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About sugrdaddydom
*** UPDATE ***
I will be taking a break from CM for a while due to the fact that vanilla life has been so demanding of my time. This does not mean a status change or lack of interest, but being too busy overall.
*** BACK TO PROFILE ***
I am just a normal easy going guy who can be very caring and compassionate (even pampering at times). But I am also very kinky and enjoy many fetishes related to BDSM in private. I understand that even a D/s relationship requires enjoyment for both partners I am just as interested in giving pleasure to the sub through her submissiveness as I am from receiving pleasure. I am very different than most Doms in this way.
My particular interests include leather bondageware, hypnotic suggestion, orgasm control (control of orgasms, NOT orgasm denial), control of subs in general and I am open to any other interests my partner may have. I have interests in many forms of edge play and given the opportunity, I can be quite demanding.
But just to be very clear... I am NOT looking for play partners or a hook-up, it's just not my style in that I think in terms that are longer than long term. I am NOT looking for "one" at this time. It's just not going to happen here or anywhere else online. I am too connected to the real world and transitioning from virtual to real world is fraught with danger for everyone involved, to be sure. So I am ONLY interested in getting to know people online who wish to discuss lifestyle topics (or otherwise) on a friendly conversational basis. |
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I just wanted to apologize to all my CM friends about the fact that I have not been around all that much. Vanilla life has consumes 110% of my time and there is just not any time left to pursue alternative interests. As a result, I will be off-line for a while here until things settle down. If you have my private contact information, please feel to keep in touch that way. Otherwise, best regards. |
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"When you're forced to stand alone, you realise what you have in you."
~ author unknown |
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"I do not consider meaness as domination, I avoid people who are mean, or bullying." I saw this on someone elses profile and it resonated with me. Can one accept that a Dom is caring? |
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Can one be on a fetish site sincerely looking for friends and not be confused with seeking a relationship? |
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When my girl is stressed or upset, it's a good time for a bath. Not in the infantile rubber ducky, bubblebath kind of bath. But rather the the adult soaking bath, with bath salts or oils, candles and a back massage. This is not how a Master would be inclined to treat a slave, but it does show how a Daddy Dom treats his girl. |
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"Like comet pulled from orbit as it passes the sun.
Like a stream that meets a boulder halfway through the wood.
Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
But because I know you, I have been changed for good."
For no reason other than the song struck me today. |
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"A Pleasure Dom" I just learned the term very recently. It does not describe my outlook, but then again neither does "Sadist." I fall somewhere in the middle and as a result, I am questioning whether there is a description for my outlook. |
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Can a Dom be a Dom and still spoil his sub? Can a sub be sub and still be treated like a princess? |
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On the subject of the 1950's lifestyle... Much is made about the responsibilities of the sub in such an arrangement. The sub should be like June Cleaver always properly dressed, respectful of her husband, excelling at cooking and other housekeeping chores. This much is understood and expected. But what is often forgotten is the responsibility of the Dom in a 1950's lifestyle. Although Ward Cleaver had his occasional relaxation in his comfy chair, he had a strong responsibility for providing for not only the organization needs of the relationship, but also the financial needs of the relationship. Ward had a solid career and as a result, the family had a good house, comfortable furnishings and a well stocked refrigerator. It was June's responsibility to "cook up the bacon," but it was Ward's responsibility to "bring home the bacon."
Many Dom's expect the sub to provide for Him in a 1950's relationship but forget that they are to provide for the sub as well. This Dom has a successful and professional career and expects to provide all creature comforts that even a vanilla partner would want. |
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A table needs 3 legs to stand. In much the same way, I am looking for a friend, a partner and a lover. I have had good friends who are unavailable to be a partner or lover. I have had good partners who did not have enough time to be a friend OR a lover. And I have had lovers with no interest in being a friend or a partner. Is it too much to ask for all three? |
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"L'amour entre les hommes et les femmes, on ne le dit pas assez, c'est une bataille sournoise." |
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The gentle hug he gives her in the morning. The warm smile she returns to him. The way he pours her first cup of coffee in the morning. The way they share a warm muffin, his favorite flavor. Choosing her clothes and fixing her hair. Holding hands on their afternoon shopping trip. Just the right words he finds to calm her nerves when she struggles with daily life. Quiet dinners together. Helping to bathe her and get her ready for bed. This is the special relationship between a Daddy and his little girl that is not so much related to B/D or S/M but is very D/s. |
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"The purpose of life is not to be happy - but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all." ~Leo Rosten |
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It has been a while since I journaled so I would like to share my thoughts on how a Daddy Dom is different other Doms? It may not be for everyone, but a Daddy Dom is not about age play, incest or treating a sub like an infant or child. Rather, it is about being a strong role model, mentor and caretaker. A Daddy understands the importance of discipline but at the same time truly feels the pain of the "it hurts me more than it hurts you" aspect of having to use physical punishments when they are called for. More likely than not, a Daddy will use positive reinforcement rather than using negative reinforcement. This is not to say that a Daddy Dom is a pushover or that the sub will be able to have her way with him. Quite the contrary since Daddy will always be looking out for his "little girl" because he is the only one in the relationship who knows what's best for her at all times. In return for a sub's service, the Daddy Dom provides her comfort and safety through strict dominance but will also exude strength through caring and compassion. A Daddy Dom will be as equally likely to offer a shoulder to cry on as he is to solicit sexual gratification because of the strong bond that develops between a Dad and his daughter. This kind of relationship is not for everyone and it certainly takes time to develop and grow into, but for those inclined to a full-time D/s relationship, it can be the most rewarding experience of your life. |
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In the pure world of BDSM I also have a strong fondness for the fetishes. I enjoy anything kinky or out of the ordinary. Some may call this type of thing twisted, but in this world I am very open minded and do not judge anyone for having a fantasy or a fetish. Where others would not understand, most topics would be completely acceptable in my mind in a "to each his own" kind of way. Most subs state that they want to please their Dom through your submission, and I expect that. But know that I am also interested in Dom'ing a partner in such a way that she also receives the most out of the experience. |
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I am looking for a balanced relationship with plenty of vanilla activities blended in with more than enough D/s activities. As far as how I see balancing the vanilla with the fetish aspects of intimate times, I believe that there should be a wide dynamic between tender lovemaking and intense mind blowing lose-track-of-time scening. Where it will fall most often will depend on the dynamic of the relationship and I have no preconceived notion on that point.
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My form of D/s is characterized by contradictions... The firm grasp, pinch or slap against the gentle touch, caress or kiss. The leather collar or cuff against the silk robe. The impersonal command against the extended hug and cuddling. The quick, sharp snap of a cat or crop on the ass against the intensely slow and methodical teasing of the erogenous zones. |
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