SvenTSexgore

Because labels and checkboxes just don't cover it:

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I recognize myself as male by genetic and societal definitions yet have no mental placement of gender in regards to myself. While I do not think of myself as neuter nor androgynous neither do I think of myself in terms of male nor female. I suppose this technically makes me genderqueer but as I still primarily pass as male and get the perks of male privilege I generally don't feel comfortable with that label.

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I classify myself as heterosexual at this time. I am quite willing to admit that I'd be interested in the chance to experience other options if I could find a male I was able to be emotionally attracted to and sexually aroused by. However, I cannot even formulate a fantasy version of such a male - the male form simply does not arouse me in the least. In fact I was mildly disappointed when I finally concluded this as it limits my options for exploration. I do believe I could have a solely emotional relationship with another male but without the sexual connection as well I doubt I would pursue anything of the sort.

I consider myself both polyamorous and sexually open. I never comprehended monogamy at any point of my life though I practiced it as it was all I had really been societally taught. To me the thought that one must restrict ones love to only a single individual is insane. If a person wishes to only have one partner that is fine and their choice - but to suggest having more than one is somehow impossible or causes you to care for and love the others less simply makes no sense in my worldview. Love is not something that is lessened or weakened in its sharing. It does not exist in limited quantities and thus why forcefully set a limit. I consider being sexually open to be separate from this as well. One could have multiple emotional relationships but only one sexual or vice versa and the two are not directly related though often end up combined in the eyes of many. However, as long as all parties are aware, informed, and accepting I see nothing wrong with having multiple sexual partners - with or without an emotional relationship as well.

I consider myself to be somewhat sexually dominant but it is not a prime factor in my sexuality. I do not believe myself to be dominant outside of a sexual sense when it comes to relationships by my own choice. I could happily pursue a sexual relationship where both parties were equal and I believe I could pursue a relationship where I was dominant on all levels not just sexual but neither is something I strive for. On the other extreme I do not think I could be truly submissive on either level and a relationship where it was expected of me would be doomed to fail.

I do not consider myself masochistic and although I do not consider myself sadistic I can enjoy the practice of sadism. Masochism I simply cannot embrace at all - I do not enjoy pain and no matter how much someone else is enjoying my pain it is not enough to allow me to override that. On the other hand while I am not aroused by the act of causing pain to others I am greatly aroused by bringing pleasure to others - if that pleasure is caused through pain than I can whole-heartedly embrace it. I think I would probably prefer a mildly masochistic partner over one without any tendencies as it provides another layer and set of options to the act of pleasuring said partner. I do not think I could manage this with someone at the extreme ends of masochism however as I suspect there are limits to what levels of action I might be willing to perform.

I have a number of kinks that I enjoy most of which would be listed as a fetish in common terms although not by a psychological definition. I do not require any of these kinks to achieve sexual satisfaction but they do greatly enhance it and can often be fulfilling in themselves without other sexual activity. These include but are by no means limited to: Latex, nylon, bondage, feet/legs and textures in general.

I consider myself to be very sexually experimentive and adventurous. There are very few acts, situations, or kinks that I am inherently opposed to. Most others I am willing to try at least once for the sake of having the experience even if in the end I do not enjoy it. I would rather learn that I do not care for an act than risk overlooking something that I would greatly enjoy. I believe that holding on to the status-quo out of fear, anxiety, or apprehension is the worst mistake one can make in any situation let alone their sexuality.

I believe I have two main drives when it comes to my sexuality - the act of bringing pleasure and the drive to explore and experiment. In most sexual encounters I care very little about my own directly stimulated pleasure on a physical level. It is much more enjoyable and fulfilling for me to bring pleasure to another individual than to have that individual bring pleasure or orgasm to me. I also desire to experience as many facets of human sexuality as I can that are not against my morals - there are also some that look like they will never be fulfilled due to personal tastes overcoming this desire but anything else is not only fair game but actively sought.