my Master asked me to re-post this on my journal.
SUBMISSIVES READ THIS IF NOTHING ELSE!
He calls it the Acid Test for the male and female subs when it comes to scoping out the fake Dominants on this site.(HNG = Horny Net Geeks)
The Acid Test!Test:
#1: When in doubt, throw it out! Don't waste your time with peoplethat make you feel uncomfortable. Even if the guy/girl was a real Dom, ifhis/her personality makes you feel uncomfortable, s/he's not going to be fun to play with.Test
#2: 'You'd better call me Sir/Ma'am!' is the mating call of a HNG or control freak.Real Doms don't have to ask for titles, we earn them. Most real Doms will say things like 'Please, call me Mike/louise...'
Test #3: 'I want you to take my collar before you playwith me.' This is another common demand of fakes, most often made bycontrol freaks. They have to isolate you from other people and theiradvice, and sometimes a little ole 'cyber-collar' is just the thing!Cyber-collars are worth less than the leather required to make one.Test
#4: If you get an Instant Message that says something like 'On yourknees you [slave, slut, bitch, whore, etc.]' This person is an HNG. Usesome common sense here. Why waste time with somebody that's not evenpolite? There's a time and a place for these endearing terms, and itisn't online!Test
#5: 'I don't have to answer that question!'or 'It's not proper etiquette for you to ask a Master/Mistress that.' These areexamples of some the dangerous lies that control freaks and snerts use.This is the Acid test I personally think is the most important! A Domhad better be ready to at least try and answer every question you have,and honestly at that! It's literally your ass that's on the line! Neverforget this!Test
#6: 'It's my way or the highway!' or words tothat effect, are the mating cry of the common control freak. Doms canhave limits too, but it's your limits that count FIRST. Don't let anywould-be 'Dom/me' tell you differently. Don't let any of the wannabe substell you differently either. Where Male Dom/fem sub play is concerned,it's always lady's choice!Test
#7: Don't bother with online collars.Don't make decisions about a prospective partner based on hisonline play style. It's a very simple test if you think about it: Woulda real-life Dominant waste much time on cyber sex and cyber domination?Please take my word for it; The answer is no. Forget it, once you'vedone the real thing, cyber is just too damn dull.Test
#8: Ask your prospect if s/he's ever made any mistakes during a scene. If s/he says'no,' run for your life! If s/he says, 'very rarely,' at least besuspicious. Everyone makes mistakes, even if they are experienced andskilled. Sometimes submissives have limits they don't even know about,and even the most careful and skilled Dom/me in the world will trip overthese occasionally. Remember, according to our good friends of theChristian faith, the last perfect guy to walk this planet got nailed toa tree for his trouble. So expect competence, but not miracles.Test
#9: 'I'm a [bank president, captain of industry, combat photographer,self-made millionaire... yadda yadda yadda.]' Wouldn't it be nice tomeet a rich Dom/mes too? Sure it would! But use some common sense. How manycaptains of industry have hours to spend in an AOL chat room? Also,think about this personality profile; If this super successful,always-in-control person is really into BDSM, he's likely a submissive!Worse yet, it could very likely mean he is a control freak. I have meta lot of submissives that fit this ambitious profile, but not one Dom/mesyet!Test
#10: 'I'm 33 years old, and I've been a Master/mistess for 15years.' Gimme a break! What are the odds? When you ask about a Dom/me'slevel of experience (and it's a good idea to do so) remember to do themath as well. 18-year-old boys/girls don't care about the intricacies ofBDSM; they want to get laid. Trust me on this one Ladies/gentlemen, I was an18-year-old boy once! I personally believe that people do become whatthey are (be it gay, straight, Dom or sub) very early in life, but ittakes maturity and training to be a Master/mistess. What are the odds a personbecame a Master/mistress when they were still using Clearasil?Test
#11:Ask for references! Especially if s/he claims to be 'very experienced.'Talk to the references on the phone. Lots of HNGs have female/malescreen-names set up to act as 'references' for them! I notice that alot of newbies seem to have trouble with this concept. Which isunderstandable since in the vanilla world it's considered rude to talkto someone's ex-girlfriend or boyfriend. However, in the BDSM scene it's the opposite;experienced Dominants should accept and accommodate this kind ofrequest gladly.Test
#12: 'I have three real-life collared slaves right now, but you can't talk to them.'OK, when you consider the ratio and all, this sounds possible.What makes this an acid test failed (and failed miserably at that) is the last part. I have met couples (and even triads) that really were looking for an extra personto add to the mix. This is not uncommon at all in the scene. But thesecouples were looking together. If a 'Dom/mes' has anyone already collaredto them, you probably ought to talk to her/him first!Test
#13: 'I don't need safewords.' Well of course he doesn't! If he said this he'slikely a snert and therefore he's never really been in a scene! Ofcourse he might be a predator too, and then he wouldn't need safewordseither. Need I say more?Test
#14: 'My slaves trust me to set their limits for them.' If you hear a 'Dom/mes' say this it's most likely because these slaves only exist in his mind. Or worse still, his/her 'slave' is simply the victim of spousal abuse. Even so-called TPE(Total Power Exchange) and other sorts of 24/7 (i.e. full time) BDSMrelationships should involve careful and thorough negotiation.Test
#15: 'I'm married, my wife/husband can't know about us' If I have to explainthis one to you, you've got problems. I have played with many marriedsubmissives in my time, but only with the express permission (and moreoften than not, participation) of their wives/husbands. Safe BDSM requirescomplete honesty. You can't build a good scene on lies. There areplenty of people that will be willing to tell you differently; butplease note, they will all turn out to be adulterers (and hence, liars)themselves.Test
#16: Insert your own Acid Test here: You willlearn much from your mistakes and missteps. If you form an onlinecontact with a 'Dom' that falls through, analyze why it fell through.Don't make the same mistakes twice if you can help it.
