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| I am not very good at these profile deals, I believe that people tend to get to know one another through chatting with each other. First, I am not in Illinois as my profile states, but in a neighboring state, within 150 miles--I am not ashamed of my interest in this lifestyle, I just prefer to keep it quiet due to my professional life, and I don't want anyone that I do business with to discover me on here (although, I have found others on here...ha, ha). I also won't post a picture of myself on here, but I will gladly text you one if we hit it off. I don't have much experience in this, as I have only had one D/s relationship before--my Dom passed away in a car accident and it literally broke me, I felt my whole soul had died right along with him, but then I could hear him in my head, telling me, to get it together, to be the best that I could be and to finish living out my life. Of course to everyone else he was my boyfriend, but it was much much deeper than that, since then I haven't let myself get too close to a Dom/Master because of the incredible pain that I went through, I also had a boyfriend who passed in high school, and I can honestly say that yes, it hurt, but nothing like my Dom and I being separated. I am just at the point where I am ready to begin another relationship, I am looking for the long term relationship--no one night stands, even with our first face to face meeting, don't expect anything sexual to happen, I want to speak with you and get to know you--see if I can hand over my trust to you without any hesitation. I am not filling out the hard limits and soft limits--but I will say that I will not do anything weird that involves children, animals, blood or human waste. Everything else is left open for discussion. With my previous Dom, I never felt the need to have safe words, because he knew what I could take and what I couldn't--even though he pushed just to make me a better woman and submissive. I don't normally make demands, but in this case I will say I am not an empty minded woman, I have ideas and thoughts, love engaging in intellectual discussions--I can hold my own when needed, never to displease my Dom/Master but to show that I am not an empty shell. I also ask for respect--a man who honestly knows how to take care of a woman's needs and wants--not in a material way (not interested in your money) but in a physical and mental way. I don't want a Dom/Master that I am scared of, although I think its somewhat normal to be a little afraid if you know you've messed up big time, but 95% of the time, I would like a Dom/Master who also wants to be partners and friends--someone who can joke around, can be laid back when needed, and then present himself in front of family and friends as a good ole guy--someone who takes part in the D/s or M/s life, but doesn't let it define him in everything--after all we have to function and live in the vanilla world also. If your active, like the outdoors and love to travel, love fine dinners and wine, but then have a great Bar-B-Que the following day followed by tossing a frisbee around, then we would most likely click. In my last D/s relationship, before the accident, we were just about to take it a step further to a Master/slave relationship--I was so excited to be his slave. That would be a natural progression for me following a D/s relationship just to make sure that we're both prepared for the depth and intensity of a M/s relationship. I will talk to anyone, regardless of age, as long as you are over 18--but I would prefer to hear from Doms/Masters who are in the same stage of life as I am--settled and comfortable--so anyone really from about 28 to 60 would be the ones that I would most like to speak with. If you are out of this age group, please do not let this deter you from contacting me, I don't want to miss HIM--no matter how old or what stage of life he is at....thanks for reading, looking forward to see what happens here. Take care.
PS: Description of myself: dark hair (close to black) very pale skin, green eyes and curvy--not a skinny woman, but not the biggest woman in the room either. I happen to be blessed in the chest department, as most of my dates have told me. Built solid as I work out and have some muscle tone. Athletic, but not as athletic as I used to be (old sports injuries) so if your into itsy bitsy blondes with no breasts (no offense, my mother happens to be one of those) please move on.
Just an add-on: I have had this profile up for about a day, and I am still in the process of filling out my interests (although the BDSM sections will be left alone--the only hard limits I have are listed above and that's not much) I seem to be getting asked the same questions though so just thought I would add it on here for future readers and to just answer everyone at the same time--As, I said above, I am not actually in the state of Illinois, since this seems to be a big deal, I will tell you I am in southern Missouri,about 150 miles to the Illinois state line, and about 25 miles north of the Arkansas state line --that is all I am going to disclose because, as unfair as it is, judgement from others can be harsh and if some of the people I knew realized I had ever been a sub (doubt they even know what a sub/slave is) it could really be damaging to my business reputation. Aggravating, as I personally, would not ever judge another in their choices. I will tell you that I really don't care where you are from, as long as its planet Earth--I am financially stable enough to relocate someday if it comes down to that, and have enough skills and work experience to feel confident that I could obtain employment anywhere. The next seems to deal with my age group that I have defined as the ones that I would feel most comfortable with: after thinking about it, I reset it to the age group of friends and the people I am closest too--one friend is 28 years old, and the oldest is 62 or so(not sure, but 60 or a few years older) I do have pals younger then 28 and older then 62 however, and really it seems like we all average out age wise after about 21 or so anyways. Point being, please don't hesitate to contact me if you are younger or older then these ages--frankly, I am attracted to dom traits, period. The next seems to be my sexuality: I do define myself as straight, but I have had a few (few, few) sexual encounters with women..what's that Katy Perry song: "I kissed a girl and I liked it"...I'll just leave it at that. Main thing is I am open to discussion with anything before ruling it out. Finally, lastly--I am getting asked if I am truly ready to begin another relationship after losing my Dom so sudden--the answer is yes, and really, I think if my Dom could, he would've spanked my butt long before now for not getting on with things. If it had been me that had been in that accident, I would've hoped that my Dom would pursue another relationship with a sub/slave too--no one wants to be alone, and you would certainly never want someone you love to be alone, right? So, yes--it has been over 12 years, with a failed marriage to a Vanilla man thrown in there between then and now (a straight laced very very vanilla man in all things is just not for me)...so I am absolutely sure that I am ready to move on, if its in the "stars and moon" for me. Thanks!!
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Hello, if you have sent me a message, thank you. Please do think I am ignoring you, it's a busy next few days for me so it will be this weekend, most likely, before I can start replying. I just don't want others to think I am rude or disrespectful, if you have sent me a message, I am incredibly honored, and everyone who sends me one, will receive an answer.
***Please do not scam me, I will figure it out fast. I am not vulnerable and I will not fall for your scam: also if you do send me a message, yes--you will get an answer asap, but please know that I will run a background check at some point, if we are connecting and hitting it off--please feel free to run a background report on me, as well--I have never joined a dating site, let alone a BDSM site, but one would think a background check is just a common sense thing to do.....thanks!! Look forward to chatting with everyone. |
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