tblueyedaisy

Dominant Couple, 40, Augusta, Maine

Male Dominant, 56, Painted Post, New York

I believe I figured out how I fail as a slave/sub today. Reading and got a revelation. I mistook love for Mistress and need to serve as being in love. No I am my Mistresses Possession and my love is to serve and in being successful I win favor. But we dont Possess Our Master/Mistress's they possess us. In our serving we find our strength & happiness. That is our goal.. We dont hold them they hold us.. My Revelation Today! And only in being Obediant and submitting ourselves completely to their wills can we be pleasing to our Master/Mistress's. In finding favor we spend more time with them. Because in our love for serving and being controlled we bring them satisfaction and happiness. Being used for their desires, their purposes, and bringing them Pleasure. We make them Proud in our being successful slave/subs. We find our strength and inner happiness in being Obediant and surrendering our control. Different needs, opposite end.. Same goal brought together makes the strong whole. But as slave/sub we are owned and the Possession of our Master/Mistress's. We are the bottom to serve their wants and meet their needs. We dont Possess our Master/Mistress's they Possess us! We are their Property and only in our love to serve and our need to obey can we successfully surrender control and submit our wills to the wills of whom owns us. Understanding fully this and finding true satisfaction in being successful in being controlled and being content in being fully owned will we ever be a good slave/sub to our Master/Mistress. We Need To Not Mistake Love For Our Master/Mistress and finding inner happiness and strength in our need to obey and be pleasing as being in love. We are the Bottom. We Are Owned Property. We Are in This Sense Not Equal. As People we are equal, In This Relationship We Are Not Equal. We Need To Understand in being Obediant and Pleasing we win favor. We get more time serving. But we have no hold. They Possess us. They Hold Us. The Master/Mistress needs to realise we of our own free will out of Respect For Them and need to be pleasing and serve need to obey "Choose To Serve Them." Filling in us an emptiness. But if abusive and degrading why serve?? So as We Love and Respect Them, Trusting in Their Control and Direction; They Will Love and Cherish Us and Never Take Advantage Of or Mistreat The Gift Of Submission. AND IN CASES OF OWNING A SLAVE THE GIFT OF FULL SURRENDER. Neither the Dominant nor sub/slave can be complete without the other. It takes a Top and Bottom to make a whole. Both have their responsibilities and need each other to be successful. But The Master/Mistress in this relationship is Superior. Not a better person! Superior in the relationship. Neither Top nor bottom is successful without the other. They in a sense need each other! But never does the sub/slave Possess their Master/Mistress! They serve the needs, wants, and pleasures of them. By doing so They become successful and win favor. In their Obediance they earn favor. They never just get anything. They earn everything in being pleasing. Being Obediant. Being at All Times Available & Willing. Everything they do is for their Master/Mistress's approval and happiness. In this relationship they are a cherished possession. They are not equal. I now understand where I made my Mistakes as a submissive. I failed to realize I was My Mistress's Possession. Her Property. Equal as a person but slave in this relationship. I had no control nor any holds on my Mistress. I was owned and she possessed me. In not understanding that I in fact failed. "How did I come upon this revelation?.." Through lots of research. Lots of visitting other sites and talking not with just Master/Mistress's but also other slaves/subs. And then in an email someone said very simply Dont mistake love for Master/Mistress and need to serve as being in love. that was it. nothing else said and I read that and thought for a minute and it hit me. Now I could be way off still here with this. But if I am Oh Well... I believe that's how I failed and how many of us fail. Just one Submissives oppinion here. Submissive who aches to be slave to her Mistress. Has failed repeatedly in serving but never disobeyed my Mistress. Clueless how I kept failing I became angry because I ached so much inside and wanted to understand. So I began searching, talking to others, and thinking a whole lot. This is what I believe today was my errors in serving. Hopefully My ex Mistress will respond to me letting me know if I am correct.

A submissive is grounded and centered and kept safe by the boundaries, requirements, and the pressure from her Master/Mistress... I need a good Domme who understands her power is from within but not at the end of a flogger. Having control of self before trying to control another the wrong way. I choose to serve, choose to submit.. why do so to be abused? I desire TPE and to feel my Mistress Dominance over me. To me it is not Dominance being verbally abusive towards me or hurting me. I seek Dominance over me sexually and in guidance through a journey of self discovery and in a relationship being built on respect, trust, and admiration. I love serving my lady being at her beck and call but only when treated with respect. because i am no less than i just choose to be submissive and in total trust to let you Guide me in my journey. For a Domme who is genuine and who is real I would give complete control of me. Surrendering completely. Are you out There? I Need A Real Genuine Domme.

Not all submissives enjoy pain and not all Dominants enjoy giving pain. Many BDSMers are only interested in sensual play, psychological domination or fetishes

I have the right to limitations and safety. The most purest type of submission is that given with no thought of oneself. if I am worried about my safety, then pure submission is not obtained. I need communication, consent, respect, safe word (gesture), and aftercare. When a  submissives limitations are ignored, it is then  that BDSM becomes abuse.

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