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Male Submissive, 53, Newark, Delaware
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Male Submissive, 26, Rushville, Illinois
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Submissive Couple, 64, Morrisville, Pennsylvania
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About subbingincalif
I am a fit SWM who lives an active and exploratory lifestyle. I am seeking a dominant woman who I connect within inside and outside of the bedroom.
First, I think it's important to respect and like each other. If we can't have an interesting conversation, and don't laugh in each other's company (at appropriate times!), we probably won't enjoy the collar, leashes, and what not (or knots).
A true sub, on one level, loves it when his domme enjoys things that he does not (assuming they are not agreed upon limits.) During the activity itself he may be miserable at some point. But he will work through, and this will help him to appreciate his place, and understand that his place is to please. I am by no means a masochist, but something is wrong in a BDSM relationship if the sub is not miserable a certain percentage of the time, because that helps the sub shed any self absorption.
In the same way, I think it's very important for the sub to tell his domme truthfully what kinks he enjoys and which he dislikes, so she can use this information as she sees fit.
Here is a situation that is good for both the domme and the sub: The domme rubs the sub until just before the point of climax, releases him, and he goes down on her. He thanks her and she says you're welcome. Repeat this five or six times, until the domme is fully satisfied, and then she slaps a cock cage on the sub to keep him pent up. That process keeps the domme relaxed and the sub focused.
So I suppose my personal bent toward BDSM is a desire to provide pleasure and endure humiliation, though I certainly accept and embrace the notion that the domme sets the direction.
Outside of BDSM, I enjoy hiking, biking, healthy cooking, traveling, museums, and spirited conversations over a glass of wine. My personality is friendly and outgoing, and I active in many non-BDSM groups, such as book clubs, hiking groups, etc.
I work out daily, and am in good shape. I enjoy biking, biking, weightlifting, pilates and yoga. I have a healthy diet. |
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