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I met a DOMME, & I thought we hit it off. She locked me in a Chastity Belt for 4 months and ONLY took it off to clean it. She refused to allow me any kind of stimulation. The thing is I am a Christian and she wasn't. She's pagan and wiccan. She said Im a great guy, alot of fun to be around but couldn't handle the fact I pray alot, give thanks to God & attend church.

She even told me to give this up, & I am considered a switch. I am sorry BUT I like strong, confident, controling women, who can take charge. Also, who can & will put a man in his place.  I am sorry to say this is NOT about finding someone who will have coitus or copulations with me <-----Thats NOT what I want. Maybe I am a switch. I'll change my profile status.

She said she only aswered my ad because he felt sorry for me and that I sounded pathetic.. I am NOT pathetic I just know what I want & that to serve a DOMME long-term.  I guess I want to get to know someone, be friends, maybe date & who knows.

Ms. Kati

               Hi!  I can't believe you are here on CM.. I love the handle luv2babitch..  Soo how have you been doing? and How long have you been on here??

               I am so glad that I was of help with that situation....

               I'm still looking for just the right one to fully submit to.. Kat, I sure do miss talking with you. We spent counless hours on the phone. Also, thank you for measuring me YES!!  I did buy the William Jones adjustable CB  but still single. I am in a vanilla relaionship, BUT I hope it will change soon. She is NOTHING like you, she's alot more gentle, caring, and just AWESOME!!!!!!  

                More than likely you're getting hit on by every male thats out here aren't you??  When we (males) learn it is NOT about what someone looks like its about how they really truely are.

             take care have fun searching, and God bless..... My prayers are always with you.

your friend always

Don

p.s.

I have NOT heard from anyone is a VERY long time on CM .. BUT OH well... they are looking for sex.  I want something long term and loving. NOT a sex act or a FWB.

  http://barnettandassociates.weebly.com/

   A friend sent me this web site and WOW!!  I was impressed. I thought Marijuana makes someone insane. I did not know it was legal back n the 1930's  and that huge businesses made it illegal.

    I just thought it was all for potheads and stoners..  You know HEY DUUUDE

8-3-11 at about 8am

              About 2 months ago I met a lady who I have been dating (vanilla dating) she is a true delight. Although, she has NO idea of this web-site. She is in all aspects a Dom, a tad bossy and pushy BUT not where by she wil tie me up, use a strapon me and beat me  <---- She thinks thats gross and disgusting. Can I blame her?? We are both Christian people THANK GOD.......

               In fact we have NOT had sex yet. She relly does NOT want sex, she has a VERY low sex drive. She has complained that I have a high sex drive (I just did NOT know it was that high). She turns me on and excites me. I have tried to come on to her many many times BUT she seems just not that interested. She told me that I have a high of a sex drive, for her.

                She works alot of hours 12 to 14 hours a day 7 days a week. I think there is something MORE to it, BUT I don't know. Hmmmm, I have been cheated on so much that nothings shocks or suprises me anymore... I just wish that she would be a tad MORE controling and lock me in a Chastity Belt (Aka CB). Help me control my desires sort-of-speak. I would like her to tell me when or even IF I get to have sex. I have to admit I guess I do jerk off aot about 4 times a week.. Years ago when I was in my late teens and early 20's I jerk off and masturbate 10-15 times a day EVERYDAY  .. <-----Thats what happens when you do NOT have anyone..... I just do NOT believe that she is cheating...

                  This lady I am dating believe it or not I am and have cut way back on masturbating. I just wish that she lock in a CB and deny me pleasure and excess--OK I have to finally admit it I am a somewhat of a sex addict..  I love stroking my cock IT FEELS WONDERFUL!!!!!!  However, if I wait for say 6 months or so OMG!!!!!   OH  MY GOD!!!  it is at least 1,000 times better.....  I know this because YES!!!  I have been locked in a CB for 6 months.  Believe it or NOT it was ALL MY!!  Idea!!!!!!

                   The longest record for me was 1 1/2 years..  YES!!!  I wanted to wear a CB and be denied that long, and I did!!!!  I felt soo much better and I felt like a REAL MAN...  I did not look at women like I just to and I guess in a way I still don't...

                   Women deserve MORE respect than what thee so-called men are giving them these days.

                    Well, I am and have been pondering the thought about telling her about this web site...  She knows that I want to be locked in a CB, BUT OMG!!!!!!  you should have seen the look on her face... I can just imagine what she will say and then what she will think...

Today is 8-1-11.. 12 noon

               A few people on here are wonderful. Some are just outright IDIOTS, I mean seriously, forcing someone is consider RAPE. Unless its a play scene and still you should have safe words. USE some common sense people..

               I am opening up my mind a little more... Cannabis while it is ILLEGAL here, I have thought about using it. For the ones who do NOT know I have some back problems. I have heard that Cannabis does in fact help out with pain.. I have NEVER tried it or used any type of ILLEGAL drug. So I am opening up my mind a little more.

                 I still think a woman should lead and control the relationship and keep their man locked in a secure chastity belt. If not, most males will either masturbate or find someone to sleep with. Either way I believe and think it is CHEATING. I do NOT know what the big deal is IF things work out thats GREAT!!  IF not you can aways cut the chastity belt off, even if she flushes the keys down the toliet

               I am still looking for friends BUT haven't really found anyone who wants to chit chat talk or have a discussion. I mean BIG DEAL tie me up spank me, use a strapon on me and blah blah blah blah......  PLEASE excuse me BUT there is alot more to someone than being a submissive and a DOMME..  UNLESS of course sex is all you want OR maybe playing some sort of childish immature game or games...  I would have thought BY NOW!!!  I am over 40 that the childish like games would have STOPPED. In my book it has gotten worse.. Its like everyone is playing everyone else and just want sex sex sex and even MORE sex...  Even so, its more like talking about it than doing it...  The men will sit there and quote CLAIM to do this an that---when really it is ALL LIES!!!  I mean just the other night I slept with her and her sister her sister kids and we did this and that  and ALL IN ONE NIGHT...  PLEASE give me a break......

                   The ones who do sleep around and have the orgies...  Hmmm, I tend to wonder how many times have they been checked for STDs??? How many children do you have?? For me I am lucky if i even talk to a lady more or less have sex. I would LOVE to be tied up/down spanked and just totally submit to a REAL DOMME.. BUT I certainly am NOT going to be abused and be treated like a slave.  I think I would rather jerk off, masturbate, stroke myself, beat my meat 12 times a day everyday..  then to have someone beat and torture me to death...  I would be locked in a chastity belt and NEVER BE LET OUT!!!  then I would have someone beat me to death..

My life has been turned upside down, and under alot of stress.. My sister was in a car accident. She was in the hospital and her boyfriend died and then i lost my job this week.. My brother is is VERY domineering and controling towards me..  Hmm, I wish someone would have locked me in a Chastity Belt; because guess what I am going to do today??  I am going to play with my favorite toy.

                  I hate doing that because afterwards I get VERY depressed and lonely,  but what am I to do?? I am single and all alone.

                  I wish I had a DOMME to serve and worship..  Well, more like a girlfriend or even better yet a wife. I would have already been locked in a CB, and i would NOT be writing this in my journal. I would be pleasing my girlfriend and/or my wife.

                  I sure hope and pray that whom ever I date she will keep me locked up in a CB for a few months and wait till we get married to engage in having sex...  Even after marriage I hope I am kept locked in a CB and let out maybe 2-3 times a month.. BUT then again she would be holding the keys,  so it would totally up to her...

                  I just hope she would love me the way I love her.. At least be loving and gentle in a DOMINANT loving caring sort of way. Id do anything to please and satisfy her. 

Hi! everyone!! I am learning alot about myself. I had a lady friend once who was strong dominant (she wasn't into all this crap of the sexual side of this BDSM). She was a lady who knew what she wanted and go and get it..  She was tom-boyish type, but all girl. she was a christian..  She could fight and knew karate, Judo and boxing. She fixed cars and she also through a fit if she broke her nail...

                      Just being in her presense was WOW!! she was forceful, pushy, and the type to say if you don't want to do it; I'll do it myself. When standing in front of her, you couldn't tell she was demanding, and the take charge type, but she was.. She looked soo sweet, innocent and attractive. I guess what I am saying is she knew what she wanted and she was going to get it. 

                      When I first met her years ago (her name was Vanessa). She said something like this: LOOK!!  you and I are NOT sleeping together. We are just friends. I said thats okay because I of how I looked long story (I weighed at 450lbs and she was 125ish) She dated other guys and well she was single so she; well you know.... 

                      She told me all about what happened; and I was the guy who listened to her while she cried..

                      After knowing her for about 3 years, and losing weight (I got down to 160lbs because of her). I asked her this:  woo wood  you Um Ahh like MMMM  maybe you and I could like ummmm well you know...  She got pissed and said Don spit it!!  I was very shy back then and I still am..  I didn't know what to say or how to say what I wanted to say..  <-- I have gotten better **smile** 

                      Again, I tried to ask her to be my girlfriend.. Woo wood you Ummm, She again she this Donnie if you don't spit it out I m going to come over there. Would you like to be my girlfriend? What?? I said would you like to be my girlfriend??  she got up.. I thought she was going to hit me...  She said It's about DAMM time...

                     I said alright, were dating, cool, you're my girlfriend.. She just looked at me smiled and shook her head.. Donnie, aren't you going to go somewhere to get something..  Nope I'm fine.. I don't need anything, and where would i go and what do I have to get?? Donnie I am your girlfriend!! Hell'oooooo...  Yup you're my girlfriend what do I need to get?              

                     She said, Maybe get me some flowers, candy a card, something...  Oh yeah your right. I am going to get you some flowers. As I get up ad head to the door Vanessa says Donnie aren't you forgetting something??  (Ok I was VERY Naive and stupid back then ok)  I looked for my keys, my wallet, my baseball cap, No I am not forgetting anything.  She says Hell'oooooo  I am your girlfriend... Hell'oooooo........  I said LOOK I'm not stupid ok, you need to stop that hell'oooooo shit. I am NOT an idiot.. I'll be right back with some flowers, okay.....  I think she was mad or hurt she yelled at me DONNIE!!!! I'm your GIRLFRIEND!!!  what about me!!  you're forgetting me  the girl your dating now..  you are forgetting me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

                     All I could say was OH! you want to go with me??  Hell'oooooooo  YES!!!  as we walked out to the car. She said this  OH GOD what hell have I gotten myself into??  I said I'm sorry okay... 

                     Vanessa said Donnie it's okay, you are just a breath of fresh air..  I am not used to it....

                  Later, as we talked she asked me are you still a virgin?  I said NO! I--I I have been with lots of girls .. She laughed and said OMG!!  are you gay?? I said NO thats sick..  Donnie, men usually lose their virginty in their teens I can tell you are still pure, aren't you???. That you haven't even been with a girl before....  I said YEAH!!  I am a loser I am still virgin..

                  She said Donnie you are NO loser, in fact I am greatful that you are not like other guys...  Most guys don't care about me, they don't even want to get to know me, all they want is to fuck and get their rocks off...  You are not like that..  I said what make you think I'm NOT...  She laughed at me I know you and you're not that way... You're a true gentleman. You show me respect, You won't even kiss me now, will ya??  Ok I have to admit I was scared and shy and naive---  In someways I still am---  I do NOT want any STD's. (yes! I thought you could get an STD from kissing) and I really do NOT know how to be around women or talk to women...  WHY can't women make the first move???????????

                  After a while she asked me some VERY personal questions...  Donnie, do you ever you know, masturbate?? I said thats sick and disgusting...  She said you do play with yourself, don't you?? Yeah sometimes...  Donnie it's okay,  all men do....  I was ashamed of myself, and in a way I still am.... I got a little mad and said this- when you don't have anyone what should I do???  I have needs wants and desires just like everyone else.. BUT there isn't anyone..  what should i do??

                   Donnie, it's okay 99% of all men touch themselves.. i mean, you can't control yourself, so I fully understand...  Just so you know, you and i aren't going to have sex...  I told her thats NOT what I want...  well when I get married YES!!!  but not before hand...

                    She told me about some guy called Onan and something called Onanism  Later on, I learn he was in the Bible...  Onan, spilled his seed and God killed him.... Its in Genesis 34..

                     She asked me If I have ever heard of a chastity belt?? yeah in the medievil times yes (we called it a CB, everyone thought is was a CB radio.) we did not want anyone to know about it...  Think about it for a second--- Hi!  come on in.. OH yeah he is wearing a chastity belt and I deny him sex.. <--- strange don't you think??  She measured me and I purchased the CB and sent i to her house. That way se knew she had the only key.

                           I guess she led the relationship, she was in charge, and a "DOMME"  but I honestly i NEVER saw it that way...  I saw it as she was helping me become a much better man..  She taught me soo much, and she was strict and a few times he even took me out in the garage and whipped me with a belt n paddle on my butt.. 

                         As we dated, i cleaned her house, did dishes, did some cooking, some small light home repair, we worked together on things,  she was bossy and controling and I LOVED IT!!! She guided me, trained me, taught me and motivated me. I painted the kitchen basement and various other rooms, I mowed her yard and planted flowers....  There was nothing sexual going on. We never had sex...  She died 95 from Leukemia. I even asked her to marry me and she said YES!!!  about 5 weeks before the wedding is when she died.. 

                         When she died I was deepy hurt and cried and cried..  I have to say it has been about 16 years and yeah I still miss her....  I never slept with her, in fact I was about 30 years old when I lost my virginty...  BTW, it doesn't make someone a man or a woman.. It wonderful feeling but there is soo much more to smeone. I hate to say this but the sex stuff is just 2-3% of any relationship...  UNless thats all you want, There isn't anything wrong with that-- if you 2 want that...  I am sorry I want something more substantial, something long term; with this BDSM as spice, I want a true DOMINANT female outside of sex.  This maybe crazy BUT I really want the lady to decide that an have her make the first move.. That way I won't make any mistakes or do something to ruin the relationship.  <---- I hope that makes sense.....

                          I like being told what to do, I really want a female led relationship, it's NOT all about "going out and having fun" and it's NOT about anything "sexual"..  It is about working together to work towards something...  I do think that women should be able to take care of themselves without having a man around..  When they have a man, The man should cater to the ladies wants and needs-- if NOT you could or should correct him, spank him, discipline him..  Men should do 98%-99% of all the work around the house both inside and outside. 

                         The man should do it willingly and cheerfully without any expectations or complaining. If a relationship happens, it happens, if it don't than it don't.....

                        There is a DOMME on here who I thinks she feels the same as I do..  I guess we are still talking...  If she interested she will tell me.. I haven't met her, but by what she writes in her pofile and journals..  OMG!!!  she sounds AWSOME!!! NOW!!!  there is a true DOMME....  a man should work his ass off for a lady.... cut the grass, paint, clean house, do any and all odds and ends...

                       She said that she doesn't want anyone else to know about this, and that she wants an needs her place take care of...   If she does picks me and  she wants me to be her servant/slave I will do whaever she wants me to do..  and i will do my best to make sure she is happy and content with the work I will be doing.....

                     I even told her if she is NOT happy with my work, I will shake her hand and say NO hard feelings.. She sounds like the DOMME I truely want to serve...  and all I can do is hope n pray that she picks me as her servant/slave/submssive...

                       If she is reading this I am sorry,  but it is all true. From your profile and journals from what I have read....  OMG!!!!  you sound like such a delight...  Take care have fun and God bless..  I just ask and pray that you make me a much better man than what I am..  IF things do not work out then I have able to improve myself for the next relationship I am in...

Thank you so much

don

I find it so sad, when people play games. OH well. PLEASE enjoy reading my ad. I hope you have a sense of humor. BUT YES!!  I am serious about meeting and everything else.

    3-27-11  and below is 3-26-11

3-26-2011

Hi!

I really like talking to DOMME's but I am not sure when the right time is to meet.. or even ask for her phone number. I would think, if she is interested.. she would tell me,  to give her, my number, Afterall she is control. It is or it can be a tad scary. I know of a few women who carried handguns in their purse's.    and I don't to end up like this  or like this

The question has come up more than once--so I want to make this clear

I am NOT looking for a "play scene" and I m NOT looking for a "hook-up" a "FWB" a one night stand or anything thats of a "sexual nature"<--- Thats NOT what I want.... 

           If and when we meet--I do not mean to be disrespectful but NO I will NOT just say here is the key to my Chastity Belt.  <-- That would make me look like a IDIOT...Wouldn't you say?  Unless thats what you wanted..... I have thought about it BUT NO!!  I will NOT do that.... **sorry** ..... Damm right??  Sorry I am submissive NOT an IDIOT..

If we do meet, I would like it to be of a "vanilla" date..  Just to get to know each other.. So I might do this but NOT this or this

I promise I will NOT try anything NOT even this or this..  even if you ask or told me to...  I still would NOT do anything. I am a little scared, maybe "paranoid" of getting an STD.. That why I don't sleep around much.

on the 2nd date same as the first. Maybe more talking and getting to know someone

At what point will I submit? well, I am a true natural submissive.. but I am no push-over. I am like this <----thats how I really am.  and at times like this..

Being a true submissive-- YOU will tell me, PLEASE forgive me for saying this BUT YOU are in charge, NOT me......, when or even IF we will be doing this or even this ..  I know at least I hope there isn't any of this  or this.at least NOT on the first, second or even third date.. Maybe NOT even in a couple of months---  BUT again I do NOT know...  YOU ARE DOMINANT LADY, YOU tell me....  IT may NEVER happen..  Then I will go back to doing this.. 

We could be doing this or thisor thisor this or maybe even this and while we are listening to this...  The "sex act" <----I do NOT want that, In time YES!  BUT again Im the submissive one.. 

Someday, when and if the time is right.. I will be doing this and she will be doing this  and holding the keys to my Chastity Belt and maybe she will do this to me..Oh come on **smile**..... I just hope that she would be understanding and compassionate enough to release me BUT if she does NOT..  Then maybe I deserve it. I know I have a problem with touching myself, and thats VERY DISRESPECTFUL toward the lady I am serving or any lady for that matter. I would beg and plead, BUT it would be totally up to her IF she releases me.. It shouldn't matter what I want--BUT ideally the very least maybe 1 time in 2 months-Thats just to keep my prostate healthy. Although, there is other ways  to keep your prostate healthy.  **smile**

PLEASE do NOT panic IF i bring you this or this it's because I am "old fashioned" and YES!!  I can be romantic...

I do know that you or I can NOT force relationships..  It has to be mutual...  All I can do is say I am here...      for now!!!  and have fun doing this or this  BUT try NOT to do this  because it will only raise your blood pressure.. 

My ad is silly and maybe even odd. I am sorry for that. you know, I really do not know how to be anymore, I think this is worse than Vanilla dating. People want to play games. I am serious about wanting to meet someone BUT I want to get to know someone first--what is so wrong with that?? Then these people are VERY disrespectful NOT just to me but to someone else I just got done emailing.

                  I have been told Im a submissive.. I am very easy going and I like when a lady is in control, tells me what to do, and who is strong and confident. I also love when a lady has a mind and is NOT wishy-washy.

                   to me, this is NOT about anything "sexual" or about a lady tring to a DOM.. I have seen it "ON YOUR KNEES SLAVE" but If I ever stood up to her They would run scared.

                  This may sound silly BUT I would like to meet a "Tom-boyish" type of female who wear jeans and t-shirt and who will stand up for herself. If I ever really make her mad-she would stand up and slap me clear across my face and who never back down.

She would also be gentle, caring, loving, understanding, a christian, down to earth and who has a "kinky side to her" looks and act like a lady.

                   The sex act stuff the Chastity belt, bondage, gags etc...., thats ONLY 2% maybe 3% of it... Women for the most part I'd say 95-97% are submissive, or that they want to "play games". I wouldn't mind a switch if they allow me to be submissive 99.9% of the time.

                    maybe I am a switch, but I just know what I want..  I also want a monogamist long term relationship with a true Dominant female. Someone who can and will lead me and make me a better man. The sex stuff of being tied down and spanked <--thats a joke to me..  I have been with a real true DOM she was fun and exciting gentle caring and loving and would stand up to ANY man out there and she was STILL a lady and a woman.. Thank you for reading

                    YEAH! she tied down and spanked me and lock a chastity belt on me and did VARIOUS other things..  to many to list  ... PLEASE do not try to be a DOMINANT female..  BE tough and strong and be a true DOM  BUT also have that gentleness and sweetness and kind caring compassionate thoughtfulness as a submissive would have. Dont worry about your hair and make-up and if you break a fingernail HEY it grow back--i promise.. at the sametime take care of yourself..

                     And if you allow me i would love to brush your hair and braid it for you, do house-work, maybe some home-repairs and just tell me what I can do...

I just got a message from someone and they said My ad was NOT funny and that it was rather strange.. They even told me that I need help because I want to be locked in a Chastity Belt.. The funny things is they placed Chastity as their likes in their profile-- I think thats even MORE strange..

                     I am just wanting someone to be happy and laugh-- LIFE is NOT that serious..  soo PLEASE enjoy. Any questions or comments PLEASE feel free to ask away. To make this clear, I am open to try anything once or twice I do have very few litmits.. This is serious for me but I also want it to be fun and exciting.

                     I'd rather have friends and know people so I can learn, Then to have just a "play partner".

                   to that person who said it wasn't funny and that I need help..  KISS THIS    it took about 45 minutes to create this posting or ad.. I like to think of it as me being creative..  It seems like everyone else is way too serious.. Relax and have some fun, and enjoy yourselves.

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Today 3-22-2011 @ 11 am, I redid my ad. IF no one answers I don't care..  I just hope that people have a sense of humor, because I know i do . Someday i will find that special Female DOM, and I will worship her and try my best to cater to her wants and needs. I hope she has a kink for chastity belts among other things. I have a problem with self-gratification. I hope that I converse with whoever she is, that to me is so much more important. Oh yeah I sort feel like this  but I don't care

Finding the right Mistress is worse than vanilla dating. I would NOT mind stripping and being tied up. BUT DANG  give me a chance to get to know you. AS far as the chastity belt goes. YES!!!  I am VERY serious about being denied and being "controled" but again give me a chance to get to know you, and NO!! I do not mean through having sex. I am sorry I have some morals and values.