subdreamerboy

I just checked, and within the last 16 hours (it's 4pm now, so everyone that was on after midnight last night), there are 17 people in michigan seeking "sub men". However, when I changed the inquiry to "Sub Men seeking Dominant Women" (purposely a much more restrictive search, mind you) there are 28. If I make the searches equivalent in the first way ("any any seeking Dom Women" and "any any seeking Sub Men") its 54:17, and the second way ("sub men seeking dom women" and "dom women seeking sub men") it's 28:8.

I once heard a complaint on the boards here (from a straight dom guy) along the lines of "it's not right that there are so many more doms than subs, it means the subs have the power in the relationship because they are in higher demand." Maybe that's true of the male dom/fem sub dichotomy, but it seems the opposite is true in the fem dom/male sub relationship. This leads me to the conclusion (which is pretty much the same one I came to when I read that the first time) that it has nothing to do with the dom/sub aspect, but rather with the male/female aspect. Funny thing is, that's what I've been telling all my female friends for years, "You are in control of your relationships at all times because YOU are the one who is always in demand."

I see so many of my female friends jump into and out of relationships so much faster than the guys in those respective relationships simply because it's easier for them. Men have to try so hard to make an impression and hope they can find someone who will respond well, while all the girls have to do is choose who to respond to.

I honestly don't know how women can complain about not having power. You have it all, it's up to you to use it properly. Any woman with any observational skill whatsoever knows she can make her mate do whatever she wants for the most part... it's why when women cheat men are more likely to be willing to try and work it out (unproven, but I'm fairly sure it's true). Perhaps that's why there're as many fem-subs drawn to this lifestyle as there are: they are seeking someone who they cannot control, to withdraw from the power they innately have.

I truly respect all women in this lifestyle: those of you who recognize your ability to control your relationships, and those of you who want to release that control. Men are a little more difficult to respect, because too often I see guys who are simply looking for sex anywhere they can find it, but those who aren't I also respect.

well, that's all for now... sorry for the rant
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