Tanaka666

Hi! Bonjour!

There are probably too many individual characteristics to list, because every person will react differently to every situation but, if you were able to observe a number of people, you might say "Yes that one is Dom", or "No, that one is not", based upon their actions and reactions. So, is it a futile exercise to try and define what makes a Dominant? Possibly, but still we can recognize certain familiar and fundamental characteristics that make up the profile of one who is likely to be dominant in their nature.

This discussion is confined to what makes a Dominant personality within the BDSM or Dominant submissive (D/s) lifestyle; for there is no doubt that many dominant personalities exist outside D/s. That said, many dominant people would never be capable of being seen as a Dominant within the Dominant submissive D/s lifestyle as it takes a special mix of certain key characteristics.

Much of what is written about Dominant submissive relationships is centered around control, and controlling. For me the most important aspect of a Dominant is self control. Ask the question: how can you possibly control another if you cannot control yourself? Self control does not mean being totally without emotion: far from it in fact. What it means is to be able to allow those emotions and feelings to come to the fore when needed, and to direct them in the right way. So, we have self control.

If you're a sub or if you feel you're might be one, please contact me!

Tanaka