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About SusexDom
I am looking for an 'beta' female to engage my mind first: thereafter all will follow; someone who is submissive as the expression of her nature. She needs to enjoy the subtleties of D/s and not just like, but need, power exchange as well as the physical side of things.
Your answers to these questions might help us work out if we are compatible:
1. Do you obtain pleasure from having pain inflicted on by a Dominant male?
2. Do you obtain an erotic charge from submitting and being controlled by a man?
3. What form does that control usually take?
4. When did you first have sexual fantasies about being submissive and being controlled by man and when did you first try this with a man?
5. Have you ever switched?
6. Would you say you had experience of D/s relationships and have been controlled by a man and if not and you believe it is in your nature, why not?
7. Are you never in charge in relationships and like Him to take the lead?
8. When were you first spanked?
9. What sort of things do you require in your D/s relationships with a Dominant man?
10. Which of the following best describes you - I would love to try or enjoy kinky sex OR I have no choice about my nature - I am soft wired submissive and need to be controlled by a man - it is not a chore. It is part of the essence of me and a core need?
Ideally what I am looking for is someone who takes good care of her health and the condition of her body. She will fit in with my type of life and I into hers, be financially stable and emotionally intelligent and interesting.
I have always been Dominant and also very competent in my career. I need to respect and be attracted to a submissive woman, be sure she is interested in me as a person as well as in being his obedient, submissive partner.
My interests are wide - from psychology to religion, from anthropology to history. I like women who know about most topics. I like good conversation. I enjoy my home and garden. I enjoy my work too
I need someone educated and bright who can keep up with me and ideally at least in some senses be one who can look up to me and respect me. I like to feel a slightly paternalistic relationship with a submissive woman whom she can learn and from me and whom I can help make her a better person. Indeed in all good relationships vanilla or otherwise the two halves in a couple can be stronger and better than if they were not together. In return I will be devoted to her and she will want to do as I say.
I am cautious and careful and restrain myself from posting here any identifying details.
About me and Domination
For me this is almost entirely in the mind. This makes the personality of the person who dominates so very important. I will understand you. I will want you to please me in the sense of wanting you to be happy pleasing me. We are both consenting to something and both in a sense giving to the other, although the bottom line is that you like to please and you never want a man to do as you say. You have to trust me enough, respect me enough, to submit to me. I have to be inside your mind to such an extent that I will not need a rope or a belt to restrain you, although of course I will use what I choose. You would lie or kneel where I said instead simply because I'd directed you to.
The details of what I might physically want to do or not to do are neither here nor there and can be worked on. It is often how things are said or done and by whom rather than what is done which matters.
I have never had a relationship in which I have not been Dominant. It is the only way I can be. I feel like people feel who are born gay. It's not a choice or something you learn to be. It is how I am. I know what I like, but I do not want to suggest a checklist of physical actions. I like to put some effort into things, preparations and plans and am always considerate, trustworthy, polite ...except of course when exercising my rights in private and to an extent in public. You will like having how you look and dress controlled. You need to feel cherished and protected. However, I am confident, firm when necessary and you will accept that I have the right to and should take you further than you might think you will want to go. You will never be awkward, difficult or brattish but you will like to communicate how you feel and what you want. You like the feeling that your opinion is of value even though you do not expect in most cases to be taking decisions yourself.
Control is the one thing you seek and need. If you have no desire to submit, in and out of bed, you are probably not for me. It is the getting inside of your mind which is the key to this and you will be as interested in relationships such as those known as "takeninhand" as anything else. However it is some kind of power exchange relationship you seek and indeed inevitably will end up in because you are programmed to be like that. It's etched into your DNA, wired into your being.
Being submissive is how you are, how you've been since as early as you can remember. No question.
The most erotic thing there is.
Remember these words also written by eloquent women
"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will. His pleasure. His Desires. His life. His work. His sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh God, as woman I want to be Dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own two feet, not to cling to all that I am capable of doing, but I am pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at His time, His Bidding...." - Anais Nin
"To be completely woman you need a master and in him, a compass for your life. You need a man you can look up to and respect. If you dethrone him, it is no wonder that you are discontented, and discontented women are not loved for long."
Marlene Dietrich |
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