Lesson #2 : Finding your Female Dominant/Nurturing Dominance
Who would be the one who would enjoy the escape of femdom the most?
It is common knowledge that many submissive are assertive high-fliers in real life. So that sharp looking corporate siren with the stilettos might not really want to unwind after a long day of giving orders by giving more orders. Subs, you know what I'm talking about!
So perhaps, it is time to throw away the cliches and look a little deeper. Perhaps, it is that mousy divorced neighbor who works at a daycare center , that needs (your) help blossoming into her unawakened gorgeous viciousness. Dont judge a book by its cover...and be careful what you ask for. You just might create the monster of your dreams.
So! Yes, I think it is possible to awaken dominance in a woman. All these factors help: a woman who is highly intelligent ,a woman who has expressed dissatisfaction in vanilla sex and roles, has an experimental imagination, is easily BORED, and who enjoys erotic literature and media.
Perhaps a woman who is you sense is strong but feels forced to always be one step behind a man to pander to his ego and appear feminine. Perhaps the most docile and conservative looking ones with lots of time on their hands would be intrigued by the role reversal. The decent ones who have hit rock-bottom in their personal lives.
One who is tactile and sensual and who enjoys filling her senses might enjoy the idea of drawn out sessions vs. monotonous predictable quickies.
Now, How may a male sub go about doing this once someone catches his interest?
Methods that I have found to raise my interest is when a male first displays his general competence and abilities and after a rapport is established, shows glimpses of his playful submissive side.
This may be through humorous innuendo, teasing/annoying to provoke an aggressive reaction, somehow positioning yourself lower than her and looking up at her with a glint in your eyes as if to say you are harmless yet dangerously sexy.
Childish behavior in small doses may be appealing, also feigned naivety or bashfulness. Every woman will have her own particular tastes, but to be in good health and meticulously groomed cant hurt your chances.
I warn you however, the submissive programming women receive is very strong. Confusion may arise when an unaware but naturally dominant woman finds herself attracted to your submissive advances but only knows how to respond 'romantically' in a vanilla sense, thus turning you off.
She is then confused or offended, treats you like crap and you are intrigued again. Even after learning about D/s, she may wonder if her femininity is somehow compromised the same way a male sub might fear for his masculinity in the early stages.
Perhaps the way to overcome this is to understand what the woman likes and which feminine archetype appeals to her the most , and use THAT as the gateway to experimentation that can lead to something mutually satisfying.
Does she like fashion? Perhaps play dress-up and let her have fun in different styles of all black ensembles. Tell her she really has your attention, more than usual, in those PVC ankle boots and that she looks so sexy and badass.
Or perhaps she is into elegance, she would like the idea of a personal butler to carry her shopping bags as she imperiously enjoys a lavish spree.
Music? Write her a song about how pathetic and painful you feel to suffer for the sake of her beauty.
Study the feminine archetypes. Educate yourself on the goddesses of the past and their different personalities. Is she a Goddess? A lovely Aphrodite or more of cool and collected Hecates? A Queen who would be flattered by a Knight? An intellectual sage, a siren, A witch?Help her familiarize with these ancient archetypes, to connect with her natural heritage which has been whitewashed by the media and patriarchal culture.
For example, does she fit the Amazon Warror archetype? Get her to show off her athletic talents. Let her brag about her accomplishments. Let her beat you mercilessly, and come back for more.
But all this should happen AFTER a rapport has been established in the casual, comfortable sense, and you are certain there is a basic chemistry between you ( unless you meet online or something and
just want a quick play session).
Let her know what you like and then talk openly about it and let it go. Come back often to her, especially if you sense she likes you.
Persistence does pay off, if done in a sincere, fun, non-desperate way. Either she will sense you and understand you, but neither will happen if you don't put her pleasure up there with yours. But put hers up just a little bit more higher. And regardless of what you 'get' have an attitude of gratitude and respect, always (for yourself too).
Dont take it TOO seriously in the searching stage. Remember, you wish to have a pleasurable journey in your journey to pleasure. You methods too, must be pleasurable to you and your future Queen.
