Ok, so after so many emails about what I'm looking for I finally figured I need to fill this thing in.

First someone close to my age +or- 5 years. Someone who is in this for the long haul. I want LTR. I want a lover and quite possibly a husband. I want a lover from whom I have to hide nothing. Someone who is physically fit, not overweight. I take care of myself and the person I'm with should as well. I want someone who I desire to be with who physically attracts me. Someone who understands that I cannot do 24/7 and that I have a child and she comes first. I will not expose her to this and I have no desire to leave my kid with babysitters on a regular basis. I'm not interested in TPE. For me to reach that point would take years and a lot of trust, not something that comes easily. I don't want poly, been there done that.

I want someone who won’t micromanage me. You have to allow me to make my mistakes, discipline me for my mistakes - granted, but learn from them and trust that I love you enough to act based on your thoughts, wishes and desires - again something that comes with time. Teach me, yes, confine me no, by confining me you kill the best part of me, my spirit and passion. Over time you will learn that my spirit and passion is the sparkle in my eye that you fell in love with. Confine that and it dies.

I want our vanilla interests to be just as compatible as our BDSM if not more so. If I don't like who you are in the real world I will probably have a hard time submitting to you in anyway. Sex comes and goes, I want forever and that means compatibility and passion. A strong alpha male who likes for me to sit in his lap like a little girl would be good. One of my favorite things to do is to meet the man I love at the door with a drink after a hard days work and then take his shoes off and then curl up in his lap and lay my head on his shoulder.

I'm a strong woman and a strong Leo if you believe in that type of thing. I'm passionate about life and love. I don't do drugs and drink socially. I have gone to BDSM events, private parties and want someone who is comfortable at both but will not "out" me at the company parties. What we do behind closed doors is no bodies business but ours. I'm not much of an exhibitionist but can if I am with someone I love and trust. Yes, last but not least LOVE.

Someone once gave me their definition of "their BDSM". Everyones is different including mine. I don't submit because I have to, because there are Doms or Dommes around but because I want to, because I choose to. I can be strong or weak, dominate or submissive depending on what needs to be done. With the right person, the person I love, I will respect them if they are respectable, I will honor them, if they are honorable. I will not bow down simply because you say so, but because I love you, it makes you happy and I feel loved and safe with you.

So I hope this answers some of you who keep asking. This does not encompass everything but it a good start on the basics. I have not included a photo because it is too easy to be outed. I am a tall 5'10" red head with weight proportionate details and have been told I have boobs women would pay for and I got them naturally. If you share your photo and no I don't want to see any explicit photos it doesn't interest me, I'll be happy to return the favor.