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Switch Couple, 43, tampa, Florida
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Female Submissive, 42, washington, Pennsylvania
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Male Dominant, 46, perkins, Oklahoma
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About subset4life
I have been a sub all my life, but only recently accepted this as who I am. I do far better with a Dom in my life, I've found. I have a defiant streak in me that I have trouble controlling and it's hard to find punishments that I do not quickly learn how to enjoy as my pain tolerance is high. I am a bit of a masochist and have very few hard limits in life. I have always enjoyed sex on the rougher side, making love has never been an interest of mine, and I have experienced pain as a very specific kind of pleasure for as long as I can remember. I was raised as a tomboy but I have the ability to be very feminine when given the chance. I do whatever I can to please my partner. I do have PTSD, so what hard limits I do have are extremely firm. When I am angry I can be aggressive and have a harder time keeping my defiant streak in check, but I am willing to learn.?
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I am the type of woman that commits to the person I am with, especially in a d/s relationship. I am notoriously bad at sharing people, but it's not a hard limit yet, I just get jealous easy. I am insanely honest and don't believe in games. I am not a fan of emotional domination, however, because I've been burned in the past (and not in the good way).?
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Hard limits include: kids, extreme humiliation, scat, waterworks, extreme emotional domination (extreme humiliation, feelings of abandonment, extreme shame), and receiving oral
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I should mention that, with me, "Sir" is a label that I do not throw around easily. I will only call a man "Sir" once I have committed to him. It is a very important word for me and means total submission.? |
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I consider myself a fairly natural submissive, and I was looking for a suitable dominant that could give me what I need, who didn't trigger my PTSD. The last thing I thought I would be doing is choosing between an extreme dominant who could give me ALMOST everything I wanted except emotional security and a vanilla man that could give me ALMOST everything I wanted except BDSM. I've found that my heart doesn't care if the man is vanilla or not. The Mr. Vanilla happened to steal my heart, luckily he's more than willing to offer me some BDSM as long as I communicate with him as to what I enjoy. I've found that most of my hard limits weren't as hard as I thought they were. He doesn't trigger my PTSD and he is possessive to the extent that I am comfortable enough that he calls me his. I'm still having trouble accepting that he's vanilla, but it helps that he is willing to learn some new things to please me and he struggles with my overwhelming urge to take care of him to the best of my ability. I am generally an unemotional person and found myself stuck having emotions for these two guys, but the emotions toward Mr. Vanilla turned into actual love, so my heart is now out of the game, which means my faithful streak has officially kicked in. |
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Okay, so I'm about four days into being healthy again. For a while there, 2 miserable weeks, I was so sick that I hadn't eaten ANYTHING that would stay down. I dropped about ten pounds a week and nearly died. Things are nearly back on track so I should be a happier me in no time. I'm finally able to eat at least one small meal a day as long as I take it really slow. |
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So, sunbathing at the lighthouse and I realized that I forgot one very key thing about me. I am allergic to latex.
Update: let me clarify this a little more: I randomly thought that I forgot to put on my profile that I'm allergic to latex. |
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