sublimity

You find yourself faced with conflicting information.  You know there can only be one true answer.  So, which is the truth and which is the lie?

Actually, it doesn't matter.  Because now that person is exposed as a liar and you can never trust anything they say again.  

So sad. 

I wonder why people have so much trouble with the truth. 

For me, it boils down to serving what is specifically instructed or what may be allowed when not specifically detailed.

I am finding that the 'control' that is spoken of is self-control and what is actually given up by the submissive is the lead.

The Dominant controls what He/She wants/needs/desires and the submissive needs to exercise self-control to serve exactly that. A submissive's need to give can be just the thing that trips him/her up -- which brings me back to the need for self-control.

I wish I could just walk away from this... burning...need to serve. I wish I could fold it up neatly and place it high on a shelf in the back of a closet. Life would be so much easier.    

I read a quote on the California Artichoke Advisory Board pages. It reads:  "The artichoke makes no concessions to those who want a quick meal." 

If I was a vegetable, I'd be an artichoke -- one where each layer is slowly peeled away until Patience is rewarded with the coveted heart.

It took me a while to wrap my mind around "equal exchange."  But as I give it more thought, it dawns on me that yes, in order for something to flourish, and flow naturally, there needs to be an equal exchange...the give and the..take. Dominance and submission, offered in equal parts. The submission fueling the Dominant as He or She feeds the sub. It's a beautiful dance, really, when two are so in sync that they do indeed move like a well oiled machine.

Consistency...nutures. It provides the security in knowing that come...hell...or high water...we can count on certain things. Consistency builds confidence that allows one to depend on another. I think it is a fundamental building block towards a deeper trust that allows for complete surrender. I also believe that it is consistency that will help both get past mistakes that are bound to happen along the way.

Just what is "my" D/S"?

I believe that dominance and submission is just one facet -- a very important facet -- of who and what we.  I think it's an important one because I think it is what "guides" and "drives" us through through life. 

Because we are so multi-faceted, I need to learn about the more mundane facets. I need to get to know the person first.  What are your passions outside of the bedroom, on the other side of the crop?  I need to know that personalities and living situations blend before I'll even begin to speak of what turns me on. 

Hence..."That which is worthwhile is created slowly....."

I'm the type of person who is more likely to flee than flow if pushed too fast.

I often wonder why people lie.  Do they not realize that sooner or later the truth always prevails.   It may take some time, but it will eventually surface.

In the most recent case, it took roughly 1 1/2 years, to realize that words spoken were simply more of the usual games.  In an attempt to feed one's ego, all he succeeded in doing is destroying his integrity.

In the words of my very wise father -- A liar is worse than a thief.  For once revealed, nothing said will ever be believed. 

Think about that....hopefully before your next lie.

Random Thoughts:

Fracturing words is a hard limit. 

So is lower cased proper nouns.

Addressing somone as "Master/Mistress" or "Sir/Madam" is earned -- by both.

Some days are tougher than others.

Syntax never lies.

It amazes me what some people will say to another on first chat.

We are strangers for heaven's sake.

Have some class...please.

sheesh