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Greetings, *smiles* i've never been much good at writing these up but here goes;

a little about me first: i'm a 37 yr. old single mother of one son who lost his Dad when he was very young to an illness. i carry my responsibilities of being a mother closely and hold family morals and values high, which i wish to find in the person i seek. i am also a returning student working on getting my Bachelor's in wildlife ecology or some field of animal science. i am a country girl who loves anything to do with the outdoors or nature, i also like to read and write, photography, playing around with web pages and computer stuff, watching movies, music and the normal stuff.

i have been submissive most my life but didn't really know what it was up until about 6 or 7 years ago. it was just something i did more then it was something i learned to become. about 4 years or so ago, i got into some of the gor novels and the gor rooms in another chat forum as well. i do believe i hold a kajira's heart but i believe too in order to give that fully, there must be a lot of trust, communication, compassion, understanding, patience and strength from both parties to recieve. i know that's a contradiction to the books but i feel, in a r/t relationship, with kids involved it would be stupid on my part to submit to just anyone because they proclaim they are a Master.

i am not looking for a one nighter here and there or a few weekend get-a-ways, what i am seeking is a 24/7 full term relationship with a Man that likes kids first and foremost and doesn't have a problem with making exceptions when they are around, one who is strong, not only in controlling the situation but in controlling themselves at all times as well, without that, i don't think it can really work. A sense of humor and a love of life is important as well as having sound morals and values. i believe in the phrase, tantalize the mind and the heart, soul, and body will follow. i believe in this sort of relationship there has to be a good bond built in mentality before there is a sexual bond built. i know this is not true of everyone in this lifestyle and that is fine if it works for you. :) it's just my beliefs and what i feel is important in the ground aspects of a relationship.

i wish You well and hope this gives a little bit about me and what it is i am looking for.

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12/8/2005 3:57:05 AM
Greetings again. i've been forced to think about a lot of things lately on submission and slavery. i think in many senses, they both come around in much of the same way, with slavery going just a bit farther and giving more control over. That is not to say it is any better. i think that's what makes this lifestyle so great, there is such a variety of people, a diversity of give and take and for the most part, no one should judge what is right for two people except those in that relationship.

in my thinking, they both, in their own rights, from the sub/slave's point of view, give their all, their mind, their body, their heart and their soul. In thinking more on this, i think at first, no matter if sub or slave, we give our minds first before we give anything. we open up and give our thoughts and ideas, who we are on the inside, where we've been, and where we wish to go from here. With the right person, we continue on that path and eventually offer our body, giving that One the right to control it, to do as They wish to it. Now saying that, i realize there are others who give their body first, but for me, as stated before, seduce the mind and the rest will soon follow stands very true here.
As we go further into exploration and the giving of our mind and body, we come to a point where we feel free to give our hearts to that One, offering Him the power to hold it, nuture it, love it, care for it, and guide it to where He believes it should go. Somewhere in that process, we hand Him the last piece of ourselves, giving Him complete power over us, giving Him the right to bend and mold us to what He believes we should be. We give Him our soul. To me, none of this is different for either a sub or a slave, it is a natural way for our self-protection to break down and give fully to Someone else. i believe it is after these steps that a submissive becomes a slave to just One. The safe words disappear, the trust by this point is so strong, the knowledge that each person involved is devoted to bringing nothing but the best to each other. The sub/slave knowing every desire of her Dom/Master, anticipating His every need, thriving off two simple words (good girl) and the slightest of touches. When we live every moment of our lives in striving to please that One, giving Him all of us every part of the day, with no questions asked, i believe is when we become slaves. Now i know some will disagree here and as with anything in this lifestyle, that is ok. You do not have to agree with me nor do You have to understand, it just means we have different goals and different thoughts. i do not judge anyone on what they believe or don't believe, we are all different. The vanilla world does enough to judge people, BDSM should not be a place to judge. This is just my thoughts on the journey down the path of submission, nothing more, nothing less.

thank You for listening to the babblings yet again :P
tala

11/20/2005 6:00:22 AM
Hello, just wanting to add a few things here. First of all, if the ONLY reason you are in this lifestyle is because you feel you have a high sex drive.....do not email me! There is much more to this lifestyle then the sex and if you don't understand the bond or the commitment to ownership...it's not going to happen with me. Second of all, i do not accept marriage proposals through email! Nor do i accept that from someone i don't even know.....just a note here too, i do not do well with orders given from someone i don't know either, my allowance of letting someone take control of me and what i do, is up to me. Respect has to be earned, it is not just given. Were i to just give that to everyone that emailed me or talked to me, i'd be taking orders from a good portion of the people here, use common sense please and understand that. And yes, i do realize this goes against Gor thinking but this is Earth and reality, this is not Gor nor will it ever be Gor. Men, unfortunately, on Earth, do not all hold the same morals and philosophy of Men on Gor. Remember as well...Goreans were not too accepting of strangers until given reason to accept them. *winks* yep i do know the books. 
*Jumps off the soap box* For those i have become friends with thank you very much for helping me learn a few things! i will be on less and less for the next few weeks to come though as i will be preparing for final exams. If you email me and don't get a response back within a few days, don't panic, i'm probably writing term papers or studying. Think that is it for now but will keep E/everyone posted as the semester comes to an end...Yayyyyyyy  

be well and safe, soft paths,
tala                      

7/9/2005 7:57:38 AM

First of all, forgive me if the profile sounds bitchy, i don't mean it in that way at all. i wrote it out as honestly as i could with what i wish to find in a Dominant. i'm not out to fool anyone or fill them with "yes Sir's" that i can not fulfill. The profile was meant to be blunt and to the point for a reason.

One more thing that i would like to add to it is that i also seek an intelligent Dominant that enjoys a good conversation now and then. i believe communication is one of the biggest factors in this lifestyle, not only on who prefers what but on other issues that affect our lives.

Peace out, :) and thanks for listening to more of my dribble lol

have a wonderful day


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nastyleda
 
 Age: 29
 Arlington, Virginia