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Last edit January 2023. Still looking for even more maid-, work-slaves. IRL mostly at my haven for well-mannered, congenial, kinky folk in Central Portugal. I lost access to this profile for a while. Now back on her with a new profile as GuyMasterleigh! Please use that profile for preference.
2/3/2018 8:26:49 AM

Dragao Verde Bulletin

 

I/we have made great progress, but we’re still in the early stages, laying foundations, drains, building walls.

 

It is a huge project, potentially able to accommodate dozens of kinky folk, but it was not fully ready for winter.

 

So I went back to the UK, did seasonal work, then a quiet xmas.

 

Back to Portugal, held a couple of dinner-parties with a lady guest, did chores.

 

Now I’m back in the UK, touring, meeting dozens of friends and family.

 

I’ve already been to Yorkshire and the midlands, by coach and train already.

 

I went to Ishmael Skyes’, The Firm’s, Burns Night Supper, Saturday 27 January.

 

www.the-firm.org/

 

He’s always looking for maids to help serve the food at his events, for free entry and free ‘play’ afterwards, etc.

 

I’m off to Devon & Cornwall next week, again to see friends new and old.

 

Possibly Glasgow the week after.

 

I’ll go to the BBB, Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar, Sunday February 18 February

 

www.brumbazaar.co.uk/

 

I’d love to meet folk there, whether we have met before or not.

 

Then on to West Wales 18-20 February. I’ll also meet Miss Prim, of Muir Academy for naughty adult boys, girls and special girls, on that trip.

 

www.muir-academy.co.uk

 

I hear that she is looking for maids to help with domestic duties at the day- and boarding schools that she runs!

 

Then off to Rome 22 February to attend a BDSM conference. I’ll present sessions on adult-school role-play, puppy- and maid training and British caning techniques.

 

www.romebdsmconference.com/

 

NB the conference language is English, the web site is in Italian: your browser may be capable of translating for you.

 

I’d like to hear from anyone going, as I’d like ‘keen volunteers’ to attend school, train as a puppy, or a maid, or be beaten severely!

 

Then back to Portugal on Monday 26 February.

 

My first trip is to take a couple of surplus generators, a tarpaulin, and anything else useful that they need and we can spare, to help dear friends.

 

They are scene veterans, who helped us enormously in the early days of our time in Portugal, without thought of reward.

 

They spent a decade and a half turning a derelict quinta into a thriving organic eco-farm: then lost almost everything in a wildfire last October.

 

Others of my friends have helped, or will do so too. I’ll camp up there in my van, to offer what little help I can for a few days.

 

They’re looking for anybody who wants to live the life of a worker-slave, to help them up and running again, reporting to the lady, living in Spartan conditions.

 

Then I hope to welcome a builder-type help-mate ‘yard boy’ to Dragao Verde, to help us and others awhile, until he spreads his wings in Portugal.

 

There’ll be many more through the year, several back for a second time.

 

There’s plenty to do; extending new wiring and plumbing through the house.

 

Finish the old kitchen/new lounge, new kitchen, etc. ready for next winter.

 

There’s fun things too, we’ve built a whipping post and human-puppy cage.

 

We’ve started the human-pony-stable, tack room and solar-heated hot tub.

 

Then we’ll then get on with the servants’ quarters, first putting in a ceiling for an attic dormitory, new floor, doors, windows, a bathroom, staff kitchen.

 

I will also welcome the first of a series of personal slave-maid-pets.

 

I seek more from mid-June, I’m talking to a few, others may be back.

 

It’s a role that will be ideal for would-be service orientated slaves!

 

But if you’d like to serve in a different capacity, that may be possible too.

 

I hope for support, from both maids and yard boys, through at least most of the summer, perhaps winter too, hopefully more, sometimes.

 

Visiting ladies tell me it would take two maids to get the place properly clean and keep it that way, especially whilst we are doing building work!

 

Over time we’ll make each room easier to look after; but we’ll also be bringing more space into use, so we’ll always need a couple of girls.

 

There are some building jobs too, that need two or more pairs of hands!

 

There’s a lot of clerical and IT work to be done too.

 

So I welcome anybody who’ll lend a hand, in one way or other.

 

People ask, ‘what’s normal’? Up to now that hasn’t been clear.

 

It’s hard to be as formal ‘upstairs/downstairs’ as both I and staff would prefer.

 

We’ve no separate staff quarters yet, so that’s high priority for building work.

 

Domestics can expect a long day, then only in ‘gentry quarters’ as a ‘pet’.

 

‘Yard boys’ a shorter day, then an evening as ‘honorary gentry’.

 

With daily exercise and discipline sessions for those I judge need it.

 

Either way it will be 5 days’ work a week, one free-, one play-day.

 

Dominants with subs or slaves may be welcome, but for no more than 7-10 days.

 

For those who enjoyed our events in West Wales or regret not making one of them, may I draw your attention to this one Saturday 5-Friday 11 May

 

sfetlife.com/events/575018

 

Much as I’d like to go, I am not yet sure I can make it.

 

Anyway, if you are interested in any of this, please do get in touch.

11/17/2017 9:51:36 PM

Laying foundations

 

Latest bulletin from The Tawsingham Society, Dragao Verde, Guy Masterleigh, November 2017

 

I’m currently in the UK until xmas eve, I’m in Yorkshire, with friends until Saturday.

 

Back to West London Sunday 19th, then busy, but keen to meet folk for an hour or three days and evenings there, if they wish.

 

Then back to Dragao Verde, Portugal with friends, until mid-January.

 

Then back to UK; I’ll be at The Firm’s Burns Supper, 27 January, Kings Cross:

 

http://the-firm.org/

 

Friday 23 February I fly to Rome to present four sessions on each of at a BDSM conference: Human Puppy-play, Adult School Role Play, British Caning Technique and Maid Training, see:

 

http://romebdsmconference.com

 

In the sessions I’ll call for volunteer human-puppies, school-girls or –boys, bottoms to be caned, and would-be maids. I also have Monday morning free to meet folk in Rome.

 

(The conference language is English, but the web site in Italian, so for those as linguistically challenged as I am, it is possible you can get your browser to translate it into English!)

 

The Tawsingham project, and Dragao Verde, has always been about bringing people together to turn fantasy into reality, so that they can be whatever they want to be, if they can take the consequences.

 

The time since I arrived in the UK has brought this home. The longer I am away from the day to day nitty-gritty of building work, the more it seems true. I can see the whole project in far better perspective.

 

The ideas underpinning what I do developed through my life and were first formulated in 1989-1991 in my novella Tawsingham 2017:

 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tawsingham-Autumn-2017-Guy-Masterleigh/dp/B009ALLEWS

 

They’ve been tested as a temporary community in many ways, most notably 'full dress' twice in 2004, and again in 2007, in Devon, and 2010 in West Wales, whilst many other events from 1987 to date have contributed; it is no fantasy borne of my imagination alone.

 

Every visitor helps me understand better how the community can and will develop. That feeds back into the ‘master plan’ to best adapt the premises to the needs of the people who will live-in and visit.

 

So I am literally laying foundations for walls, and in a more abstract way, for how the Tawsingham Community will develop at and around the Dragao Verde project in Portugal.

 

With the building work I am trying to create an environment to suit all the people who’ll use it, rather than force them to adapt to the building, so the ‘hard’ design is evolving in parallel with the ‘soft’ evolution of how the household will work in practise.

 

Though I do most of the work myself, the amazing progress I’ve made would not have been possible without help from dozens of volunteers who’ve come to help me.

 

In many ways the project could not have happened as it has without my many friends; I was alerted to the opportunity by a close friend and several others’ help has been crucial to making it a success.

 

I hope many more may join me from April throughout next year, 2018, on a similar basis as most of those who came this year.

 

People who came to help were mostly in two broad groups, the ‘yard boys’ and the ‘maids’, though some filled both, day and evenings.

 

A ‘yard boy’ (who may be a girl of any sort too!) works with me as a ‘tradesman’s mate’ by e.g. mixing concrete, fetching stuff, demolishing walls, helping shift things, footing the ladder so I can concentrate on laying bricks, concrete, drains, wiring, plumbing, etc.

 

Some want to do it as slaves; which I have found next to impossible. I found I needed to work with them as a colleague, albeit a junior one, as to get the job done we need to work closely together. Their input helps too, which means accepting them fully as people.

 

So what I offer them instead is for 5 day’s work as yard boy, 1 day in role, as puppy, pony, piggy, prisoner slave or whatever. I already have the human-puppy or prisoner cage built, I’ve started on the human-pony stable and tack room; and the hot tub.

 

(It may be 24/7 role play, but you won’t have 24/7 attention, there’ll be long periods alone in cage, stable, etc. as I get on with what I want to do, which is wholly authentic!)

 

‘Maids’ (who may present as male) work for me as domestic servants, cleaning, sweeping, vacuuming, mopping, dusting, doing laundry and ironing, washing-up, tidying, etc. As this is mostly working alone on tasks that I assign and supervise, doing it as a slave or servant is entirely possible and often makes things much easier all round. I have maid uniform if it helps, though not essential.

 

I still offer other possibilities, of course, to come as a temporary girlfriend, clerk, IT assistant, man or woman ‘gentry’ guest, or a slave or servant to a guest.

 

If you can’t spare a week or two, and just want the experience of being a puppy, pony or piggy, for hours or a day or two, without earning it as a reward for helping, then you can help more directly by contributing to the purchase of tools or materials for the project.

 

Those unwelcome there are anybody who thinks it acceptable to disrespect me in my own home, manipulators, narcissists, sociopaths, bullies, drama queens, male (or female) chauvinists, racists, transphobes, homophobes, fascists, authoritarians of any hue, rabid theists, or those fixated on their own particular fantasy.

 

You don’t have to be obsequious; just able to ‘agree to disagree’ if your view differs from mine, accept the reasonable house rules,  do nothing kinky off-site, get along with everybody else, recycle everything, avoid deliberate provocation, open arguments or other bad manners. It’s my home, my private space, not the public sphere!

 

Almost all of those who I’d welcome back, whatever their role, enjoyed their time so much they promised to come back next year, or sooner. The rest mostly took the hints and left soon after arrival.

 

If you need further reasons to join me, there are health benefits too! Just before I moved-in I was strongly advised to lose weight, on medical grounds, as the rest of my family are obese and diabetic.

 

I chose a healthy diet, almost no sugar and factory-made foods, not much cereal-based, lots of fresh vegetables, pulses, olive oil, red wine, some meat or fish. Whatever was cheap and nutritious locally.

 

I went from 14 stone to just over ten, 88 to 63 kg. A visitor lost 20 lb in two weeks: almost everybody else reports feeling healthier and sleeping better, but that may just be the hard work I have them do!

 

If you come as a helper I’ll expect you to eat the same. If you’re ‘gentry’ and want something different, or expect your vegetables peeled, we’ll shop and cook it together, so I know what I’m eating.

 

Or you can, of, course, invite us to dine at the local restaurant!

 

I’m enjoying having my own kitchen, organised the way I want it. Experiments with letting others cook in it did not go well, so if you want to eat differently, volunteer as sous-chef. We may both learn from the other, and I won’t have to reorganise it back again.

 

Anyway, before xmas I’m keen to meet London- and Home Counties based old friends again, and meet new friends who may later join me out in Portugal, where I’m staying in West London; almost any afternoon or evening, but I can’t offer overnight accommodation.

 

I have some vanilla typing and spread-sheeting for a keen volunteer!

 

January 15 until February 22 I’ll be often be ‘on tour’, meeting friends, in Devon, Wales, Yorks, etc. If you’d like to meet me, especially if you can put me up on my travels, please get in touch.

 

I’m meeting old friends to keep the connection alive and help each other, new friends to see if we get along and to make it somewhat less daunting for them to come out to see me in Portugal.

 

Folk are welcome to come and help in Portugal from March. Settled good weather begins in April through to October. Any time is good.  Late April/early May I’ll have several visitors, again in August, and in early October too.

 

I’ll usually meet new folk at Lisbon (closer) or Porto airport, going there and back by train: or be brave and independent and work it out for yourself, and I’ll meet you at the local train or coach station.

 

I can’t tell you in advance what you’ll be working on, even the day before, my style usually involves working across a broad front, doing what I seems most urgent or important at the time, that I have materials for, as and when I can afford them.

 

But I am largely past the stage where I reduce the whole place to chaos putting in electricity, drains, water supply pipes, ceilings, etc.

 

In 2018 I hope that I can finish the building work and redecoration in the new kitchen, cozinha (old kitchen, new lounge), sala (dining and day room) and hopefully one or more of the eight bathrooms under construction, so that we no longer have to live in a building site.

 

(Though other parts will remain a building site for several years.)

 

I hope too that we can complete the tack room, stable, hot tub and barbecue; they may not seem vital, but I want us to have fun too!

 

Hopefully we may complete the ‘servant’s hall’ and bathroom too, though I don’t expect to finish the staff quarters until 2019.

 

I use whatever I already have where I can; rubble, gravel, tile waste, metal reinforcing, powdered render, plus packaging; beer bottles, cans, wine boxes, plastic bottles, bags and waste, and of course scrap wood, cardboard and paper are all burned, if I can find no better use.

 

Work goes much faster with a team, some work needs two or more, or is safer with two involved, so your efforts will be appreciated!

 

For background Dragao Verde was built in the 1950s as a taberna: cafe/bar, grocery store, barber-shop, with owner's flat above, barn for pigs, donkey, poultry, etc. out back, an adega to make and store wine, and a garden with a well, ~ 2k sq ft under a roof, plus the same again as yard and garden. It traded for ten years, but has been semi-derelict ever since. Fortunately many of the more essential, expensive repairs and renovations have already been done.

 

It still needs to be finished as one would expect nowadays, as the evidence is that they ran out of money and moved in as soon as it was habitable, intending to finish it later, and never did.

 

That, and adapting it to my new vision for it, will take several years, but fortunately I'm getting a lot of help from my wide circle of friends, and expect many more to visit next year.

 

To suggest the scale of the project, there's my private suite of bedroom, bathroom, study, etc.; plus up to four en-suite bedrooms in the main house, quarters for up to a dozen staff, six self-catering units, each able to accommodate couples or a larger group.

 

The plan is to be able to accommodate up to 40 or more for long-weekend events. More if some stay as ponies, puppies, piggies, camp, stay with local friends or in hotels.

 

I’m laying drains for anything up to 20 bathrooms, 10 kitchens, with many more communal rooms and facilities; not that I expect they will all become real; but at this stage I have to consider all possibilities.

 

I don’t expect more than six semi-permanent residents. It will take several years to build up to that, if ever. No staff will be invited except on fixed-term contract, or perhaps month-on/month-off.

 

 Gentry guests will be short-term only. I don’t want a resident girlfriend or wife; been there, done that, fully inoculated! The only kind of ‘Mistress of the House’ I’ll accept is my kitten, Polly!

 

There’ll be fun facilities; human-puppy/prisoner cage, human-pony stable and tack room, human-piggy sty, whipping post, solar-heated hot tub, barbecue and outdoor bathroom with bath, bidet, shower, urinal and wash-hand-basin for exhibitionists, all in full view of the communal kitchen and breakfast room.

 

Long term, the plan is to create a co-operative to take the place forward if/when I am no longer able to do so, through death, disability or move on to a new project.

 

Anyway, If you’ve got this far, enjoyed reading and felt you’ve learned something, do say ‘hi’, even if it is unlikely we’ll meet.

 

If you would like to visit, do contact me for more details.

 

If you want nitty-gritty detail of the building work, it will be posted separately.

 

If there’s something more you want to know about the project, please ask!

3/22/2017 3:27:16 PM
I was reminded of this today:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1nlZtW4CGY

Enjoy!

Guy
3/5/2017 11:37:21 AM
1/15/2017 11:43:13 AM

My Tawsingham Vision for Dragão Verde

My name my new Portuguese property, from The Green Dragon, the pub in my Tawsingham novella, this gives the inspirations and final objective.

 

When I first was seriously involved in the scene, organising Muir Academy with Miss Prim, in the late 1980s, I conceived, and I then wrote half a novel, with a co-author. It is called Tawsingham Autumn 2017 (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tawsingham-Autumn-2017-Guy-Masterleigh-ebook/dp/B007RGBFCW). Do buy it on Amazon or Lulu, please! It predicted reality TV shows, a pan-European currency, the internet and the fragmentation of the US, not bad for 1991!

 

In retrospect it was not a great novella, because frankly the two of us were writing different stories that diverged and the published result tried to cobble them together!

 

However some core concepts, about the place in which it was set, grabbed hold of my psyche.

 

The ideas sprang from a lifetime of reading voraciously, living life to the full, as an engineer, a politician, a husband and father, reading deeply in fiction, politics, feminism, religion.

 

The challenge I set myself in writing the novella was to create a world that could work at every level: physical, social, emotional, sexual, financial, etc. I think I succeeded, though the huge level of investment required to create it made it unviable then, and impossible now.

 

The first influence I can trace would be Arthur Ransome’s Swallows and Amazons, read when I was 7 years old, and his accounts of travel in C19 China with his special interest in judicial and extra-judicial methods of corporal and capital punishment and torture, which I read when I was eight years old.

 

There were many more, fiction and non-fiction, tales of boarding school, slavery, fantasy and science fiction; ones by Harry Harrison, Ursula K Le Guin,  Anne McCaffrey, stick in the memory.

 

Then there was reading Forum magazine regularly through my early teens, any other erotica I could get my hands on, including Story of O, Venus in Furs, The Beauty Trilogy and countless others.

 

Ever since, through the years of Miss Prim’s Muir Reform Academy, The Other Pony Club, etc. I had an obsession to create The Tawsingham Community, in which I had set the story, in some form.

 

So I looked very closely at other such communities in the real world, people and places who created a fantasy world for longer than the few hours a scene club event lasts, looking for their strengths and weaknesses, what lasted and what didn’t.

 

One of the first, and in many ways the richest culturally, (though not in money terms), was Aristasia (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki./ARG/Aristasia

), Miss Martindale (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miss_Martindale

). We never met, but I read and sold their books and I often spoke with and liked her, and The Wildfire Club (http://www.wildfireclub.co.uk).

 

Their St Bride’s Boarding School (https://www.gamestm.co.uk/features/how-a-1920s-boarding-school-created-the-c64s-defining-text-adventures-discover-the-mystery-of-st-brides/) in Ireland was the main inspiration for Muir Academy.

 

There was of course Miss Prim’s Muir Reform Academy (http://www.muire-academy.co.uk), one of the longest-running and most prolific generator of ‘real fantasies’ for pupils and maids alike. I was variously Chairman of the Governors, Bursar, Transport- & Tuck Shop Manager, Head Boy and Milk Monitor, though I am no longer involved, since 2011, but still friends.

 

There was Ishmael Skyes’ Church, State and Household and Arreton Manor events; not strictly speaking kink, but an alternate reality as Living History.

 

There have been many other Living History events I went to, most notably the Gosport Living History village, again very much a vanilla place and event.

 

Then my The Other Pony Club from 1993, until I wound it up in the early 2000s. I ended that as I couldn’t compete with the De Ferre Pony Farm, run by a couple I helped into who pony-play: so I helped them out instead. They ran weekends there; they turned out to be better at running events, making pony carriages, pony harness, had a 17 acre wood and were both attractive women too.

After winding up The Other Pony Club I created The Tawsingham Society and ran two several-day, multi-household events in 2004 and again in 2007, each involving a couple of dozen people, under that banner. The events were a great success at every level, people really enjoyed themselves, though I lost money on them, and I’ve been looking for a better formula ever since.

 

There was Gord; his amazing novels published by Olympia Press, IoW, and his stories when we met, after he heard of The Other Pony Club and came to see me for a pint or three.

 

I watched The Other World Kingdom (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Other_World_Kingdom), in the Czech Republic from afar, wondered about their excesses, read their books (and sold them on), sold them stuff and talked to folk who went there.

 

There were Kai and Birgit who ran Pet Week at SISC Camp in Denmark 1999-2004, which I helped with in most years, except 2003, great fun!

 

There was West Wales, with others, 2008 -2011, then again 2013-2014 with a partner. Malicious arson, etc. put paid to the venture, just after my relationship ended, just before our first season there, just before Easter 2014.

 

Then there was SISC Camp (https://sisc.dk/), where I’ve been lucky enough to speak to many of the principals, the original owner and several closely involved from the early days.

 

Aside from Muir Academy, which still continues without me, SISC Camp is the only one still going.

 

I’ll summarise their story, reconstructed from memories of conversations with those involved. If you were one and it wasn’t quite as I’ve said, do please privately let me know!

 

Back in the 1980s or so a group of (mostly gay) BDSMers got together to campaign for the acceptance of homosexuality and BDSM in Denmark.

 

The reaction they got was; ”Why, we already do!”

 

So they settled for monthly play-meets and organising holidays in the summer, where they could do their often fairly extreme stuff away from prying eyes on an otherwise uninhabited island in the Baltic.

 

Then one member, Berndt, a sea-cook, retired; and did what many servicemen and sailors say they’ll do. He bought a redundant farmhouse with an acre of land. He lived in it through a winter.

 

Then he went to the local planners with a proposal to demolish the cowshed, pig sties, barn and stable and recycle the materials to rebuild and extend the main farmhouse.

 

The planners said in effect, “No it is a traditional Danish quadrangle farmhouse, you must restore it to a standard that it never has been at in its history!”

 

He couldn’t afford that. So he said to his club: “Come and help me fix my farm up, then you can play there all summer.”

 

So they did, work-weeks every spring and autumn, running event-weeks June to August for a couple of decades, with the owner acting as cook and caretaker.

 

The first thing he did, when the club agreed to his proposal, was to go to the local café/bar he frequented and told them what he planned and that he’d try to ensure visitors did nothing to upset, shock or annoy the locals, bought their supplies in the local co-op shop and didn’t do anything illegal or immoral.

 

So when a tabloid scandal-sheet from Copenhagen came, it was an open secret amongst the locals. Neither the local Mayor nor Priest returned the reporters’ calls, so they door-stepped the shopkeeper at the local co-op shop, asking, “Do you know these guys who wear black leather?

 

“Ach,” he said, “you mean the fundamentalist Christians?”

 

They left, no story.

 

As the shop-keeper later reported to those at the camp, 60% of his annual turnover came from the camp, mostly from the daily re-stocking of the beer and wine fridges, when he collected the empties. Without the camp, he’d probably have to shut up shop.

 

Another incident I witnessed was that an ex of one of the guys at the camp made some very serious and possibly false malicious allegation about him to the police, who didn’t turn up mob-handed with battering ram, guns, CS gas and dogs, as they would have in many places. They just knocked politely at the door, waited until someone came and then suggested gently that he come and see them, when convenient, with his lawyer.

 

When I last visited, in 2005, they had accommodation for 60 or so singleton visitors, a half dozen or more rooms for couples or groups, places for touring caravans and tents, a dining hall that could seat 120, a fully certified stainless steel catering kitchen, and being Denmark a sauna, and a wood-fired outdoor hot tub.

 

For kink facilities, there is a big sand-floored dungeon with two of everything you’d expect, an ‘ecclesiastical dungeon’ for ‘Spanish Inquisition’ witchcraft trial or similar play, a fully tiled wet room with shower for piss and scat play, a full range of cages and cells, a stable for human ponies, a fully equipped leathercraft workshop, (with other tools for maintenance, etc.)

 

There is/was a lecture theatre come schoolroom, a medical / veterinary ‘clinic’, a harem room, suspension frames out in the farmyard, and probably by now, much else besides.

 

They run weeks where English is the camp language, German, or Danish, themed weeks like ‘Gay Fisting Week’ and Hotel Weeks when you can do as you please. The only rules are that you don’t do anything that pisses others off, on or off camp, buy local if you can, do your share of the chores and recycle the empties! The place can also be hired by the week too, as Kai and Birgit did for Pet Weeks, though the last of them was in 2004.

 

When age and infirmity meant Berndt was no longer fit enough to live on site as caretaker, SISC used money they’d put aside for years to buy the premises from him; it is now a co-operative, fully owned by its members.

 

Anyway, they essentially are the model I take as a guide; though there are obvious differences.

 

I am not yet, as Berndt then was, part of the local community, though I try to be a good neighbour. I do hope to patronise the local café a lot more, come the warmer weather, and learn Portuguese better. I won’t be announcing what I plan to the locals either; but I do not plan to ask visiting transwomen to pretend to be men either.

 

If asked about that my reply will be that I am providing a haven for them, from the hassle they get elsewhere. Beyond that, I will point out that the place is for adult volunteers only. What we get up to is our business, and ours’s alone.

 

Short-term, for the next year or three I won’t have the nerve to charge anyone to come and visit, the place is far too much of a building site, having been semi-derelict for nearly 50 years. Especially if they muck in to help with the development work here, or just to get or help to keep the place clean and the people housed, fed and watered; though I won’t turn donations of money or materials away. I have racks of ladies’ clothes, maid dresses in most sizes, coats, boiler suits and protective gear, a full range of tools and recycled materials, so folk can fly in and travel light.

 

There are plenty of tasks to be done, unskilled and for all trades from groundwork to roofers, architects to plasterers, bricklayers, joiners, plumbers, electricians, architectural draughtsmen; you name it, I’m looking for that skill set. As well as web site developers, marketing expertise, etc.

 

As well as maids, gardeners, cooks, etc. for domestic work.

 

Some of the outdoor work to be done includes: brick-up a window, a wall built higher, fit curtains and shuttering downstairs to ensure privacy, move the several heaps of tile waste from where they are to where I'd like them, gather up the gravel in the yard, sifting it from soil where necessary and putting it in a builders bag for use in concrete, sieve the heaps of soft and sharp sand to get the weeds, fragments of tile and wood out from them, again for use in mortar or concrete, level the remaining soil in the yard, clean up second-hand bricks and blocks for later re-use, demolish a couple of redundant walls brick by brick, for re-use, lay foundations and build new walls, concrete floors, etc. and render walls to protect them from the weather, demolish part of a garden wall to create parking, build an outdoor store for tall gas cylinders, cut up a bar and wine tanks into slabs of concrete to create hard-standing, put in access doors, build the garden walls higher, make the well safe and install a pump.

 

Indoors, again demolishing redundant walls brick by brick, filling holes in walls where rafters had been inserted, repairing, rendering and painting walls. Rewiring throughout, fully plumbing and installing several bathrooms, a couple of gas water heaters, showers, sinks, double-glazed doors and windows, installing a ceiling and loft and roof insulation, and three wood-burning stoves.

 

I will try to keep track of who helps, and be able to offer them some kind of credit towards membership of a club or events I hope to hold when I do start charging money to come to events.

 

Once I have the place in sufficient order I plan to run events, for which I will charge money, as I will provide food, accommodation, service which all deserve repayment. I hope to run them in a business-like way, but not as a profiteering business, though I will charge several times the direct costs, to help cover development and maintenance costs.

 

I hope too to put some of that income aside, as a reserve under the control of a steering committee of close friends, against the time in 15-30 years’ time when I want to move on, as at SISC Camp.

 

Perhaps in time, that steering committee may become more actively involved, even a larger committee elected from an electorate of club members who have been to the place and have not been banned.

 

I make no apology for reserving the right to ban folk for any reason I choose, not even giving a reason if I think that wisest. It is my home and I see no reason to share it with people I don’t respect; or who disrespect me or my friends, in person or online. Or anyone who seems manipulative or seem otherwise disruptive of my, or our, aims or objectives. Those who know of my back history will understand.

 

The kind of events I’d hope to run would include weekends for pony- or puppy-play fans, (separately or together), for t-girls who want to dress up and be girlie away from the world, another for t-girls who want to meet admirer men to use and abuse them, one for adult babies and littles (again separately or together), for rope and shibari fans and adult school and/or corporal punishment fans.

 

I’d like to hear from anyone who may bring a party along for one of the fields I am less personally involved-in; naturists, gay men, lesbians, FemDom, rubber fans, suspension play; though not for any illegal or high-risk activity. No real dogs, horses or other animal, high-risk sex, etc. Or perhaps for events where the house language is German, French, Spanish or Portuguese.

 

There’d be a chance for couples or groups to come for a week, or weeks, perhaps as a base for tourism, with chances to play too.

 

Or singletons to come as helpers, workers, servants, slaves or inmates of The Tawsingham Workhouse, for a day, a weekend, a week, or longer.

 

Long term, planners permitting, I envisage a place where in addition to the main house with my bedroom, I have several en-suite guest bedrooms for ‘bed and breakfast’, staff quarters for several semi-permanent maids, etc., plus anything up to six self-contained gites ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G%C3%AEte), with kitchenette, shower, toilet and elevated double bed (s), plus two separate dormitories to accommodate a score of maids and male servants.

 

Plus a large banqueting room for dinner parties and to serve as a common room. Out in the yard a whipping post, stocks, pillory, human-dog run and kennel, human-pony stable, human piggy sty and prisoner cell, barbecue and other associated facilities. As with SISC camp, a hot tub and sauna too. This may require finance beyond my own limited resources and I may look into timeshare or crowdfunding options, closer to the time.

 

All together it will be The Tawsingham Community, my dream come true, just as for the last 30 years or so, that I have turning other peoples’ fantasies into reality.

6/4/2016 7:24:35 AM

I’m settling into Portugal. I love the place, people, climate, food, drink, prices …

 

I love that on my doorstep I have a modern European Capital city, Lisbon.

 

Another old city, Setubal, compact with all modern facilities within easy reach too.

 

Perfect sandy beaches, with beer and ice cream at reasonable prices.

 

10 minutes later you can be at 1,000m, 3k+ ft, up in the Nature Reserve in hills behind.

 

I’m writing books again, after a long hiatus when my life was too fraught and fractious.

 

 I’ve recruited help too, t-girls to help with chores, for the pleasure of being a woman.

 

I seek more, as each is different and precious in her way, and there’s much to do.

 

Especially if I can find one to help turn the weed patches into lawns and vegetable plots!

 

Or do some basic plumbing or joinery to use the place to even better advantage.

 

I have maid dresses (Alexandra D60) in UK dress size 8 to 26.

Plus aprons, headscarves, wigs, bras, silicone inserts, chastity device, shoes.

 

So they can bring their own, or borrow something from me, if they’ve none.

 

I've lots of interest from girls from all over to come and be trained as a maid.

 

Maybe some will come for a week or two’s trial, to join me for a longer stay later.

 

Or just come out here and be a ‘lady of leisure’ maybe get a ‘bikini tan’.

 

So work here as a servant, in the house, garden, outbuildings whilst here.

 

Or idle as a guest, unless I owe you for services rendered, put some money in the kitty.

 

I’m not doing it for the money, though: I am lucky enough to be able to afford the life.

 

I’m happy enough too with my own company, and that of regular or occasional visitors.

 

I've an event in North Portugal to do human-puppy, -pony play and run a ‘woman hunt’.

 

To help bring people together, I’ll have a low key programme planned.

 

First weekend in a month here I’ll bring t-girl maids and those who appreciate them.

 

Second will be for human puppies in my kennels for training, ponies in my stables, etc.

 

Third will be for corporal punishment, adult school, (adult) littles, etc.

 

Fourth for typically in the closet crossdressers living as a lady of leisure for the duration.

 

Just to try ad match ‘like with like, but no guarantee there’ll be anyone else!

 

Maid training any time, ‘on the job’ as it were.

With accommodation in a room built as a stable.

 

(But never used by real horses, even the human sort!)

 

I’m happy to discuss consensual ‘abduction’, ‘kidnap’ or ‘prisoner’ scenes.

 

My kink is making my own, or your, fantasies real.

Especially when we seek complementary roles.

 

I’ve a room as the ‘servants hall’ where they can eat and relax, too.

 

Plus a big tent for temporary overflow accommodation for guests at low-key parties, etc.

 

So, if any of that is of interest, do please get in touch!

 

What's not on offer is anyone becoming my ‘one and only’ wife or girlfriend.

 

I’m sticking by all already have as girlfriends, slaves or in some other win/win deal.

3/11/2016 12:31:16 PM

Notes for a talk given to the Ocala Munch on 10 March 2016

20 years of Pet Play in the UK, is the name of the talk, but I’ll introduce pony-play and myself first.

Don’t take names and dates too seriously, sometimes I fuzz things deliberately, or my memory fails.

I suspect pet-play has existed since men and women first domesticated dogs, horses, etc.

Not always in a safe, sane or consensual way. Here are a few clues I’ve seen to the hidden history.

Earliest I’ve heard of is an Assyrian Wall frieze, from ~ 3,000 years BC, in The British Museum, showing a conquering general hauled through a city in a chariot drawn by the former notables.

There’s a famous picture of Aristotle, a Greek philosophers being ridden on all fours by Phyllis.

Some say it really happened, others that it is satire; but the idea was obviously current!

The Mongols of Genghis Khan had an especially cruel fate for the high-born women whose family couldn’t or wouldn’t ransom them. They’d strip them, sew them into the skin of an animal, dip their hands in molten pitch, and set them, on all 4s, to beg for food or favours amongst the men.

I’ve seen a reference to a Victorian General, Sir Redvers Buller, going to a gymkhana in the hill towns of India in the Raj. Nothing strange about that, until you realise it was in his private diary, indoors in the Mission Hall, with just the officers and their memsahibs, and the servants were sent home!

Pony-play was very popular out in British East Africa in the 1930s. Hundreds of white settlers went out to farm in Kenya, Uganda, Tanganyika, Rhodesia, etc.

They were ‘horsey’ folk from the British Home Counties, but horses would die from the tsetse fly. So they adapted light rickshaws to be pulled by ostriches, which easily adapted for people. You can see it done in the film “White Mischief”!

I’ve seen photos of British Army soldiers racing home-made sulkies, as a sport to pass the time, probably in Egypt, in the 1940s or 1950s, my informant said it was common on long boring postings.

I’ve heard from a guy who did it a lot in the horse-racing area around Newmarket, Suffolk, England in the 1950s, male, female ponies, with elaborate tack, bearing reins. It is written about in one of the books I sell online, and in The Other Pony Express 2 & 3 that I hope to republish online.

Some of you may have known of the late Jeff of House of Gord. In the 1970s he was out in Apartheid-era South Africa.

Many white settlers from further North had settled there, as their countries were ceded to the majority population.

He reports gatherings of up to 40 pony-girls on the high veldt, in that ‘end of an era’ period.

He came back to the UK, when the ANC took over and brought the sport back to the UK in the 1980s, where he had a group around Masters Keith and James, who got together with Keith’s girls to tear around an Essex orchard, in heavyweight (70 lb) sulkies that Keith made.

That sets the general scene.

I can trace my interest in BDSM to age 7 or 8, in pet-play to my early teens, thinking I’d be the sub.

Then I went to college and discovered girls, in my 20s found that it was better with me as the Dom.

I explored it privately with several girls, then married one; which ended play through my 30s.

Aged 40 and divorcing, I met the lady who was to become Miss Prim of Muir Academy for naughty adult boys, girls and special girls. I was caning her within 20 minutes of meeting.

We later created Muir Academy in 1987 together, running boarding and day schools; which became our main earner after the crash of the early 1990s. It runs still, http://www.muir-academy.co.uk

I drove Heather, one of Keith’s girls in a race at The Sex Maniac’s Ball in 1989 or so, which relit my teen interest in pony-play.

Then in 1993 after we’d set our boarding and day schools up with Miss Prim, I turned to my kink, pet- and pony-play.

I wrote to Master Keith, who wrote back saying, “You don’t have a girl, a cart or a place to play, o forth and multiply, you wanker.” Or something rather less polite, as I recall.

His group were strictly “heteronormative”. Male drivers, pony-girls, just as you can see most places on the net nowadays; that reflects the paying audience’s tastes, not the reality of actual players!

With my experience with Muir Academy I was cool with male subs, FemDommes, t-girls of every kind, cross-dressers, transgender, some transmen, gay, lesbian, bi people.

So I decided to set up a pony-play club of my own, The Other Pony Club, TOPC, where you could be pony, puppy, driver, trainer, zebra, cat, pig or whatever, regardless of gender and orientation.

A friend, Peter Birch, decided to set a pony club up at the same time; The Birch Bottoms and Lovitt Pony Club, but his idea was a list of girls, to be his ponies, when a film company paid.

So we went our separate ways, co-operating where we could, to both our advantage.

When I started publicising TOPC in 1993, Jeff of ‘House of Gord’ was up the road in Welshpool, and he came down for a pint and a chat, and we met and I learned a lot from it.

Through him I met Alan of Fantasy Leather in Corris who made his kit; I recommend him, a time-served saddler, makes it all in waxed bridle leather, will always repair or replace broken straps, etc.

Before I begin to talk about those 20 years I’ll just demonstrate what pony-play is about, for those who’ve never seen it. So I retrieved one whom Foxy had prepared before.

I said that though she was wearing fancy tack, supplied by Foxy, you don’t need to spend a fortune!

A length of plastic pipe for a bit, with a cord around the neck, and ropes for reins, work just as well.

My style of pony-play is to harness the pony to the sulky, (a 2-wheel, 1-pony, 1-driver, cart), with a simple wide waist belt, which works fine.

Some assume that because horses pull from the shoulders that human ponies should too, but that only works with equines because they’re on all-4s and the pull compresses the spine; which works.

But with humans upright on two legs, if they pull from the shoulders, it stresses the spine in shear, sideways, which doesn’t work, and you really don’t want to wreck a person’s spine!

More elaborate harness styles are generally mostly only about making the pony look good, showing off their figure to best advantage, and satisfying the pony’s wish to feel controlled.

Of course you can do pony-play ‘rickshaw style’, but as a driver it terrifies me, because I have to trust the pony; if the pony drops the shafts, they’ll hit the ground and catapult me forward.

I think of that as more ‘slave used as pony’ than the pony-play I do. Fine, but just different.

So I prefer to harness the pony to the sulky or cart and secure the hands, by cuffs, mitts, fancy fore-hooves as our pony wore, so that they can’t free themselves or release the bridle. Which they want!

In designing a sulky or cart, think about happens if the pony trips. A pony hitting the deck, nose first, with their own weight and momentum, and that of the cart and driver behind them, isn’t pretty.

One of the things people first think of in pony-play is of butt-plug tails. I’m not keen, because they look wrong, and always fall out, and if the ponies don’t have hands, guess who has to pick them up?

I showed one by Foxy which had a curve to support the tail at the top of the crease, and thongs to hold it in; if you want a butt-plug tail, please go for similar, or a tail attached to the harness.

Our pony was hooded, which is the best way to ensure you really are controlling them; and it is a much more intense experience for the pony. But usually I’d leave the eyes free at first.

As well as the reins I have a whip too. I don’t use it hard, unless my pony and I are in the finishing straight and we want to win. Then they say to beat them hard, to help find that little extra effort.

Mostly though it is another communication aid, to say, whatever code develops between driver and pony, to express pleasure, dictate pace or gait, reassure or warn.

But at this stage you long-rein them, to break any tendency to turn only in right angles, to not cut corners, pull left to turn left, right to turn right, both to stop or slow down a pace.

Pull on both from dead stop is ‘reverse’, which is interesting, left from dead stop to sidestep, etc.

The great thing about this is that you can do it indoors. Using a hobble between the ankles to force them to take small steps, as well as a blindfold, makes tight spaces even interesting.

Anyway, it was a couple of years after creating TOPC in 1995 that one of the ladies who wanted to be my pony volunteered an empty sand quarry, set out as a scrambles’ bike course, to play pony on.

So I bought a s/h racing wheelchair, adapted it, made tack and did it. I’ve been hooked ever since!

From the start I was keen to do more than Master Keith’s afternoon events. In the late 1990s there were big multi-scene PleasureZones in London, with nearly a thousand people. (Yes there WAS a big kink community before the internet got going!) I did pony-play there many times as a sideshow.

I did demos and workshops at alternative markets in London, Birmingham, Bristol, through the late 90s and early noughties, at Kinkfests and Pervefests in London, took pony-carts on the SM Pride marches related to the Spanner case fundraising.

In 1997 I did the first pony week, hiring a farm in West Wales, usually used by school parties on geography field trips, located whilst looking for Muir Academy venues. As many events it was a disaster money-wise, but great fun. I wanted to create it again, but on a sounder financial footing.

In that period Mistress Anne created Shropshire Trotting, at a naturist venue, great fun as there were some steep grassy slopes, ravines, exhilarating to take at speed!

I also ran an event in a cottage in North Wales and did my longest ever drive, 4 full miles on rough forestry tracks up and downhill, much of it at a trot, drawn by a fell-runner.

In about 1998 two girls approached me to show them pony-play. So I did, in a bit of private woodland near Gatwick airport, where I had held several events.

They went out and bought a 17 acre pheasant-shooting wood for pony-play. Between them they were better at leatherwork, welding, running events, and were attractive ladies in their 30s.

So they created the De Ferre Pony Farm in Devon in about 1999, (and The Ferreton Forced Labour Camp), and ran it very successfully for years. I couldn’t beat them so helped them instead.

I also hired a minor stately home in Scotland for a pony weekend, a 12 hour drive away in 1999.

There were also Pet Weeks at SISC camp in Denmark from 1999 to 2004, which involved anything from a dozen to 70 people, anything up ten sulkies.

The organisers, still run a thriving pony-play scene in North Germany.

SISC Camp is great, a BDSM holiday camp, co-operatively owned, I thoroughly recommend it.

In 2003, with De Ferre Pony Farm having cornered the UK pony-play market, I turned to my Tawsingham Community concept.

It was a novella I wrote in 1991; where you could be whatever you want to be, man, woman, pony, puppy, free, servant, slave, as a small community of households, male-, female-, whatever led.

I found a place and ran two events in 2004 in a hen farm; not a place where poultry are kept, but a farmhouse health spa catering for hen parties; busy at weekends, free to hire weekdays.

They worked amazingly well, with 30 or so folk involved, but again failed money-wise.

Pony, puppy-play featured heavily, with stocks, pillory and whipping post on the village green. With a Hiring Fair to allocate slaves to suitable Masters and Mistresses, a Workhouse for those without ..

Then the De Ferre ladies moved and sold their wood to Lady Sarah of the UK FemDom Society.

I discreetly helped Lady Sarah run pony events at the Devon Wood, and had a Tawsingham event there in 2006, but they sold it back into vanilla hands when her partner had a minor heart attack.

I also ran a pony-play week at a naturist campsite in central France that year.

In that period I also had a couple of ‘sun and moon’ events where we ponies on the beach by day, partied in our host’s dungeon in the evening and ponied in the mountains by moonlight on paths where narrow-gauge railways had run.

I also took a couple of fully-clothed ponies down the towpath of the Grand Union canal in London, which was great fun.

I ran events where I could, notably another couple of Tawsingham events at another place in Devon in 2007. Venues have always been difficult, though we had a thriving UK pony-play scene.

But mostly, aside from people playing 1:1aside from what I did there were not any public, open events.

So when Trainer Bryan started the North Downs Pony Club in 2007 at a former naturist club that had accepted BDSM scene events in the North Kent woods, I was delighted.

I expected it to take off with dozens, maybe scores of people at the cheap prices, close to London.

I helped him run the first event. But rapidly I began hearing that he was making false allegations about me, That I tried to rip him off for money, that I pompously insisted on being called “Sir Guy”.

I went with two friends a cross-dresser and a transgender woman whom his friends mocked behind my back, similarly with a male sub; and I was laughed at when I objected, so I gave up on the place.

Even more worrying was that heard from other FemDom, trans, malesub friends and pony-players who were being disrespected, ignored, bullied.

Though he claimed to be “pansexual”, somehow it evolved into a club for couples, and single girls who’d play with him, though none stayed long with him and reported he was a bully.

I publicly called him out on this in 2009, after realising fully and exactly what was going on, from words at Sparky’s Barnyard Club in Warrington and Pony event in Preston, that I also helped with.

It’s a familiar pattern almost everywhere, and I gather the scene in Australia, New Zealand, South Africa is much like that, male Doms saying other orientations aren’t interested, won’t bother coming out to play; when it is the old patriarchy game. Please don’t let it happen to you!

In 2008 I was asked whether I could help Tony set up pony-play at his friend Fred’s place in West Wales, so I did. It’s the last hilltop in The Black Mountains before the Atlantic Ocean; there aren’t many other places I know where you can pony in the sunshine privately, with 30-mile views.

In 2009 a guy moved onto the site and we put a lot of effort to try and develop it, we demolished a WW2 barrack hut, and moved it on to site, dug a well, built a composting toilet.

I ran three events on site that year, establishing at Easter that, though it takes two human ponies to pull a plough in dry Danish sand, it takes four ponies in wet Welsh peat.

Plus two events that Summer, involving pony-play, puppy-play, whip-cracking, outdoor bondage – apparently sunburned armpits from being staked out are particularly painful!

With the guy on site at odds with the landlord and I, there was very little further development there in 2010, beyond him cutting the grass thoroughly, but I ran a very successful Tawsingham Camp there in September.

I also ran an event in June 2010 in a big BDSM Club, The Factory in Romford, where we ran a pony/puppy event in the afternoon, with pony and ‘greyhound’ races in the evening in front of the BDSM club audience. Ponies and puppies love an audience!

In 2011 Miss Prim left me, in an almost-amicable separation and divorce.

The guy on site said he wanted to develop West Wales alone, so I left him to it.

We went back to North Wales and ponied on the beach, and at a kinky farm venue that opened for a while; and then as so many places do closed again later with no obvious reasons given.

I did wonderful pony and puppy-play workshops at Twisted Leprechaun in Dublin in 2011.

I didn’t do much in 2012, too busy elsewhere in vanilla life, but we did pony down Brick Lane in East London, on a busy Saturday afternoon, as a publicity stunt for an art gallery, Bystanders loved it, except for the imam at the mosque there.

I held a pony event on a college campus, with a new generation of students.

In 2013 I’d sold the former matrimonial home, moved on and we wondered if we could play in West Wales again. The landlord reported that the guy had left, and welcomed me.

So we did a lot of work there, moved a couple of mobile homes onto the site, built a garage for the ride-on mower and other heavy tools, moved a delivery-van body on to store our pony-carts and other tools, before Winter closed in.

Just before Xmas 2013 Trainer Bryan of the North Downs Pony Club was jailed for 21 months for involving a child in sex and BDSM and having a video of his dog in a sex act.

Pony-play in the UK was knocked sideways for a while after that.

In 2014 we planned a Summer-long season of events in West Wales, but it was not to be.

My new partner and I broke up.

‘Someone’ broke into out trailer on site for a drink and drug-fuelled gang-bang party, trashed the other trailer and burned our tool sheds, etc.

So I sold pretty much everything we had, both where we’d lived and in West Wales, as I no longer had much use for most of it.

I moved in with a friend in London to sort my life out.

The UK season is now recovering, with several regular events in Kent, Norfolk, the midlands, Shropshire.

Some healthy and pansexual, some gay, some heteronormative and cliquey.

It was actually what I’d always wanted to see, it is a shame that it took the scandal around Trainer Bryan to bring it about.

I’d still prefer to see more co-operation between the various groups.

If you want to know which is best for you, I’ll tell you privately.

Personally I’m standing off. It is high time for them to find out how to do it their way.

I ran a small event in West Wales again, last year, just to show the twerp that I could.

He blew it to the media. Comments were two reactions; “who cares” or “how do we join?”

I’m going back there this Spring and Summer, because it is such a great place.

Profits pay to cut the grass, maintain the site and to the elderly, disabled, land-owner.

The site is also available for hire to other groups.

I am still doing workshops at events like Kinkfest in Birmingham, England, this July, and indeed this one!

2015 I spent renewing old friendships, making new ones, travelling all over the UK, Germany.

In October I went to Portugal to look for places to extend the May-August pony-play season in the UK, and I found somewhere I’ll use there in late September this year.

I also found a small property with brick-built stables, kennels, show ring and small house, garage, etc. I moved into it last week, I'm setting things up in April.

From June I may take guests to, in true Tawsingham style, “Be whatever you want to be – if you can take the consequences! To be human puppies, maids, ladies of leisure, prisoners, ponies ..

At that point I just show some puppy-play, putting a collar on this puppy, having him walk to heel, sit, play fetch.

You can take that as deep or as light as you like; I’ve been in touch with ex-puppies who’ve lived the role for months and years. Or you can just do it with little or no gear at all on the spur of the moment.

Puppy-play is a staple role in the gay leather scene, but you don’t have to male, or conform to the conventions of that scene, be gay, male or whatever.

I’ve had Shep, an old English sheepdog, with a full cover fur-suit, whose favourite role was impersonating a hearthrug.

I’ve had Cutie, a wonderful little poodle in a pink fur bikini, leg braces to keep her on all 4s and mitts.

Personally I prefer minimal, no more than a collar, mitts and knee pads, but fur-suits, rubber, leather are all fine.

So far I’ve covered how the UK scene has developed, so if you’re interested here’s an outline of the kind of things we do with ponies; side by side racing, long-distance timed races, obstacle races, pony-polo, tent-pegging, custard-pie jousting, relay races, egg and spoon races, jumps, dressage.

If it happens at a gymkhana with real equines, then we can do the equivalent; and obviously the same applies with our dogs …

As well as ponies and puppies we’ve had zebras, piggies, human-sheep herding with human dogs, I’ve heard from a lot of wannabe “hucows” and those who be caged or circus “wild animals”. And the new one I’ve just met tonight, a monkey!

Anyway, thank you to a wonderful group who indulged me by letting me talk so much, and showed so much interest and appreciation during the period and afterwards.

Hopefully, you know where I, or ponygroom, are if you want to come out to play!

Guy

2/2/2016 4:42:45 AM

Ocala, Florida, Louisiana, N. American friends ...

I'm off to Florida next month, to stay with friends.

I've been asked to do a workshop at The Ocala munch 10 March,https://fetlife.com/events/412452 on 20 years of pony-play. I'll need a volunteer human-pony and a -puppy; no experience preferred!

As always at these events I hope to pass some experience on; but I also know I'll learn a lot and look forward to that.

I hope to visit many other scene events in Florida in the rest of the month, and hopefully meet old and new friends from Florida and the rest of North America.

I also have the honour of being one of the judges at Ponies On The Delta camp, https://fetlife.com/events/398573 1-3 April, and I'll also be looking for ponies to drive and puppies to train, if I can find suitable volunteers.

There's a group all about the event here,https://fetlife.com/groups/133352 for anybody interested.

I hope to meet some of you there, do please get in touch if there's any possibility we could meet up at some point.

Guy

2/1/2016 3:10:46 PM

I've been talking to a lot of people on here about being one of my maids in Portugal.

These are some notes I put together from those conversations to save myself repeating myself endlessly!

My policy is, "To do nothing that may compromise the health, wealth or public reputation of my playmates, and to do nothing with people I find myself unable to respect.”

To expand on this for those in service with me, short-term or permanently.
For a slave:

A concern about health is the most likely reason you may say 'no' to me. That will be taken seriously; if necessarily taking time out to resolve the issue.

If serving me short term you’ll have no access to money, or need for it. If longer-term any savings you have should be put away 'for a rainy day'. You'll rely on me for pocket money for toiletries, cosmetics, etc.

If you want hormones or plan surgery as part of transition, you will have to pay for it yourself; there is no public provision for funding in Portugal. So set up a fund we can administer for this purpose. (I would still wish it done under medical supervision, to monitor blood tests, etc.)

To protect your public reputation, I’d prefer you take a new name on entering service, we make no reference to any previous vanilla persona, at all; and ideally not to previous scene personas either.

I see some Masters and Mistresses are disrespectful of their submissives. If I don’t feel respectful of your character, talents, achievements etc. I don’t want you in my service!

If you find it difficult to respect yourself; but I’m still interested in you, let me help you.

If you find you can no longer respect me as your Master, please ask to move on.

It was the custom for maids to provide their own uniform; as feudal times evolved, there was a spate of runaway maids and footmen being charged with stealing their Master's property, to whit the clothes they wore, them having no other of their own.

That was in C17 and C18 and thereafter staff provided their own if they possibly could, as if you were wearing your Master's clothes you were effectively a slave.

It was the custom to never cut a girls hair until she went into service. At that age ~ 12 their mother would cut their hair short, sell if for making wigs, buy the material with it to make a dress and sew it for her. to measure.

The outfits I favour are ideally (though first time bring hat you'll have and we'll improvise):

Day uniform; gardening shoes or sandals even barefoot, no hosiery, silicone fillers and bra, plain light pastel colour, (blue, pink, yellow, green, grey, brown), cotton or poly-cotton dress, ideally with detachable white collar and possibly cuffs for boil wash, full bib white apron, headscarf.
These people may be able to help:
http://www.ladoncellauniformes.com/
perhaps:
http://www.ladoncellauniformes.com/#!product/prd1/892276374/modelo-camelia-jaretas
Or:

https://shops.hmedia.com/WebRoot/Store/Shops/2955-140601/MediaGallery/CATALOGOS/TOGS_CATALOGO_SERVICOS_SET2015.pdf
Or:
http://www.modelosguanabara.pt/contactos.html

Evening uniform; black medium-heel court shoes, black stockings, suspender belt, silicone fillers and bra, plain black cotton or poly-cotton dress with detachable white collar and possibly cuffs, white waist apron, mob cap, make-up.

NB no lace, frills, fancy touches, exotic fabrics (satin, silk, PVC, leather) to the dresses, just plain and practical for laundry.

Shortish above the knee hemline if they'd opted to provide full service, for access and so they are, and feel, vulnerable. Buy longer and learn to hem it!
Longer, e.g. calf length otherwise.

NB just one day uniform, one evening one, at least initially. 

Plus one low-key but unmistakably feminine, smart-casual, age-appropriate and reasonably fashionable outfit for trips out, for e.g. hairdos, laser or electrolysis sessions.

If you're just coming for a week, I'd hope you can bring them; if hard up, one may be enough.
For permanent service you’d to go back to wind up your affairs; ideally bring back 2 of each outfit is good.

Personal grooming, etc. I'd want you shaved all over, aside from head, eyelashes, thinned eyebrows. Minimal cosmetics by day, full make-up evenings if serving me or other gentry.

Bring a wig, if needed, to be worn until and unless your hair grows long enough for a feminine style.

Symbols of service, ownership. These are important to some, less so to others.

In general, if you have a cock, I'd prefer it locked up safely in a chastity device, (no knickers, for hygiene). I find that helps most such slaves accept their role, enhancing their service.
For those on a budget I recommend a Chinese-made stainless steel device from eBay; it may fit, and if it does it'll be good, but it's not too much to spend.
If you've the budget I recommend the Neosteel The Arch with Forced Feminizer:
http://shop.neosteel.com/en/Transformation/Silicone-Vagina1
http://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.?threads/the-forced-feminizer.7580/#post-75263
Or if you really insist on wearing knickers, you may find yourself wearing these:
http://www.lingeriebychristine.co.uk/sissies/id15.html
or
http://superdresses.com/catalog/index.

I realise that dynamic doesn't work for some, and it is something I'm willing to negotiate on.

A collar is a fairly usual symbol of slavery, and for an ordinary slave I consider a plain leather collar is appropriate. My servants wear something prettier, a choker or similar.

Some will also wear an ankle chain, initially. Others may wear a nasal septum ring, as a more permanent and overt symbol. Something up for discussion and negotiation.

Permanent girls will have pierced ears, and wear simple rings in them.

Draft day timetable, presuming you're the only girl with me. (I eventually would like several, all of who will probably get their turn(s) as 'bed-warmer' if they volunteer.)

Obviously it will vary according to duties assigned to you, other circumstances.

Wake at 6 am, get up, toilet, shave, shower, have light breakfast; toast or porridge.

Wake me at 7am with a cup of coffee, ask if there's anything you can do for me; use your imagination to imagine what that may mean.

Lay out my clothes for the day, iron if necessary, prepare breakfast.

I get up at 8 am, dress, you serve my breakfast; porridge, toast, something simple.

I tell you what to do for the day, you go do it.

Probably I'll go to my office at the other end of the property.

From time to time I may take a walk around to get away from the computer screen, see what you and others are doing, check you/they understand fully what is needed.

About 1pm you break off what you're doing and lay the table for me with some bread, cheese, cold meat, salad for lunch. I eat alone or with 'gentry' guests.

I go back to work, you have some of the same too, then clear away, wash up, etc.

If you're working with me, as e.g.  office-girl, you can expect a lot of contact, stroking, patting, fondling, sitting on my lap: the kind of thing that would never now happen in a politically correct office; which I'd hope you'd enjoy.

About 6 pm, you go and shower, shave, change into the evening uniform and prepare a meal, and serve it to me in the kitchen/dining room.

12/9/2015 6:40:23 AM
Here's a video of me training one of my ponies. You've always been able to try this kind of thing at the events I run, but I'm shortly moving to a place in Portugal where you can visit to experience this kind of thing in person, without having to wait for 'an event':

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-bizarre-fetish-handbook/on-demand/62173-006
10/3/2015 2:55:25 PM

I've had a damn good 2015, getting out and about meeting many new friends.

One of the things that worked best was setting up a household supported by volunteer maid(s).

They appreciated the chance to live the role and learn 'on the job'.

I'm glad that I'm accumulating a reservoir of girls prepared to support us this way.

This year I did it by nominating an area, and date, seeing who volunteered and getting them together.

Next year I'll do it by looking for girls who want to volunteer as my maid to get in touch.

Or perhaps somebody who wants to be a valet or butler, or even 'temporary wife'?

Then if we agree on a particular week or weekend, have them book a suitable flat or cottage.

Either local to them, or somewhere where accommodation is cheaper, convenient for us both to get to.

After my travels over this year, by air with just a Ryanair-compatible rucksack and laptop, I'm mobile.

I'd go anywhere in Europe, Ireland to the Urals, Scandiavia to Greece, by car, train, bus or plane

So they book the place, I cover my travel costs and the food and drink we discuss sharing costs.

I travel alone or with a girl friend and/or another maid perhaps others, together or from different places.

Is there anybody interested in taking me up on this?

Guy

10/3/2015 2:54:25 PM

RE 2016 West Wales Events

I hope and expect we'll go back there twice next year, in early May and in early August.

It will be six days long, Tuesday to Sunday pm, with formal events over the Friday and Saturday, informal events elsewhen.

Draft dates 3-8 May and 2-7 August Tuesday to Sunday.

There should be several groups, in towed-caravans and motorhomes, tents, etc.

There'll be a big multi-compartment tent for couples or singletons who come without tents or caravans, and for use as communal space.

If you want a proper bed, plumbing, etc. there is hotel or B&B accommodation in the local area, I may be able to suggest places to look, depending on your budget.

Costs will be £50 per person, inclusive of camping, tent-space, etc. That doesn't include food or drinks, etc. The same if you just come for a day or the whole period.

That is to keep things simple and encourage you all to come for as long as you can.

First call on the proceeds will pay for to cut the grass, etc. the rest shared between the landowner and invested in making the site safer and more useful.

Participation in distinctively "Tawsingham" aspects is entirely voluntary!

As usual there will be pony-, puppy and other play, perhaps a hunt, etc.

Details can't yet be settled until we know who and how many will be coming. Please get in touch please if you'd like to come and I'll ask for deposits from 1 Jan.

After the last event I can't allow anyone to attend, unless they've paid a deposit or the full amount before arrival.

I will be on site for 7-10 days before the event begins, to sort out the ravages of winter and prepare the site for the event, alone or with friends. Anybody who'd like to join me is very welcome, no fees, beyond a contribution to your food, etc.

Please get in touch if you'd like to come to one of these events.

Guy

8/18/2015 9:01:27 AM

Pony Camp August 2015 in West Wales went wonderfully well, with more than a dozen involved.

We initiated two new ponies who loved it, two experienced ponies got a chance to play.

A new pony driver proved her skill on the obstacle course we constructed.

I met a new puppy-girl, too though she wasn't able to attend the event.

We did a lot to clear and tidy the site, rationalising the 'stuff' piled-up all over.

There's a lot yet to be done to clear all the wreckage of criminal damage, arson, etc.

It will take years, but we now have an agreed plan, a way forward to achieve that aim.

The land-owner wants the site largely 'returned to nature', and for as many people as possible to enjoy it's unique atmosphere.

Anyway this was a benefit for him, he has recently had to have major surgery, I was able to pass on several hundred pounds to him, only a gesture against his losses.

But like me, he wants to look forward, not back, and things will be get better over time.

We are set fair for several events a year from next year onwards.

'Somebody' has been trying to stir it, sending our promotional material to the media, which has netted us another 50 Facebook followers, most of them very keen to come out to play!

Which means we are now 'old news' and therefore no longer a potential news story ....


4/14/2015 6:09:55 AM

Recent Peak District recce for 5-12 September Tawsingham Week up there


I’m just recovering from the warm glow left by another Tawsingham tour.

First a day or so with my chatelaine slave, to help her with a few things and prepare for the event – loyalty goes both ways and if she helps me at events, I help her at her home!


Then to the holiday cottage we’d rented; excellent as usual.


As well as the aforementioned chatelaine slave, I had a lady as my ‘sister in law’, another as my maid slave, the first ‘multi-level’ Tawsingham household on the new model.


My maid had served me before; I recall at a long-weekend pony event in Scotland in 1999, and in Hereford, having had some training and service with Miss Prim too.


She was excellent in every way, hard-working, polite, respectful, obedient and responsive; deferential, without being obsequious; always neatly dressed and tidy.


I’d not scheduled any particular activities, the main objective had always been to meet a few old friends in the area, and a couple of new ones in the area.


We had a relaxed first afternoon and evening, chilling out, getting to know one another, with a good meal of cold cooked chicken and ham, with vegetables.


Some Tawsingham events will have ‘activities’; but mostly it’s a relaxed lifestyle life-style, at least for the gentry! Servants may work hard – that’s what they volunteer for!


It worked well, two staff to two gentry, my chatelaine as an upper servant, ‘almost gentry’, supervised the maid preparing the meal, then joined us at the table;


I respect junior staff, but if they’re to serve authentically it’s better they serve us, then we move to the living room, and they then eat afterwards; (the same food)!


The first full day we were due to entertain 4-5 guests; sadly due to illness, and other reasons, only one made it; nevertheless we cooked a full roast beef dinner.


We had no cook, neither of my staff admitted to having ever cooked a roast before, so I gave instructions to the chatelaine, who worked with the maid to do the actual cooking.


It was the first roast dinner I’ve ‘cooked’ in decades, first in a wholly ’supervisory’ role, an interesting experience. It came out really well, more due to my staff than myself!


Once we’d dozed off the very full meal, I volunteered my ‘sister in law’ to be the after-dinner entertainment; first I spanked her for being disrespectful to the maids.


So then we tied her over the coffee table for a whipping she’d sort-of volunteered for.


But in such circumstances I like to add a little twist, and so agreed a safe word, then tried out a new eStim unit I’d acquired. Sadly, it didn’t really have the effect we desired.


So we tried it out on the maid, on whom it had a pleasingly spectacular effect! It was delightful for us to watch. She enjoyed so much, I had to end to it well before she did!


Something I always try to do is to develop potential in my staff. One event soon my chatelaine may well lead her own household, perhaps the Tawsingham Workhouse.


We don’t want to make The Workhouse regime too soft, we want to encourage any Workhouse residents to make themselves attractive to be taken on by other households.


So we made a vegetable pottage with lots of cheap vegetables, in stock made from vegetable peelings, chicken carcase and ham bones for tea.


It was all we needed after a rich lunch, and a worthwhile experiment – as well as avoiding food waste and keeping costs down!


The next day I fetched a new maid. As with many at these events I’d met her first many years ago. We had the ‘the conversation’ and I collared her, to be mine from now on.


I picked out the most appropriate uniform from what she’d brought. Like many girls her choice had been in PVC and a lacy number in satin; keep it plain and simple, girls!


We kept her busy; cleaning the toilet, ironing the laundry, peeling vegetables, to ensure she could take the consequences. We want workers; being cute and pretty is a bonus!


We exhausted her; not a problem, she is recovering from serious illness, and will be stronger next time. She did everything we asked, that she could do, that’s enough.


We had a group of three booked in for dinner that evening, two old-school dominants and their girl. As we could not seat them for dinner, my staff prepared a buffet.


As they were doing that we met at the local pub; standard practise for such events; so many guests never turn up that I really don’t like to give out the location to all who ask.


I have to say they did me/us proud; cold beef, salmon, chicken, potato salad, tomatoes, salad veg. , all looking very much prettier than ever I could have managed.


Here’s what one said, in a thank-you message:


Hi Guy, just wanted to drop you a quick line to say how lovely it was to catch up with you. What a splendid evening, complete with lovely staff, resplendent hostess and an excellent story teller for a host. Thoroughly enjoyed! Please pass our gratitude and pleasure to all those involved. Many thanks!


They’ll be coming to Tawsingham West Wales August 5-16
https://fetlife.com/groups/23361/group_posts/6765170


with others in their group.


Her friend fetched the new maid after our guests had gone home; hopefully she’ll join us again for the September event, with more stamina and be better prepared.


Meanwhile, we’ll keep in touch: I don’t ask much of my girls between those period when we can be together; but they do seem to appreciate the support I can offer.


Then on the final day we cleaned the place top to bottom, to ensure that as with places we hired for Muir, etc. we gave it back cleaner and tidier than it was when we moved in.


My 'sister in law' and maid said their goodbyes, hopefully we’ll be meeting again soon, and

I brought my girl back down to London with me; she’s staying with friends.


We went to a museum in London the next day, picking up all kinds of little hints and tips to feed back into Tawsingham; it is evolution, not creation, all new ideas welcome!


Then to a talk on How To Topple A Dictator:
http://www.ted.com/…/srdja_popovic_how_to_topple_a_dictator…

)
by Srdja Popovic who led the nonviolent movement that took down Milosevic in Serbia in 2000, laying out the plans, skills and tools each movement needs — from nonviolent tactics to a sense of humour.


That may seem a strange choice for me, to take one of my servants to; when I aspire to lead a feudal community, as indubitably those techniques would paralyse any community or household I tried to lead, if ever I’d lost the confidence of those within it.


However it is wholly in line with both Tawsingham and my personal politics
https://fetlife.com/groups/23361/group_posts/6770535

The point of Tawsingham is fun for all concerned, wholly consensual, trying to meet everybody’s aspirations in a mutually complementary way.


The philosophy behind such non-violent action is that it is a way to confront real oppression, dictatorial and authoritarian regimes, whether they be governments, parish councils, corporations or churches.


We expect that sooner or later in Tawsingham we’ll have a Head of Household who is on the ASPD:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder


NPD
http://en.wikipedia.org/w…/Narcissistic_personality_disorder


control-freak
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Control_freak


bully
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying


spectrum.


Such people can have a destructive effect on the whole community through their manipulative behaviour: which is why I am careful to avoid encouraging such folk to join; and will retain the right to summarily expel folk, when essential.


However I accept that some people are attracted to such folk, and so want to build-in mechanisms to make such extreme action wholly unnecessary;. We allow any person in a household to leave for The Workhouse, any time, and without having to give a reason.


If that means a HoH no longer has anybody in their household, they can go to The Workhouse to recruit more staff; but I think we can rely on the gossip mill to inform everyone! Nobody can be compelled to take service with a HoH, unless they want to.


So the rule is that any HoH who is alone and cannot recruit staff must leave. A simple principle: no dominants without submissives; no submissives without a Dominant!


It is obvious too that some such people may present as submissives; so we take every means we can to ensure that any HoH may counter ‘bratting’ and ‘topping from below’: after all if a member of their household can’t accept their constraints, they may leave.


Anyway, on Friday we went to the International Living History Fair in the Midlands, as many of us are involved with ‘straight’ Living History and Historical Re-enactment.


Then another museum on Saturday, and the Brighton Twisted market on Sunday, hence the delay in putting this report out!


Anyway, if this sounds like fun, also look up [the report of the first recce, to Lakeland:
https://fetlife.com/groups/23361/group_posts/6671753

Then most of the other posts in The Tawsingham Group:
https://fetlife.com/groups/23361


especially all the other sticky ones!


If you’d like to meet us before committing to an event we’re holding Tawsingham Hiring Fairs in Essex on Saturday 2nd and Monday 4 and every month thereafter.


At these events you can meet people who’ve been to events, sit down with me/us and go through the consent questionnaire, and discuss what role may suit you, have some photos taken for the contact section of our web site, if/when it goes live. £10 entry.


You can choose your role; Head of a Household (HoH), ‘gentry’, upper or lower servant; to be free, bonded or a slave; male, female or whatever you agree with your HoH. You can choose your age too and relationships, etc. Sometimes be a pony or puppy, etc.


There’ll be events in the Home Counties in May, Ireland in June, West Wales in August, The Peak District in September, Portugal in October, The Lake District in November, see Tawsingham Events 2015 Programme:
https://fetlife.com/groups/23361/group_posts/6765170


At the next event in May, in Kent, we hope to have a chatelaine (with lady’s maid), butler, cook, I may have a (adult) teenage son and daughter, lots of other intriguing possibilities. I’m looking for a ‘wife’, for maids, boot-boys, more gentry and ‘family’.


In Ireland we expect to have a full complement of maids, boot-boys and other junior staff, as well as my having ‘a family’. It may become the first two (or more) household family. Plenty of room for more to join us, in almost any role.


All in all a tremendous antidote to the online trolls and kibitzers!

 
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2/18/2015 6:43:29 AM

A report-back of a recent tour to The Lakelands, February 2015.

Would you want to be a part of this kind of thing? If so, please contact me.

I just enjoyed one of the best ten-day spells in my life.


It began on Wednesday 4 Feb, I headed off from London up to the midlands to see one of my ponies: we’re still great friends after decades, though I’d not seen him for a year or so, and his new Mistress. We drank a bottle or three, talked tosh and caught up with our news.

Next on Thursday 5, I met new friends in Cheshire, a Mistress and her maid. We spent a happy evening discussing maid-craft, Tawsingham and related matters. I passed on some surplus maid uniform for the maid’s use. Then, not for the first time, I spent the night on an airbed in their dungeon. (Though not in that particular one before!) I hope we’ll see them both again, sometime soon.

Then it was on to Liverpool to see another old friend from way back, an artist and illustrator a great friend, to meet over a brief lunch, and discussion of some book cover pictures.

Then off to a hired cottage in Lakeland to meet Susan, a friend from way back, who wanted me to ‘break her in’ to be my little ‘wifie’ over the weekend: which I proceeded to do, delighting us both. Fun as it was, I suspect we’ll want many more such sessions to get it right!

Between times we went for a couple of walks to check out ‘guerilla pony runs’ locally, for use by moonlight as we’ve done many times before on previous events, for the time I plan to establish The Tawsingham Community up that way on a later visit.

Another old friend arrived Monday arrived Monday, she’d helped me out in the office in Hereford many years ago. She came to be my chatelaine for the week. We soon resumed the friendship, and took it to a new level!

The plan had been to have more join us; at one time it looked like we may have had three house-maids, a family of two ‘daughters’ and maybe others.

Even so, I had held my nerve, and booked a place with only two double beds.

Then as expected, as usual, most dropped out one by one, mostly for good reasons!

Two ladies called on Tuesday, one for lunch, then one for tea. I think I'll see both of them again on other occasions, either in this area or perhaps in mainland Europe.

I’d like to quote what one of them wrote in a thank you email:

Thank you for giving me your time. It was lovely to be able to talk openly about sexuality and not have to censor everything I say. Please keep me informed of any developments re. Tawsingham and if you know of any like-minded people in my neighborhood you're welcome to give them my mobile number. ... You're the first person I've met who is what I expected a real Dom would be like - so they do actually exist! Very encouraging. I appreciated the time I spent with your companion. [I was out meeting our other guests.] It was educational! Could you thank her for sharing you with me.

Maybe not modest, but nobody else will sing my praises, so I thought I would! She is a would-be submissive lady who just can't find a gentleman to partner with.

We also had a couple visit late on Tuesday, whom we saw again where they live on Wednesday. We may be back there later to use their place later for some specialist pet-play.

The reason for the week up there was to test my concept for ‘Tawsingham Community Weeks’.

The plan is that I’ll announce that I’ll be holding an event in a particular region on specific dates and ask for deposits, from would-be Heads of Households, other gentry, upper servants, lower servants; slaves, bonded servants and free people.

The spirit is: be what you want if you can take the consequences!

Then 7-10 days before the event is due to start I’ll reckon up what accommodation we need and book it for the week.

This week was by way of a recce, I’m doing similar all around the UK, Ireland, mainland Europe over the next year or so, as I sort out the wrinkles, costings, details.

I’d like to hear from anyone who wants to join us; I’ll be asking for £100 towards accommodation and food, half in advance for anyone staying with us, if waged.

If you’re unwaged I’ll negotiate, particularly if your preferred role will be ‘upper servant’: housekeeper, butler, cook, because it’s those roles that make an event.

Or just bring a bottle or three along, or dessert, and you’d be welcome to join us for lunch or dinner.

There’ll be a lot more detail about the events on our new website, etc. that I will be putting together, and I’ll issue a programme shortly, I’m having trouble fitting it all in!

Possibly in the Home Counties in April, Somerset/S Wales in May, Ireland in June, Peak District in July, Germany &/or Denmark in August, all to be decided!

Full events will likely start next Summer, 2016, but I may soon be organising ‘Virtual Hiring Fairs’ where potential staff and gentry can come along, be assessed photographed, videoed, etc. to have their Tawsingham CV/draft contract logged and displayed on our new site.

That’ll probably be £50, for an afternoon/evening “audition” and social, which can be set against the cost of one of our events. I’ll probably hold it in a travel-lodge or similar for those staying overnight.

Anyway, Friday morning I took my chatelaine home to Yorkshire, met Jan in Derbyshire to collect the sulky, etc. I met another long-term friend in Herts on the way and pressed my dress shirt myself, (There hadn’t been an iron, or a maid, at the cottage!)

Then I had a wonderful evening on Friday at the Anything But Grey Ball and here at the Bloomsbury Ballroom. I arrived in good time, parked easily and for free.

I was then forced to share a dressing room with some wonderful and minimally clad young girls to change into my kilt, etc.

Then to drink free champagne and white wine, eat sea bream, a delicious and ample beef dish and chocolate and raspberry pudding, in the company of said interesting men and women.

Then I drove Rosie my pony around the ballroom. She inveigled me up onto the catwalk, during the burlesque performances to do a double-act, in front of the several hundred guests at the Ball, which went down very well: to 'sing for my supper'! It's a hard life, but someone has to do these things!

Then I presented a rewarding pony- and puppy demo at the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar](https://fetlife.com/groups/28851/group_posts/595843… , huge thanks to the score or so people who turned out to help, in front of 400 or so folk on Sunday.

It was the fourth such session I’ve done there, along with many others in Bristol, London, Southampton and elsewhere.

The theme was that anyone can get involved; you don’t have to be pretty, female, under 22, dress size 8, like the models in pics on the net!

You can do it at any age, size, orientation, with everything from just a second-hand dog collar to spending thousands, it’s all good!

Also to appeal to anyone organising a wider-scene event that could include pet- and pony-play, to reach out and include that niche activity, as it is rarely viable for such players to do them on their own.

I hope to do a similar, but ore modest, show at the LFF on Sunday March 8, and maybe elsewhere.

Some of you may know that at one time I was involved in local politic as a campaigner; this last ten days felt like that wonderful period before elections.

In that world you spend the year dealing with bullies, control freaks, drama queens, judgemental nonentities, every kind of cretin, fool and zealot. Much like Fet Life and Facebook, really.

Thankfully helping a few real and genuine people sort their own lives out, and getting a few good things done in the real world, by avoiding, ignoring and outwitting the wankers.

Then you go out on the doorstep, meet lots of wonderful people, old friends and new, all telling you to keep up the good work, you're doing great, you've got my vote so just knock on the next doors.

It was all hugely heartening and uplifting, a fantastic antidote to the negativity, sniping, bullying, jealousy, arrogance, etc. here on some groups on Fet Life.

I'll be doing much more of the same!

Hoping to hear from you all!

Guy

7/27/2014 4:19:00 AM

In my new circumstances I’m looking to add girls to my circle, in an ongoing but casual and non-exclusive circle.
My approach seems radically different to that of many other dominants, so I thought I'd try to explain it.
I don't try to cram anyone into a 'one size fits all' role; but there are common themes, strands that I've found work for me and my girls.
I always like to discuss and negotiate things with each, to see if we can work something out together that will suit us both.
If all you want is a chance to be a pony, puppy, come on a date as a girl, as a one-off, that's fine too, this screed may help anyway.
It may be that what you really want is a 1:1 relationship, or one with a younger man or woman, or some other variation that rules me out.
If so I'd like you to consider whether perhaps tucking yourself under my wing for a while may be a step towards that.
After all, in my company you will have my sole attention, you will, if you're ready, go out in scene or vanilla outings as a girl.
It could be a learning experience to help you find out what you really want, who you really want to be.
You may even meet other potential partners in the real world, in the guise you like to present, who may find you attractive.
I already have an established circle; by all means come in for a while and enjoy it.
Later, when you're ready you can freely spread your wings and fly the nest!

However if you want something ongoing, for weeks, months, years, then this may help even more.
This started as words to reflect what I wanted and expect of, offered to, to a particular girl. It turned into a bit of an epic.
So I've put it up as a Journal entry, and hope others respond to that.
For me sex is good when it works, but that is not wholly or mainly what I want from girls.
It is not even a necessary part of the deal.

I find I just want to be with a girl who likes to be a ‘traditional-role’ girl for me.
Not in a demanding, control-freaky, micro-management, shouty kind of way.
But as a girl who loves to follow my lead, as in a dance, to complement my ‘traditional-role’ male persona.
In my real life, I am a typically liberal, egalitarian, fair-minded 'new man' sort of guy.
I support the rights of everyone to emancipate and empower themselves; or choose the opposite.

I'm not sexist, racist or any 'phobist, a male chauvinist; not from being 'politically correct', it is just the way I am!
I despise abusers, bullies, braggarts, liars, those who use threats, force, actual or emotional blackmail, libel, slander, irony, sarcasm, mockery, to do others down and/or get their own way.
I am increasingly intolerant of judgmental people, who look in others for reasons to consider themselves ‘better’ than others.
Or for excuses to ignore or disregard things they say or do.

I'm particular wary of those who portray themselves as victims, who too easily take offence at imagined slights or minor misunderstandings to try to gain sympathy for themselves or incite a lynch mob.
We’re all different, products of our genetic heritage, upbringing, culture.
I look for things that make a person special, different, unique, to be treasured and valued.

I don’t believe in forcing anyone into any kind of pattern pre-determined by their gender, race, culture or religion, people should be free to find their own way, follow their own path.
In my private time, I find I just want to be with a girl who enjoys, for the time she’s with me, living the traditional feminine role, complementing me enjoying some time out as a traditional man.
I'm interested in couples too, but generally only where both are women or girls, or if one (or both) are male, they'll be a girl for me.
What I look for ideally is an understanding that they're in some sense 'mine' 24/7, in some way owe me allegiance.
Even if they can't be with me most of the time, and are almost wholly free to live their own life.

There are, of course, girls in an 'outer circle', who I may not hear from, from one year's end to the next; or in one case 20 years!
They get back in contact and join me for a day, a week, or whatever, then zoom away, for another year or five.
I may share with another dominant; but if it ever gets to a 'tug of war' with another person, I will ask you to choose one way or the other.
Similarly, if I ever find a girl in my circle trying to oust another, she will have to go.
If anyone wants to leave, I'm fine with that too, and hope they will remain a friend.
I’d like them to make regular visits, them to me or me to them, ideally at least once a month and to keep in regular contact by email, phone, social media to keep the spark alive.
During visits they're wholly 'my girl'; completely submissive to me, fully girlie in the role I assign, deferential to me, but not obsequious.
I may ask them to take a defined role may be e.g. office-girl, arm-candy, maid, schoolgirl, adult-baby, -toddler, puppy, pony or something else I have yet to try.
Whatever role it is, it will be negotiated, rather than imposed without consultation, and I’ll expect the girl to get the necessary clothes, props, cosmetics, etc. needed to fulfil the role.
The common thread is that they try to live the role I've given them as best they can, in what they wear, make-up, behaviour, body language.
I tend to be quite touchy-feely with a girl, stroking, patting, caressing, holding them, inviting them to sit on my lap, or lie over it for a spanking.
I expect them to enjoy that kind of attention, to comply, etc. and find that almost universally they do, but I believe in consent culture, the right to withdraw consent to anything like this, at any time.
I want them to be able to say 'no' or 'not now', by doing what confident girls do non-verbally, just lightly grasp my wandering hand and pushing it away, without making a fuss over it.
They may be natal girls, ‘cis-gendered’, post- or pre-op transsexuals, girls born male or intersex living as women, transvestites or cross-dressers, all good so long as I can credibly accept them as a girl
If they still have boy bits, they must accept I've no interest in their cocks, if a girl is looking for me to play with her cock, then she will be disappointed, it's just not something I enjoy, so I won’t do it.
I find that if my wandering hands do find a cock it instantly deflates my interest, physically, emotionally, mentally; but not if it's locked up in a chastity device. Odd, but true!
So I prefer such girls acquire a device, and put it on themselves on or before arrival, and then give me the key, for the duration of the visit, or just wear tight underwear to keep themselves tidy!
Generally the girls seem to really like that, as a kind of self-inflicted symbolic emasculation, an intimate reminder of what they are, and less chance of an embarrassing bulge under her skirt!
(Designs or styles that do promote a feminine profile are obviously the sort I prefer!)
Many would like to be locked up that way 24/7, but I don't think that is often very practical, except in a live-in relationship, for reasons of hygiene, safety, convenience, etc.
Instead I like them to have such a device and wear it as often as is possible, when it’s convenient and safe; to get used to wearing it when they’re with me, and as reminder they’re mine.
For some that will be nearly 24/7, for others just whilst they’re home alone day and night, for others just a few hours occasionally when they have privacy. Never for some, that’s OK too.
I accept they’ll masturbate. Some like to get my permission before they do. I ask them to not do it for the 10 days before a visit, and that if they do, it be to memories of or imagined times with me.
I’ve no interest at all in anything that threatens the health, wealth or public reputation of me or the girl I’m with. Nothing involving kids, real animals, drugs of course, nothing else illegal.
Nor am I interested in scat, severe pain, needles, sutures, guns, knives, CBT, these and much else I can’t think of at the moment, are things that I really don't want to get into or do.
Sex play is good, I love a girl’s hand or cock bringing me off; and most of my girls enjoy doing that for me; but for me it has to be natural, voluntary, it is not something I demand or require of a girl.
The same really goes for any other kind of sex-play, anal vaginal, or whatever.
From their reaction my girls seem generally to get even more out if it than I do, even though I often expect or ask them to work for me; as office-girls, maids, whatever,.
I regard that as part of the deal; often they’ll be better at routine office work, and enjoy it, or enjoy doing chores, etc. They realise that if they can help me that way, I can give them more attention.
Anyway, I hope you’ve enjoyed this little essay and that it has encourage you to volunteer.
If it convinces you that I’m not the man for you, that may be as valuable, but please do check you’ve fully understood anything that looks like a sticking point, you may simply have misunderstood!
If you get to here, please say, ‘I’ve read your essay’, and say what you think of it, in your message.

4/11/2014 2:04:50 AM

A brief snapshot of where I came from, and where I'm going:

I’ve been heavily involved ‘in the scene’ for nearly 30 years, since I helped Miss Prim found The Muir Reform Academy for naughty adult boys, girls and special girls in 1987; that involvement ended in 2011; I’m not involved with Miss Prim and Muir Academy any longer, but we’re still friends.

In 1993 I created The Other Pony Club for human ponies, pets, their fans, owners, trainers, etc. and I’ve been running events and doing workshops on that theme in England, Scotland, Wales; and indeed in Denmark, France and Ireland; and I’m now leading efforts to develop a camp-ground for that purpose in West Wales, see below.

I sold kinky booklets, school uniform, canes, etc for use by adults mail-order from the early 1990s, until 2013: winding down since 2012, as with rising postal costs and the attractions of the internet it was no longer viable.

Instead I put my energy and talents into publishing what I’d previously printed, and many new titles, as eBooks online instead. The paper versions have shiny graphic colour covers, to a very high standard, and can be seen in a catalogue of our printed books; though that also includes books from other sources too! I'll send you if you ask.

  In March 2013 I ‘downsized’ from Hereford where I’d shared with Miss Prim, to settle into semi-retirement here, with Mistress Cathy Cane. That hasn’t worked out, though we’re still friends. In June I’ll move on, to West London, to share a flat with a friend.

For the time being I’m also offering The Collector’s Catalogue of the remaining books and magazines; still on the shelf here, some offered before, some found sorting out, or donated since. I’ve St Caths 2 & 3 DVDs; 18-rated spanking 60+ min long, action all between consenting adults, a healthy dose of humour in each scene, Anvil BDSM, both £4.99 inc. P&P! (Or 99p each if you buy books!)

Once I’ve moved to London I’ll be concentrating wholly on marketing the eBooks in order to ‘reboot’ my life and my business. For too many years I’ve spread myself too thinly trying to do too many things, and not succeeding in doing all of them to a standard of which I can be proud.

However if you’ve heard of us before you may remember we helped develop a site in West Wales, 2008-2011. We’re now back there, taking the lead.

We’re creating an occasional camp-ground to serve as a kink playground suitable for weekend conferences, pony-play, Tawsingham (historical re-enactment with real BDSM), (consensual) human hunts, archery practise and anything else that is fun and covers the costs of running the place.

That will be my hobby; events will last a weekend, sometimes longer to make it worthwhile to travel to the site; we’re well aware it’s very remote from most centres of population! At first, until we can host large gatherings, we’re catering for casual pony-play and 24/7 role-play as a pony, puppy, piggy, etc. It’s ambitious, and it may sometimes seem an impossible dream, but looking back on what we’ve done over past months, we know we can do it!

It’ll never be a profitable business, so we’re planning to develop it as a club and we’re looking for more helpers and volunteers; we see our role as co-ordination, not control, encouragement, not supervision.

If you’d like further information, please send me an email and I’ll send you relevant links, or phone or write and I’ll send further details.

If you ask I'll send a draft timetable of events, as well as a little information about other events that may be of interest.

Guy

 

 

1/27/2014 5:40:55 AM

I'm often asked whether I/we would take someone in to live here 24/7.

We have done before and learned some lessons from those experiences.

The answer is yes we'd consider it, but not in the way usually understood.

We think isolation within any set of walls 24/7 is not good for anyone.

So if anyone came here to live, we'd expect them to work full- or part-time outside the home; or at least have outside interests studying, doing sport or whatever.

We'd also expect them to be self-supporting, whether from outside work, a portable business, pension or investments.

Nothing lasts forever and when the time comes to part and go our separate ways it is far easier all around if you have savings and an income, so you can afford to spread your wings and fly the nest.

If you're a man, even if you cross-dress in the closet, looking to resign from life and become our dependent live-in, then we probably can't help.

You really have to be further along than that, perhaps someone who is ready and committed to living as a woman and wants to go through the chrysalis stage here.

And/or for some other good and positive reason wants to create a new life for yourself.

If you were born a woman in every respect, or are a transwoman who has already or is just about to transition to living 24/7 as a woman, then we may be able to help.

What we'd expect is for you to live here in one of the following ways; as a dutiful adult daughter, au pair, maid-servant, office-girl or slave-girl.

We'd expect you to take on much of the domestic work here, cleaning, washing, ironing, as I'm not at all good at it, and my partner does that for a living for other people, so would like help to do it at home.

If you are not working full-time, to help me in my office too.

Yes, we've a little experience, that I hope we've learned-from, and I hope it shows.

We're not short of applicants, and we have many regular, occasional and once-only visitors, usually girls of one sort or another, but they include every other orientation too; but no vanilla people or minors.

But it has been surprisingly difficult to find someone whose expectations and abilities complement ours; they either expect too much, offer too little or are otherwise incompatible or unsuitable; or tied to a job or caring for a relative or spouse.

We're very happy to negotiate to find a compromise that suits us all.

Guy

 

 

 

1/2/2014 9:00:44 AM

My profile says that I seek office help, so I thought I'd put more detail here for those particularly interested, to save having to repeat myself many times over.

Quite reasonably most ladies expect to be paid, and the capable ones are worth every penny, so if I really need a job doing and they can do it, I will. So if you've spent periods 'temping' as an office worker, are local, and could do the odd day's work here, at the going rate, with no 'extras', then please contact me direct; for you to go into my 'little black book' to help out for money at peak times.

However, there is a lot of work here that is not urgent, vital, mission-critical, or hugely profitable. I'd like to get around to it, but I probably won't because I'm too busy doing stuff that is urgent, vital, mission-critical, or more profitable

So I actively seek help, mostly from T-girls, but also natal girls and men too. In return for real clerical work here, to my direction, you get some attention from me and the chance to e.g. do it dressed, maybe enjoy other benefits or earn the chance to acquire some of our products or enjoy some services, for which otherwise you'd have to pay.

It is real work, not a 'bit of fun' or 'make-work'. I expect it to be done right and you to work hard for several hours; ideally days at a time, to repay my time invested helping you get you up to speed.

I offer it, because I know I am not at all good at doing repetitive work, where others quite enjoy it - particularly if they can dress and act the part of a junior office girl.

I work long hours, 6 or 7 days a week. There's always more to do than I get around to. Having help like this is generally useful, it gets things done which really need to be done, but I'd maybe not get around to.

Maybe you can stay overnight; but I can't promise that unless I've met you face to face, and my fiancée and partner Mistress Cathy has met you and agreed it too. (Some visitors haven't had the same concept of discretion and good manners as we have!)

Some stay over stay with us at nil cost, en-famille, though we may ask them to share a room with another t-girl and use a communal bathroom. If it's vital to you to have a room to yourself and en-suite facilities, there are guest houses locally. Some serve as a maid in the evenings, or even during the day if the housework is more urgent than office work.

The work could be e.g. scanning books we’ve published before for Optical Character Recognition, OCRing, and republishing as eBooks, cataloguing books, mags, collating booklets, stuffing envelopes with newsletters or catalogues, etc. Or if e.g. your skills and talents mean you'd be better employed doing other stuff ... such as making pony-sulkies, etc.

I have a simple dress code. Wear trousers, shorts, culottes, slacks, etc., I will treat you as a slightly junior colleague in a very 'politically correct' way. If you wear a skirt or dress, and you say you’re happy with it, I'll treat you in a way more typical of a pre-womens'-liberation, male chauvinist boss. Flirting outrageously, touching, stroking and taking advantage, expecting you to sit on my knee, or go over them, if I think it appropriate. Given that dress code most office helpers choose to wear a skirt ... and choose fabrics that feel good to a hand that strokes or pats their bum!

Reasons vary. Some girls get a sexual thrill from dressing. Some just feel they need to dress from time to time, but get few other opportunities. Some want to get used to working as a girl, dressed, but can't yet do it openly. Some enjoy being treated as a girl. Some find it helps them relax, others find it humiliating. For many it is several of these factors. I don't mind, whatever reason you have.

We'd prefer you dress appropriately for your age and role. Just look at women your age, doing that kind of job, and emulate them. Nothing too tarty or slutty, ideally not rubber, PVC, no fanny-pelmet skirts; or spike heels, (they mark the parquet floor). It helps put us all in the right mood. The work is done in private, in my office or elsewhere in the house.

I don't punish mistakes with a spanking - that would only encourage many of the girls! Instead I ask them to explain to me what they've done wrong, how it came to happen, what they're going to do to ensure it won't happen again, etc. Most really hate that and would prefer a caning!

 

However I do tell them that I will spank or cane them if they're insufficiently respectful. So if you do not want to be spanked, always call me Sir, always remember to drop a curtsy in thanks for any attention, don't ever interrupt me or answer me back. However, if you do want to be spanked you can probably work out what to do ...

Ideally I'd like a girl to turn up, change, do her make-up, be a girl for me, with me taking no more trouble than that. But I have done some of the following, and much else besides, to and with some girls: chain them hand and foot, gag them,  lock them into high heels and ensure all chairs are out of reach ... That is not a menu they choose from! They are add-on extra, that I may include as a part of your service, as a favour and reward, if I choose. This is not a substitute for a session with a pro-Dom(me)!

When we first meet we establish your limits and preferences and you can give me the authority to any of those and more. But I will only do it/them if I think it appropriate to do it to you. Which may be because I think, e.g because: it'll help you focus on the work, it amuses me, I think you'll enjoy it as a reward, I think you'll hate it as a punishment. I'll not explain my reasons, or actions, or justify doing these things - or not doing so. I won't do it just to please them, and not usually the first time they come here, either.

If I may make an analogy, I don't ask my ponies if they'll let me drive them blindfold or wear blinkers. I'll just put a blindfold or blinkers etc. on them if necessary, without asking ... they have no choice but to accept. However, I may ask the person before they become a pony, whether they'd be happy for me to do it, which corresponds to the chat we'll when you come the first time.

However, be careful to avoid emulating a girl who by repeatedly failing to listen, trashed £50 worth of material, took 4 hours over a job I'd have done in less than an hour, with 2 hours of my time showing her how to do it. Then I had to spend 2 hours after her visit sorting out her mistakes ... I was not impressed! In general I am unimpressed by 'do me' subs. If you don't know what I mean, Google is your friend! If you get this far in the screed and still contact me, it is unlikely you are one - but just to prove you have, please tell me you're not a 'do me' sub when you contact me!


TakeMeByTheNeck
 
 Age: 42
 Oneonta, New York