ROFL, Karma is a bitch and she does bite! Sending Thanks to the Goddesses

Time moves forward and events change your life. I am still switch. I bottom on occasion to fill the need to submit but none have come forward that I feel a desire to kneel  before. I am Domming more and more both as Pro and for fun. I am discovering that Domming fills  most of my needs. To have one before you submitting to your will, becoming your canvas for a period of time. My whips, fire floggers, floggers, crops and canes creating the art I desire on my willing canvas is truly a delicious experience. The practice at home to hone my art so that when I create, I can allow it to flow free from inside of me and not think about technique. Allowing the energy between my sub/bottom and myself to mingle letting them fly and me to guide their journey. It is truly a wondrous experience. One that I treasure and take steps to avoid having "top drop" even from the Pro sessions. Yes, time does change many things if you are open and willing to allow the change.

So the journey continues and more and more I find that most here are looking for a woman that has no brain of her own. Perhaps it makes them feel more superior. Some are looking for a easy fuck and call themselves Doms. Some come off as control freaks and abusers.

I will get a message from a Dom and reply and then he sends me his submissive profile, followed by excuses about why he can't make changes in his life that he is not happy with.

I get told I am not a true submissive, whatever that is. My submission, when I chose to submit, comes from a place deep inside of me. I don't need  someone telling me I need a "true" Dom, whatever that is. 

The truth of the matter is that I do not take either submitting or Domming lightly. Both are important and have become a part of my real, everyday life. So while I continue the search for that one, I bottom to satisfy the need to submit. I have a submissive that I am working with, I do Pro-domming and am constantly working on improving my skills as Dom/Top.

It seems to me that there is much talk here and little follow through. Talk of integrity, of being honest, of being courteous. Yet when push comes to shove, it all falls through. Promises to write the next day, to get  together for a meeting, or whatever are just words floating in space that mean absolutely nothing. I do not make empty promises. I am nothing more nor less than who I am. I may switch but as submissive, I do have needs just as I have needs when I am Domme. If you as Dom are not willing to speak your truth and stand by your words, then you have lessened yourself.

As the Goddess Brigit conveyed to me this morn, I was to speak my truth and decide what is acceptable to me.  I do  not like being ignored or just suddenly forgotten. If you decide that I am not right for you, that is fine, say so. I will understand, but the just disappearing is not acceptable. How would you feel if you were on the receiving end? I ended one here because it began to not feel right but I let that person know. The three who showed interest here, have not even shown me the courtesy of a rejection. It that truly a Dom Trait?

I honestly stated that I am a switch. which means I can do both Dom or sub role. However it appears that some do not understand the term. they equate switch with being a top/bottom instead of truly knowing and feeling what each role brings. Whether I am Domme or submissive depends on the person I am with. If they are not sure of themselves and their role, I will take control. plain and simple. Therefore the man I become submissive to must be sure of self, know himself, be confident. I value my subs trust in me to take him where he  should go even if it is not exactly where he thought he should be. I value the gift he gives me of his submission to me just as I would expect my Dom to value my submission to him.

I was told that I was only a bottom because of the way my profile reads. It reads as one who knows herself and what she is bringing to a D/s relationship. I would expect the initial  dynamic to change as the relationship deepened. Just because You claim to be Dom, does not mean I am going to automatically kneel before you. You need to earn my trust, prove that  you are worthy of being the one I kneel to. Just as I would need to prove that you would want me to be the one that kneeled before you. It is a two-way street.