susytoon69

i really apprecciate the messages and the words from everybody who's written to me, but some of You just haven't read my profile. i am NOT interested in men, couples or else. i am only interested in serving a Lady, and a femenine one if i may add. i have gotten discouraged from my search and i only enter every once in a while to check messages an so forth. i know She's out there...wont loose hope.

The Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

The Dom

The Protector
The Disciplinarian
The Guide
The Nurturer
The Safe Place

The Dom may critique but never criticizes. To critique is to make better. To criticize is to tear down.

The Dom reaches for perfection but practices unconditional acceptance for himself as much as for his sub.

The Dom understands that trust is the most important aspect of a relationship and does everything to protect and nurture that.

The Dom always acts in the highest good of both. If a decision must be made between the Dom or the sub, the highest good of the sub is paramount.

The Dom may endeavor to break a habit but never to break a spirit.

The Dom cherishes the sub above all else as the most prized possession.

The Dom takes ultimate control, in a situation that has gotten out of control, to protect a sub.

The Dom provides discipline as outlined initially or updated in the definition of the relationship agreed upon by both.

The Dom provides aftercare - without exception - after intense play or discipline.

The Dom guides his sub in areas, where necessary, with the goal of improving the sub in areas initially agreed upon by both.

The Dom nurtures when a sub needs it.

The Dom is the sub’s safe place, the place the sub calls “home.” It is a place where unconditional acceptance and compassion are guaranteed.

The Dom honors the power of the submission with which they have been entrusted.

The sub

The Protected
The Disciplined
The Guided
The Nurtured
The Safe Place

The sub differentiates between critique and criticism, responding positively to critiques by the Dom.

The sub strives for perfection but practices unconditional acceptance when evaluating her performance.

The sub gives her trust responsibly and earns the Dom’s trust as well, understanding that it is the most important aspect of a relationship.

The sub knows the Dom always acts in the highest good of both. The sub must always communicate her needs in a clear and respectful manner so that the Dom has the important information necessary to maintain His responsibility.

The sub may never endeavor to diminish her quality with self-depreciation.

The sub values herself as a most prized possession, prioritizing her health and well-being.

The sub yields control to her Dom without hesitation in situations that have gotten out of control.

The sub understands discipline as an integral part of the power exchange, designed to assist her in achieving the goals initially outlined in the confines of the relationship.

The sub understands aftercare as a vital part of the play and discipline process and gives herself openly to it.

The sub is charged with using good judgment in self-governance with the goal of improving in areas initially agreed upon by both.

The sub asks for, and accepts, nurturing provided by the Dom. She also maintains a self-care routine mutually agreed upon. This self-care routine may include, but is not limited to manicures, pedicures, meditation, time with friends or exercise.

The sub is the Dom’s safe place, the place the Dom calls “home.” Its a place where unconditional acceptance and compassion are guaranteed.

The sub reverently gives her power of submission. If at any time she feels that her submission is not being treated reverently by her Dom she must seriously consider rescinding it.
The Relationship

A good D/s relationship has all the characteristics of a good vanilla relationship. The relationship must meet the needs of both participants, serving to enhance life and never causing misery.

Once you have found someone with whom you are building a power exchange relationship, communication is the key. Discovering who each other is, how you have become that person, where you have traveled from and where you see yourself going are all things pertinent to building this relationship. Communication should be easy - without concern and without trying to be something you are not. Honesty is paramount. There’s no point in pretending to be someone other than who you are. Eventually the truth will come to light and the relationship will fall apart. It is better to be just who you are from the start. Sharing your dreams, goals and aspirations are as necessary in a power exchange relationship as in any relationship.

Establishing the outline of your relationship will be next. Your relationship will have a higher chance of success if you discuss your needs and wants at the beginning. Going into a relationship with unexpressed expectations is a fatal error. Speak honestly about what you expect from a partner. What gives you pleasure? How do you know you are loved? What are you looking for from a power exchange relationship? What do you picture the relationship will look like? What are your hard and soft limits? Safe words? Then listen openly to their expectations as well. Communication is always a two way street.

Once you spend time getting to know each other and discussing the relationship you can relax into the dynamics of the relationship. See how things flow between you. Reevaluate and assess how things are going. Are your needs being met? Does the energy flow between you seem to be easy and reciprocal? Are you giving as much as you are receiving? Even though this is a D/s relationship, the needs and input of a sub are as important to the success as the Dom’s. If there is disappointment then determine if you can redefine some things. It may even be necessary to end the relationship.

If you decide to continue the relationship, under the same parameters or renegotiated ones, the relationship should proceed to develop smoothly. Periodic reevaluation is crucial to ensure that both parties’ needs are met as the relationship develops. Neither party should remain in a relationship that does not serve their highest good.

Written by PhyrrImp and edited by SapientSexual

My Lady says she's still considering it to become Her slave... pheuffff!! it thought had done something wrong or something but She was taking care of it all along, not wanting to interfere in it's regular family life...so thoughtful! Everyday it feels more attracted to be the property of This Lady...

this it feels like shit...it guess that's how Mistress wants this it to feel. Have it done something wrong? it is learning to either be patient of finish without nails due to the wating for a little bit more...this it is sad :-(

This it has changed it's profile and instead of i this it has put (it) because this it feels that has found A REAL LADY WHO will make it feel like what this it really is. an object. Up to today, this it felt like a useless object...now this it thinks it's starting to find use and purpose in it's existence. THANK YOU MY LADY

She answered my email and said i am under consideration to become Her slave!!!! i have a feeling that this is going to work out...Today, my phone rang and it was upside down, in seconds i thought it could be Her calling me...i felt a twinge in my slave cunt just thinking that She could have made that call...it wasn't Her but the feeling remains. i soooo want to serve and be useful...i crave for the iron fist with velvet glove from a Mistress a real one, and this slave thinks might have found Her.  Wish me luck

Ooooohhhh I made contact with a Mistress and by the sound of her voice i know it's going to work out....have i found You? Is this whore going to finally have a purpose? To serve, honor, obey a Real Mistress? Let'see...

I know She's out there...I know The Lady Domme Who is going to give meaning to my being is out there, very feminine, yet powerful and mighty. 

I see that many Ladies visit my profile and i feel that maybe They feel disgusted  by the fact that I am a bbw, but that can change. My beautiful Lady Domme can make this beast sweat her pounds away and turn me into a lean and fit being. Anyway i have a beautiful face, long black hair, tan skin, a beautiful smile and the best and most willing to serve slave You will ever find My Lady. i am willing to offer my existence to Her, otherwise i'll dissappear without the guidance, the education, the strength, the discipline, the sweetness, the sadism, the love and everything else The Lady Domme that takes me as a Her property wants to bring into the equation.

i feel so lost, being the viscious beast i am, without Her rules, Her power over me, Her look telling me how proud she is of Her property because she has turned Her beast into what She really wants. i know You Ma'am You are out there looking for me. i am here waiting for You...