I've had some time recently to sort through some of the many, many messages I've gotten.  First, let me thank you all for the compliments on my body - particularly my ass.  Apparently it is a "good one".  Nothing makes a girl feel special like a "Gawd, you're fucking hot!" *insert mild sarcasm here*  

Next, I need to address the age parameters I've set which no one seems to consider - I guess the photos I've put up  have grabbed more attention than the information I've filled out - please no older than around 45.  Please understand I have nothing against any age group and I'm glad you've all enjoyed the photos, but I need information provided to be understood and respected.  If the Doms that have sent messages are true Doms, they understand that my comfort level is more important than their desire to have what they want.  My limits must always be respected and age is one of those limits.  This is a whole new world to me (and my husband) so we are moving slowly and within the guidelines set forth regarding our wishes and desires.  

I've been asked if I "want" pleasure or pain...  All I can really say in answer to that is that I want to explore with someone who has a true heart that is in this type of lifestyle.  We (my husband and I) are looking for some assistance/guidance.  He enjoys "showing me off", so he has no issues "sharing" me, but he will, at ALL times, be fully present and involved.  He is not looking for anyone to "dominate" him, nor am I interested in seeing him dominated. Our interest in this lies solely in helping him become a more defined Dom.  I put my trust in him entirely and he is the one I look to for direction.  We are inviting the right person in to our world to help us explore more.  One can never have too many ideas and tricks up their sleeve.  

It takes time for me to trust and lets face it, that's what this whole experience boils down to.  Patience is also a must.  As I have stated before, this is relatively new to me so starting slow and working my way to deeper levels is imperative.  If you want to come in here and start tying me to the ceiling and flogging the hell out of me or whatever right from the get go, you're looking at things that I'm not prepared to try yet.   I expect honesty from anyone who chooses to correspond with me.... A photo or two doesn't hurt your chances either.  You've seen parts of me, so you have an idea of what you could be getting into and I would appreciate the same.  We all have different ideas of what is attractive.  Just as I don't expect everyone on here to adore my body, I won't have any physical interest in everyone on here either.  Unless your intellect and wit charm the hell out of me first, I need to see something - and I'm not talking about your package or your handy work on others.  It will be YOU that will be partaking in an experience with us, not those that you've "played with" before.  

I've done my best to explain more about what my husband and I are looking for and looking to explore.  If this doesn't fit with your wants and needs, thanks for looking, but we aren't for you.  If these requirements are too specific for your tastes and personality, please keep looking until you find someone that does fit your profile.  If you have no idea how to go about this in steps that are acceptable to me, we are also not for you.  If you are just looking to get laid, again, this isn't the couple for you.  

I know it seems picky, but in this type of interaction I feel that is necessary.  

Sorry I haven't been keeping up with messages but we've been busy with the holidays.  As soon as things calm down from that I will respond to all - good, bad, or ugly :-P

Hope your holidays were merry and bright!  Be safe and have a wonderful new year!

And so here I sit left wondering how people actually come to meet on here.  

Does one lower their standards in order to have an encounter?  Can the desire be so overwhelming that they'd sink below their typical attractions of choice just to have the sensations they desire?  I'm not speaking entirely in terms of physical attractions, but more along the lines of mental commonalities - degree of intelligence, intellect, manners, reciprocation of a certain level of respect...

In daily life I have certain expectations of people.  I expect the people that give us electricity to show up at their jobs and perform them; I expect the waiter/waitress at a restaurant to provide the type of service s/he desires to be compensated for; I expect the mailman to bring my mail; I expect that when a friend says they will return a call that they follow through... and the list goes on.  

Where these two paragraphs merge is in the quandary I have over whether this particular lifestyle or rather treatment I desire in one aspect can be contained to only that aspect... or if my peculiarities in day to day life will overflow into everything else?  Is it possible to separate the two "people", the two personas?  Ultimately I am who I am just as we all are.  I suppose time will tell...