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About Steven00140
It is more and more obvious to me that, this site contains more fakes than genuine people. Such a shame this has happened.
Firstly, I say to all who view this profile, Greetings, and thank you for looking. My name is Steven, 55, and 5' 11" tall. I am NOT a sexual Adonis, nor do I make pretenses of a great sexual prowess. My experience in the lifestyle of D/s, stems back for over 35 years, having been in the role of Dominant and Guide for over 30 years of this time.
I seek my ONE, who shall be guided within this lifestyle, not with demands, but by drawing forth the desires within. Age and looks are unimportant, but honesty, and a willingness to truly COMMUNICATE is. I'll offer a gentle guidance for the novice, or a strict regime for the tested. I will find your deepest desires, and make them surface for combined pleasures. I will ease your fears, yet tease consistently.
Frightened of the pain a riding crop could bring? So you should be, for in the hands of a fool, this implement injures and scars. But, in the hands of an adept, pleasure would be foremost.
Frightened of others comments from being seen with a collar? I will teach the beauty that lies within it's bounds, for it will be YOUR neck within those same bounds. Remember this, the leash of a TRUE dominant isn't linked from hand to collar, it is the leash, from heart to heart.
Frightened of submission? Only trust can earn THAT right. Trust is formed from sincere communication, not flippancy.
Frightened of order and structure? I will teach a learned approach to a new listyle that incorporates so many different concepts.
Frightened of reactions? I will teach that it is others, who, having no knowledge of our truth, that should be frightened.
Frightened of yourself? GOOD. THAT is as it should be, but a fear I will teach you to control, for better ends.
A TRUE dominant, will take the broken, the confused, the hurting, the abused, and lost, then with ease and love, tear that person apart, so rebuilding a HUMAN being. One with direction, dedication, and WORTH. I offer no quick fix, because there isn't one. To instil fears in anyone, would take only seconds. To strip away fears, takes time, patience, and much worthwhile effort.
I will correct errant behavior as needed, yet reward obedience fully. ALL of this I will offer, but in SAFETY, ALWAYS respecting limits, yet finding ways to push and encourage further, the boundaries of enjoyment for both.
I am also somewhat appalled at what I have found on many of the BDSM sites throughout the internet. "No Limits!", young girls under 25, "offering" themselves for "total abuse", and humiliation.
At some of the profiles I have read while 'lurking' in the profile sections, I truly despair. "MASTER'S and MISTRESSES", with hardly any REAL experience, actually expecting people they have never met, to drop to their knees and worship their arses, for no other reason, than that they say so. This is NOT D/s, it is nothing short of bullying.
Some here, as on other sites, will no doubt, TRY to excuse themselves and their bullying, by saying "this is what BDSM is all about". It isn't, not in the least. TRUE D/s is about getting to know each other, building a relationship, and for the Dominant, both earning and DESERVING the trust of a submissive, and drawing from that person, their needs and desires. To console when one's submissive is down, to build that submissive UP to be a worthwhile individual, in what is a harsh, and cruel world, which looks upon this lifestyle as deviant, and perverse.
The most treasured "Gift" that any human being can offer another, is their SUBMISSION. Yes, it IS a gift, and also one that can so easily be retaken back. It is the ONE gift in life, that should be cherished, nurtured, and given every help to grow. The submissive person is the ONLY one in such a relationship who truly "gives", and as such, should be treasured, loved, and above all PROTECTED, at all costs. PROTECTED! and yet I have never seen any mention at all, of the use of a "Safe-word". I genuinely feel frightened for the safety of the many here, who are absolutely real in their profiles. This, my chosen lifestyle, is full of dangers, but so many turn a blind eye to them.
I would feel honoured to meet and chat, through this site, the genuine who use it. Be they male or female, Dominant or submissive, and of whatever their sexual orientation, I would welcome all. But, I'll not suffer the fools, or the fake.
(A little extra, I sent this as a reply to a lady here)
In all my 35 years in my chosen lifestyle, I have never been so angry at the thought of these "NEW" so called Dominants manner of thinking. Calling themselves "MASTER" or "MISTRESS", and expecting silly submissive's to fall to their knees before them. They are ill mannered yes, but more than that, they are dangerous. They have no concept of the use for a safe-word or signal. They believe it is their RIGHT, not to use through consent, but to ABuse. This alone frightens me. There will always be ONE young submissive, who allows his or herself to fall into the hands of such chancers and wannabe's, and then end up on the front page of a tabloid, hurt, or worse.
When I started out in our lifestyle, it was a mandatory prerequisite that a Dom/me be properly trained in all things concerning restriction and punishments.
Yes, I spent 3 years at the beck and call of a lady who truly knew what I wanted, and instructed me by making sure I KNEW what it all felt like. Even then, she had a horrific "black book" of injuries caused by stupidity. Yet now, there seems to be no control left as to who may address themselves as a so called master/mistress. These fools just play "dress-up", in black leather and carry a whip or some other implement of torture, and expect unearned respect and compliance. So I say to you all, BE feisty, kick them in the balls verbally, and keep yourself safe. Remember, a dominant who makes no use of a safeword or signal, is nothing more than a chancer, a wannabe, and more importantly, a very dangerous animal. Only time and trust should lead to compliance and submission.
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It would be nice if, people advertising, would place their age limit preference in their profile. Would make it a lot easier when browsing through :-) |
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Time and time again, I look through here, and see that so many have been sent abusive messages from so-called Dom/mes. "YOU'RE TOO FAT", is not the sort of thing that is conducive to being considered appropriate for a Dom/me to send. Big girls have needs too, and there are some who like a girl, who isn't going to snap with a good cuddle.
Addressing a prospective submissive by a foul name, when you haven't even struck up some sort of rapport, and even bother to find out if the said submissive is into, and wanting humiliation, is also more than bad manners.
And as for insulting transgender girls, just because THEY have had the guts to transform themselves into what they truly believe they are, and YOU are repressed! ... No less than disgusting.
YES, there are loads of fakes on this site. Men acting as girls, stealing photo's for the sexual kicks of 'getting a sexy chat', but to me, the worst of the fakes here, are the FAKE DOM/MEs, who seem to think that by making the above insults AND more besides, makes them All Powerful.
Damned idiots the lot of them. Dominance and submission is firstly about understanding, and enlightenment. What we all do from that point on, has to be something special between consenting adults. Sending insulting messages isn't an adult form of behaviour. |
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