A true sub, on one level, loves it when his domme enjoys things that he does not (assuming they are not agreed upon limits.) During the activity itself he may be miserable at some point. But he will work through, and this will help him to appreciate his place, and understandable that his place is to please. I am by no means a masochist, but something is wrong in a BDSM relationship if the sub is not miserable a certain percentage of the time, because that helps the sub shed any self absorption. In the same way, I think it's very important for the sub to tell his domme truthfully what kinks he enjoys and which he dislikes, so she can use this information as she sees fit. |