subMan4Madame

male sub seeking his domina for committed relationship

Feel free to contact me: in English, in het Nederlands, en français oder auf Deutsch.
Last update: 29 July 2010

Hello, I'm Rob, a.k.a. subMan4Madame. I live in the area of Leuven (just east of Brussels).

Since genuine ladies in Belgium (age 30-50, *) are extremely rare on BDSM-websites I don't bother to log into these websites too often. I usually check my yahoo account every few weeks however, so don't let any long time 'absence' of mine keep you from contacting me with a question!

The following is just my 'basic' profile. Some elements of it are even open to discussion ;-) Hopefully even a BDSM-newbie lady may find something of interest in it. Happy reading!


I'm looking for a domina (possibly a switch, but no TV or TS) to have a long-term committed relationship with.  My preference goes out to D/s domination in mostly one-on-one private play (R/L, pure cyber is of no interest to me), but a femdom couple could work out too.  This genuine lady lives in Belgium, or possibly just across the border if commuting time is acceptable.

I'm single - truly no strings attached - so I can be open to several types of ladies:
from women seeking their 'soul mate'-type of partner for life (NB: my preference as well as) to a more settled type of woman (married, LAT, 'I'm not rushing this', etc ...).  Vanilla sex may not be part of the (initial) package deal with the latter, which is fine with me. I'm not here for  'easy' kinky sex. I may be a very private and discreet person, but any partner should feel as comfortable in receiving friends as I am, without need for secrecy re. significant others. I have enjoyed BDSM contacts and relationships on and off since 1994 with women ranging from spoiled pretty babes to women much older than myself. Well-educated and intelligent, I can carry a conversation and handle myself in public with people of various backgrounds.

And while I dare say I'm an easygoing person, I'm no easy sub. I want a D/s relationship based on personal depth and investment. An experience of growth in D/s.  And a bit of a challenge.  But for starters I like my BDSM to be about good mutual fetish fun, (initially) bound by little more than common sense re. safety and that need for attention to keep a relationship growing in its main aspects. 

I have several fetishes (BDSM and others, like elegant leather garments and accessoires for her) that I can readily enjoy, but if experience taught me anything it's that my greatest satisfaction comes from the Mistress deepening and even twisting those simple fetishes with clear or teasing input from her personal agenda. She likes to organize an intimate world of privilege and grace for the both of us. Her 'House'. Where she can rule with an iron fist in a soft leather glove and I will offer the respect and discipline required to make it a comfortable experience. I can grant my domina enough leeway for an awesome mind fuck of 'open discussion being executed with a kinky twist' as long as there is no disruptive breach of trust in the general course of action. And that trust should allow her to mentally push me to show devotion to the greater scheme that she is laying out before me.

A flirting atmosphere is one fun way to create that mutual awareness of what needs to be said or done. Open communication is an alternative option (and in the beginning often a dreaded one at that). I want both, even in the knowledge that D/s execution is not always about fairness. But give me a fair starting position and we're good to go. I definitely have a basic starting point in mind, but I'm open to further charming (and not so charming) input from a smart lady. This is very much what the Madame in my nick is about: a trustworthy person that I can admire for her wisdom, elegance and boldness in action. Someone who preferably appreciates stylish leather for its many subtle applications in daily life for spontaneous and innocent flirtation that the 'in your face' materials like latex are lacking. Please note the above is an ideal, open to discussion.

I hold an optimist outlook on life. (How else would you call a male sub writing an elaborate profile when Belgium is having like ZERO ads of any positive substance from single femdoms in the age bracket 30-50 ;Sept '09)? I tend to be an easy-going social person, introvert and often maintaining a low profile. In business matters I'm your outspoken,
straight up guy, contributing where needed. A bit on the conservative side usually, but open to less usual methods when needed to get a break-through. In general, a mix that many find trustworthy.

I prefer to avoid crowded or noisy (i.e. music) places and me going to taverns or pubs is usually part of another activity in the city or just a walk in the country side to get some fresh air after the 5-day week at the corporate office. I'm also the type that will opt for the stairs rather than elevator because to stay (mentally) fit you better keep enjoying the efforts. No joy, no effort (and vice versa)!

I'm blessed with a naturally stable body weight: c. 68 kg packed in a 1m75 body (model 1969). A few basic exercises are enough to keep me in shape. Suitable partners are born female, likely within a range of +/- 10 yrs my age (i.e.1959 - 1979) and preferably less than 80 kg (unless you have a gorgeous Diva quality to come with any over-sized volume ;-). I am not hung up on looks only: I want chemistry on a more personal level (communication and motivation) as well. Note: I dislike the chemistry of (heavy) smokers and I will not engage with them on any committed contact.


How to contact me:

There's a good reason why I made this profile text so extensive: I dislike the whole
back-and-forth process of introductions in written. In case you'd like to get to know me better then I would prefer to simply exchange a few e-mails, followed by a "(tea or) coffee date" as soon as convenient for you, at any place convenient for you. Preferably in the weekend. For me, a first date can be just that: to meet in person and have a nice chat, about vanilla as well as kink (in general terms).

I am never online with a "submissive" account for messenger services like MSN or yahoo (or skype). And if pressed for them, I would first like to install them on a separate laptop. I don't cam, ever. Face pics or a personal telephone number I only give out to people that I enjoyed reading their e-mails.

I could relocate within Belgium if we were to feel that strong about getting close(r)...


Your quickest contact option would be to drop my nick an e-mail through yahoo:

subMan4Madame yahoo_com

Thanks for reading this far!

Rob

My avatar?  Cropped out of "Venus with a Mirror" (Titian, c. 1555, public domain)

Feel free to contact me: in English, in het Nederlands, en français oder auf Deutsch.


(*) genuine ladies in Belgium, age 30-50: actually, there has been a whole slew of profiles here on CollarMe, but I'm convinced most of these are no more than mock ups generated by a - no doubt male - faker who is / has been operating several Master and couple records as well. This dude is clearly having a ball.
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