I am very new to this life style. I have always known that I wanted to be a submissive person in my relationships but had never found a dominant man that could bring that out in me. Outside of my relationships I am a very dominant person, I like to be in control of things. I was always taught by my mom to be a very independent, strong women, and also be able to stand on my own. I pride myself on being like that but there are parts of me that doesn't always want to be the one in control and have to stand on my own.I want to find some that is not only very dominant but some that will also protect, cherish, treat me with respect and that I can also trust. I want someone that wants to take there pleasure from me and use me but that also want to dominate my pleasure by giving me things I never knew would give me pleasure. I don't think the only thing about this lifestyle if physical though. I want some that can live a vanilla lifestyle in our families eyes but behind close doors can live this lifestyle. I believe that you can't truly submit to someone you don't know and trust. That is the reason I want to find some to have a relationship with to get to know each other before we start to play in the lifestyle because I am not into the casual fuck thing. well that is all I can think of.