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I talk to a lot of people on here on purpose... I am not looking for anything from them nor do I expect anything from them. I am just sharing things I notice about your profile or sharing information that might be of interest to you... Part of being in this lifestyle is the communication and that starts with friendships not matter "who" your goal is.. it does make a difference to learn about others involved in the lifestyle you choose for yourself.
So I don't mean to offend anyone with my tidbits of information, usually I am just starting conversation. I guess giving back to the community in a sense. |
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Has anyone other than me noticed what seems to be the huge influx of spammers lately... Seems i get one or two everyday versus every once in a while in times passed. |
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What is the deal with being rude?? I get this email saying rude things from some jerk who has only been on the site two days.... like what kind of Dom does that make him.... wanna be ???? I mean if you don't like bbw's don't look at the profile..
If he could get one he would not want his stick of a gf to be called names by some wanna be... what happened to repect. geezzzzzz.... anybody else with this issue out there? |
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I do love to read profiles and it is an activity that Master and I do often together.. it amazes me the number of people that want this and want that in the lifestyle but they make no effort to get out of the house and learn about what they want. I understand that many have to be discrete but what is wrong with going out and making friends that think like you do or enjoy the same things you do or at least think you do. It is just one of those things I personally don't get, for me when I had read everything I could get my hands on from the net and talked to as many people online and I decided I wanted to take that step into the reality of this lifestyle, there was nothing holding me back.. I found someone I could connect with enough to explore at least, (no he was not the perfect one for me). I let him teach me about so many things and then I jumped out the window and starting meeting people real time in safe environments. After that there was no turning back. Sure it took years before I found that one person that made me whole but along the way I made some great friends and I learned so many things about myself and the things I liked. I wish others could learn this way, wish they could find the courage to take that first step out of the online realm and into the joys of reality. Just something to think about.... there are so many ways to connect with others of like mind these days, there are communities in most major cities.. what is the difference in going to a munch and going down to the local bar? I guess it all depends on your mind set and what you are looking for, are you afraid of the wicked little fantasies your mind has cooked up?
I welcome discussion on this so if you have something to say, sure go ahead let me hear from you..
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Wow what a weekend, we went to a demo at TRC in Birmingham Saturday and it was so much fun. It was a demo on spanking and then one on setting the scene and tempting the senses... met some very interesting people and learned a lot..... hope to get to talk to everyone again soon...
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You know i could get by just fine without all the drama and crap fakes from here would love to start in my life..... fortunately there was nothing to start it with but it did annoy the crap out of me.... why would anyone want to pass judgement on someone they do not know in person and barely know any other way other than perhaps a few emails and a phone call or two... this in my book does not warrant a friendship so knowledgeable they could pass judgement on me and mine or even that they know who i am or what i am, to pop up on my messenger after nearly a year with no clue as to what is going on in my life and pass judgement on it...... doesn't that just scream jealous and the words of a wanna be whose power has to be boosted by putting others down....to call me names even when i did not agree with them... I am happy with my life and with my Master, we are real and no one can take our relationship or our bond from us.... others cannot make this claim and i feel sorry for them, to have to test their relationships with lies.... for more information please email me. |
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Something i truly hate and that is those that pass judgement on others without knowing all the facts or even knowing the persons they are judging... i know it is something that is a human thing to do but that does not make it correct and it makes the person that does the accusing to look less than they proclaim to be... i try to be honest in all the things i do and more so than anything else i would never lie to my Master, my children or my friends.. that is just the way i am..... what do others think about this? drop me a line and lets talk. avani |
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Well another day goes by.... i rarely get any info from the things i post here but i really have to try this time... i have a request and maybe just maybe i will get some response... i am looking for a female sub FRIEND, not someone i want to play with or Master would play with, just another sub that i can talk to and we can share things in the lifestyle, just a normal everyday gf that is in the lifestyle.... any takers? online friends are great but i would really like someone to hang out with a bit like a trip to the mall. any ideas? |
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I have pretty much came to the conclusion that most of what is here does not work, meaning the email, the chat rooms etc... seems no one replies if they write to you about a topic that is of interest to you. Then there are the profiles that just never change, no additions or updates just the few typed words slung up there when they first joined years ago... People change so therefore what they want need and desire changes too.. I feel that non updated profiles just scream wannabe, but then again we have all been wannabes at some point when we first discovered it but we grew and moved onward in our journey through this lifestyle. If I had gotten stuck at the doorway and never changed or explored or talked to people I would definitely not be where I am today. With the extra importance of communication in this lifestyle it seems not updating is just another way of not communicating and if you cannot communicate your wishes before a relationship, how will you communicate after it begins.
I just wish others could see what they needed to do to finally receive what they seek. The search takes a lot of work. Just some thoughts. |
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I hate it when you take time to answer something someone wrote to you and you never hear anything back from them. This is especially annoying when you are trying to have a conversation with the other person. Does this bother others, Dom or sub, doesn't matter?? Just a bit of a rant this morning. |
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Looking for someone interested in photography someone with skills enough to know how and what they are doing. i want some new pics done and i need assistance to get them done... any one have anyone to recommend??? or suggestions? drop me a line if you do
avani
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Wow have been home a week or so now..... it feels good for many reasons.. It is just good to be home,Master and i get to make our home together now, like coming home from a honeymoon of sorts, real life begins with all its ups and downs. I do have to say that things are going pretty good in spite of the downs.
Hopefully soon we will get to meet with some of the boys we talked to for so long in Colorado... it is just hard to coordinate everyones schedules and this is just a busy time of year for all. |
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Only 1 day left before we leave Colorado, YEAHHHHHHHH... i will try to update along the way but hard to say if i will be able too...
Finally back to the south where the kinky people live. |
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i find it interesting that since Master posted his thoughts on my profile that i still get people asking me that same tired question of "be my sub" or they send me rude comments about Master like that is going to change my mind about Him.... i don't get some peoples mindset or train of thought when it comes to some aspects of this lifestyle... maybe it is my own warped way of thinking maybe i expect to much of others.... who knows? |
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Well it looks like we will be headed home in a few weeks.... back to the south were it seems all the kinky people live... i am ready to be around people of like mind and share in some fun... You just miss being around like minded people, hard to believe i know but trust me tis true, even Master agrees.
Will update as i have more information. |
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I sit here and think that i thought i would never feel happiness again except for those short fleeting moments when it overwhelms you with something small. Like a child playing in the sunshine. I can honestly say i am happy. Life is different and not exactly what i expected but more enjoyable than i ever imagined. Thank you Master for showing me this side of me and guiding me as i learn truely who i am. |
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i was talking with a friend today about submission.. about how now that i have finally turned the regins of my life over to someone how much happier and more in control i felt... he described this as the "paradox of submission", you gain the opposite of what you are doing.. in essense by giving up power you are empowered more so. yes weird i know but true... what do you think? |
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Guess what?? something has happened. something exciting and something good. |
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OK Quick somebody tell me do i have a "stupid" hat on???
i swear i must, somebody had to put it on there when i wasn't looking...
Lately i have been bombarded with people thinking i should do this or that.. Last one thought just cause i talked to them a few weeks not sure how long it was not long enough, that i would just pack my bags and run off to where he was to be his sub.... his reference, his other sub... well i might not be the brights crayon in the box but that just was not gonna get it.. So again i am on the end of the unpleasant kind of name calling... they say i am a wanna be or a fake or that i am player... what happend to having a little common sense and a brain of your own..
i just don't get it... can anyone explain this to me? |
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Just gonna reopen this thing for chats only... I am not looking, no need to look. People seem to find me well enough on their own... So if you want to talk have a good discussion, then drop me a line.. enjoy the pics if you want..
avani |
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Seems everyday i get one day closer to just throwing up my hands and closing this account. Lately have questioned my lifestyle thoughts, feelings and motives. These have come underfire lately and made me question what i want and what i expect. Confused does not cover it. I know for a fact there are good and bad people , real and players out there. Trouble is sorting them out. It gets hard sometimes and then so often what seems like honesty becomes dishonesty in such a way to make you wonder what it was to begin with...(i know that statement, didn't make sense) Just so many thoughts to ponder but i can tell where things are headed.
avani |
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Well, it seems collarme doesn't want my pics to post but i have not gotten a reason as to why not.. they say 72 hours but has been longer than that... hopefully they will be back soon. |
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Well, i guess i have come to the end of another feast, but that is ok for once. Not sure what the days ahead hold but we shall see.
avani |
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Ok now...
Where is all this mistaking me as a dominate coming from?? i have had three this week. One finally said to me it was my picture with the crop in my mouth, but i just don't understand that cause i don't know any dominates male or female that would carry a crop in thier mouth... Now think about it?? do you... it is a submissive pose on my knees crop in my mouth in offering.........
thoughts or comments??
avani |
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thought i would see if anyone actually read this and find out what others are thinking...
Here is my question..
How much of a role does sex play in a D/s relationship? Is it important in the beginning? should it be discussed first or should the actual trust of the relationship be first and foremost??? |
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Guess i am still stuck on being disappointing... maybe that is just how i am feeling lately, like i disappointthose i talk too or don't talk too ..... the later is kinda of a dumb thing to worry about i guess.... it is just me though... i am like that, guess that is part of what makes me what i am... i am back to not understanding myself again... i miss real conversations not the "kneel now" crap..... but "hey how was your day?" |
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Guess that last entry was a bit over the top but geez don't we all get frustrated by the things others do and try to force on us... come on now you know you are all frustrated by it at some time or another...
I guess my thoughts for today are about how a sub feels when she knows her action is disappointing, no matter how simple the act might be.
Do others feel this way?
avani |
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After this afternoons encounter i feel the need to step out of being a submissive for a moment and lend a bit of education to the masses....
if you say you are a gentleman at least know what it means:
1 a : a man of noble or gentle birth b : a man belonging to the landed gentry c (1) : a man who combines gentle birth or rank with chivalrous qualities (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior d (1) : a man of independent means who does not engage in any occupation or profession for gain (2) : a man who does not engage in a menial occupation or in manual labor for gain
2 : valet-- often used in the phrase gentleman's gentleman
3 : a man of any social class or condition -- often used in a courteous reference gentleman to a seat> or usually in the plural in address gentlemen>
- gen·tle·man·like/-m&n-"lIk/ adjective
Thought i would define it since some don't seem to understand it and yet claim to be it.
**steps off soap box and becomes her normal self**
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 You know there is almost nothing that ticks me off more or that is a bigger turn off than someone that makes assumptions about me or my actions..... life is so complicated you should give a person the benefit of the doubt until they prove you wrong... i just don't understand people who cannot do that for others...
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Just something that needs to be pointed out... she will talk to just about anyone, she likes friends and meeting new people but please think about her when you approach her for more than that and you live hours and miles away from where she is... relationships take a lot of work and distance only makes it tougher.. Sure if she ran across that special someone it might be worth the extra effort for all the distance but right now it is just too much.... to much ... to deal with on top of everything else she handles... and not understanding that statement means you don't know her well enough to judge her in anyway..
Just think about it is all she asks! |
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She has been thinking alot about what she wants. Just when she thinks she knows she doesn't any more....
hmm more later.................. |
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She gets asked this one alot..."what does she need?" What do most submissives need, the basics a dominate person in her life, someone willing to share what she values. Someone enough in control of their own life that she could feel comfortable about submitting to them.. there is alot to be loved, cherished, and treated like a respected submissive.
Guess that is more than most can deal with.
Prove me wrong if you disagree. |
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I think i need to state this here.. I am not here for cyber or to be a cyber toy. I am looking for more than that.
avani |
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Its February so i thought i better add a new line or two.. hope all is well with everyone. I have met some interesting people so far and hope to chat with a few more as the year progresses, never know what or who one might stumble upon.....
avani |
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Hmmm Pink, a different color but pink does have its place.
Look folks i am not here to be a cyber toy, eventually the real thing will come. If you are out of state or not in a neighboring state, please really think about what you are writing to me. I am not looking for someone to support or for someone to support me. I am looking for mutaul enlightenment. Is that too much to ask for??
Yes I have more pics but can't I be a little bit picky about who I share them with? I would post more but collarme is picky.
avani |
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Well, a note of information is important here. They refused her first picture so she is trying again, maybe today will be the day. She feels a picture will sort out alot of the mail she is getting. She is kind and will talk to people but she knows in the end there are only a few that a re true. |
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