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* If you know what ANDC is and you went recently or are part of it, I will give your email mega priority. * Please read at least the top few of my journal before emailing me. Intelligent, sophisticated, silly, gentle, oversexed, psychologically-minded girl here looking to converse with/meet interesting men and women. I'm into mental domination, force play, objectification, humiliation, helplessness and all the sorts of things that most Doms seem to think they're into until they actually have to do the work involved ;) I'm especially looking for those who truly understand the appeal of the darker side of mental domination while being truly caring at heart. If the concept of Stockholm Syndrome fills you with lust and a twinge of guilt, if you are considerate and genuinely believe in human rights but fantasize about enslaving a helpless girl, if you would never harm someone non-consensually but in your mind you have imagined breaking someone psychologically and then using them mercilessly as a thing to fuck and own, say hello. I really hate these, but I hear it works. If you read my profile (and journal!) start your email with your favorite book. If you can't think of a favorite just a really feel good novel will do.

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3/16/2013 11:43:40 PM

Ok, no one get mad at me, but I could not get through the avalanche of mail and so I will not be reading anything sent to me before this month (unless I get another email from you and like it). I'm also going to save BOTH of us some time and ask that you please respect that I will not currently be responding to emails from:

 

Men over 46ish (very often attracted to you guys but I'm looking for something serious and I can't really do more than hookups with men 20 years older than me)

 

Men who are under 26ish (unless you are tall, strong, kind and unusually mature...mature does not mean sarcastic)

 

Men who do not live in the Bay Area (this one almost hurts me because I get some amazing email from Europe and NY, but I do not live in those places nor will I. If you are moving to the Bay Area in the next six months, that's okay too)

 

Men who don't exercise (I genuinely don't care if you're 220 lbs but you need to be that weight in spite of your frequent trips to the gym)

 

Men who see this list and get really angry (I hear you, it seems mean, but honestly I can't even answer ANY of you right now because I want to please everyone and it would take me months to answer all my email. Poor me, right? Totally not fair that girls are fortunate enough to get this problem, but that's the way CM is. Please try to respect that I'm a human being, not a fantasy machine)

 

Thanks guys. Hope you're all well.


2/11/2013 9:01:58 PM

Perhaps it bears repeating in my journal every once in a while so I don't have to constantly repeat it in conversations. Anal is a hard limit. If you're aware of what hard limit means, raise your hand. Cool, so we're all on the same page. Now please refrain from emailing me about it.


1/11/2013 11:31:51 PM

Hey CMers, I'm literally going to ask you for masturbation material. Don't start yelling at me or calling me a fake - I just thought I'd throw it out there and see if anyone had any good stuff. You do not have to participate.

 

So...I'm primarily looking for pictures/drawings/cartoons/clips of really degrading use and/or extreme bondage. I'm not into blood or body parts turning black and blue, I'm into things like girls tied every which way to carts, girls chained to glory holes and face fucking where the girl is completely unable to move. Basically, if it looks vaguely non-consensual but you're not sure because the girl can't do anything but focus on the cock thrusting in and out of her mouth, I'm sure I'll like it.

 

Drawings and cartoons are actually really great because there are certain things reality can't do. Is there a free "dark" kink drawings site online? Links and recommendations are also very appreciated. Thanks guys :)

 

* And no, my desire for self pleasure does not mean I've given up on interactions with others. Don't you people listen to Dan Savage? Masturbation is fantastic. Mega shout out to those who have shared images and videos with me - I've definitely enjoyed them :)


12/4/2012 1:39:10 AM

To my CM friends and those corresponding with me:

 

When you see me on CM, it doesn't mean that I'm available to talk. If I'm available to talk I will find you, and if I don't reply to your email it's because I'm doing something else. I don't use CM as an intense find-a-dom machine, I use it when I'm bored and/or looking for a bit of energy that may or may not involve conversation.

 

If you write multiple emails saying "hey, you're online, why aren't we talking" I'm not going to answer, because I don't like that. CM is my space to be a bit silly and deviant and trying to control my activities through it will result in me not talking to you at all. So play nice.


11/18/2012 10:45:27 PM

Sometimes I wish I could just blow off all my responsibilities and spend my days working out, primping and serving. Oh, and having intellectual discussions for hours...until someone puts my mouth to better use...


7/7/2012 12:11:10 AM

I keep scrolling through the submissive female profiles on here to see if any would be fun for my Dom to talk to and I can't help but feel sorry for the straight men on this site. There are an inordinate amount of fake profiles and even though they're extremely obvious to me, I bet a lot of them leave guys thinking they might be real and so better email and take the chance. I realize my empathy isn't particularly helpful, but I feel for you guys. I really do.


7/2/2012 4:42:08 PM

Would anyone like to take me out for dinner and/or a movie? I'm very nice company and very free the next couple of weeks.

 

I should be clear...this is not an offer of sex in exchange for dinner and a movie :)


6/20/2012 1:14:49 AM

Dear everyone,

 

I am not a pain slut. I am not a whore. My interests lie in your clever brain, your dark eyes and your strong arms. If you ever watched a movie where the bad guy kidnapped the girl and enjoyed her vulnerability and powerlessness for the sake of itself rather than fantasizing about him fucking her, you might be the type of guy I'm looking for. Stop trying to fit me into a box I am just not in - I'm not going to suddenly change my mind about pain if you decide to hurt me while playing, I'm not going to leer up at you and moan about how bad I need your cock. If you're dominating me properly then I absolutely will desperately need your cock, but I want to be able to be taken, not to have to put on a little slut show. I thrive on powerlessness, on being overwhelmed, on gentle force. 

 

Men out there who can get intense physiological satisfaction from simply standing over someone on her knees, email me. I can't possibly be the only person alive who is desperate for an optionally sexual power play.


6/7/2012 7:07:26 PM

Look. If a profile has a picture of the most porn-like girl you've ever seen, the text is vaguely about "u can own all of me I want no rights" and ass play and tit torture are at the top of their Lives For list, it's not a real profile. I know quite a few subs and NONE of us write like that or pose like porn stars. Subs are more inclined to say things that remind you of actual human females, and our pictures tend to be not stolen from internet porn.

 

Also, anytime someone's name is like ChrissytheSlut you've got to realize...that's not a real person. Well, it is a real person. His name is Dave and he gets his kicks pissing off the CollarMe Doms. And lesbians are people who don't want to fuck men.

 

Hope this is somewhat helpful to anyone :)


6/7/2012 6:34:09 PM

Did some suspension for the first time the other night and came away with some major bruises. Really liked it, though. Definitely an interesting experience.


5/14/2012 10:29:31 PM

What hair colors (shades) do you guys think I could get away with? Yes, I know, I'm unlikely to ever be blond, but I'd really like to know what shades of black, brown, red, blond, silver, other colors might possibly work so I can play around someday. Extra points if you're actually considering my skin tone and not just naming hair colors you think are hot :)

 

Update, the consensus seems to be dark red/auburn. I totally agree. Now that that's settled, what OTHER colors could I get away with? Not just what you think would be the BEST color, but what other choices do I have?


4/17/2012 2:09:33 PM

I'd like to give a shout out to the sociopathic CollarMe members: thanks for making it very clear who you are in the first email, guys. Makes it so much easier on us girls with all the emails we have to get through, just being able to block right away ;)

 

On the plus side, I've met up with several people this week in various capacities and have had truly charming experiences. Some of you guys and gals are really worth the trouble of the rest.


4/5/2012 1:49:40 AM

I'm getting reeeally tired of running up against this one, so once and for all: I cannot have anal sex. If this is a dealbreaker for you, MOVE ON. This is something that will NEVER change because it CAN'T. Don't even email me if anal is your primary fetish, and please stop asking me why it's a hard limit or why I'm being so very un-submissive. My reasons are sound and none of your business until I know you better.

 

* I ranted a little longer, but I'm editing it out because I was a bit angry when I wrote this and it doesn't fully represent how I feel. Everyone is entitled to their kinks, but please be respectful of others' limits all the same.

 

Also, please stop messaging me assuring me that I more than make up for my anal sex deficit with X, Y and Z. I'll leave it to the smart folks to figure out why.


4/5/2012 12:54:11 AM

Tons of people have asked, so...

 

"Soumise" means submissive in French (I speak passable French) and "pastiche" means an artistic work consisting of a medley of pieces taken from various sources. It's meant to be a bit ironic and in no way represents who I am as a whole person or submissive.

 

One of the best things about being submissive is being taken care of. Gentleness is welcomed, a soothing voice makes me purr, and strong, thoughtful leadership complete with humility brings me to my knees with a sigh of relief. Anyone can be rude and knock a girl around (my body is very small and I am emotionally sensitive as a flower in a storm) but it takes a talented Dom to get to the deeper level of submission that is far beneath physical surrender and generic humiliation. The road to that deeper level is paved with silk, sunlight and a rock-solid foundation of trust.

 

I like Doms that enjoy communication and who know that admitting mistakes and apologizing is actually a sign of power, not shame. I like Doms whose instinct is to ease the tension by talking it out. And I especially like Doms who are respectful, trustworthy people first and evil scary Doms second :)


3/29/2012 5:26:44 PM

Apparently, at one point I relegated all the over 45 year old profiles to bulk email. If I never responded to you, that's why that happened, and if you wrote something awesome, I'm genuinely sorry. I really don't remember doing that, though I have often thought to myself recently, "wow, everyone is being so respectful of my age limits." 

 

If you are over 45 and have a LOT to offer (like an amazing, healthy body or infinite wisdom or the ability to take me out in style) I invite you to email me (now that I've undone my bulk mail settings) but if you're just emailing me to tell me I have tiny tits or that it's too bad I live so far away, don't do it :) You'll just get annoyed that I deleted your email without responding, and I will.


3/25/2012 8:08:26 PM

I just caught my cat playing with scissors. Clearly she hasn't been raised properly...

 

Some people have been commenting that I look sad in my pictures. I'm not always sad, though I might have been in a few of those pictures. Certainly I've gone through some rather difficult experiences in my time and perhaps they've made me a more introspective person. But they've also made me capable of much greater happiness, and I am happy most of the time. I'll try to find a picture or two to reflect that :)

 

The main picture, by the way, can't be changed. For some reason there's a glitch on the site and whenever I try to replace it all hell breaks loose. So I'm afraid I will always be gazing forlornly off in my white Anthropologie dress, even as I grow and change over time.


3/23/2012 9:14:37 PM

If you met me in a public place in the daylight, how would you speak to me? That's how you should write to me here. I don't know any submissive girls that feel otherwise.


3/18/2012 3:13:45 PM

Ok, too many people abused my trying to respond to everyone who had clearly read my profile. The guilt tripping has got to go, so I'm revoking that decision. I am still LIKELY to respond to you if you take the time to read my profile and respond in a decent fashion, but it is not guaranteed and if you email me complaining that I didn't respond to your email I'm going to block you.

 

Also, I was averaging like thirty responses a day and was running out of time to do my damn homework :)


3/10/2012 12:05:39 AM

Sometimes I wonder if my submissive desires/fantasies are just entirely incompatible with the male psyche :) I am very, very into the whole "slutty cum-hungry fuckhole" thing but at my core, I'm a little innocent submissive girl who wants to be manhandled, overpowered, controlled, protected and totally ravished. 

 

A lot of the time, I don't want to be a porn star (and yes, a lot of you get your D/s cues from porn). At the risk of bragging, I'm quite good at being sexually pleasing, but that's not the point of submission, to me. When D/s just becomes about fucking holes, to me it loses that electric charge of genuine power imbalance. I want more "Down. Now" and more "for the next five hours, your mind, your body and every piece of you that I want belongs to me and there's not a single thing you can do about it." I want more insurmountable dominance that leaves me unable to struggle because I just collapse into it, and I know that when I collapse I'll be met with empathy and a deep blanket of control. I want to shake with raw emotion under very cool, knowledgeable hands.

 

Does that sound interesting to anyone? Or should I resign myself to the porn culture?


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