
You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man.
In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart.
You submit because I have earned your trust.
Because I have opened my heart and soul to you.
Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions.
And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.

What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman could give a man.
You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me.
Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility.
I accept this from you with humility and joy.
I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.
I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind.
I dominate you only because you have allowed it.
I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other woman, and all the treasures of the earth.
What you give freely can not in reality be bought.

Characteristics of a Master
 copied (with permission) from the profile of ?butterflyOslave? on Collarme

1-Honor in all.
2-Dominance of himself and of those who depend on his command.
3-Consistency in his dealings with freepersons and slaves.
4-Strength to not be swayed from his principles.
5-Self-assured not dependant on others for approval.  
6-Curiosity to delve into the individual.
7-Wisdom to understand what curiosity has discovered.
8-Maturity to understand but not misuse the power of his mastery.
9-To have interest in and listen to the concerns of his slaves.  
10-Compassion to hear the true feelings of his slaves, and deal fairly with issues raised within the confines of his principles  and command.
11-Accountability to accept the responsibility for the behaviors of his slaves and himself, safety and security of his slave.
12-Courage to stand up  for principles and honor, to stand and admit a mistake when he knows one was  made.
13-Advocate for the endurance and prosperity of the culture.
14-Ally.  
15-Mentor to others who have need of his example.

BDSM Glossary Terms From: Miller and Devon?s Glossary in: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The romance and sexual sorcery of sadomasochism (1995) (p.226-240).

True Master/True submissive - A term of self-description usually used by incompetent newcomers or lost-in-fantasy others to entice a people to play with them. The "True Submissive" (or more typically "Tue slave") is one who buys into the nonsense that the "Tue Master" is selling. "True sadomasochism" is also used to allude to a non-existent, "genuine" standard of SM excellence.

First and foremost---- I am always very upfront and honest with all, as a part of that my slave has full access to my account. This is done not so much for her, she knows nothing is hidden, but rather for others. If you are hiding things please do me the courtesy of not contacting me in any way shape or form as I have no use for cheaters of any type.

Love owning Sex Slaves and sharing them with other Doms. Bondage ? spanking ? rough sex ? rape scenes ? take downs- whips ? canes ? paddles ? knife play ? fire play ? waxing , public displays and humiliation are all things I enjoy. Mind you some of these may be limits for some individuals and that is no issue, as you can see there is no shortage of things I enjoy. In the beginning people tend to have a lot of limits but as time passes the limits tend to become needs, because I love watching that happen I have ZERO issues playing with people who have many of the things I enjoy as limits.

I am an old dom, which means I entered the lifestyle before the internet made it so popular. One of the effects of having to "earn my leathers" is that I tend to be more than a bit formal about manners and ethical behavior.

We are poly play/sexual and enjoy both experienced people and showing new people our view of the lifestyle.

I have no tolerance for people who confuse ?My way? with ?The way?. I believe there is no ?The way? I believe I have no right to voice strong opinions about things I am not willing to try myself. There are also many things I have experienced that I refrain from voicing opinions about. While I am very blunt, I have over the years learned that I do not have to say everything that comes to mind. I also believe there are exceptions to every rule, such as: I have never abused a child but will voice very strong opinions about it.

I believe in safety first (my " normal" safe words are red yellow and green: but can, and do work with any safe words.) I believe in safe words amd I also believe that I can not depend on them being used when they should; be so I am more likely to stop a scene than the person I play with is.

I believe: The core of a submissive / slave is the desire to please. The core of a dominant is responsibility. A submissive decides each time they are given an instruction, if they will follow it or not. A slave has made the choice to obey and therefore does not have to decide each time.

In ethical behavior, telling part of a truth is telling a lie. Do not ask me a question unless you are SURE you want to know the answer, as I do not engage in social lies. Example: "You look great in that dress,"when it is not true. You can spend a lot of time in a dress that looks like hell on you. How is that good for you?