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Male Submissive, 37, Sedona, Arizona
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Male Dominant, 34, New York City, New York
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Male Submissive, 60, Detroit-Kalamazoo, Michigan
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About SwitchyNoob
Welcome!
No pictures on here, I’ll send some confirmable ones via email once we’ve talked enough for me to know you’re a real and relatively stable human being. You’re free to tell me, “Sorry but no thanks” after that without receiving any backchat, though I would appreciate being told straight rather than ignored, thank you :)
Should be obvious why I’m here because I pretty much do what I say on the tin. I’ve only practised super-vanilla kink before, but I’m now looking to get into it, and I don’t really mind in what major role (Dom, sub or Switch). I think there’s a lot more to kink than that though (there certainly is for me), so the main thing for me is that my partner is willing to work with me to build a connection and find and develop the things we love. I want to get to know your deepest indulgences, feel that I can offer you mine, and then see if we can fulfil them for each other.
I’m not looking for lifestyle at the moment (though day or weekend-long is a possibility) and I’m not in any particular rush, but I wouldn’t say I’m too shy or hesitant either. Sex isn’t necessary to explore most of what I’m looking for, but as long as you’re clean and safe I’ve got no real inhibitions there either.
Though I can be controlling and selfish as a Dom if called upon, my general attitude and the thing that drives me is loving and wanting to push myself in the things that turn my partner on, and I’m very keen on having that same attitude returned. Though equally, if I’m to sub, I don’t mind a little arrogance and bullying in that regard from my partner. In that case I’d like her to attempt to intuitively know and exploit my true limits for the benefit of her pleasure, rather than pander to me excessively. Not to break me, but to twist me sufficiently and sadistically enough to allow her to truly have control of the reins and sate her lust for sexual pleasure, power or humiliation. I seek to refine my own aptitude and capacity for Domination to the same degree.
Vanilla-wise I’ve not been in a relationship for a while, and I do miss the little everyday things like dinner and a film, but at the same time I don’t have a massive amount of time to invest right now, maybe once every other weekend or so and now and again in between. I do want to be exclusive, but otherwise I’m pretty open about on what basis we’re going to see each other. My ideal though would be someone who wants a casual relationship, with a serious outlook and no major expectations; yeah I want it all :-p
I do give that back though. I’m strong enough to lose someone I’ve grown close to, deeply desire and care about if I’m no longer who they want or we don’t make sense, and in fact I’d hate to hold anyone back or have them feel obligated towards me. The truest test of love isn’t keeping it going. Relationships need work but so long as you’re both suitably in sync, that part’s relatively easy. The truest test of love is learning to douse one side of the candelabra with dignity once you recognise that the other’s already on its way out. Once you can do that, once you can see past blind commitments and exorbitant expectations, once you can simultaneously appreciate the potential transience and the positive beauty of what you had, what you have, and what you hope to have again, you become both fearless and receptive. So someone on that level, in fact would be my absolute ideal partner right now in vanilla terms.
Perhaps I’m just looking for an excuse to avoid commitment? Some who are cynical enough of me, but not cynical enough of fairytales may wonder. No. Not an excuse, just a caution and perspective on reality. If it were my pre-meditated intention or desire to love and leave, I like to think I might be at least credited with enough reasoning capacity to realise that the logical thing for me to do would be to say so directly. There are plenty of NSA candidates out there who don’t want to read all this crap, and there are plenty of starry-eyed dreamers out there who I wouldn’t want cramping my style if I were just out to get laid.
It usually seems to be women (especially those with photos!) that feel the need to do this but if you wouldn’t mind putting the keyword ‘treacle tarts’ at the start of your message just so I know that it’s not spam and that you’re more than likely sincere, that’d be appreciated.
Please also if you message me, be relaxed and easygoing as I too strive to be. I’ll respond to you when I can, and I’ll do so honestly and plainly without trying to be rude. If I’m not attracted or not sure (the most probable scenario before meeting) I’ll say so rather than lie, ignore or patronise you. Attraction’s not the only thing, or the most important thing, but it is necessary, and just because it may not be there doesn’t mean anyone needs to get upset or offended. I’m more than happy to continue a dialogue or even become friends in the absence of attraction on either side, or equally to discontinue at your discretion. I respect similar courtesies from others and I have little tolerance for drama, possessiveness, vanity or egotism – at least not outside of play. In play that’s all sexy as hell :-p
Whatever else you need to know, feel free to ask, or browse my kinks and maybe I’ll get some literature up in the forums in future. Thanks for reading, now message me and tell me all your sordid little secrets ;-) |
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I really wish Financial domination wasn't a thing. It's such a turn off and so insincere once money's involved, not to mention that 30% of female dominants can be reasonably presumed to be fake before you even get past the first paragraph. The ironic profiles tend to say it all really.
Are there even any female dominants out there who just crave that power for themselves; that servile mind to adore them, those diligent hands to pamper them, and eager tongue to pleasure them, whenever, wherever and for as long as they might choose?
Tell you what, I wouldn't mind that in my own submissive. I would not mind that at all.
Honestly, sometimes it's almost enough to make a wannabe-Switch turn wannabe-Dom. At least you know a sub's got no open-but-secretly-not-really-open motive to pay their rent or go on a shopping spree. No offence to anyone genuinely into Financial domination, but seriously, it's a plague! |
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