I read this article http://www.sunnymegatron.com/7-fundamental-characte…

and this is what really made me realize I lean more towards the Daddy/girl dynamic then the straight D/s dynamic.

The Author is: WizarDavid (please refer to the link for the full article!)

Ok so I'm NOT going to copy and paste the article, y'all will have to go read it if you want to know exactly what he says. I will however touch on the points he made as they apply to me and why I am leaning towards a Daddy.

1. His first point is that a Daddy Dom is his baby girls number one fan. That he often believes in her more than she does herself. He sees her for who she is AND for who she can be! For me this is SO important because I often don't see myself for who I really am, or the greatness within me. Having someone believe in me so much and stand by me lifts me up in a way not even my successes do!

Another thing he talks about in this point is how a Daddy's eyes light up when she enters the room, that he is proud of and praises not only what she has accomplished, but what she has TRIED to accomplish! Sometimes for me the attempt/trying is the hardest part! And being praised makes me so happy, it fills me heart with joy to know that someone recognizes what I have done or tried to so. You can get more things out of me with praise than with punishment. Punishment or disappointment shuts me down, makes me feel worthless in that persons eyes. And that causes me to pull inside of myself, not strive to do better. I get into the mindset that nothing is good enough so why try?

"He accepts her for who she is, flaws and all." This statement really spoke to me, because that's all I ever want, someone who accepts me for me and not for who he wants me to be Nd try's to change me.

2. His second point is about how the Daddy is his baby girls ultimate confidant. Someone she can bare her soul to. This is something I need, as I don't confide in people, I keep things to myself and bottled up for fear of rejection and people thinking bad of me or that I am strange. I have friends I confide SOME things in, but I need someone I can confide ALL things in without that fear. Someone I can talk to when I'm upset, hurt, troubled, fearful or anything I'm feeling/thinking. Someone that I know I can trust and that it will never go past him. Someone who I know I can go to any time of the day and he'll be there.

3. His 3rd point, and the one that speaks to me the deepest is that he is her protector. Against anything, real or perceived. The perceived part is important to me because I am often told "don't borrow trouble", but sometimes I see things as possible threats, they haven't happened yet, but they COULD happen! And having someone that I know will be there to protect me from myself (yes a perceived threat is simply a threat from yourself, that you believe COULD happen. At least to me), from the fear I feel at the possibility. Having someone there to take on the threats, even though I CAN handle it, is such a nice thought. Knowing that at least with him around I can relax and let him protect me, that I don't always have to do the protecting myself.

"Pity the person who messes with a Daddy’s girl."

4. His forth point is that the Daddy is her teacher and mentor. He is always expanding her horizons and bringing her out of her "comfort zone". This can be "vanilla" thing such as museums, concerts, etc or things within the BDSM lifestyle and sexually.

5. His fifth point is that the Daddy wants to be her guide and advisor. He is there to answer her questions, calm her fears, make her insecurities go away and gives her advice on his experiences. I have always searched for this, and am always asking people in my life (friends and family) what they think about things I am thinking, doing or want to do. And it would be nice to NOT be looked down on for it, to not be told that I am an adult and can make decisions on my own. I KNOW I'm an adult and can make my own decisions, but it doesn't mean I shouldn't ask for advice and other thoughts on it.

6. His sixth point is that the Daddy Dom is her anchor. He is what holds her down in the storm, unyielding and unmovable. No matter what happens she knows that he will always be right there, that he isn't going anywhere. That even knowing the storm will pass and she will be ok, he still holds onto her until she too knows it. Sometimes it's nice to have someone to cling to during the rough times, someone to hold close while you let out your emotions.

7. His seventh point is that Daddy is a disciplinarian. When I do something bad, or act badly, I expect to be disciplined or punished. Just because my Daddy spoils me doesn't mean he also doesn't punish me when I've been "naughty". You cannot have one without the other. I need to know there are lines that cannot be crossed, he is after all still my Dom. There needs to be a point I know I can't cross, no matter how much affection Daddy feels for me. I can, and do manipulate people and situations, I need someone who I know I CAN'T always do that with. That when my Daddy Dom says no, or sets rules, he means it! If I become more dominant than him I lose the stability and protection that he offered. I am dominant in every other aspect of my life, I need my Daddy Dom to be more dominant than myself, and that will mean discipline and punishment when I've done something bad. You have to be strict and rigid in those rules that you have set for me.

One thing he talks about is the Daddy being forever. But he also talks about him leaving under certain circumstances. I need a Daddy Dom who won't leave me, who will always find ways to stay and be with me forever. One of my biggest fears is of rejection and being left by those that love me and most of all that I love.

To me everything that a Daddy/girl relationship is appeals to and calls to me. I need someone who is caring, loving, spoils me (with attention over items) and is there for me in every way, but is still my Dominant. Someone who will listen to me, and understand me and take my thoughts, feelings and emotions into account but that also knows when something isn't the best for me and can make that decision and explain why.

I am not sure if I explained very well why I want a Daddy/girl dynamic instead of the "traditional" D/s dynamic. If not please let me know.

Please take the time to read the full article!