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About subtlyvanilla
What am I searching for? Well, I can tell you what I'm NOT searching for.
That would be those who are strictly looking to play an online game. I have enough in life, that I don't need more games as well. If I wanted to play a game, I would go play candy crush. :)
I want to have fun, but I also would like to have a serious relationship in the process. No, I'm not looking to move in with someone, although if I found the right person, I would consider it, it's just not my main goal at the moment. I'm also not interested in being with a man who is married. Please don't be offended, I'm just not interested in playing second to your other life or being this big secret you have to hide from everyone.
I'm very open minded, or at least that's what I'm told. While I am a submissive lady, I'm also "vanilla", meaning, there is more to life than beating my ass just because you want to. (although, I'm definitely up for that too - however, NOT interested in finding just a play partner.)
One criteria I guess I should mention is, I'm not looking for?a Dominant man I need to support. If you are interested, please be able to support yourself. I've already raised three children, I no longer want to raise more. (I love kids, just not immature men who claim to be Dominant). If you appear to not take care of yourself, meaning, bathing on a daily basis, what makes you think I or any other woman, will want to be with you for any extended amount of time?
It's been a long time since I've been in a collared relationship and I'm finally ready to move on with my life and find a partner to share my many interests with.I have "experience" ask and I'll tell you about it. One interest I have outside the "lifestyle" is traveling. I would love to see more of this beautiful world we have.?I have a passport and it needs to be stamped!
I have a sense of humor and hope you do as well.
I'm not attaching my pic, however, I do have one, again ask, and you shall receive.
OK, so now that you've gotten this far and I hopefully have not scared you off, I'll add this...a submissives life is not measured nor molded by many hands, but by the true hands of one who knows how to find, capture and hold her heart through her devotion to him. I'm hoping by now the "wanna-be's" are sorted out and?I can say a few more words about me. I enjoy many things in life, I love photography, one day I hope to?be able to see the love and devotion of my Dominants eyes through my camera lens. As I stated above, I enjoy traveling, yes I know I listed I enjoy cages. How can I enjoy two things that are so far apart you ask? Well, the cage is something I enjoy when my days or life needs a release. I can hide away in that cage and everything else disappears. All of the "outside stuff" goes away. While in that cage, I only need to concentrate on the Dominant I'm serving.?I enjoy traveling because I also like to see other parts of this beautiful world God has created. I believe there has to be more then what the naked eye can see, so let me see what I can find behind the lens of my camera. I'm a very passionate person, I believe a simple kiss?when done right,?can be much more erotic then the act of sex alone.
I know I wrote this in my journal, but I'm going to add it here as well. Please do not be so shallow as to only want a barbie doll girl. I'm not a barbie, nor do I want to be one. Yes I understand I am overweight, I live with this body everyday. Instead of criticizing, why not ask what I'm doing to make myself a healthier me, or ask how I lost over 100 pounds and I'm still attempting to lose more. It took 40+ yrs to gain the weight, it's going to be a long process to lose it as well. There is so much more to know about me then what meets the eye, why not take the chance and get to know me, if for no other reason then to have intelligent and sometimes funny conversation with another who is expecting nothing in return. |
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If you've lied to me (or yourself) once you more than likely will lie again. if you lie, I can't trust you. no trust- no relationship/friendship. |
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I love when someone says they are an expert at something but when I ask questions aboutIit they have NO clue what I mean. For example if you say you are an expert at needle play I would expect you to know what I mean when I ask what size needles do you feel comfortable with or use. The answer should not be oh I dont know or worry about the size. Then later admits he only did online needle play. Completely lost on that one! |
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Enjoying getting to know the male submissives that have emailed lately. Maybe some of the male Dominants can learn a thing or two on how to be respectful from those submissives |
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Just because we may not be a good fit, doesn't make me or you any less real. Being real has nothing to do with making a relationship work. Everyone is real in their own minds, why is it when something doesn't work out, others assume another is fake? What makes a fake person online? Am I fake because we aren't a good match, or is it because I don't want to play an online fantasy game with you? |
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In my opinion, and it's just that, my opinion, being submissive is not a gift. It's quite simply just a natural part of who I am. |
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Seriously thinking this site is not what I thought it would be. Thinking of cancelling this account. I need a break |
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Are there no true gentlemen out there who just happen to be Dominant as well? Because you think you are a Dominant that means you have to be mean and rude? I always thought respect was one element in this lifestyle one must have. Have I been wrong all these years? |
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I really love it when someone judges you on what they think they know about you, then blocks you without giving you a chance to even have an open discussion about it. And you say my being overweight shows my true character? Maybe you being judgmental shows YOUR true character. Good thing I'm still losing the weight, at least that I can change about myself and someday he will email me again - because many MANY on here seem to forget that they've emailed someone then months later under a new name, send an email stating how much they enjoyed my profile. Sometimes people just simply amaze me.
Happy Saturday everyone |
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Is it my imagination or have there been A LOT of young people joining collarme lately? Don't get me wrong don't care that they are here but wow! Please also understand if I'm old enough to be your mother you are NOT old enough (or mature enough) to be my Master, so please don't bother emailing me. |
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Feeling kind of sad and discouraged this morning |
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interesting in the last two weeks so many friends have been reading 50 shades as well and thinking they will find themselves a Christian like in the books. While I enjoyed reading the series and it made me really miss alot of this lifestyle, do people not realize those books are just not ever going to happen? |
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being fiesty is part of my personality.....it`s not a bad thing..just shows I am not a doormat :) |
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reading 50 shades of grey..got to the 3rd book in the series so far. Making me miss so much of this crazy life we call a lifestyle. |
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I guess I`m supposed to be crushed that you didn`t like the answers I gave to your questions. (I`m not crushed, hurt that you would judge so harshly when you don`t know the entire story, I only gave basic information because most don`t need the entire story) Would it be better I lied about my past relationship or would you rather I tell the truth? Oh and yes I know there is a difference between to and too, just didn`t realize I had to be perfect in my email responses. Good luck to those that are that judgemental because you surely are going to need it! |
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I will never understand why so many lie on this website - or any "dating" website for that matter. Dont lead others on, say what's on your mind and don't play games with other people. Also is it something new that men ask for a phone number the first time they email a girl?? Im sorry but I don't just give out my number to just anyone |
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so I understand many think I`m not submissive because I`ve obviously been speaking my own mind for entirely to long, after all a "true" submissive would NEVER put her own opinion out there the way I have. Well I`m sorry if you are offended that I have such a strong opinion on things, my intent was never to offend but to vent and hopefully keep certain types of people away. That apparently hasnt worked, being honest in what I`m looking for hasnt worked either, telling you I`m not interested in an online relationship hasnt worked and telling you if your wife cant meet with me face to face to tell me she doesnt give a dam that its ok for us to have a relationship then we wont be meeting hasnt worked either, being rude hasnt worked - which is amazing...the ruder I am the more they come back - I dont get that one either but ok- I`m really not a bad person honest I`m not. I`m just picky in what I`m looking for - as you should be too! There have been quite a few who have been emailing me that I`ve truly enjoyed getting to know. Those few have proven to me that there are still some true gentlemen out there who just happen to be Dominant men - for those few men I want to say thank you and others should take a lesson from you in how to treat a person. Again if I`ve offended anyone with my rants I do apologize. |
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I`m going to go off on a rant now and it`s going to piss people off but I honestly dont give a shit.... Listen you idiotic morons out there who think a lady who happens to be submissive would seriously be interested in meeting you to fuck the first time she meets you... DONT GET YOUR HOPES UP BECAUSE IT WONT EVER HAPPEN..AND...NO I`M NOT INTERESTED IN A THREESOME EITHER...THANKS BUT NO THANKS!! ok rant over...back to your normal browsing of profiles now..yes that means you....go on now go look for the girl with no self esteem or the one who has nothing better to do with her life than sit around and have phone sex with you...mumbling dam morons...oh and no I dont need a Master to put me over his knee because I speak my mind..thank you very much |
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Maybe I am asking or looking for to much after all |
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So tired of this winter weather. I'm ready for a Carribean vacation. |
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So Ive been told once again Im to harsh and dont fit the "mold" of what most in here consider submissive. Ive decided maybe I shouldnt have a label...maybe you should get to know me before you judge though. Ive talked with many who have been extremely polite, unfortunately Ive talked to more who have been incredibly rude. Listen, Im not a barbie, nor do I want to be. Yes Im a bigger lady. Instead of being rude, why dont you ask me about the 100+ pounds Ive lost and what Im doing to fix myself to be a healthier me. |
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So many claim this "isn't about sex". SO if that is the case, why do you ask about what I enjoy sexually the first time you speak to me? How about you get to know me first, then we can travel down that road? Or am I really asking for to much? |
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So I was asked by a male submissive if I were interested in having a "boy" just to come take care of my home, to clean and do my laundry, no strings attached. While that all sounds great, we all know the boy wants more than that. Let me be clear...Im not interested in
topping anyone, male or female.
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Maybe CM isn't or wasn't the place to find what Im searching for afterall. Why must people lie about the simplest things? |
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Please explain why you would add me as a friend when I've never spoken to you before? Wouldn't a friend be someone you actually somewhat know? One line emails do not make you my friend, so please remove me as someone you claim is a friend. |
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Please do not be offended if I tell you Im not interested. Would you rather I lied to you instead? I have NO desire whatsoever to submit to another bitchy woman. Im only interested in male dominants, no desire to top anyone either. Oh and one more thing, no I dont share. |
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Why is someones submission a gift? It's part of who I am, not a gift I give away randomly or at various times of the year. I will either submit to you, or I won't. I wouldn't give my submission to anyone, it either happens, or it doesn't. (most times, no offense, it doesn't - I've submitted to very few Dominant men in my life, that's just the way it is) |
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Im finding this journey a bit frustrating. Let me be a little more clear..if I wanted fucked...I could get fucked, however for those who can't comprehend let me explain. For me and I know this is hard to understand, this is more than kinky sex. I do not want a pic of your cock, if I do, I'll ask. Don't assume. Also please understand I am reading more than 1 email, I know I'm not the only one you talk to so as I respect you, please respect me as well. One last thing while I'm rambling...no I'm not going to tell you how big my bra size is. |
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