SlaveRMneeded

FOR THE RECORD: I gave up looking for non-sexual, service-oriented slaves. It is not that I don't want one, it is that in the majority, there is no such thing as a person who understands that slaves work and that I do not have to have sex with them, or treat them horribly, as payment for that work.

So, you know, if you happen to be a person who really wants to be used for your wage work as well as your physical labor, as in be useful and put to good use, and, you like saying things like "Yes, Mistress.", carrying packages and all, without feeling it makes you a "piece of crap" or "sub-human" and without expecting me to transmorgify into a cruel deity, make you bleed, the removal of any of your body parts, being inane enough  to think that "oral" anything (sex, worship, servce) is not sexual, demanding that things be stuck up your butt, or, otherwise expecting to lead a thoroughly unsanitary and unpleasant life - and, if you are serious, as in, you say "I want to serve" and I say "Great, because I could use that." and, you say "I am so on the plane, tomorrow."(and, you mean it), then, by all means, send me a message.

Otherwise, I am right off the subject, because I am so tired of hearing from "slaves" who demand that they be allowed to play all day, I conform to their limits instead of having my own, and, that I work for them 24/7 with no expectation of getting paid for it - even though they will give me no rest or time for a paying job, and, who think that I should spend all my time degrading myself through the use of foul language, exhibiting a fake bad temper, defecating for their amusement, and ... no. I'm done with you people. if you can't prove you read this and you are a real slave, not some fantasist idiot, within the first few messages, I will block you and be done.

To the ones who like to judge and send rotten messages: 

I am Irish, Cherokee, and Chinese. It all shows in the planes of my face. the tilt and lid of my eye.  I do not look like your average white girl, and, you should not judge the looks of my face by those standards. I do not look bitchy and I am not ugly -  I look like I come from a long line of people who kicked your nasty little Dutch, German  and English arses for a very long time, that you never actually did win the fight with, yet.  And, I look like I was conceived of unions between people who could see past skin color and ethnicity.

I am also not ugly as in, unlike most people on this site, I have dared to show my true face, rather than hide behind makeup, plastic surgery, fuzzy photos, or photos of other people altogether. This is not claiming to be honest; it is to actually be honest, even knowing that, on this site, honesty invites ridicule from many, and accolades from few. The new photo, the first one, was taken approximately 10 am on February 23rd, 2011. The ninth and tenth photos were taken on February 25, 2011.

I am fat, yes. I know that.  No need, then, to point it out. This profile is not for you, the sort of people who must do such things. It is for the man who has something to offer in my life. So, that is enough said to you.

To him, I will say that I no longer seek a simple slave, but, a husband. A high moral standard with limits set based on them, and, a knowledge of your needs are prerequisite. The relationship I seek is based on love, monogamous, loving, legal, and traditional in values. Any kink that develops between us will be mutually accepting and fulfilling to us both, or, it will fall by the wayside, regardless of what role you consider yourself to be made to fill.

I have my limits and my needs. They will be respected and fulfilled. You should have, and, expect the same for yourself.

Honesty, love, God, monogamy, helping those less fortunate, friends, family, kindness, are all important to me. I will not engage in a relationship that does not have the potential to involve these elements, to be shared by us, as we share our lives together.

What is commonly called TPE, the meeting of minds, the understanding and seeking of each other as persons, is important to me.

And, that you are neither seeking to change me or to force me not to change is important to me. Some things you cannot change. Some things, such as my weight, may change, and, if it does, or does not, that would have to be accepted, and, not dwelled upon. If you cannot love people for who they are, rather than what shape they currently take, I have no need of you in my life.

My preference is for men who are very tall, browneyed, British or Canadian, and, somewhere within 5 or 6 years to either side of my age. However, those preferences could be totally wiped off the map by someone with the right personality.

What is not negotiable is that you must love God, and, you must want to live, in some way, by traditional standards as set in the Bible, to the extent of hygiene (no toilet sort of play), kindness (don't expect daily beatings, harsh insults, or other abuses), and a marriage being about two people putting each other before all else, but, God.

The things that I say I live for are those most important to me. The things I say are hard limits are the things  that, if you cannot live without them, show that we willl not suit. The rest is much more malleable.

The fact that I am on this site, saying this, should tell you that I am open to elements of bdsm within the marriage. So long as it is playful, loving, and, yet, serious.

So, what else am I into?

Well, I'm more into the laid back, casual lifestyle than the status symbol thing. I do enjoy fashion, to some extent, and, dressing up can be fun; but, one has to be in the mood! I'd rather be wearing something comfortable, or, nothing at all, and, I prefer swimming to yachting. You'd be more likely to find me sitting at a camp fire with gypsies than dining at the Marriott, and, while I will shop for quality, I am more apt to be at Wal-mart than at Sak's.

Rock 'n' Roll is wonderful, much of it,but, so are classical piano, Jazz, the Blues, some Rap , some Countyr, some Folk, various foreign things (especially from Ireland, Scotland, Israel, Turkey and Arabia) that I am not sure what category most fall under, and, so much else. Music: Yum!  I do not like songs like 'Highway to Hell',  or listen to 36 Mafia, Marilyn Manson, etc., however,  because, talented though the persons involved may be, this is full on against my lifestyle and loves. So, don't try to introduce me to things and "broaden my horizons", if by "broadening my horizons" you mean "chaning my mind."

I love to window shop, and, while I sometimes like to also shop for real, I do not appreciate people who interrupt my fun by getting offended, thinking I'm being greedy and making demands, or telling me that I'm shallow and materialistic. Window shopping is sort of like playing a game. It is not about making a purchase, though, it can help when and if a purchase needs to be made, later, and, it is a good way to start if a purchase needs to be made soon, as it helps you focus on what you need, or really want, rather than the bright, shiny visual displays the stores attack you with. So, don't offer to buy eveyrhing I like, at any given moment or feel put upon that I won't let you; and, don't assume that just because you have a wallet and I like a jacket, that it means I want you to initiate a purchase. It ruins the fun of window shopping, having to deal with those sort of attitudes.

Swimming is lovely, planning interior and exterior decor and landscaping is fun (sort of like window shopping).

Obviously, I love writing,: I also love reading, but, I probably won't like your poems and stories. This does not mean I will not, but, on average, I will say that approximately 1 percent of persons who have come to me and told me that I would like their writing, or that they were great writers, or even that they were any sort of writers at all, were correct in their judgment. The rest were the sort of people who had big tits or pretty eyes, or a great flat in which to throw a party, or a skin color that people were afraid to speak against, or, some other thing about them that made people want to suck up to them and lie like dogs.. So, don't show me your writing, unless you are ready and willing to accept the honest opinion of someone who loves the written word, and, who - while making plenty of her own typos - notices the nasty editing job done in best selling books by world famous authors. I cut Stephen King and Agatha Christie no slack, so, why would I do it for you. But, please note, I still read their works, despite the errors, because these people can WRITE!

Cooking is great, but, I am often frustrated by bad tools, limited space, and/or the way my tendons are working. It would be lovely to cook with someone, but, not someone who is a "chef" as I just can't take food that seriously. I can't take anything that seriously, in fact. Life should be fun, cooking should be fun, and, while it is great if you know how to julienne the veggies, simply chopping them, or, tearing them to pieces with your fingers, gets the job done, too.

Herbs, nutrition, vitamins and supplements, hydrogen peroxied therapy, are all interests of mine, which I do read up on and do intend on continuing to pursue. If this is not something you are interested in, to the extent that you think it is too weird or stupid, then, go away now. If you are some gung-ho vegetarian, who is going to tell me that meat is murder, follow that other guy who just left.

My daughter is a lesbian. The other one is married, but, living with some other guy, in another State. One of my sons has distinct learning disabilities and the other one is weirder than chipped beef kite. I do not approve of things they do. They will always, however, be in my life, often in my home, and, , while I wil never say that homosexuality or adultery is right, when I think they are wrong, I will never make them feel unwelcome. So, if you are the sort of person who is homophobic (as opposed to just thinking homosexuality is wrong), or who cannot understand what "Love the sinner, hate the sin." means, or who think that God wants you to heckle funerals, then, go away, now.Jesus ate with sinners, and, he had more to be uptight about, not actually being one, himself. So ..

I live in constant fear of being trapped in a marriage with someone who is rude to the homeless, cares what the neighbors think more than about doing what is right or harmlessly fun, wants to impress other people to gain a higher sociial status, and/or otherwise unimaginative, shallow type. I've had enough of that in my life. I don't want to be respectable, if it means not being me. If I can be both things, I will be - on most days.

And, if you are still reading this ... well, I hope you are not doing it on company time. That's dishonest toward your employer. Shame on you. Get back to work! But, if you are not reading it on company time, well, thank you for listening and enduring through it all. xx

So ... so .... apparently, I am about a month away from moving into an exciting house. Exciting because I'll be living there with no parents, older siblings, husband, Master, or landlord to try and tell me what to do. Though, I will still have two of my children there, and, there is bound to be some sort of lip out of them.  lol

It's not a big house, it's not a house with separate slave quarters (though, it should be noted, there is room on the lot and it is zoned R-2, so, slave quarters could be built), and it's not a startlingly fancy house; but, it is my house.
Weird! It's almost as good as owning a slave, but, in some ways, even better. When a house says it is a house, and that it wants to serve you as a house, it usually acts just like a house, and you live with it as if it is a house, and, it doesn't decide it's a swimming pool or a motorhome, or start telling you it is a petunia, because petunias are what you live in and where you come home to, but, houses are the plants that grow in pretty gardens. It's just the house you own.

Sweet!

You know, I really hate it when people drop by to make accusations, and, they are very unspecific as to what they are actually accusing me of. "You wrote a judgmental email to me, out of the blue."

About what? And, to what ID? And, when? And, what did it say?Let's see it. Otherwise, I have no memory of it, so, I can't respond to the allegation. Except, of course, to say, as I did say, that I do not write judgmental emails to people out of the blue, so, you must have misinterpreted what I wrote.

Seeking slaves, not submissives.

Slaves are not submissive, they are obedient.

Submission is an absence of action,

To "slave" is an abundance of purposeful action.  

For those who keep track of such things that is $241 (M) + $120 (E)  + $70 (G) +$40 (W/T/S) + $80 (I/P) + $500.00 (F) = $1,051.00   Of course, without (F) that's only $551.00 and that sounds much more reasonable, doesn't it?  Still, that's (F) for 4, and, probably includes (T) (S) and (S) as well as (LS) and (DS), and sometimes, (TP) and (DF)

For those who have no idea what I am on about: Welcome to the Fringe!

Tested a new potential slave today. Looks like he failed. He might rally, and, surprise me, but, I doubt it.

Well, I got my paycheck, so, I took some money that I could not afford to spend on it, and, went down to Warehouse Vitamins, and got me some Vitamin C powder, yesterday. Which was good for a few reasons.

 One, is that I am the sort of person who is so poor, and who believes in God, that I tend to pray before going into stores, as to making good decisions and not wasting my money on things I do not need.  I did not go down there to Warehouse Vitamins on purpose, as in saying "I think I'll go down to Warehouse Vitamins and get some Vitamin C, after cashing my check."  It just sort of happened that it came into my mind, to go in and look for Vitamin C.  So, I believe it was an answer to that prayer ... because ...

Two, is that I used the Vitamin C powder in some orange juice, this morning, which I am still drinking on, and, this is the first time in months I have actually felt mostly awake - like, I might even have energy to do something later, and everything! So, while I am still not sure I want to try those severe mega doses that one doctor recommends for people who have been victims of the Eppstein Barr virus, I am sure that taking this much of a dosage has been very helpful to me, today.

The third thing is, that there is a guy who works there who is so cute, and soft spoken, and looks like he might just be a little weird. I am not saying I am his type, or he is single, or there was any flirting, or anything else. Just that he is nice to look at, listen to, and polite to customers. Well worth going into a store, for that, it is, even if you come out with nothing else useful.

Discipline is not about destruction, it is about refinement.
 If you believe this to be true, read on.

I seek slaves, not subs. No matter what you currently call yourself, follow my description, which will be generalized, so, pick the one you fit best:

Sub: "Primarily sex and fetish driven";  Usually wants to feel worthless, treated like an animal, tortured, abused, controlled, has fetishes to be fulfilled, wishes to be taken, often referred to as pain slut, sex toy, puppy, pony, sexual submissive, toilet. Words associated with subs: force, take, control, steal, use, abuse, degrade, destroy, defile, brat, lack of self control, weak, used, controlled.

Subs need to know the rules, so they will know their limitations, how far they can go. Their rules are very rigid, because they are part of a game. They seek those who are the counterpoint to their fetishes.

Slave: "Primarily service-oriented, driven by a need to help others." Accepts rules of others, that make sense,  but, is fully aware of its humanity. Has no feeling of inferiority, unless it fails as a slave. Will have definite limits because damage affects its ability to serve. Words associated with slaves: give, care, do, make, usage, serve, service, work, self-governance, control, duty, long-suffering, upbuilding, trust, strong, dominant, considerate, self controlled, bold, owned, connected.

Slaves need to know the rules, in order to best understand how to serve you. The rules for slaves are more fluid, as the emphasis is not on strict obedience, but, on best service. Obedience is important, that is, but, getting  the work done more so. They seek those who match them well enough that they can be happily of use.

These points are not negotiable:

• You may call me Mistress, Mistress Arletta, Ma'am, or Miss.
• Should you need to relocate, your relocation must be legal, will not be by marriage to me.
• You must have an income of at least moderate means. 
• You will be used for work of all sorts, and, sometimes for entertainment.
• You will show yourself to be obedient, compliant, hard working, and loyal. .
  Sex with your Mistress is not an option.
• Full time chastity is optional

Other than those points, I am open-minded and willing to hear of hard limits and needs. Keep in mind, such things as: "I am religious and attend meetings once a week",  "I have an allergy to ...",  "I am an alcoholic, so I need to serve someone who will never force me to serve or drink alcoholic beverages." are needs.

"I'd love it if you'd put me in chains." is not a need.  I may ask about your desires, but, since your main desire will be to serve me, they will not be of primary consideration to either of us.

Eventually, when dealing with doms, they are going to get dommy, and, then, usually, they get tedious and say blustery things that should never be said to someone who is just never going to be intimidated by then. Because, trust me, I don't frighten easily, and, I am not impressed when peacock feathers get ruffled. If you scared me, bad enough that I felt I had to do what you said as a result, I'd  kill you in your sleep, dig a very unshallow grave, and drop your body in with some quick lye; walk out and disappear into the world;, and, or, otherwise, be gone.

Therefore, it is in the best interest of doms to learn how to be dominant, instead of trying to dominate. If you dominate me, it's because it amuses me to let you do it. If you are dominant, you will be using your brain, and, clear-sighted reason. I do not follow anyone without reason. Now, hush, babies! If you want mama to take care of you, and give you the tit, stop fussing like your colicky, instead.

lol

Earlier this week, a 27 year old was writing to me, telling me I am beautiful, angling after being my slave. We even talked on FB. However, he failed his test. Men who find women who look like me attractive are numoerous. Men who have the balls to admit it, in public, are few. I have no use for people who are ashamed of their passions.

Unless their passions are for that whole toilet thing, small children, dogs, etc. Then they should be ashamed, as it is a health risk, or, it hurts someone in some other fahion. Causing black plagues and children to grow up to be socially diseased serial killers is something quite worth being ashamed of. Having a thing for older, bigger women is just one of those things. And, so is lying about it, if you really don't have a thing for them.

I am now, quite seriously, looking for a place to buy. Since there were no slaves involved in its purchase, it will not be a home for slaves. That does not mean none can ever be there, but, it does mean there will be no slave quarters, or places to put cages, or any of that stuff. That's just the way life works. It's going to, most likely be, either a small 2 bedroom, 1 bath place or a 2 bedroom, 2 bath place.  There will be other people living there for now. And, I am very confused as to which I would prefer, so far, because two bathrooms is always a better idea than one, but, but, but ... the other one is so much cuter in the photos.

I gained a new admirer, yesterday, as in, literally, someone who is now on my list of Admirers. Strangely, he does not admire me. I am fairly certain he doesn't even mildly like me, and, that I am nothing more than a source of amusement, mild amusement.

This is a bit of a bummer, in that, once again, it is proven true: there are the people that I could be interested in, and, the people who are interested in me, but, never the twain shall meet. There is always something fundamentally wrong with the people who like me, though, sometimes, it is only that they are the wrong sex, age, or, too far away. So, it is not that I only attract shallow people and the criminally insane .. but, mostly, I attract shallow people and the criminally insane. Or, they are people who "like me", because, they have badly misinterpreted me, and, think I am someone else.

 So, this is the slight bummer, nothing too serious. I had written this journal entry, about the sort of man I'd like to meet, and, not too long after, I get this notice of alleged admiration. And, I look, find a profile of a man who has written this beautiful thing that is so much like my feelings, and, what I think, say, and, write, often, about love. His profle says that he loves writing, too.

So, there was a vague possibility that he had read the journal entry and recognized himself in there, somewhere, and, a bit more of one that he just enjoyed the writing, and, noticed that writing was important to me, as well; and, or, maybe it was another person who simply enjoyed the profile, definition of things, etc. That happens a lot.

 But, no. Apparently, I do not register as female. Just someone who is experiencing an interesting plight. Which, really, is what book marks are for. One should not be on someone's favorites list, unless, there is something that makes them actually favor you.

Such is life.

 Today, I made an appointment to appeal attorney fees and such, for matters related to my son, who is mentally ill and suffering from neurological issues, and, yet, can't get any help from the various agencies, but, can get arrested for failure to get the help he needs. This is fairly typical of life, as I know it. Lots of people ready to pass judgment and be amused by plights, very few people willing to understand or be helpful.

 So, glad, then, Sir, that you feel entertained by it all.

 xxx

In the meantime, I have met another little slave boy, who is relocatable, and, who is a blend of something in-between someone i'd like to hang out with all night, at a late night coffee shop and discuss the finer points of ... everything, a humble slave, and, someone who would enjoy the pursuits of my daughter and her friends, more; including, that he is rather in-between our ages. Closer to her age, but, still, bordering on proper male adulthood. Nice to talk to, polite, unfortunately very nice to look at, but, in general, a hopeful prospect.

Notice, again, please, how I did not mention money. Now, those of you who simply must keep writing about how awful I am,  how I am only in it for the money, can, kindly, saunter off to a corner and blow yourself. As, I have said, and, shall keep saying, "Yes, money is important, as it is very hard to live in this society without it. However, it is not the factor that leads me to choose or reject a slave, unless, it is a matter of there being none (because, I don't have enough to pay for my needs, at this present time, much less pay for the needs of the slave), or, unless, him having too much causes him to have an unpleasant bend to his personality.

And, that, really, is the point you keep missing. Most of the slaves I have rejected,where it was an issue of money, had quite a lot. They wanted to be abused by me draining it from them, or, to basically trade money for services, such as being whipped, or, they thought that they should be the only slave and they could make demands for me to change my limits to suit their needs. They were half right.

There is no reason to have two slaves, where one will do. So, if the slave is earning enough money that someone can be hired to perform tasks, the slave has some right to ask, going in, that they be the only slave; but, you know, someone still has to do the work, and there is a balance between wage earning and actually being useful in geting things done. I would prefer the slave who gets things done at home, more, even if he earns a great deal less.  That is because I am far more busy than greedy. Deal with it!

Okay, that was not, entirely, truthful. in that, I do, indeed, have desires for things like custom made shoes (which, in fact, I need), nice clothing, pretty baubles, great faucets for the kitchen sink, a proper home, and, many other things that are related to a desire for more money in my life. However, mostly, it was untrue, because, while it is true that I am more busy than greedy, that is a secondary reason, at best. The main reason that I'd prefer the slave that gets more done at home, is, because, the emphasis on the relationship is different.  For one thing, there is more time together, more intimacy, and, the slave is better appreciated for things related to what he is, rather than what he earns; and, he comes to know me for what I am, not just what I do with what he earns. It's a real, thriving, giving relationship, on both sides. The other is just ... money. It's nice, but, it's nothing compared to human interaction.

By the way, my laptop stopped charging, again, and, I don't know why. I am now using a very old lap top that I got from a thrift store. By "got" I mean that I chipped in my last $13.00 and some odd cents, and, Dad chipped in $50.00. It is serviceable, though, the screen is dark, and, though it has no battery, so, I have to be careful to save my work, often. At least it connects to the internet!

For those who want to be kept up to date:

It looks like the 4-plex is a no-go. There is a program for helping people with down payment assistance, but, only for single family residences. Without that help, I would still need about $6,000.00 more for down payment and closing costs.  Not to mention better credit than I have now, because, my sister - who is the only one who will qualify for the loan, will not do it.

 This, despite all the babysitting I have done for her, buying her groceries when she didn't have enough money to support her and her son, the fact that Istepped aside, when I was going to get help from our lovely parents in finding a place, because she was living in a horrible, broken down trailer; and, everyone promised that, in a year or two, they would help me. Now, she says the only way she would get the loan is if she pays half the mortgate and utilities and gets half the building.

 Which would rather defeat the purpose of trying to get my own place, and, it would really defeat the purpose of trying to get a place where I could either rent out apartments, for the sake of having an income, or, have slaves, or, maybe,  even both.

 And, now, my lap top, which is a tool I need to do my wage work, is dying. So... yeah.

.... and, then, my lap top started charging again, so, that's something!

By the way, that, below, is meant to be a bit of a joke - in some ways. Those of you who know me, know it is not true. The point is that, it is not about money, and, it is not about flesh, so, it makes no bloody sense to compare someone who wishes to truly OWN the slave, with someone who submits to being used to get their bills paid.

I do not submit to being used; nor, do I expect slaves to submit to being used. "Used" is a negative thing. I want a positive relationship with the people in my life. Utlized, useful, put to good usage, being used (as in accustomed), yes.  Being used (as in taken advantage of) no.

If I wanted that, I could have had all sorts of slaves, by now - so called slaves, that is. It is not what I desire, and, it is certainly not what I require.

As I recently told a potential slave boy, a household wherein a man is thirsty,and, another man thirsts to fetch hilm a drink, is a beautiful thing. Everyone is happy, fulfilled.The man who is thirsty continues with his labors, and, is happy not to have had to leave his work; the other is happy, because, he was allowed to be of use.

If you can't get your mind around the difference between "being of use" and "beiing used", then, I do not want you in my life. If that is the case, it doesn't matter how much work you might do, or, what you can pay for: I have no use for you.

If I had less morals, I'd be a whore 

It takes a lot less effort, and, has better pay, than being a Mistress. And, they aren't even expected to dress up and entice people. A lot of them are out there in sweat pants, no makeup, sores on their faces, and they still get their rent paid.

And, yet, I am often told I am just like a whore, because I want to own a slave (and, not have sex with it), who, I would give my time and attention to, setting rules and guidelines for its delight, as it served me for mine. Accepting it's service and devotion with tender affection in return, and, giving it what it needs to feel fulfilled.

(sigh)

If you think that's like being a whore, just because I also need to have money to live, despite the long, long hours of service on the other side of the TPE coin, that I put into the relationship, when the money is actually part of the TPE, then, you have to be crazy.

However, call me a whore, be crazy. I don't care. Just do it, while fetching the whip I'll crack against your hide for saying so, then, get your slave arse down to  the office and pay my rent. 

lol

I want a weirdo

Someone who is so fundamentally weird that he doesn't need tattoos to prove it, and, if he has them, it's because he felt more like "Oh neat!" or "Oh, cool!" then, "Yeah, that's the image I want to present to the world."

Someone bohemian in a Jesus-fashion.

Which means?

Knowing his own mind,  having his moral compass, not pulling punches,but, not beating others over the head for no reason, either.

Someone who thinks first of kindness, peace, love; who would rather sit in a cluttered room full of good books than a "Home and Garden Masterpiece".

Someone who is not afraid to be a man, so, is not afraid to experience me as a woman.

Someone who wants to grok me.

The kind of man who could walk into a room full of other people dressed for a cocktail party, him wearing mud-stained bell bottoms and t-shirt with no explanation for how his wardrobe slipped back that far in time, and, not being ashamed- but, yes, going to change, if it's an option.

A happy man. A man who, whether Latin or not, is a "Latin lover": passionate, steadfast, loyal to the darling of his heart. And, I will be the darling of his heart.

A man who serves, not because I am female, but, because I am me. And, that is, also, why he accepts the good things I give him, do for him, instead of judging me as weak simply for being kind.

A lover of garlic and spices, sweet things, textures; a sensualist, ready to experience life's joys.

A man who can yield, just as well as he can pull hair and growl sweet, dirty words of love.

Now, I could say that I want him to be a Scotsman, or brown eyed, or full lipped, or a certain man, or a rider of motorcycles, or clad in black leather, or tall as tall can reasonably get without bordering on the ridiculous. And, it is true, if he were those things, especially if he had clown tattoos, I'd love him very well. But, if he were not? If his alleged fault was shortness of leg, or having been born nearer to Chicago than to Edinburgh? Would I eschew him?

No. I want a weirdo, who wants me.

Is there any such thing out there as either

1) A slave who just wants to serve, be owned, without it being about sex or sexual deviancy, pain, torture, or pretending to be an animal or sub human of some sort?

2) A man who wants a good, monogamous marriage where two people love each other, but, the woman is in charge, anyway? Obviously, with sex, but, still ..

you know ..

Where it is about the people, the rules, etiquette, control, personality, meeting of the minds, and that sort of thing, not just flesh and acts that are bound to cause diseases?

Anyone?

Because, you know, I am reading the Mary Stewart books on Merlin,again, and there is all sorts of servants and serving going on in them, and, nowhere in there is anyone getting whipped for fun, used as a toilet, forced to serve in the nude, or sexed up by their owners. Nowhere! And, that's all I want is a nice, normal relationship with someone I own.

In fact, some of the servants were married to other people, and/or having sex when they were not needed for their duties.  Weird, huh?

(sigh)

Ah, now this is the life.
Thought I was going to bed, after reading a bit from a Mary Stewart book. Not just any book, mind you, but, the trilogy related to Merlin, all bound into one big book. Nice reading!

Instead, three little slave girls showed up, with vodka, cranberry juice, limes, and lime juice, and, also a diet drink for me, just in case I didn't like what they had to offer.

One slave girl cleaned my kitchen, getting on her hands and knees to scrub the floor, and, cleaning out the refrigerator, even. She went so far as to do a little in the bathroom and bedroom, too.

Another one cut my hair with a razor blade. Then, they all ran off to get ice,  as they said the Cosmopolitan tastes much better with ice, which cuts the vodka taste out "so you can drink lots and lots and have no idea how drunk you are, until you stand up", as the bartender for the evening put it.

The other slave girl, if you are wondering, is mainly there to pay for the materials, because she loves one of the other girls
They did all offer to let me spank them, for forgetting the ice, but, the one who really did the forgetting is the one that is most likely to enjoy it, so .. mmm .. no. Not tonight!

WORSHIP?

No:

One day, someone is going to explain men to me ....and, I am going to go "Yuck! Now, why did I want to have sex with one of those?"? No, seriously ...

Why, oh why, do men write to me and act like they want? a response, and, then, when they get one, they read it and don't reply. Oh, sometimes they do reply, a week later, or a month later, or half a day later.

For so many of them, though, there seems to be no clue in their head that if someone responds to them, or initiates contact, that someone is generally hoping to have a response.

For my part, if I write you a message and you read it, and, you don't at least explain why you don't have time to fully read it and respond, yet - especially if you've been online several times since then - I am going to assume you are no longer interested or that you have sent out feelers to several women at once and have put the rest of them ahead of me. And, I will delete your emails and stop trying. That's how life works. If you cease to show interest, so do I, regardless of how interesting your opening email or profile is.

And, then, I died of boredom.

Limits  

I love people who can tell me what their limits are, as, these are people who smack of truthfulness, thoughtfulness, and, a sincere desire to build a life around the position they seek with me.

Especially it smacks as truthful, because, most people say "no limits" and, yet, I find them to be chock full of limits.

"I will not serve you if you won't Queen me." is a limit. By the way, if I was going to Queen you, it would involve me sitting on a fancy chair, and, you following orders, as that is the sort of things that happen when you are granted an audience with a Queen. You are not a fancy chair, however: you are a human being - and, one that needs to learn to keep their nose out of my business, figuratively, in more than one sense.

"I must be torn down and degraded." is a limit. Look at the wording. It is a must. That makes it a limit. You are placing limitations on the possibility of a relationship. If the person wants to laud you and build you up, you'll have no truck with them - you must be torn down and degraded. So, apparently, your hard limits are being treated with respect, being valued as property, being treated as human, and, a few other silly things that one should never limit.

A slave who had no limits, in truth, would be just as happy to be serving, if he were forced to wear a violet wig, a strap on over his nose, hot pink fishnets, and a fireman's coat, while he washed dishes as he would be to sit quietly in a corner, looking pretty in a Brooks Brothers suit, until he was needed. He could sleep on a king-sized waterbed, with three slave girls to attend to his every need, drink only the best wine and eat only the best of gourmet foods from silver goblets and golden platters, and, still, humble himself as a slave. Even if his Mistress sat at his feet and begged to suck him off, every half hour or so.

Now, I am not suggesting a slave should live that way. I am saying, if you cannot be a humble slave while living that way, then, you do have limits.

If you would like to speak to your relatives, again, or would like to be kept from them, you have limits.

If you want the world to know that you are a slave, or, if you would prefer your Mistress not run down the street shouting "Look at him. He likes to be chained up and spanked. He wants me to sleep with other men!" you have limits.

Therefore, stop your "no limits" silliness, unless, you truly do not care if you live, die, are treated as a King, are maimed to inefficiency, are forced to wear women's clothes, are forced not to wear women's clothes, are castrated are not castrated, dream of being cast in a Viennese opera, would like to be forced to listen to rap music, or etc.

Limits is not BDSM related alone, or sex related alone, you know? A slave's life is not all sex or whips. And, even if questions on limits did only refer to those two areas, you have to be observant, have a look around, realize there is no common ground, no consensus on sanity, present; so, don't expect someone to understand what "the usual limits" mean. For one thing,bringing up castration or beheading is not usual, and either is bringing up pedophilia; yet, for people who are into those things, they would not be covered under "the usual." so, if you told them, "My limits are the usual." they would be all happy in the knowledge that you wanted the same thIngs they do. Thusly would many of you so-called "no limit" people be in for an unpleasant surprise, when you came hom from work to find little Jimmy beheaded by the same axe that is now headed for your balls.

The point? Really, I have to tell you? Okay: Figure out what you want, what you need, and, what you absolutely could not do without it destroying who you are as a person. These needs and need not to do's are your limits. The wants are where you hope to find futher common ground, but, should be prepared to compromise on.

Thank you for listening ... assuming you have.

Learned something new, yesterday. Ah, but, where do I start the telling?

 You see, I have been ill a very long time. Now, I won't go into all the symptoms. Suffice it to say that reading up on Fibromyalgia, Eppstein Barr, and Hypothyroidism would help you understand much.

 As I was ill, so very long, I spent most of my life reading up on health, nutrition, herbal nutrition, etc.; implementing what I could, contantly striving to win out over things that leave many people crippled shut-ins. This was with no active support from anyy doctors, family or friends, in the main. In fact, they often went out of their way to deny that I am ill and to try to force lifestyles on me that I simply could not live.

 A wee while ago, I found out that my having begun eating cabbage more often than lettuce (better nutrition per calorie), broccoli more often, drinking soy milk and sometimes substituing soy for meat -  all thing highly recommended in magazines, by doctors, etc. - was actually damaging my health, because they were making my thyroid worse. So, there I was eating extremely "healthy", losing my hair, putting on the pounds, getting dehydrated and dizzy, having trouble walking, muscle cramps abounding ...

 A wee while after that, I found out that all the times I kept telling the gymn teachers, school nurses, doctors, that I thought one leg was longer than the other, I was right.  Thats why my lower back was always hurting.

 This is long after I found out that I really am allergic to milk, dust, and mold.

 All of which I was told, for years, was a) as a child: pretend play and growing pains.  b) as an adult, symptoms of depression.

 Still with me? Twice, doctors told me I showed significant antibodies from the Eppstein Barr virus, but, they both told me it was over, meant nothing, all I needed was to eat right and exercise. Now, I kept telling the various doctors, throughout my life, that when I exercised, I got worse, not better. They chalked it up to me being divorced, overweight, depressed, and, more recently, premenopausal . Despite that when this all started, I was a size 5/7 who could walk 50 miles in a go, not married yet, and 14 years old. Despite that I was exceedingly happy to be divorced, and, even though I went so far as to have a very intense psychiatric forgot what they are called) which eat up the free radicals. I don't. So, the free radicals overwhelm, and, I get worse.

 Solution?

 Mega doses of Vitamin C, which I have done at various times, but, which doctor always told me would do no good, and, which I can seldom afford. Not just mega doses like "Pop an extra pill." Serious, crazy sounding mega doses. Once the body is saturated in Vitamin C, it has what it needs to fight the Eppstein Barr virus, and, only then, does exercise help.

Excerpt from email to slave:

"I was married before. It was very bad. Been divorced a very long time now, at his initiation. That is nothing to do with why I want slaves, though. I grew up reading a lot, watching movie, etc. There was always talk of servants, slaves, people serving in various roles in the military, etc.  I never saw it as weird, wrong, bad - except the way some people utilized their positions to make others miserable, or chose to lie to themselves and pretend that the cruelty you inflict on slaves, people of other nations, people of the opposite sex, or people of other skin tones, does not count to God.

 Slaves are useful, lovely people. So, for the selfish reason that I need help, I go out of my way to seek slaves. My life is a mess. There is need for at least one good slave.

 There are other reasons, though. There is a connection between someone who is owned by choice and their owner. It is a type of love, almost familial in nature. The belonging, it is good. And, I do believe the belonging is mutual. If you are my slave, then, I am your Mistress. There is mutual possession, respect, pride of place, etc.

 Also, I see things. I mean, it is not just that my life is a mess. It is that it is very frustrating to see someone who needs help, to understand what help they need, and, to have no means of administering it, so, to watch them suffer. With slaves, or even one slave, I could do a lot to help others, too. So, even my most selfish reason isn't all selfish.

 Think of it this way: In Arthurian legend, King Arthur did  a lot for Britain, but, he couldn't have done it without the Knights and Merlin. 

 Jesus had disciples to send out to do his work.

 Gandhi had his followers.

 Buddha was listened to.

William Wallace, by himself, was a well educated man with little better standing than a slave. With men serving under him,  he was something else, altogether.

  The role of dominant people is to serve, and, the only way they can serve, effectively, is to be served. I NEED to serve the greater good, as I am able. Therefore, I need to be served."

I seek slaves who are:

• Service oriented (cleaning, cooking, gardening, wage work, repair of homes, plumbing, fixing of vehicles, helping with research and editing of writing)
• Willing to accept my hard limits.
  
• Non-smokers (of anything. But, if you need to be disciplined into not smoking cigarettes, I am willing to help with that).
• Non users of drugs (limited quantities of alcohol may be permissible. Heavy pain meds, even though legal, are not.)
• Chaste (or, at least willing to not attempt to engage me in a sexual manner).
• Desiring to give. (Selfish people who demand "What is in it for me?" and a list of fetishes to be fulfilled are NOT slaves)
• Desiring of being owned property. (You will not make up the rules. I do not have to stay home and entertain you. I can go on vacation and leave you for extended periods of time and expect you to maintain your duties. I can stay home and get my work done. You will obey and function, as you are told to do, regardless of how I live my life.)
• Fairly healthy (no major health or mental health issues. Obviously being overweight is not a hindrance, and is, perhaps, something we could work on together).
• Truly willing to put in a hard day's work. (This is not all about fun and games, people!)
• Not seeking punishment (punishment is earned for bad behavior. So is dismissal. Do not seek punishment).
• Heterosexual. ( I don't care that you experimented in the past. I care that you will not upset my other slaves of whatever sex you are, or attempt to make the slave quarters a sex den.)
• Between the ages of 25 -50. (Exceptions may be made, but, you'd have to give me a very good reason for doing so).
• Filled with good self esteem. (I do not want arrogance, but, if you are truly willing to do ANYTHING, if you have no hard limits, if you will eat shit, screw animals, torture other people, allow yourself to be tortured - as opposed to disciplined - I do not want you in my life.)
• Willing to accept punishment ( without question or argument).
• Accepting of discipline (any discipline, anywhere from learning protocols, to being whipped and caged, then lightly brainwashed).
• Aware that real slavery can be hard, thankless and full of tedium. And, aware that slavery means full control of your body, mind, finances, and everything.
• Fun and slightly weird (I make jokes, sing off key in public, and generally have fun with my life. If you are the type who is easily embarrassed by such things, we are not compatible)
• Obedient.
• Local or ready to relocate. (If you are long distance, and you cannot relocate immediately, you have to be willing to serve financially from where you are, and, to obey my instructions, begin learning protocols, including providing proof.)

I have three basic positions, or ways, of slavery open for these persons.

# 1.  Live-in slave, of lesser money: Move in as a legitimate roommate, passing the background check, and  be used as a work slave, while also paying the bills. You retain control of your finances, otherwise.

Since you are legally a roommate, responsible for bills, there is no need of an extensive contract, but, a simple agreement will be drawn up between us. Slaves may begin in this category and move on to position #3 or down to position # 2, if desired.

# 2. Temporary worker/service slave:  No expectation of paying any specific bills, weekly payments, or etc. May have incidental costs related to work for me or entertainment, or, may not. This slave would voluntarily come to clean, make repairs, provide entertainment - as they are able 

Since you are only serving, as you have time and/or finances, there is no need for a contract. If we decide to go into any sort of play that might result in injury, there will, at that point, need to be a waiver signed, at least 

For the record, slaves who want to send me their keys and pay to get them back, slaves who simply want to buy gifts, slaves who are not local but wish to serve by entertainment or work when they come into town, or non-local slaves who want to make payments and have some light, non-sexual, discipline and protocol via the internet count in this category. Of course, slaves may start out in this position and, later, request to move to position #1 or #3.

#3. Full time live-in slave, of greater money: Weekly payments to your Mistress, purchase of Real Estate with cash or through the taking out of loans and paying of closing costs and down payment. More emphasis on the spending of your money, for furniture, clothes, baubles, etc.  Less emphasis on housework, since you are working so hard for wages, but, still expected to perform domestic slave duties.

You will sign a very serious contract, with fully legal complonents.

Slaves in this position may request to move down to position #2 or position # 1, if they have good cause. It is at my discretion, however, if they are allowed to take that step back.

In all cases, only applicants who meet my criteria, and who are ready and willing to be available, loyal, and obedient shall be considered or utilized.

Do let me know which position you are interested in, if you contact me!

If you are sure you are interested in being considered as a slave for me, you must change your profile. A person who wants to be my slave will not be actively seeking other dominants or switches. They will state that they are under consideration of Mistress Arletta on their profile. And, they will remove all pornographic material from their profile or journal, out of respect for me.

When I tell you it i time, you will also send me these photos (or a video showing same, will work):

1. Your face and chest in same photo. No sunglasses or masks. Chest unclothed, but, with genitalia covered.

2. Your back, unclothed. You may display your buttocks, but, you certainly do not have to.

3. As close to a full length photo as you can get. No sunglasses, no mask; fully clothed.

4. A close up photo of your face. No sunglasses, no masks.

5. A photo that is recognizable as the same person in all other photos, holding a sign that says "Boogaba Smythe lives on." The sign will be hand written. 

I will not seriously consider owning you, until I have received the photos.

If you are local, you must be prepared to meet very soon after contacting me. You will be paying for any necessaries of the meeting. Do not expect any form of domination or play, at this first meeting. Do not be surprised by it, either, if it happens. 

The first few meetings will always be in a public setting. I will not be entering into your home or vehicle. You will not be entering into my home.  You will come at the time you have been ordered to arrive, so that I may get there first. You will leave before I do.

If you are not local,  and cannot travel, soon, for a face to face meeting, we will be exchanging passport information via encrypted PDF files. If you do not have a passport, get one. You may block out the date of birth, as I will be doing so. This way, we both know the other person is real, and have enough information to inform the police if, upon meeting, something goes horribly wrong; yet, it is not enough information for identity theft.

Do not expect this to happen right away, but, do expect it to happen before contracts are signed!

You will be tested, by being given instructions on how and where to order something, and where to send it to. This will tell me if you are obedient and generous; and, tell you that I am being truthful about my existence, as well as being dominant.  It will not be terribly expensive, as in it will be less than $100.00. Generally, it is lunch or dinner for however many people are around, that day, from Dominos. That way, test results are in within the hour!

All potential slaves will be tested, questioned, re-questioned, tested again. You have to prove to me that you are attentive, obedient, and willing to do things that are not all about your own self-gratification.

You have to be able to state, clearly, what you want out of your enslavement, what your hard limits are, and what you know you need ("vanilla" and bdsm wise) to thrive as a slave.

You must know the difference between "want" and "need".

What we will discuss are the points mentioned on this profile. What we will not discuss is what my kinks are, explanations of how each day will go, or anything else that is so obviously questions from a person asking for fantasy material, rather than a person who is genuinely interested in being allowed to serve as a slave.

It is enough for you to know, about my kinks and such, that I will not accept magic practices, I am religious, no sex will pass between us, and you will never receive any permanent damage or markings from me (piercings, possibly being the exception).

I am not here to be your friend, lover, or entertainment. Service and obedience will commence soon after our meeting, upon this site or any other,  or you will be summarily dismissed from my life. So, be very sure of what you want, BEFORE you contact me.

If you have read this all, and, you are interested, and you are sure you are ready to begin, send me a message that says "Fluid joints ribbed incessantly northward." It can say other things, as well, but, I will not, necessarily, read emails from people I don't know, yet, who have not sent me those words. 

The problem with men, in a nutshell, is this:

 They have no problem providing pleasure for a woman, yet, they balk at necessity. Even when they claim to be slaves, even when the pleasure is at her demand and not their provision.

 Yet, what is most pleasurable for a woman is to have her necessities met. There is no joy in silk stockings arriving at the same time as the flu that cannot be shaken or treated; there is no merit in a fancy cut of steak to be cooked on a stove that does not work.  It is not happy making to be sent a silk dinner gown and invited to a party when you cannot afford the hair, makeup or shoes to go with it. And, going on vacation is a lacklustre experience, when one has been too ill to work and the rent is unpaid.

 Many slaves I have met who are willing to "serve" in the ways of "pleasure". Where is the slave who is actually going to bring pleasure with him, by fulfilling an actual need?

 Don't get me wrong! I love pretty clothes, good food, and all that. I have, however, lived without them the majority of my life, while growing increasingly in pain, because I was paying child support, providing clothes and food for my children, separate from child support, and fighting a custody battle that lasted over a decade (almost two).  I have also lived without even basic, decent, let's go find a job, clothes, proper health care, dental care, real haircuts, and many other things.  I did all this while being in so much pain,going through so many bouts of serious illness that the doctors begged me to give up, because I had to.  There was no other choice, because to do anything other than to work myself about to death would have resulted in my children having a far,far worse life than they did. And, their life was a horror, as it was.

 And, now, because I seek the sort of slaves who wish to be helpful and giving, to serve me and help me straighten out my life a bit, to give me some small pleasures that really would be pleasures for me, to share in a mutually beneficial relationship, where for once it was a relationship on my terms and not all about the man trying to force himself on me sexually or deny even the simplest pleaures - because I want there to be a balance, where we have enough of what we need to be happy and fulfilled in our roles - I am called ugly, stupid, lazy, crazy? Worse?

 I have a job, and with a helpful slave, I will be health enough to have a better one. Sure, I am overweight due to untreated long term stress and illness, and, with a helpful slave at my beck and call I can fix it.  I am not lazy, nor am I out of control. I am what happens when you take a beautiful young lady, marry her off to a psychopath, and, then not only never give her help to escape him, but, actively help him to destroy her looks, health, reputation, employment, and life, otherwise. Well, it is what happens when she is strong enough to survive.

 I can train slaves, I have experience. I am strong, intelligent, resourceful - and - fuck you very much - still beautiful. Fat, yes, but, beauitiful. I have needs, as all people do, and if some of those needs are met, I will be right back on my feet. The difference between me, and some of these other women on this site, is that I want to utilize you, make you part of something worthwhile, that benefits many, not just use you to entertain the one.

 If you really think you are not worthy to serve a real woman, who has thought things through and has an actual use for youi, then, I feel sorry for you. But, dont tell me that means I am lazy! Not when you are the one calling yourself a hard worker (slave) while acting as all selfish men do, seeking no work and all pleasure and to use women as only flesh.

Here's a news flash for you:

IF YOU ....

 .... cannot stand it when a woman knows what she wants and is honest about her desire to obtain it ...

.... complain "Oh, you want too much from me." and it is not about your hard limits ....

.... feel that any work you do, money you give, or attention you pay to a woman is trade-off for her sexual favors ...

.... think that making demands such as "You have to castrate me." or "You have to sit on my face.", or, in fact, any demands at all,  is appropriate ...

.... think that reading a profile is too much hard work ..

.... think that "true" slavery is about sexual contact or being humiliated by feces .....

.... feel the need to ask "Why do things always have to be done your way?", when speaking to someone in a dominant role ....

....  think that giving you a list of hard work, protocols to learn, restrictions to obey, while controlling your clothing, spending habits, food intake, etc. "has nothing to do with the lifestyle or its activities" ....

.. then, you are not a slave.

I've started a new group on yahoo, so that I can direct people to it, regardless of what other bdsm site I am on, without treading on any site-owned toes.

The group is for pure service slaves. Difficult concept to explain, but, it is basically that slaves, by definition, are workers who also have some share in your life, in whatever measure it is chosen to allow them.

Some slaves want just that. They do not want to be tied up and beaten for fun, or, at least, they do not want it to be the focus of the relationship. Nor, do they want the focus to be other forms of torture, degradation, humiliation, sexual use, or money.

"Pure service", however, does not refer to the fact that nothing bdsm related can occur, or even that it cannot be a loving, romantic relationship. It refers to the fact that it's the kind of service that focuses on the positive aspects of slavery, and on work, obedience, loyalty, and building up of the slave and owner.

Yes, it works for subs, Doms, tops, bottoms, etc. Titles do not matter. This is about service between two people who are not seeking to fulfill their "dark desires" in this way. They are, you know, seeking to have a loving relationship where there are clear rules and the dishes get done.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/pureservice/

Discipline:

1. a system of rules of conduct or method of practice;
2. the trait of being well behaved 
3. training to improve strength or self-control
4. in its most general sense, discipline refers to systematic instruction given to a disciple.

Disciple:

1. One who has received initiation from a spiritual master and then follows the path shown by the master.

Jesus' disciples were his students, and, by learning from him willingly, and following him, and believing in him, they became his slaves. And, by becoming his slaves, and continuing in faith, by doing the work he set them to do, they became more than slaves and became, also, friends. Some even became his brothers, Kings who will rule alongside him, at least for a time.

Colossians 4:1  YOU masters, keep dealing out what is righteous and what is fair to [your] slaves, knowing that YOU also have a Master in heaven.

Nowhere in the Holy Scriptures does it say that slavery is wrong, but, in many places it says outright, or by intimation, that abuse of slaves, sexual misuse of slaves, degradation, humiliation for no purpose, is unnatural and it is wrong, and, it will be paid back to the owners of the slaves.

I have told you, before, that I am a Christian. Not as in a person who thinks they are shiny perfection who can do no wrong, must wear the most expensive suits, can deliver a mighty lip service before slinking off into the dark to do what pleases their flesh .. but, as in a person who believes that Jesus is the great teacher, and, who strives to learn from him.

Therefore, do not come to me, expecting me to follow the discipline of Ms. Sutton, or whomever else you masturbate over. I am not a Suttonian. I am a Christian. Christ was and is the ultimate Master (barring one), who taught his slaves so very well, so truthfully, and with such discipline, that the faithful ones even laid down their life for him, after he was no longer dwelling in their presence. I think, therefore, he has it over Ms. Sutton, just a little (*wink*).

I will not teach you to do what I do not, or what I feel is wrong to engage in. This is true discipline, to turn away from the animal elements that man can so easily fall down into, and, instead, strive continually to overcome the flesh and to live by the spirit; to learn to be healthy in body and mind; to eschew the life of easy, lazy comfort and luxury, that Americans live and to live, instead, by quality of being.

Mind you, Jesus did enjoy a good garment, a fine meal, eating with his slaves and spending time with family and friends. However, the focus was not on extravagance, looks, wealth, bullying others - so, don't expect mine to be.

I can, and will, teach my slaves discipline; but, I will do so, remembering that I have a Master in heaven, who looks down upon me and sees how I believe slaves should be treated. I would treat them much the same, regardless, but, it is a help to me, to know that I, like the slaves, will be held to a certain standard.

This is discipline:

Colossians 3:1-25

1 If, however, YOU were raised up with the Christ, go on seeking the things above, where the Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 2 Keep YOUR minds fixed on the things above, not on the things upon the earth. 3 For YOU died, and YOUR life has been hidden with the Christ in union with God. 4 When the Christ, our life, is made manifest, then YOU also will be made manifest with him in glory.

5 Deaden, therefore, YOUR body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite, hurtful desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 6 On account of those things the wrath of God is coming. 7 In those very things YOU, too, once walked when YOU used to live in them. 8 But now really put them all away from YOU, wrath, anger, badness, abusive speech, and obscene talk out of YOUR mouth. 9 Do not be lying to one another. Strip off the old personality with its practices, 10 and clothe yourselves with the new [personality], which through accurate knowledge is being made new according to the image of the One who created it, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, foreigner, Scyth´i·an, slave, freeman, but Christ is all things and in all.

12 Accordingly, as God’s chosen ones, holy and loved, clothe yourselves with the tender affections of compassion, kindness, lowliness of mind, mildness, and long-suffering. 13 Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Even as Jehovah freely forgave YOU, so do YOU also. 14 But, besides all these things, [clothe yourselves with] love, for it is a perfect bond of union.

15 Also, let the peace of the Christ control in YOUR hearts, for YOU were, in fact, called to it in one body. And show yourselves thankful. 16 Let the word of the Christ reside in YOU richly in all wisdom. Keep on teaching and admonishing one another with psalms, praises to God, spiritual songs with graciousness, singing in YOUR hearts to Jehovah. 17 And whatever it is that YOU do in word or in work, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, thanking God the Father through him.

18 YOU wives, be in subjection to [your] husbands, as it is becoming in [the] Lord. 19 YOU husbands, keep on loving [your] wives and do not be bitterly angry with them. 20 YOU children, be obedient to [your] parents in everything, for this is well-pleasing in [the] Lord. 21 YOU fathers, do not be exasperating your children, so that they do not become downhearted. 22 YOU slaves, be obedient in everything to those who are [your] masters in a fleshly sense, not with acts of eye-service, as men pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, with fear of Jehovah. 23 Whatever YOU are doing, work at it whole-souled as to Jehovah, and not to men, 24 for YOU know that it is from Jehovah YOU will receive the due reward of the inheritance. SLAVE for the Master, Christ. 25 Certainly the one that is doing wrong will receive back what he wrongly did, and there is no partiality.

Now, a Master who owns a slave, why do they own the slave? Why, it is that the slave can work. And, what work does the slave do? It does the work the Master would do, if he had the time, or that the Master would pay a free man to do if he had the money, or that the Master would do if he had the strength, height, knowledge ....

Masters do not teach their slaves to do what Masters would not do, or not have those in their household participate in. They do not destroy their property, they do not teach their property to act in ways which are counter to the benefit of the household.

I believe the things which I have quoted to you, above. Therefore, these are part of who I am, or at least who I strive to be. This is how I intend to live, and this is the sort of household a slave must be both willing and able to fit into.

Loving correction, firm discipline, are part of that. Extreme abuse, humiliation, degradation, sexual misconduct or worse, is not part of that.

I saw this profile which said :

"I am seeking to be owned by a dominant woman or couple.  Seeking long term total slavery.  I do understand that my role will be to obey, serve and please my superiors.  I am deeply respectful, polite, obedient, a quick learner and extremely subservient.

Although I am not a masochist, I will meekly take all punishment/correction without complaint."

The "photos" on the profile were artwork related to real slavery scenarios, and, only one hinted at a fantasy aspect. So, that was nice. It was a male, claiming to be from New York, however, and that is usually a bad sign, as most of the profiles that send out viruses are from there.

Still, I took a chance and wrote to him.

He claims to want to be a true slave. However, when I told him how to address me and asked him what he is called, he proceeded to ignore that and give me one sentence, pithy little responses, that smacked of insolence, lack of interest, boredom, and/or multitasking.

I had told him I need a photo, what sort of photo it would be, and he told me he does not have a camera. Nothing about "but, I will go get one." or "I can borrow a friend's camera" or anything to indicate there was any willingness to participate. However, he did make excuses several times.

All of which leads me to believe that he, like most on here, is into fantasy and wasting other people's time, after all.

I have met two provably wonderful slaves on here, in all this time. I say provably, because, I mean, they stick around, they are polite, they listen to advice, and, they give what help they can give, from a long distance, without being owned. Strangely, they are, like me, in a sort of limbo, more often than not.

Something is very, very wrong here! No, they are not rich, no they are not the most handsome devils on the face of the earth (though, they are, by no means, ugly, either), but, they do want to be owned, to please, to work hard for their Mistress. They show respect.

If it's all about looks and money, it is not bdsm! It is not even real life, at all. It's just shallow, selfish bullshite. Where are the slaves who believe in slavery and the owners who want slaves who are more than sex toys?

Here is my feeling on the subject of possible slaves:

If someone claims to be a slave, and claims to have read my information on contracts and protocols, and, they claim to want to be owned by me - even that they are considering it - and, yet, they have not even so much as begun to greet me good morning, then they are too selfish, too thoughtless, too lazy, or an absolute liar.

If you read what pleases me and you wanted to please me, you would begin to do at least some of it, now. It would not matter if you were owned, yet - it is about feelings, not about law, after all.

This is your correction. Take it to heart and fix your attitude, slave. Or, cease to pretend you want to know me. You have had ample opportunity, thus far, but, it seems you have not taken it.

Mistress Arletta

I want a slave.

I do not want a submissive.

I do not want a sex partner.

I do not want a victim.

I do not need some namby-pamby effiminate being, afraid of their own shadow.

I do not need a selfish person out to fulfill their own kink.

I do not need a groveler.

I do not need those who seek abuse.

I need someone who boldly throws themselves into service, due to their aching need to give, to be needed, to be worth while, to be of use.

At least one.

A real slave.

Slaves:

• are more autonomous than submissives, while directly serving; but, less autonomous than submissives, in that they serve all day long, even when only able to do so by thought and desire.
• do not seek to have their desires fulfilled, because, their fulfillment lays in the fulfilling of their owner's desires.
• have limits, some of them are definite hard limits. They know that if they are broken, they can no longer function well, and, if they cannot function well, they cannot fulfill their purpose, which is to serve their owner.
• do not seek things which are negative: ruin, humiliation, abuse, torture.
• seek that which is positive: service, humility, usage, discipline.
• do not believe they have the right to make demands of their owners.
• do believe they have the right to basic food, shelter, and affection for their service.
• do not seek to be controlled, so much as to be led.
• do willingly what submissives willingly allow themselves to be forced into.
• have dignity, pride in their work, and they know that they have value.

So, let's cut through all the bullshite, what say? If you are looking for a good time, go have one. But, all your love of vibrators and strap ons, hair pulling, stockings, garter belts, etc. talk is not bringing me any closer to getting my book published, a hot cup of tea sitting on the table beside me,  the bed made, the rent paid, or anything else that a real slave is for the doing of.

Do you want to work (slave) or do you want to only play at being a slave (submissive)? I want the worker, the toiler, the one who accepts life on my terms. The one who will tell me what he needs to thrive and what he needs to not have so as to remain sound of body and mind, so that I know the best way to care for my property.

Get it?

Don't ask me "What will you do for me, Ma'am." or "How will you order me, Ma'am."  Rather, you tell me what you NEED, and I will tell you if I have room for that in my life. You tell me what you can fulfill of what I need, want, desire, tickles my fancy, etc. and I will tell you if you would be good enough to make do with.

You can read everything below, and, everything else you can find, if you want to; but, to put things in the simplest terms possible, this is what I want.

I say "I want a slave." You want to be a slave, and, you say, "Please, Mistress, let me be your slave." You mean it. You begin to serve. Life progresses.

Slaves who want to be slaves, who know who they want to serve, are not submissive beings that sit around waiting for the opportunity. They are not submissives. They are people with a deep driving need to serve, to belong, and when they see what and whom they need, they move in and take control - in such ways as they do have control.

If they have no control, they have no power; if they have no power, there is no power exchange.

Be bold, slave -or, stop calling yourself a slave.

Do you want to serve? Do you want to serve me? Will you do as pleases me? Will you be loyal to me?

Then, prove it and begin to act as my slave, and see where it gets you.

Welcome to my profile. It's kind of long, but, if you read it, in its entirety, it might be found to be worth your while.

I can help you to fulfill your potential as a slave, but, only if you fulfill my need for a potential slave.

First of all, I should tell you that I am weird as a bean. So, if you are stuffy and uptight, this will not work. I am not talking about kinkiness, by the way, but, a totally different weird altogether. I am prone to singing out loud, in public, and not necessarily any songs that have ever been written. I might sing an ode to the bus stop we are walking past, or a little ditty for the lost toilet paper that just rolled under the cabinet.

Recently, my daughter's girlfriend took us to the laundromat. She was outside smoking. We were inside, dancing with the carts, singing odd songs at each other. The only saving grace to this debacle is that we were, at the time, the only people in the facility. I don't know that we would have refrained, regardless.

We like to invite a 16 year old boy (one particular one, who is a family friend, mind) over so that we can force him to jump into the unheated swimming pool. It is cruel, in a thoroughly amusing way.

Usually, when we go to a restaurant, for reasons that are unfathomable, we end up speaking of something extraordinarily gross, and another restaurant. It was with a sense of pride that, last time I went out to eat, I managed to tell a story that killed those two particular birds with one very nasty stone.

Drama is offensive. Flatulence is funny. Offensive flatulence is even funnier, especially if it leads to drama from other people.

I may paint you in funny colors, weave flowers in your hair,  dress you otherwise badly, and take you to a nice, boring, family restaurant or movie.  I may do it to myself.

I love weirdos. I need inspiration.

I can, have, and may again, eat with utensils, sometimes even all the appropriate ones for the sort of food served, but,  only for fun. I would go to an opera, but, I will never take it seriously. I will go to a circus and take it very seriously.

This is who I am, this is what I do. Life is for living. Coffins are for being rude and stuffy in.

This is how one version of an ideal day would go for me:

I would wake up slowly, to the sound of a slave pottering about the house, doing his few simple morning chores. Opening my eyes , I'd see that he'd already been here, laying out my caftan and slippers, drawing the curtains, setting out my morning supplements on the night table along with the Bible, a small vial of oil, a small glass of orange juice, and a ripe pear.

I'd place the oil in my mouth, swishing it gently, as I read from the Bible. When I was through reading, it would be time to slip into my private bathroom, rinse out my mouth, have a quick shower, pat myself dry, and, then, to slip into my caftan and slippers. Supplements would be taken, juice dranken, and, biting into the pear, I'd make my way to the kitchen, where the rest of breakfast would be waiting, along with  a slave who would be serving his own breakfast onto his own dish, and then clearing away the mess from cooking with quiet efficiency.

Because he knows this is an ordinary sort of day, and that I enjoy seeing what is in his eyes, and he is past his training, he would come and sit at the table with me, and we would share a meal together, while discussing the plans and needs of the day. Fortunately for us both, it is a day without appointments.

He is off to his wage work, and I am off to my office (in the home) to first check on my websites that I am running, and, then, to write.  The slave clears up the dishes, quickly, as soon as we are done eating; then, makes sure the answering machine is on, picks up his homemade lunch from the refrigerator in the slave quarters, and goes on his way.

Another slave comes in, while I am working, and, proceeds to clean every room but the one I am in. When they are through, it is time for lunch, so they prepare it  and let me know when they are finished. While I eat lunch, they clean the room I was in. When I am done, they finish with the room, go to the kitchen, eat their own lunch, using their own dishes, and then clear up the mess from the meal.

Before cleaning, the slave was at it's wage work, and, after it is done cleaning, it goes back to the wage work.

A few hours later, the slave who has been outside gardening, comes in with a basket of vegetables and herbs. We need to supplement them with a few things from the grocery store, though, to make a good evening meal, so, he comes to inform me. Deciding to go with him, I slip into some "normal" clothes and we are off, him driving, me sitting in the back, comfortably stretched out and reading. When we get to the store, he hands me a list of the items he thinks we need. I add a few things to it, hand it back to him and give him permission to gather them together, while I go and look at other things, telling him to come find me in the other department when he is done.

When he is ready to go, and finds me, we proceed to the checkout counter, where he unloads the cart, and, when it is all rang up (by the clerk or by the slave), I hand him the credit card, store card, etc. to effect the purchase. He returns them to me, immediately after payment is made, picks up the groceries and whatnot, carries them to the vehicle (or uses the cart), installs them in the vehicle, and off we go home.

This is his day off. That is why he is doing the gardening and chauffeuring, as well as cooking dinner. Which, he goes back to his duties when we get home and I go to read, and, possibly, to take a nap. Or, perhaps, more writing.

When it is dinner time, all the slaves who are off work come in and we eat together. Afterward, and once the clean up is done, I suggest a movie. One of the slaves informs me that his chores are done for the day (and I know that they are), and asks if he may, instead of watching the movie, get online and chat with his family and friends. Since I will not be using the computer, and work was not going to be done either way, I decide to give him permission. The other slaves enter into a lively discussion of which movie to watch out of the three that have arrived from Netflix. Since they cannot come to agreement, and I have not come to a decision, we shuffle the movies and I let one slave pick. That's the one we watch.

After the movie, the slave who picked takes the movie and the envelope and prepares them for sending back to Netflix. He'll drop it off at the Post Office on the way to work, next time he goes. A last check for glasses, crumbs, etc. is performed by all, and the slaves go back to their slave quarters.

Mind you, that is just one day - there are many variations to how a day will go. But, you see how it is? Simple, elegant, not a lot out shouting, pleading, pain, trauma, or drama. Permission is sought, without force, out of respect and thoughtfulness of the slave - which, yes, partially comes from good training of the slave, but, mostly comes from the slave being that sort of person to begin with.

Here's another example of a fine day. Assume everything is the same, until after dinner. After dinner, the doorbell rings. Our doorbell is attached to the outer gate and is a real bell, that goes bong, because it's old-fashioned and neat. It doesn't go bong too loudly, though, as we do not want to upset the neighbors. It also causes the other doorbells to ring, on all buildings. This is annoying to me, sometimes, but, it does alert the slaves that whomever is on duty better shake his tail feather as I so do not like to hear that twice. The sign says to do it once, but, some people are jerks, you know?

The slave runs and answers, to find himself confronted by three women he's never seen before. He's not seeing them now, either, because they have slipped on masks and are wearing robes or other concealing garments. He is told that Mistress has invited them. Of course, Mistress has not told him this. So, being a dutiful slave, he returns to me and tells me what is occurring. "Oh yes." says I, "I had quite forgotten. Do show them in, Sneddles." The slave is not named Sneddles. He has learned, however, not to argue the point; as well as to answer to most anything, by way of name or title.

Sneddles, formerly known as the slave, ushers the three mysterious figures in, offering to take their wraps; but, the mysterious figures are having none of that. "We agreed not to remove our wraps until you all are properly blindfolded." announces one of the figures.

The ladies bring out blind fold material and duct tape.

"Let them do what they will, slaves. " I say.  The slaves obey, and, soon, are blindfolded, with duct tape securing the blindfolds in place and covering over areas that traditionally can be seen through by sneaky types. All of them are wearing gags. They have all been guided to pieces of furniture which they are laid across, or bent over, and their clothing loosened just enough that their rear ends are prominently displayed.

Each slave is then attached to noise cancelling headsets which are, in their turn, attached to a portable stereo. On each stereo, a disk is being played. The disk is a combination of music, and me, giving instructions, guidance, to the slave. No two disks are the same.

Nothing that happens to the slaves is exactly the same. One has a stool placed between his legs, under his genitals, so that they rest in a bowl of water and ice, mostly ice, unless he stands on his toes to avoid it. A small piece of peeled ginger is inserted into his rectum, which means that when he moves to try to keep off the ice, he squeezes the ginger and receives a sting. It's not so bad, though, in the short term. It's when he's been there, for about 10 minutes,  occasionally hoping for a little relief as the ginger threatens to fall out (but is pushed back in) or as the water begins to warm (but the ice is renewed) and he is getting tired, that he begins to worry. And, that is when he feels the first lash, as the crop hits his left thigh .. then his right thigh .. then his left buttock ... then his right buttock.  

Now, most slaves, who are not pain sluts, would do their best to struggle free - they couldn't help themselves. This slave is no exception. What he has not reckoned with is the other slave. The one that he forgot had been duct taped to his wrists, by their wrists, who is across the table from him, experiencing who knows what.

The slaves have no idea who is doing this to them. They cannot hear anything but me, they cannot see anything. They can only feel the pain and discomfort, or the pleasure, as things are done to them. They will not know, am I doing it? Is one of the other ladies? Are we taking turns? Are some of us doing it, while the others are watching?

When the fun is over, the slaves will be cut free from each other, but, ordered to stay in place until they have permission to move.  One at a time (or in groups of two, I guess) they will be given this order by me, as they are cut free. No other female voice will be heard. When the slaves are given permission to move, they will remove their blindfolds and ordered to clean up their mess before bedtime.

As I said, there are many variations on how a day can go.

Ideally, the slaves I have will prefer to live more like the first day described, but, quite willing to enter into and enjoy the second day's activities. In other words, normal, laid back life with slavery involved, but, some fun and more intense moments, of varying flavors.

My long term goal is the establishment of a home, that includes one or more slaves (but, not too many). However, right now I am living in a one-bedroom apartment, with my daughter (who is an adult and is aware of my wanting to own slaves), so, I am definitely open to starting out smaller, with a slave for the apartment, and, progressing for there; or, even, a slave who is not live-in, but, who wants to serve in a more limited fashion (time-wise), though, under full ownership.

My current contract, which was written with the view of establishing a home, is in 5 stages, plus 2 documents  (1 legal in a court of law) for the protection of myself and for the protection of the property of the slaves who come to me, not because they need to be protected from me, but, to reassure them that they can relax and trust in me and that I will not, as others might do, strip them of all their worldly possessions and then dump them back out into the world.

The legal document defines the majority of the financial aspect of the relationship, and, also, the confidential nature of the other document.

The other document better defines the relationship by type, with more detail into how some aspects mentioned in the legal document will be executed. It is still, somewhat, watered down with legalese, just in case; because, slave, you are not the only one who has ever been burned!

The second document, for slaves that need relocation, requires four signatures. One before relocation, and three signed over three 30-day periods. For slaves who do not require relocation, that would be altered to just the three signatures.

In other words, I am serious about this. I want to own slaves, I want myself and the slaves to be legally obligated to perform within the roles we will be living - they will be legally obligated to provide service, I will be legally obligated to provide training.

I am not having much luck finding slaves who understand the contracts. They read contracts which state that I am legally obligated to train them, that the training may include things that are considered harsh or cruel by those outside the relationship but that the slaves agree to it, etc. and they tell me I am too soft, I am only looking for money, I sound like someone who doesn't know what they are talking about. (sigh)

Maybe the problem is that they only skim the document looking for "Gor" , and, when they read nothing that says "And, thusly, shall I wield the whip of doom upon your naked flesh upon ever quarter hour." they decide the document is not worth reading and discussing.

Certainly, none of them, so far, have gotten this point: ready for it? Going to read it and understand it? Okay, here goes: Are you sure? Alrighty then: Many things are negotiable, because not all slaves are alike - there are different abilities, financial situations, health issues, work schedules, needs, and even desires, to consider.

So, if you read the contracts, I suggest you read them a few times each, all the way through. Study them, just as if the rest of your life (or, at least, hopefully, a good many years of it) are hanging in the balance and that this is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Envision how it would work for you - make notes of what is not likely to work and why. Make notes of what you would like to have added, and why.

Share these notes with me. Explain your reasons, your fears, your doubts, your hopes. This is a time for frank and honest discussion based fully on reality, not fantasy.

And, keep in mind - because this is vitally important - these are contracts that set the legal aspect and the tone of the relationship, the vows, the times when the contract may be altered and why, etc.  These documents are not about training.

There is protocol, which I have written, which is mildly about training, but, it is only basic stuff, like hygiene and opening doors, etc.

That is because training, duties, and any possible play, reward, punishment, etc. are all to be determined by the personality and needs of the individual slave, and, therefore, can not be set in a contract that is not written for any slave in particular, or, in the case of contract negotiation, any slave that I do not know yet. If the contract needs to be tweaked further, as time goes on, it will be.

I need you to understand that, and to not judge my abilities or desires based on what aspects of them are lacking in representation in the documents. That is not what those documents are for.

If you want to know me and  my abilities, my desires, you actually have to enter into my life, serve me for a time, and see what transpires. Though, you could try a frank and honest discussion of such things, reading journal entries, etc. too.

I am going to attempt to break the contracts down into sections and explain them in my journal entries, because they can be overwhelming when coming at a person all at once. I say attempt, because, I tried to show an example of contract, before, and it was deleted immediately. I don't know why, since I ran into a slave who has a full contract on his profile and he stated that he needs a domme that will agree to it. But, whatever ... I will attempt. If you do not find them, then go look on yahoo for mistressarletta and they will be on the blog of that profile, instead.

The profile photo, and, most of the other photos, were taken on January 8th, at the Tucson Mall, in the first stall of the Lane Bryant dressing room.  I'm poor, but, inventive.

These are some basic training protocols that I have written out, which people are free to adapt to their own personal use, begin practicing to see how they would like to live with them, begin practicing because they are sure they want to serve me, ignore freely, or whatever.

This, to me, is a mystery, because, I have been informed that, much like my contracts, these training protocols have nothing to do with slavery of any sort; they show an utter lack of desire to control the slave in any fashion, etc.

Which, what that says to me is that someone did not really read anything I wrote - or, not much of it - ever. Nevertheless, for those who do care to read it, here it is: 

Confidential Basic Training Protocols:

This document encompasses the general basic training protocols which all persons who are being trained by me will learn and live by, and, also, as time goes on, will encompass protocol more specific to the individual.

They will learn and live these basic protocols, to whatever extent they can before we are living together or within close proximity, and they will learn them to perfection once we are established in our living quarters within close proximity to each other.

If more than one client is being trained, they may observe that their protocols are not the same as they are for another, either from the beginning of service, or having been altered over time. That is because there may be exceptions made to these basic protocols, based on knowledge of specific needs I will have for the clients, specific needs of the clients, or specific circumstances which make alteration necessary. I do not require, but am certainly allowed, to obtain permission of these clients to alter the protocols which affect them.

All alterations of these protocols will be made by me. However, it should be noted, to the clients, as they wish to be trained in the arts of submission and slavery, that slavery and submission are both a great deal like sex, in this way: some persons are more skilled at giving you what you need, to make it right for you; but, to increase your pleasure, they still require feedback – at least, in the beginning.

For the sake of this training, the client will be referred to as slave and the one training him will be referred to as Mistress. These are not legal descriptions]

f position in society, but, an affectation for the sake of further enhancing his training.

So, dear slave, if you see something that you know you are going to have trouble doing (such as kneeling, if your knees don't work that way), if there is something that you believe would help you learn these arts better, you must tell Mistress; but, not to nag, demand, or cajole Mistress – a simple explanation of your thoughts is enough.

Every day Protocols

These will be broken down into five sections: Etiquette toward All, Etiquette toward Mistress, Hygiene, Specific to Duties, and Explanation By Time of Day. Obviously, it is the latter two sections which are likely to be the most altered for the individual client.

Section I: Etiquette toward All

• A)When in doubt, the slave will fall into proper social etiquette as defined by current polite Western societal standards or as define by Miss Manners

• B) The slave will use phrases, such as, but not limited to, “Please”, “Thank you.”, “No, thank you.”, “Yes, Sir.”, “No, Sir.”, “Yes, Ma'am.”, “No, Ma'am.”, “Yes, your Honor.”, and “No, your Honor.” within appropriate context, and, in a tone that is both polite and modulated to fit the situation.

• C) He will ask for clarification of what he does not understand that he needs to understand. To this end, he will take notes, as necessary, to aid his memory and understanding.

• D)The slave will use his own mind to be self-governing enough not to make unreasonable demands upon his Mistress for time and attention.

1. Unreasonableness is to be defined by Mistress, as well as Mistress's laws and rules, and societal laws and rules of social etiquette. It is never defined by the slave, though, he is allowed some leeway to explain why he thought something was reasonable, before any punishments or disciplines are decided upon, in most situations.

• E) If he has good advice to give, or physical assistance to render, to another individual, who is in obvious need, he will offer same.

1. He will use common-sense based discretion. IE: He will not give homeless persons who are asking for money for food any money. He will offer to buy them a meal, and, he will either sit and eat with them or he will purchase them “fast food” so that they may eat elsewhere. If he has leftovers, he may give them those, instead.

2. If he is with Mistress, he will ask for her permission for him to render assistance.

3. If it is an emergency situation, he will do his best to inform Mistress of his intent, but, he need not ask, or wait, for permission to render assistance. He will not be punished for failure to ask or give notice, in these circumstances.

• a) Emergency is defined as:

1. life threatening,

2. in the midst of a serious physical injury occurring or likely to be occurring, anything wherein a woman with child (in belly or out) or a child is stranded or ill

3. wherein persons of our acquaintance (very good friends, neighbors, family members) are under some form of time constraint that cannot be altered. IE: The neighbor needs to get to a doctor's appointment in a half hour and his car died, but, Mistress is not available to ask for permission of to leave. The slave would write a message to Mistress explaining it in brief, and give a more thorough explanation, if necessary, upon his return or by phone.

• F) Slave will address all other females as Ma'am or Miss, and all other males as Sir, regardless of their position or status – unless that position or status requires the use of their title, instead. The exception being that the slave may continue to address his own family and friends, should he be addressing them at all, in the manner that they are accustomed to; and, that the slave may begin to address others in the manner they have indicated they are most comfortable with. IE: If Mistress' nephew says “Call me Damon.”, then, the slave shall call him Damon.

• G) Driving/ Chauffeuring:

1. Slave will obey all traffic laws to the best of his knowledge and ability.

2. Slave will obey all officer's of the law, to the best of his knowledge and ability; including staying out of the way of emergency vehicles.

3. Whomever the slave is chauffeuring to some place where he will not be entering in, the slave will pull up to the nearest legal position, relative to the door, and allow them to exit; he will then watch for them to exit the buildings, so as pull up to the entrance or as near as possible to pick them up when they are ready to leave.

4. If slave is chauffeuring someone and he will be entering the same place as they, he will follow the same basic protocol as listed above, except that he will, after parking the vehicle, enter into the building or dwelling and take a stance in an appropriate hallway, or a seat upon an appropriate piece of furniture, and wait for them to return to him. The exception being, of course, if he knows that he will be needed to carry packages, give advice, try on clothing, or etc.

5. If the slave is chauffeuring other slaves, he will park the vehicle with the other slaves inside, instead, and they will all walk together, unless it is otherwise amicably decided between them; or, of course, unless it is ordered by Mistress or by circumstance. IE: If a slave has a broken leg, the chauffeuring slave should give as much aid as possible in limiting that slave's walking to and from the vehicle.

Section II: Etiquette toward Mistress:

Obviously, the Etiquette toward All is encompassed within and expanded upon, rather than excluded by the Etiquette slaves will show toward Mistress.

• A. The slave will always offer good advice and/or physical assistance to assist his Mistress in matters of which he is likely to be more knowledgeable or capable, or, sees her making a definite error; but, always, politely and keeping in mind his status and her own. The exception is, of course, if Mistress has ordered the slave to refrain from giving such advice or assistance.

• B. He will always wait to eat until after Mistress is served, regardless of whether in private or in public, unless ordered to do otherwise.

• C. Walking:

1. Slave will walk with a purposeful gait, neither shuffling his feet or walking with unbecoming slowness.

2. On most occasions, the slave will walk a few steps behind his Mistress, stopping when she has stopped, resuming movement when she has resumed movement. If she sits, he will sit and stand nearby, as is appropriate and possible. He will approach her only when beckoned. If he has need, he will produce a colored card and hold it in such a way that it will be visible to her when she has reason to look at him. Only in absolute emergency, including suddenly realizing how ill he is, or when ordered by Mistress, may this be altered.

3. Though he walks behind her, on most occasions, the slave will walk ahead of Mistress in order to open doors for her in public settings, or, at the outer door of the entrance to Mistress' home when she is either leaving or returning; this includes the slave opening and closing vehicle doors for Mistress or boarding transportation ahead of Mistress so as to stow away baggage for both Mistress and himself.

4. Though he walks behind her on most occasions, the slave will walk beside Mistress, unless she indicates otherwise, whenever they are near traffic, and he will always position himself on the side of Mistress that is closest to moving traffic. IE: If slave and Mistress are walking down a sidewalk, slave will walk on the outside portion of the sidewalk, so that Mistress is further away from the road. When crossing the street, slave will remain on, or move to, the side of Mistress which is now closest to the moving traffic, rather than the traffic which has stopped for the red light.

• D. Slave will only enter the home of Mistress when scheduled or when invited, unless due to an emergency situation such as fire, flood, serious injury, serious illness, invading armies, earthquake, gas leak, or other emergencies which threaten loss of life or limb of Mistress , the slave, or someone of their acquaintance.

• E. Slave will kneel and wait for permission to enter, at the entrance to whatever room Mistress occupies, when she is at home. Exceptions are if the slave has been ordered to carry in a package, food, tray, conduct a guest to Mistress, or if there is a person present who is not privy to the confidential acts and protocols associated with this training.

• F. Slave will never test Mistress, to judge her knowledge, skills, worth as a Mistress, or otherwise to judge her. The slave will do his best to follow protocol, perform tasks and chores assigned, generate an income for the sake of Mistress first and her household second, show politeness to all, refrain from fighting with other slaves, and to serve Mistress in any other way she wishes or needs to be served.

1. This includes the use of basic common sense. If Mistress does not wish to be approached, but, she is obviously distracted or ill where it has put her in danger or has caused her to do something of great social embarrassment which the slave may conceal or rectify, he must do so, despite that he may need to break other protocols to do so. IE: Mistress walks out of the bathroom with her dress caught in her pantyhose (it happens to many women). In this situation, the slave does not stand politely by, flashing cards at Mistress, but, comes to shield her from prying eyes, and informs her of the faux pas in a polite manner.

• G. He will always look for ways to build up Mistress ' life, by increasing comfort, happiness, health, safety, and general well being in ways that reflect Mistress ' own choices with how to live.

• H. He must always greet Mistress good morning and goodnight, though it does not always need to be those exact words. Even if Mistress cannot hear him, or see him, he must do so. If at all possible, such as through email or instant message, he will make sure she receives these greetings.

• I. He will keep a journal and write in it, at least 15 minutes a day, detailing his thoughts, feelings, and activities. This is to be shared with Mistress whenever she requests it.

• J. Online, if the slave should remain online and in such a site as there might be persons who are considered Mistresses, Masters, Dommes, slaves, or submissives, where the site is geared toward bdsm activities or talk, the slave will represent himself as the property of Mistress Arletta, and will not seek out conversation with other Mistress or dominants, real or pretend, without the permission of Mistress Arletta. To whit: the slave will change his profile on the site where he met Mistress to indicated that she owns him, and he will also change his “actively seeking” status to the one indicating that friends are all he is seeking.

• K. When Mistress family or friends are at her home, and they are family or friends who are not aware of the slave and Mistress relationship, or if someone in a more official nature in society (work men, police officers, clergy, postal employees, etc.) is present, the slave will not enter Mistress home, even if scheduled, unless summoned.

1. If the slave is already in the home, when the door bell rings or someone knocks, he will immediately shut off any noisy tools, such as a vacuum before Mistress answers the door. He will shut off any water he may be running, turn off any cooking that may be dangerous to leave for a few minutes, and move quietly to the exit which will allow him to move to his slave quarters and await Mistress there.

2. If the slave finds or suspects that he is unable to make a discreet exit from Mistress ' home, he will, instead, remain quietly where he is, trusting that Mistress will do her best to keep the visitors from him, or to explain his presence to them should that be impossible to keep them from the presence of the slave.

• L. The use of cuss words, curse words, swearing is offensive and shall not be practiced. It shall be practiced to not do these things. The exceptions are where the slave is quoting or naming a movie, entertainer, song, book, or person where these sort of words happen to have been used (and Mistress wishes him to do so), reading this contract, explaining what was said by someone else to Mistress , or in some other way being a legitimate use of the words for the purpose of informing Mistress of something she needs to know.

1. If the slave is found to utter these words or phrases that offend Mistress , the slave will, almost certainly, be slapped in the mouth.

2. If he continues, he may also be subject to more rigorous punishment.

3. These words and phrases include, but are not limited to: ass, cunt, slut, fuck, god damn it, oh my fucking god, omfg, goddess, Goddess, asshole, shit, fuckle bunny, fuckhead, fuckface, ass rimmer, eat my ass, suck my duck, eat shit and die, eat shit and live, fuck you, fuck me, fuck my life, fuck the world, yeah well fuck them, fuck off, fuck off and die, burn in hell, go to hell, on the highway to hell, nig-ger, kike, spic, wap, dago, little white shicksaw, ofey, ofay, cracker (obviously, this may be used when mentioning the food or food group), white bread (same rule as cracker), jigaboo, jungle bunny, towel head, sand nig-ger.

4. Obviously, the spirit of the speech is at least as important as the actual words used. It is, therefore, up to the discretion of Mistress to decide if the words being used constitute swearing or cussing, by the sound of their ugliness and inappropriateness to her ear. IE: If you call someone butt floss, despite that neither word is a swear word, it will be determined as you swearing or cursing, and you will, almost certainly, be slapped.

• M. The slave, regardless of what other languages he speaks, will address Mistress in English, preferably as spoken by the more well-bred American types, unless she has given him leave, or directly asked him, to do otherwise.

• N. What is Mistress ' is Mistress' and is not for the use of slaves, unless exceptions have been given.

1. If a slave is working in the home of Mistress and finds himself in need of using the bathroom, he will remove himself to the slave quarters to do so. If possible, he will obtain the permission of Mistress first. In absolute emergency situations, he will leave her home, without permission, for this purpose. If she notices, he will apologize, but, he will not interrupt her day to tell her of this, unless it is to inform her that he is ill.

2. Slaves who are assigned to prepare meals may bring their own glass to drink water, their own dishes to serve themselves food upon, and may even have some of the same food and drink as they have prepared for Mistress in their own dishes. They are not to use Mistress ' dishes or utensils for their own need, however; they will only use them to prepare food for and serve food to Mistress .

3. Slaves will have their own laundry soap, bedding, dishes, toilet tissue, cleaning supplies, wash cloths, towels, clothes, etc. They will only touch Mistress ' items if in service to her or if she has given them express permission to do so. They will never ask to use them, but, will wait for Mistress to give permission or not to give permission as she sees fit. IE: Mistress tells the slaves to wash their loincloths and bedding, and they do not have enough laundry soap for the loads. They will inform Mistress they only have enough laundry soap to do half the work, or that they have run out. She may, then, choose to tell them to use some of her laundry soap, to wash them without laundry soap, to only wash the loincloths and to wait to wash the bedding until more laundry soap can be obtained, or, whatever else it is in her head to order them to do.

• O. The slave will earnestly seek ways to improve his mind, his understanding of Mistress , his knowledge of ways to serve Mistress (ie: learning about gardening in the southwest), and will ask the permission of Mistress for time set aside to pursue these goals, for such things as reading time, the attending of classes (which he must also ask if Mistress will pay for, if they are not free classes), the seeking out of other persons with more knowledge in this area of service or work, etc.

• P. In general, the slave will not leave the home of Mistress without Mistress or a family member or a guest of Mistress being with the slave.

1. On the occasions where the slave must leave by himself, or only in the company of another slave or other slaves, Mistress may assign him a cell phone by which to stay in communication.

2. If it is still possible, and affordable, the cell phone will be one that has the capability of only calling the few numbers Mistress allows.

3. Regardless, the slave will be accountable for the minutes used, and if the minutes are significantly more than can be accounted for by his conversations with Mistress , the slave may receive a paddling or stroke of the whip, or similar punishment, for each excessive minute used, at the discretion of Mistress and upon explanation by the slave.

4. The slave will leave the cell phone on, whenever possible, and answer it as promptly as possible.

5. If there is an emergency, he will call, or have someone else call, Mistress, as soon as possible.

• Q. As Mistress does not celebrate birthdays, national holidays, or religious holidays, outside of the Memorial of the Death of the Christ, the slave will not greet her with holiday greetings, wishes for a happy birthday or speak to her in ways that indicate he is celebrating such even on or near her property; nor will he purchase presents for those occasions for Mistress or for her guests or for her family. To speak so will be considered the same as cursing or swearing and will receive the same punishment. Explanation: This does not mean the slave cannot buy presents and wrap them in the slave quarters. It means he will not say greetings, hang decorations, invite people over for a holiday dinner, etc.

• R. Mistress will not be interrupted in activity or speech, for any reason barring emergency.

• S. Slave will not gaze directly into eyes of Mistress, without permission or order.

• T. The slave will not engage Mistress in conversation, without permission. If she chooses to speak to the slave, he may respond, but, he will not initiate conversation, except in matters of extreme importance. He is expected to be out of sight and out of mind, unless Mistress chooses to grant him an audience or otherwise spend time with/on him.

1. There will be a very small lamp in the living room that has a small nite-light bulb in it. If the slave needs to speak to Mistress concerning something significant or extensive, the slave will turn this light on. When Mistress see it lit, she will approach the slave at her convenience, and allow him to converse.

2. If Mistress chooses to allow the slave the freedom to speak, she may turn the light on, or, she may simply inform the slave in writing or in person. This indicates to the slave that he is free to make general conversation as Mistress would enjoy it, at this time, and he may speak openly, but, respectfully.

3. Mistress will have several areas throughout her home for writing notes to the slave, as well as having provided duty charts. There will also be an area, near where Mistress sits to write that will have a message center where she will know to check for messages from the slave, should there be a need for him to leave any. This will be one of the primary methods of communication between Mistress and slave.

4. Mistress will assign a set of colored cards to the slave, which may be made out of whatever materials she so chooses. These cards will act as signals between Mistress and slave in public situations or in private situations where the lamp is not available or not in proper working order, or in case of emergency.

• a) The red card will be for emergencies. This may be used in conjunction with other cards, to indicate the nature of the emergency.

• b) The green card is for illness. This will be flashed to indicate if the slave is ill and needs to ask for rest, or a doctor's appointment. If the slave has a sudden need to use the restroom, due to illness, he will flash both the red and green card. Or, if flashing them will not be sufficient to gain her attention, he will leave both the red and green card by the lamp or upon the entryway which Mistress will likely be passing soonest.

• c) The yellow card is for bathroom usage, including a need for personal grooming. If the bathroom usage is urgent, but, not related to illness, the slave will show Mistress both the red and yellow card.

• d) The orange card is to ask permission to speak freely, and may be used at any time in which the other cards do not apply; but, the slave should be aware that if Mistress is not amused by his choice of usage, she may punish him for being indiscreet with her favors.

Section III: Hygiene

A) Dental Hygiene

1. Slave will brush his teeth at least twice a day, once upon arising and once right before bedtime. He may brush more often, if it is causing no harm to his teeth or gums, and it is not interfering with his duties. He will brush each tooth for at least a few seconds each, and his tongue, totalling at least two minutes of teeth-brushing activity per session.

• On Mondays, the slave should use tea tree oil toothpaste or a mixture of baking soda and tea tree oil, as this helps the health of gums.

• On Wednesdays, the slave should use a toothpaste with green tea in it, as this helps prevent the process that causes plaque. Or, he may use green tea essential oils or extracts combined with baking soda.

• In the evenings, slave will add at least 5 drops of grapefruit seed extract to his toothpaste, whether his toothpaste is handmade or store bought. He must mix it in thoroughly before using on his teeth or he might injure his gums as this is a concentrated product.

1. Slave will floss his teeth at least once a day, in the morning, either directly before or directly after brushing his teeth.

2. Slave will gargle and rinse with Listerine (the good, old fashioned, yellow, stingy kind) at least once per day, before retiring to bed for the evening.

3. Slave will gargle and rinse with water, whenever possible, after every meal, unless he is going to full-on brush his teeth, instead.

B) Bathing/Showering Hygiene

1. Slave will, to the best of his ability, wash his face, feet, groin, and armpits three times a day: once upon arising, once before coming in for the evening meal with Mistress, once before retiring. If he is taking a full shower at any of these times, the full shower counts as him having performed this duty.

2. At least once per week, the slave will render himself completely nude, so as to apply a solution comprised of a mixture of olive oil, Dawn dish soap, grapefruit seed extract poured over Epsom salt, to his flesh. If he is in chastity, this will always be done on the day he needs to clean the device.

• a) Slave will, to the best of his ability, hold the Epsom salt in one hand, pour the liquid mixture over the Epsom salt, and, quickly, scrub it lightly over his entire body, starting with his throat and working his way down, excluding the groin and buttocks.

• b) He may ask Mistress or another slave for help with his back or other areas he cannot reach, so long as they are not his buttocks or genitalia, or, so long as there is a medical reason for it.

• c)He will then do the same to the groin and buttocks, in that order. He should, then, rinse his hands, and apply a little of the liquid solution (no salt) to his hair, face, and ears, massaging it in.

• d) He may renew the handful of Epsom salt as needed.

• e) He should wait at least five minutes, after he has scrubbed or massaged the lotion over everywhere required by the above instructions, and, then, rinse himself off with warm water, before showering, bathing, or both, with his usual shampoo, soap, or whatever is used.

• f) After showering or bathing, the slave will use two cotton swabs, both ends dipped into approximately 3% hydrogen peroxide solution, to gently cleanse his ear canal and various surfaces of the inner and outer ear (one side of one swab for one ear, the other side of the same swab for the other ear), and then to cleanse his nasal passages (one tip of the second swab to clean one nasal passage, and then the other tip for the second passage).

C) Shaving hygiene

Mistress is not amused by excess hair. If she wants to see the stubble of slaves, she will inform them. If she wants them to have a moustache or beard, she will inform them of that, as well. The slave will keep himself well groomed in this respect, including the shaving of his legs, arms, back, face and/or wherever else he is excessively hairy. The slave will also learn how to pluck his eyebrows for his face shape and commence to doing so, if needed to keep them looking kempt. Alternatively, if the slave will not, or cannot, comply, the Mistress may shave him completely bald, as punishment; she may inflict corporal punishment upon him for each offending hair she espies; and/or she may send him to be waxed or have laser hair removal procedures done so as to eradicate the offending hair.

Section IV:Specific to Duties

When the slave has been assigned specific duties, those duties will be listed herein and protocols for same shall be listed, as well. Until then, he is required to learn these specific protocols which are for the duties that are common for all slaves.

• A)The slave will, for now, orient himself to following the advice of the 15 Minute Clean Up Guides for the various rooms of the home.

1. To do this, slave should either copy and paste the guides, individually, into another document and print them out so that he may review them as needed, as he is learning them for each room, or, he should neatly write them by hand, on separate pieces of paper, for the same reason.

2. If he can, he should have them laminated and taped or tacked to the wall of the appropriate room, until he has learned them well enough that he no longer needs to view them.

3. Please note that the reason the title of the guides has “15 Minute” in it, is that the guides are written to help persons become more efficient in quick cleaning their home on a daily basis, and, on average, for a relatively small and well-organized home, 15 minutes is how long this should take, once a routine has been established.

4. That, directly above, is the goal. Slaves who are only starting out learning to follow the guidelines should strive for improvement of time and accuracy of cleaning, rather than worry about receiving punishment. You are being trained. Mistress does not, yet, expect perfection.

15 Minute Cleaning Guide: Bathroom

Gather supplies before starting: all purpose cleaner, window cleaner, scrubber, sponge, toilet brush, mop (if needed), rubber gloves, utility caddy to hold all

1. Remove the knick-knacks and place them in the hallway. Remove the throw rugs and shake them out. Put them in the laundry to be cleaned if needed.

2. Sweep or vacuum the floor.

3. Spray the counter top and let your cleaner do the work (use the homemade cleaner recipe from our web site. It really works.) Spray the mirror and wipe it down.

4. Spray the toilet with cleaner inside and out. Let the cleaner sit.

5. Go back to the counter top. Scrub and wipe it down.

6. Spray the bath tub and shower down (you may not need to do this every week if your bath tub doesn't get that dirty).

7. Scrub the inside of the toilet with a brush. Flush the toilet to rinse the bowl. Wipe down the outside. Don't forget the place behind the seat and the outside of the toilet bowl and base.

8. Scrub the tub down and rinse. Hint: if you want to clean the shower curtain you can wash it by itself in the washing machine in cold water on the delicate cycle. Remove it promptly and hang it back up to drip dry. Never put it in the dryer.

9. If you have linoleum or tile, mop the floor. If the room is small, you can spray your cleaner directly onto the floor and wipe it up with a sponge or cleaning cloth. Let dry for ten to fifteen minutes.

10. Put back the rugs and knick-knacks. Check your toilet paper supply. Put out fresh towels.

11. Take out trash.

15 Minute Cleaning Guide: Living Room

1. Grab your supplies: a container in which to put non-living room items; a dust rag; a vacuum cleaner or broom and dust pan.

2. Put all items that do not belong in the living room in a container.

3. Tackle the couch/futon/chairs: Brush off the cushions. Retrieve any missing items from the depths of the couch. Brush off the dirt from the interior of the couch onto the floor. Replace and fluff the pillows.

4. Dust down the tables, and arrange their contents properly. The goal here is to quickly brush off the table and neatly stack its contents. We're not shining the furniture meticulously, or alphabetizing coffee table books.

5. Neatly arrange the magazines and books.Don't try to weed out magazines and books that you've been thinking about storing or tossing. Just arrange them neatly and move on

6. Vacuum or sweep up the floor.Don't move furniture to do so. Don't try to vacuum the pillows and couch. Leave these more in depth items for when you have more time. Do, however, remember to get the dirt we brushed out of the interior of the couch.

7. Put away your dust rag and vacuum or broom.Take a few moments to enjoy, and take some time for yourself.

8. Take out trash.

15 Minute Cleaning Guide: Bedroom

1. Grab your supplies: container for clutter, vacuum or broom and dust pan, hamper, trash container

2. Grab all dirty clothing and put it in a hamper. I know the dirty clothes in your room are probably near the hamper, but we want to actually put them in the hamper. Don't worry about unfolding your socks or turning clothes right side out. We'll do that when we sort out the laundry.

3. Grab all trash and put it in the trash can.

Don't worry about anything but trash right now. Pick up all the obvious trash and throw it in the can.

4. Make the bed. If making the bed seems like a waste of time, humor me. Smooth out the sheets – have sheets! Smooth out the blanket or comforter. Fluff your pillows. Stand back and take a quick look at the bed. It looks much neater, not necessarily better, just neater. On the plus side, you're not as likely to loose things in your bed when it's neat.

5. Grab all the clean clothes and refold or rehang. This is where that made bed comes in handy. If you have a lot of clothes to refold or rehang you can neatly stack them on your bed to remind you to fold them later. This saves you a little time now, keeps the room looking neat, and makes sure you will be reminded to fold them before trying to crawl into bed.

6. Pickup all the toys from the floor, bed, desk, etc.

Put them into a toybox, petnet, or wherever they belong. Don't worry about sorting out what toy goes with what piece, etc. Just put them all into the box.

7. Pickup all the items that don't belong in the room and place them in a container.. We're not worrying about placing the items where they belong right now. Just put them all in a basket for now.

8. Sweep and mop, or vacuum. Don't worry about moving furniture to do this.

9. Put away all of your supplies.

15 Minute Cleaning Guide: Kitchen

1. Grab all of your needed supplies together: trash container, basket for things that don't belong in kitchen, dish soap, all purpose cleaner, dishrag and/or sponge, scrubber, broom and dust pan and/or mop and/or vacuum.

2. Run a sink of hot, soapy water.

3. Scrape off all the dishes into the trash or garbage disposal.

If step 2 has blocked your disposal, scrape the dishes off onto a dirty plate.

4. Place dishes that need to soak into the water. IE: pans with burnt food and grease on them, and other nasty things the dishwasher will hate.

5. While the dishes are soaking, go through the kitchen clearing out trash from your floor, counter tops, cupboards, etc. Don't worry about things that are out of place, or don't belong in the kitchen. Worry only about trash.

6. Move on to gathering all the items that do not belong in the kitchen. Put all these items into a basket. If you have a helper (willing or unwilling) send them off to put away these items. Do not stop working on the kitchen to take these misplaced items to their homes.

7. Put away all of the items that belong in the kitchen but are not in their proper places. Don't allow yourself to get distracted by rearranging cabinets, drawers, etc. Simply place the items that are out back where they belong.

8. Load the dishwasher or wash dishes by hand.

9. Wash down your counter tops, appliances, and sink. .

10. Sweep and mop, or vacuum.

11. Take out the trash.

B) Whenever possible, the most natural product or solution will be used for household clean up and maintenance. Exceptions may be made by Mistress, not by slave.

C)Slave will learn the individual protocols associated with the use of such products and materials as Odo-Ban, Simple Green, Orange Oil, Murphy's Oil Soap, Lemon Oil, Dawn Dish Soap, Vinegar, water, baking soda, essential oils, castile soap, U.V. lights, cotton gloves, rubber gloves, and food grade hydrogen peroxide for the sake of waste management and recycling (in the home), pool and hot tub cleaning and maintenance, laundry cleansing, home cleaning, repair, maintenance, and pest control. Slave will also learn about them in regard to their functional use as beauty or health aides. This may be done through conversation, internet research, library research, research at health food stores, label reading, or any other method that seems reasonable for learning.

Mistress understands that this is a lot for a slave to learn, along with learning the other protocols. She does not expect immediate perfect. She expects progress and improvement, through study of these materials and products, and, then, their application into the life of the slave so that he has a growing familiarity with their usage.

D) Slave will educate himself regarding Southwest Gardening and the harvesting of natural desert plants. Mistress may arrange for more formal education later.

E) Slave will educate himself regarding basic wilderness survival, and, wilderness survival specific to the Arizona desert. Mistress may arrange for more formal education later.

F) Slave will educate himself on needs specific to the Mistress, such as yeast overgrowth (The Yeast Connection Handbook is good to read), Fibromyalgia, casein intolerance, thyroid issues; proper skin care for women over 40 (preferably using natural products); hydrogen peroxide therapy (pro, not con), yummy spicy foods that do not involve cheese, eye exercises, custom made shoes, and how to effectively communicate with a woman.

G) As the slave learns, he will share in conversation with his Mistress, at her leisure, through emails, IM's, or in person, so she will better understand his progress, thoughts, and if he may need correction.

Section V:Explanation By Time of Day

A) General Morning Behavior/ Protocol

1. The slave will awaken at approximately 5 a.m., by what ever method best employed to waken himself (alarm clock, asking another slave to help him, for instance). Upon waking, he will remove himself from the bed he has been assigned for the night, make the bed, move to the bathroom to wash himself, brush his teeth, floss his teeth, rinse with mouthwash, moisturize himself, take his morning supplements if he has been assigned any, don his loincloth (or other clothes if he will be leaving for work or performing outside chores or otherwise has been told to wear other certain types of clothing), brush or comb his hair, and to wait. Another slave, Mistress , or someone Mistress sends will come to unlock the slave from the manacle that binds him to the bed and help him into his day time wrist manacles. (Assuming manacles are desired or required)

2. The slave will, when unlocked from his bed and dressed for his daily work, eat breakfast in the slave quarters, and then report to his assigned duty, unless the assigned duty is to prepare breakfast. If the assigned duty is breakfast preparation, the slave will immediately report to the kitchen of Mistress to consult the correct menu plans and cook or otherwise prepare a meal for Mistress . If she has guests there, the slave will prepare a meal for them, as well, if instructed. Since the slave is serving in the kitchen, the slave may make himself some of the same breakfast as Mistress , at the same time as he makes her breakfast, to be eaten in the kitchen, after Mistress and/or Mistress ' guests are served; or, he may choose to eat the same breakfast the other slaves ate, instead, after he has finished in the kitchen. The slave will clean spills and drips as he goes, rinse dishes as they are no longer in use, and make sure all dishes, burners, etc. that he used or touched are clean before he departs the kitchen. After the slave meals are done, and Mistress is also through with her morning ablutions and her meal, the slaves will come and kneel, greeting Mistress good morning and telling her of anything that might be different about this day (ie: longer hours, shorter hours, they feel ill), while she checks the calendar for appointments, etc.

3. Mistress will have her second meal at, or near, 9:30 am on most days. This is because Mistress prefers to have the majority of her meals, excluding possible snacks, before 3 pm, usually having dinner around 2 pm, at the latest. It is better for the digestion. Lunch protocol will be much the same as breakfast protocol, with the other slaves seeking out a snack or meal from the slave quarters but the slave on kitchen duty being allowed to eat the same food as Mistress , except that he must wait until Mistress is served, before he eats in the kitchen.

4. Most housework of the more intense variety, such as clothes washing, cleaning of specific rooms, cleaning the oven, car repair, building on the courtyard, etc. will occur in the morning, whenever possible. If it is particularly noisy work, it will wait until mid-morning (after 9 am), for the sake of good neighbor relations.

B)Afternoon Behavior/Protocol

1. The last main meal of the day will generally be served around 2 pm. The slaves who are able will attend this meal and eat at the same time as Mistress , though she will always be served first. They will bring in their lower table and stools or cushions for a place for their meal to be served, or simply sit on the floor to eat, but, will never eat directly with Mistress in her own home. The slave assigned to help with or cook the meal will serve his fellow slaves before eating, but, they will remain until he is also through with his meal. There will be conversation about the day, or wherever conversation leads to. All slaves will help clean the kitchen and dining area after the meal, before returning to their assigned duties.

C)Evening Behavior/Protocol

1. In the early to mid evenings, there will be entertainment, if there is entertainment wanted by Mistress . The slaves will attend and/or perform as she has given order. If they are not to attend or perform, and their duties are finished for the day (as they should be) they will either address themselves to more work, be lent out to another for more work, or retire to the slave quarters where they will change out of their loincloth, be manacled to their bed, and may, instead, improve their minds with reading before sleeping for the evening. However, on most nights, if Mistress is around at all, the slaves will attend.

That's how far I got. Some protocol needs to wait to be established until I know the slave, the duties of the slave, the location wherein the duties take place, etc.

Further explanation, and an inside look, into the contracts that I am working with - for the edification and education of whomever chooses to be taught or edified.

14.0 Slave Signature

As this is a document that has been sent through the email, with the express purpose of forming a relationship between this man, and the woman who has signed below, as Mistress, the typing of his name and information into this document is considered as valid as an electronic signature, with the understanding that when the slave and Mistress are both dwelling in the same Real Estate, a contract will also be signed and notarized between them, before the slave signs over his property or allows the Mistress access to his bank accounts further than has been allowed via section 3.1 of this contract. This is for the sake of slaves who are long distance and who want something signed and in place before they relocate. I am fine with altering it and can think of a few ways to do so. Such as a simple Letter of Intent, instead of a signing of the full documents. Or, the slave moving and then making it 4- 30 day periods rather than one period before moving and three- 30 days periods after moving. Or, a letter of intent and then 4-30 day periods. Or, for the slave who is ultra confident, simply a one-time signing of both documents (where we both have them notarized), and then him relocating. I am also willing to consider other options, if you have thought of something. Here is what is not negotiable: There must be a contract, bare minimum, that defines the relationship and definitely states that you asked for/sought out this type of relationship and entered into it of your own free will.

And, that, is, pretty much, that. Yes, there is also a Mistress' Statement and signature; but, those do not need explanation beyond what has already been explained.  Next up, Confidential Basic Training Protocols

The point of the slave statement, as exampled below, is so that the slave states some basic facts as regards him having knowledge of the tone of the relationship, having asked to participate in the relationship, being willing and eager to be in the relationship, wanting the relationship with this particular person, and, having every intention for the relationship to be legal in the eyes of the law.

This, as it is written in the contract, is a sample. It is meant to be a statement from you, though, not a vow. Therefore, a statement that is written by you, which hits the same basic points, is much better. However, if this does hit the right points for you, a simple rewriting or addition, may be all that is required. Something to personalize it.

13.0 Slave Statement

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree and accept this claim of ownership over my physical body, spiritual person, mental health, and finances. I understand that I will be commanded, trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my Mistress to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract. I understand that slavery is not legal in the United States of America, and I do not seek to commit an illegal act, but, to establish myself in a willing, consensual, legal relationship that I prefer to be described as my being a slave to a Mistress.

As a free man, who has the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, who is sound in mind and body, I enter into this contract as a document which defines a relationship, by type, of which I wish to participate; and, which defines particulars of a specific relationship that I have asked to be a part of, participated in the creation of a contract for, and have chosen my partner for.

I want to belong to Mistress Arletta, as much as is legally possible to belong to her, for my own pleasure, as I am not happy unless owned and Mistress Arletta is the Mistress who will own me fully. In this respect, I am now asking her, by the signing of this contract, to accept me as her slave, for now and for as long as she will have me and care for me as a slave should be cared for. I not only accept that punishment may happen, but, I ask for it, welcome it, hope to be controlled and punished to a significant degree as the Mistress does see fit, and I have asked, repeatedly, to be controlled and punished as she sees fit, during the negotiations of this contract.

I understand that I am responsible for everything listed within this contract. Mistress Arletta is everything to me and my purpose in life is to please her and make her life easier. I will obey her every command, without question or hesitation, and I understand that failure to do so will result in punishment, which may be as light or as severe as Mistress Arletta prefers.

I will strive to learn her likes and dislikes, her needs, wants, and what displeases her. I am responsible for her pleasure, and I will do my utmost to be a good, faithful, tireless slave who thinks of Mistress Arletta before everyone else, outside of Heaven. Please note, atheists, that you are not actually required to think of anyone inside of Heaven. Just to think of me above your family, friends, random strangers, and etc. For those who do believe in God, Jesus, etc. they should think of them first, me second.She will not have to order me to perform a task, once it is established as my duty,wasting her time on trivial details. I will do them automatically, as I understand they are my duty, and I willingly enter into these duties and this contract with no hope for my own pleasure, except that I may be allowed to enter into the pleasure of Mistress Arletta by my labors.

It is excessively annoying to have to type this out all over again, because of it being deleted after I posted it - so, let me make the point, again: I am not posting these bits of contract and explanation to try to lure someone in to a transaction. I am posting them because many people have asked to see them, asked for explanations and examples of contracts, etc. So, kindly do not interrupt THEIR good time, or waste MY time, simply because YOU do not like what you are reading. You have a choice in the matter, after all, which, if exercised, would save us all much time and trouble: you could choose simply not to read these postings.

11.0 The Fundamentals of Future Relations

The Mistress may act, inside and outside the bounds of the contract, in regards punishment, chores, or other subjects which are touched on within the contract which do not directly affect the actual tone of the relationship. In other words, I may choose to do something different than what the contract stipulates, if, by doing so, it preserves the integrity of the relationship. IE: I might decide to sell the house that was purchased, but, I'd still make sure there was a dwelling of some sort; I might choose to cease training the slave, for a time, due to illness or personal issues that crop up - but, he would still be a slave, still expected to obey, etc. Life is an on-going process. A good part of being a Mistress is taking life in stride and doing one's best to keep order despite what it throws at you.

The Mistress will form, plan, or otherwise bring into fruition a plan for this slave, beyond this contract, using this contract as a guideline, after the point at which this contract is signed electronically, which will be altered freely to suit the current needs of the Mistress; some of which will be in writing and some of which may be in verbal order. The slave will obey verbal orders, the same as written orders, and will write them down for himself, if the slave cannot otherwise remember them. In other words, these contracts are not about duty, training protocol, living protocol, etc. They are only about legal aspects, financial aspects, acceptance of roles, and setting the tone of the relationship. Whatever comes after them is in regard to setting rules and duties, further setting the tone, etc.

The slave will be bound by the written and verbal orders of the Mistress, even if the orders should contradict the contents of this contract, except where the slave veto applies, as the slave has accepted ownership of himself by the Mistress, and more than accepting has asked to be owned by the Mistress, with the understanding that the relationship is not a static state of being, but a thriving partnership of a certain type. I know, it is a bit confusing. It all goes back to tone. The contract sets the tone, with its stipulations, but, we may come up against a reality that is in contrast to what the contract states. So, we muddle through - you following me, me guiding you. So long as the basic integrity of the relationship holds, with everyone full of good intentions, trying to do their best to stay within the bounds of the contract, and to return to it post haste, well, sometimes, that is the best that can be done. However, this is written more for the sake of emergencies, such as natural disasters, wars, etc.

The Mistress will take into consideration the changing emotional, familial, financial and health needs, issues, or obligations of the slave, and alter his duties and obligations in accord with these, as she perceives the need. Because, obviously, a slave who is ill has different abilities and needs than a slave who is well - for instance.

12.0 In Case of Emergency

As both slave and Mistress are human and given to frailties of the species, it is stipulated that, immediately after the signing of this contract, for the 90-day anniversary of the Mistress and slave dwelling together or in near proximity, when this contract becomes fully validated

A. The slave will create a legally binding Will which states that upon his death, all his possession (money, vehicle, books, real estate, or whatever they may be) will go to the Mistress.

B. The Mistress will create a legally binding Will which, upon her death, gives the slave the keys and/or the combination to a safe that the Mistress has set aside for him which will have those items she has left the slave by which he may move forward with his life, including his ID of whatever sort, and the keys to his chastity device.

The Mistress, by her own determination, is agreeing to set aside approximately 20 percent of all earnings of this slave, after taxes, toward his possible future needs and his possible current needs. When the slave withdraws money from this, or when money is added to this, it will be recorded in some sort of ledger, and balances will be kept up to date. Upon the termination of this contract, for whatever cause, the monies set aside for the slave will be released to him. Until such a time, the monies and ledger will be kept within the aforementioned safe. In actual fact, I am okay with the slave keeping the money in his own bank account, and being limited to spending with permission. However, some slaves feel that they cannot do this, so, my holding their money for them is an option. So, yes, this is negotiable to some extent. What is not negotiable is that money will be set aside - you must have some money set aside. Obviously, if you need to pay child support, more money must be set aside. So, one must consider the fullness of one's needs, when contracts such as this come into play.

C. In case of Section 10.1 being activated, wherein the slave has removed himself from the home of the Mistress with the intention of forming another relationship where he is owned by another person, or in which he is legally married, the slave may alter the Will to suit his new lifestyle, even if the Mistress has nor formally released him, and, even though he is still beholden to her, by contract, to submit weekly payments. At this time, he may also pay for the Mistress to alter her Will, so as to remove those items regarding him which are no longer necessary to include. It is at the discretion of the Mistress if her Will shall be altered, and it is at her discretion if the slave will pay for said alteration, and is not at the discretion of the slave, in either case. In other words, if the slave runs off and gets married, for instance, he can alter the Will to leave everything to his wife; but, he still is obligated to make weekly payments. Running away does not excuse duty. Being excused does.

The continuing explanation of the second contract that I am working with, posted here for the sake of those who wish to "learn" me, or who simply wish to learn.

11.0 The Fundamentals of Future Relations

The Mistress may act, inside and outside the bounds of the contract, in regards punishment, chores, or other subjects which are touched on within the contract which do not directly affect the actual tone of the relationship. In other words, I am the Mistress, and, therefore, free to set the rules as I feel they need to be set, in all ways - except that, if I grant you certain concession via the contract, I will not go beyond them without discussion and alteration of the contract through addendum. However, if, say, your contract says that you are allowed to visit your family on December 25th, from 8 am - 5 pm, and it turns out that your family is meeting for a ski weekend, starting on December 23rd at 7 am - December 27th, ending at an indeterminate time, I am certainly free to give you permission to attend the whole time if I feel like it. If the contract says that you are to be in chastity and then you develop a nasty rash and we realize you need to heal and then be switched to another device, then, I am free to make that choice without having to rewrite the contract to indicate plans have changed for the next week. In other words, reasonable, temporary changes or concessions that are not with an intention to make a dramatic change.

The Mistress will form, plan, or otherwise bring into fruition a plan for this slave, beyond this contract, using this contract as a guideline, In other words: this contract does not encompass your training, the protocols, any plans for fun times, to cage or not to cage, etc. This is about the TONE of the relationship and a few particulars regarding the basic housing, shelter, financial, possessions areas of life. The rest is not by contract - the rest is what occurs within the relationship that is defined by this and the first contract. after the point at which this contract is signed electronically, because I am not going to waste my time writing out rules for you to follow, deciding what duties you will perform, etc. before I actually own you. After I own  you, I may try you out in various ways of living, various duties, and decide how I like you best. which will be altered freely to suit the current needs of the Mistress; some of which will be in writing and some of which may be in verbal order.  The slave will obey verbal orders, the same as written orders, and will write them down for himself, if the slave cannot otherwise remember them.

The slave will be bound by the written and verbal orders of the Mistress, even if the orders should contradict the contents of this contract, except where the slave veto applies, as the slave has accepted ownership of himself by the Mistress, and more than accepting has asked to be owned by the Mistress, with the understanding that the relationship is not a static state of being, but a thriving partnership of a certain type. In other words, this contract, by tone binds us both, but, by any absolute actions binds only you, because it is a slave contract, not a Mistress contract. The tone is that I will train you and you will be trained, I will own you and you will be owned, I will be obeyed and you will be obedient, you will be property and you will be cared for and maintained so as to stay useful and productive, that you are allowed to maintain contact with family and friends - but the actual particulars of these things, the functional aspects of bringing them to fruition, may change as I see fit, so long as the relationship is not fundamentally altered. IE: If it says we will live together, but, I want to travel to Europe without you, nothing is fundamentally changed and there is every intent of us living together, just not in this same dwelling during an extended vacation for me.

The Mistress will take into consideration the changing emotional, familial, financial and health needs, issues, or obligations of the slave, and alter his duties and obligations in accord with these, as she perceives the need. Obviously, if the slave comes to me as a young, healthy man who can work 16 hour shifts, but, he, then develops cancer and can't quite make it out of bed every morning, there will need to be alterations of duties. If he is using his money for chemo, there will need to be alterations of obligations. I am not one of those sick people who will throw a slave out for daring to be human and falling ill. Slaves who are ill, unless there is no other choice, are slaves to be cared for until they are better. Slaves who need to care for their family are not slaves to be punished or held to the same obligations, so, if your mother became ill, your ex-spouse died and you got full custody of your kids, you lost your job, or, whatever - if things changed, then I would need to take the changes into consideration and decide if an alteration of the contract was necessary, or release of the slave, or simply a weathering-through of problems.

Further explanation of the contracts I am working with, for the sake of clarification (for some), and, education for whomever chooses to utilize it so.

9.0 Alteration of Contract

This contract may not be altered, once signed, except when both Mistress and slave agree. If the contract is altered, every and any alteration must be clearly signed and dated. This is not negotiable. I expect slaves to have their own minds - it means nothing for people who will not think, who have no desires of their own, to follow you and do as you say. It means a lot, when it is strong, healthy, unbroken people who do it because they respect you, have loyalty to you, and have love for you. I want your agreement, not your abject capitulation.

10.0 Termination of Contract

This contract may be terminated at any time by the Mistress, but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Therefore, be very careful reading it and signing it. Make sure you understand. Discuss your concerns. Ask for what you NEED. This is serious business. Upon final termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings in, of, or as the Real Estate shall belong to the Mistress, to be shared or kept as she sees fit. Final termination being after we have gotten to the point where property is as divided as it is going to get, payment periods are ended, etc. And, physical evidence would be related to anything where it is provably you or me, involved. If someone wants to keep a photo of someone else, where nothing can be proven that it is related to this sort of relationship, or at least it cannot be proven who it is, or wants to keep journal entries that only say "Mistress" or "slave" about the other person, that is unimportant. The slave, owning nothing, from the time this contract is signed and dated by the slave, and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the Mistress, barring what the Mistress has allowed the slave to retain, shall once again own their body, but, nothing else, except as the Mistress has chosen to allow them to retain or has determined to return to them. Which means if I tell you that you can keep your former home, your vehicle, and your wonderful collection of Sesame Street memorabilia, when you come to me, you can also take them with you if you leave (assuming they still exist by that point and that I have not, since then, appropriated them. Therefore, if they are that important to you, get it in the contract!). However, if I have purchased you clothing, bedding, furniture, etc. for use as my slave, these things are now mine because they were purchased for a slave. If you want them, you have to ask nicely and I will consider. This is vitally important for you to remember, for other reasons, too. Like, for instance, many persons get all upset over the thought of a Mistress allowing a slave to sleep in a comfy bed. "If I have a comfy bed," they will say "It teaches me nothing about humility." Silly people! It's my bed. You're just sleeping in it. And, it teaches you a lot, if you misbehave to the point where you are ordered to pack your bed into storage and have to sleep on the floor for a while. Get it?

10.1 Unwilling Termination of Contract

As both parties are aware that this is a consensual relationship, wherein the slave has agreed to obey the Mistress as a slave, but, where he is still, in actual fact, an adult with full legal rights, dwelling in a country where actual slavery is illegal, it must be acknowledged that there could come a time when the slave chooses to leave, due to health reasons, familial obligation, to serve another Mistress, or for some, as yet, unforeseen reasons.

A. If this is the case, that the slave, despite the agreement, chooses to terminate this relationship, whether through running away from the Mistress, making it clear his affections lie with another Mistress, or for whatever reason it may occur that the relationship is terminated at the behest of the slave, then the slave agrees, by the signing of this contract, to pay the Mistress the equivalent of alimony or palimony by the payment of the same amount as is specified as weekly payments in the Training Consultation Agreement; meaning, the weekly payment will double, as punishment for his bad choices. Keep in mind, this is in a situation where the slave has not come to me as a person who has made a reasonable request and waited for my response; or, where the slave has refused to accept my response. If a slave came to me with a reasonable request to go care for his sick mother or to be allowed to pursue a romantic relationship, humbly, as a person who knows he belongs to me, that would be a very different subject.

B. The slave will continue to make these payments, regardless of the reason that the relationship has been terminated at the behest of the slave rather than the Mistress, until such a time as the Mistress has released him, through signed, notarized statement, from this obligation. Relief from double payments will be granted when the Mistress feels the slave has been adequately punished and/or when the slave has returned to his duties and/or, if the Mistress is agreeable, when the slave has been properly humbled and humiliated, in some other fashion. If the slave is released from double payments, or all payments, with money still owing, he will have to continue to pay that - unless I release him from that, as well. And, I will be keeping track of the payments. This is mainly to make you think twice about being raided, because many fine-seeming Mistress types will come along and try to beguile a worthwhile slave, and they do so love to inconvenience other Mistresses by stealing their slaves. Well, if they try to steal mine, they will have their bodies, perhaps, but, they will be supporting them because the slave will still be serving me financially, and doubly, until he is returned, and, upon this matter, I can take him to court, citing her as a leading cause in his breach of contract, and I can likewise sue her. Therefore,  it is hardly worth the while of Mistresses to go near my slaves without my permission, especially as the majority of them are chicken shites who would be far too ashamed to have to bold-faced admit to being into bdsm and slave ownership in a court of law. I am not.

C. The slave belonging to another Mistress, having changed residences, or the Mistress having taken on other slaves, will not alter the conditions of this contract.

D. Whereas the role of slave is not legally binding, the role of a man who is in a relationship wherein he has promised to serve the woman, by paying her bills, buying her clothing and furnishings, and all other means possible by which he may pamper or care for her, is legally binding in a court of law, by the signing of this contract, as is the understanding of both the slave and Mistress. If the slave refuses to make double payment, or to humble himself, or to return to his duties (as the Mistress prefers) the Mistress is free from obligation of confidentiality, so as to pursue civil prosecution and palimony payments. The slave agrees that in such a case, he would be obligated to pay all legal fees of both himself and the Mistress. All  of which further makes the point I explained above: It is simply not worth the slave's time and energy to try to run away, and it is not worth the time and energy of any other Mistresses or Masters to try to lure them away. I have a lot of experience, thanks to a horrible marriage and a long, drawn out, custody battle. I do keep notes, including date and time, and I am not ashamed of what I do or how I live. Screw with me, and I will not make ineffectual threats - I will take your arse to court, sue the pants off of it, and then write a book all about the whole debacle, naming names and showing photos. Don't screw with me!

10.2 Revision of Contract

Upon , or near, the yearly anniversary of the 90-day signing of this contract, which signing has fully validated this contract, the slave and Mistress will set aside time in celebration of their anniversary. During this celebration, the slave may speak freely, so that the Mistress and slave may discuss this contract and whether it needs to be altered. The Mistress may initiate this action at other times, throughout the year, but, this is the only time in which the slave has the opportunity to request the contract to be terminated, for good cause, which he will share with the Mistress, which does not fall under the slave's veto. If the contract is terminated, at the behest of the slave, during this anniversary celebration, the rules of Section 10.1 Unwilling Termination of Contract apply, minus the doubling of the payment; but, the Mistress may not refuse the slave's request, otherwise. Now, let me make this point. If a slave came to me and said "Mistress, my son is ill, he is in the hospital. May I go home and spend time with him?" and we discussed it, and determined it best for the slave to go, that he could take the time off work, have however long he needs to spend time with his son, etc. that is not the same thing as the slave asking for the contract to be terminated.  He is still my slave until, and if,  he is released. But, if this is still going on and it is the anniversary, then, he can ask for release due to the long term nature of the absence and the awkwardness of long distance relationships. It would be good cause. However, he doesn't have to do any such thing. This is not about allowing the slave to top from the bottom, and, it certainly is not about an inability to control anyone - it is simply that life happens. It is reasonable to allow someone who came to me, of their own free will, to leave if there is a good reason for the leaving.

Further explanation of the second contract that I am working with.

6.0 Punishment

The slave agrees to accept any punishment the Mistress decides to inflict, whether earned or not. If the slave wishes for activities that normally fall under the title of punishment, he will beg his Mistress, state so plainly, or otherwise make known to her his wishes and she will consider if he deserves such as a reward for his good behavior. This section always disappoints the majority of readers, who, apparently, hope for large, gory details on how often punishments will be inflicted, when, with what. They also tend to want punishments that are simply ridiculous, such as to be punished for being male. Can you help being male? Weren't you born that way? Am I not primarily seeking males? Think about it! I find nothing offensive about the existence of males, in and of itself. They are fun to tease and lightly abuse, sure, but, so is anyone else who is teaseable and capable of taking light abuse with a good sense of humor. So, here is a fact of life for you, slave, that you had better get used to: if you are going to be punished, then it is going to be because you did something wrong, and, as much as possible, the punishment will fit the "crime". IE: You break a dish due to clumsiness, you pay for the dish. You break a dish on purpose, you pay for the dish and you might also be caged, tied up, whipped, etc. as seems appropriate considering why you did it and your general attitude. You break a dish over someone's head and you are dismissed from service - unless that someone else is a burglar or something, and, then, you might just get ice cream. Anyway, the point is that I can punish you - I can flog you 12 times for failing to put the toilet paper on the dispenser at the right angle, if I want to.  You have to accept that I can, and I might. Sometimes I might, just to remind you that I can. It'll make us both happier in our roles when it happens, too. Life is weird that way.

6.1 Rules of Punishment

Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm. Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse: blood may not be drawn intentionally at any time - punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn; burning the body; drastic loss of circulation; causing internal bleeding; loss of consciousness; withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time.Don't bother trying to argue the point, because, here is a news flash for you: I have absolutely no interest in doing these things to you, even if you want them done. If they are that important to you, say a friendly goodbye, and move along.  But, don't read anything nicer into it than is there. I can and will withhold food, water, sleep, sunlight, blankets, do mean things like eat something yummy while you have something far more fit as slave fare, possibly I'll lock you in a standing cage, trussed up nicely and gagged, and let people walk by and tickle you. I might do a lot of things that many would think are cruel, or at least weird, because I want to, and I can, and we are both going to enjoy those facts being made manifestly true; however, none of them will be purposely damaging to my property.

7.0 Permanent Bodily Harm

Since the body of the slave now belongs to the Mistress, it is the Mistress's responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment, or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire.The why's and wherefore's of how the immediate termination may occur were already discussed, earlier. If you missed it, scroll down and start from the beginning of the explanation of the first contract.

Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as: death; any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones; any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, (unless accepted by the slave); any loss of hair, (unless accepted by the slave); any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, (unless accepted by the slave); any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases. If they are accepted by the slave, it will be in the form of a hand written, notarized statement or request.

8.0 Others

The slave may not seek any other Mistress or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the Mistress's permission.  To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and may result in extreme punishment. This does not mean that the Mistress may not seek out other Mistresses or lovers for the slave, however.  I would not do that, mind you, as far as forcing a slave into a sexual relationship, with anyone, ever. But, I might decide they are lonely and seek out a companion for them, or I might see that this Mistress is into something that I know the slave likes and I do not, and I might invite her to do this thing to the slave, or something like that.The Mistress may accept other slaves or lovers. So, do not act surprised, after claiming to have read this, if I mention I might want other slaves. The Mistress may lend out the slave to others, provided the rules of this contract are upheld, and, the slave is not required to perform an act or duty for another person that he would not be ordered to perform for, or with, the Mistress; unless, of course, the slave has either asked to perform such act or duty, and has been given permission by the Mistress. In such a situation, the Mistress will inform the one(s) the slave is lent to of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new Mistress will be considered a breach by the Mistress as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract. This slave will continue family ties that are not damaging to the slave, the Mistress, or service from the slave received by the Mistress. This means that, more than likely, you can visit your family for Christmas, or arrange to receive phone calls on Wednesday afternoon (with permission), but, there is no way your third cousin is going to crash on your couch (if you have a couch) while waiting to hear from his probation officer. No other relationships are permitted, without express order or permission of the Mistress. Yes, you may say hello to the mailman. No, you may not bend him over or blow him. Haha? 

More explanation of the role of a slave, as it is presented in the second contract:

This whole section, on Chastity, is negotiable, but, mostly, only in one respect: You can take it or leave it, because I can take it or leave it. Many slaves hope to be in chastity, for their own self restraint. That makes it an accommodation I am willing to allow the slave; but, I really don't care, otherwise. I would prefer good, clean people who are not out fornicating like wild beasts, but, I am also practical. If it does not affect service to me, and nothing is being rubbed up against me, shown to me, asked of me, as regards sex, then, I am not concerned.

4.2 Chastity

As the Mistress has no desire for sexual use of the slave, and as the Mistress has a reputation to uphold within the community, the slave may choose whether or no to bind himself in chastity. If the slave chooses to bind himself in chastity, it will be done in this manner: The slave will wear a chastity device, which he either owns now or will obtain permission for the purchase of. Which chastity device he will put upon himself and take off of himself, as needed for once a week proper cleaning and maintenance of both the slave and the device.

A. The slave will not request the Mistress to remove the device from him, to “milk” or otherwise have contact with his genitalia, or ask for her help in affixing the device to his person, but, will be solely responsible for the care and keeping of his own genitalia.

B. The slave will inform the Mistress if he is developing a problem in this area that seems to require care from a doctor or time without the device, and the slave will display proof that he is wearing the device if the Mistress demands it.

C. Otherwise, once a device has been purchased and the slave has learned how to affix it to his person, properly, beyond a request to obtain the key to clean himself and the device, and a return of the key once the cleansing has been performed – or a request to be released should the slave be allowed time for the pursuit of personal relationships or appointments - the slave will not speak of the device or his genitalia to the Mistress. The exception being if the Mistress brings up the subject and/or otherwise gives the slave permission to speak of his genitalia.

This, below, is not negotiable. A slave may request  some alteration of writing, or further explanation, but, this is who I am and what I am about. I will not do these things to a slave, so there is no reason to remove this from the contract, as I have been requested to.  You are human and have the right to be treated as human. If you cannot accept this, I do not want to own you.

4.3 Slave's Veto

The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the Mistress, at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both Mistress and slave: where said command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of either party; where said command may cause extreme damage to slave's life, (such as losing their job, causing family stress,etc.; where said command may cause permanent bodily harm to the slave or to some other person; in any instance where service is deemed to be of a potentially sexual nature, either by current Western society social convention or by the standards set by the Mistress; where the slave has prior obligation to family, he may request to visit with his family; where the slave has established religious protocols or beliefs, he may ask for consideration of same in regards to assignment of duties and time for worship.

4.4 Information

As slave, I have determined to divulge all factual information to my Mistress regarding my profits from wages, debts owed, cost of living (actual necessities to keep me healthy and working), and any other information necessary to aide her in the informed mastery of my person and property, all of which now belong to her, except as otherwise stipulated by this contract. Not negotiable.

4.5 Interaction with the “Vanilla” world

A. For the purposes of interaction with family, this slave will represent himself to the family and friends of this Mistress as her employer and/or neighbor. Due to the nature of the property they will be dwelling at, and due to the signing of the Training Consultant Agreement this will be the truth. Obviously, this does not include the family or friends who know better. And, no, this is not due to shame - this is one of those "in order not to stumble them" things. Many people do not understand. It is not required that they do understand for me to love them; but, most people who know me do know I want slaves, already.

B. The slave may be granted, if convenient to the Mistress, and if he requests it be so, up to 24 hours per week for the conducting of personal business, personal relationships, or in pursuit of personal interests. The Mistress may choose to allow the slave more time, or no time at all, for these pursuits, as she sees fit. A big bone of contention between me and other persons who have read this. Well, deal with it. I say "may" be granted, not "has to have". This is for the sake of possible future emergencies, not because I am going to let slaves wander about  all over the place, never being kept under control.

C. The slave will hand over all personal documents such as birth certificate, passport, license, immunization records and address books into the care and keeping of the Mistress. This includes the key(s) to any chastity devices, vehicles, storage facilities, or residences. The slave will have one proper legal ID showing his place of residence, possibly two, which he will be allowed to carry when he must travel for work, because the police so hate pulling you over and you not having such things. However, they must be handed back to me when you return, and, if I am with you, I will retain them while you chauffeur me.

More explanation of the second contract. Now, we have gotten to the role of the slave. This highly confuses me. Not the writing! lol  It confuses me how anyone could read this and come up with "Oh, you seem to mainly want a roommate." or "Oh, you have no intention of controlling me."  ???  Well, read on and see what you think.

4.0 Slave's Role

The slave agrees to submit completely to the Mistress in all ways. In other words, even if Mistress tells you to stand on your head, peel a whole bucket of potatoes, and submit to receiving five swats from the other slaves every quarter hour, until you have the whole bucket done! It's not something I am likely to order, but, the point is, I could - and, the very fact that I thought of it and shared it with you gives you fair warning that I am quite capable of being inventive and commanding.There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the Mistress without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave's veto applies. As in "Step into this cage, slave." or "Bend over, grab your ankles, and don't make a noise while I flog you, slave." or,"Go and pick up those dog turds and then wash your hands, slave"  or "Come here and be my footstool and don't mind the other people at the bus stop, slave." Get it? Does that sound too much like I am kind, compromising, too willing to please the slave to have any command of him? Really?The duties of service to the Mistress begin at the electronic signing of this contract. Which means, even if you are 6,000 miles away (or more) if I tell you to do something, you had better do it. If I have reason to believe you have not, you will be punished for it, later - so you better do it and have proof it was done through visual record, signed affidavit or  proven result.Not only does the slave agree and understand that there are no boundaries of place, time and situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the Mistress, but, the slave has actively sought out this type of relationship and enters into it both willingly and eagerly, as a person with the freedom to pursue his own happiness.

The slave further understands that his role as a slave means that he is first and foremost to act in the capacity of an obedient, loyal worker wages, domestic duties, serving others at my behest to the Mistress; second, he is to act in the capacity of an entertainer, or entertainment, for the Mistress In case I want to ride a pony, cage someone, use you as a foot stool, play at hypnotism or brain washing, lend you to someone else and watch you get whipped, make you crawl around the floor and clean it on your hands and knees even though we have a perfectly good mop, or whatever else might be amusing. Again: does this sound like an easy person who is only after money and some domestic duties?; thirdly, he is to act as a companion to the Mistress. Because I have no interest in living with someone who has no conversation or liking for me, as a person. I do not want to go camp with churlish people, no matter how obedient they are. I want slaves who can and will enjoy their time of service to me.

4.1 Etiquette/Protocol

As this slave exists for the pleasure of the Mistress and is a human Not toilet, horse, pig, sub-human, etc.  male Obviously negotiable, as I am quite willing to accept females; it is just unlikely to find one that is not all about sexual service. But, it does make the point that I do want them to be of a distinctive sex.. of an adult age and at least average intelligence, this slave will devote himself to learning proper procedure, protocol and etiquette, as defined by the Mistress. When in doubt, the slave will fall into proper social etiquette as defined by current polite Western societal standards or as define by Miss Manners; slave will ask for clarification of what he does not understand that he needs to understand, give good advice and/or physical assistance to assist his Mistress in matters of which he is likely to be more knowledgeable or capable, or sees her making a definite error (but, always, politely and keeping in mind his status and her own); and, slave will use his own mind to be self-governing enough not to make unreasonable demands upon his Mistress for time and attention. Unreasonableness is to be defined by Mistress, as well as Mistress's laws and rules, and societal laws and rules of social etiquette. This has been questioned many times. It is like this: If I say "That person is driving me insane. Go kill them." you know that I do not mean it, so, do not kill them. If I say "Take your little blue sponge and go to the kitchen and clean out the sink." and your sponge is green,  be aware that I do not care what color the sponge is. In other words, use basic, common sense. Make the reasonable choice, unless you have very good reason to think I expect unreasonable action. I really shouldn't have to, for instance, tell a slave who is obviously in need of defecating, "Go to the bathroom" only to find him standing there, unsure of what to do once he gets there, with crap dribbling down his legs.

A good morning start to explanation of the second contract. Though, there are parts I will be skipping, as they specify certain things which need no explanation (which property, who to contact, etc.) and which could be misconstrued, in a journal entry, as a person making demands, rather than just sharing knowledge and such.

2.0 Living Arrangements

In the first stage of this contract, as both parties are dwelling in separation, but, are in agreement of intent to dwell together for the purpose of bonding and acting within the bounds of this relationship, the slave will retain his residence while affecting the purchase of at least one piece of Real Estate, per the Training Consultation Agreement, sections 4. and 5., as defined by the Mistress and as chosen by the Mistress. As has already been mentioned, the purchase of the Real Estate is negotiable. Obviously, if I am considering a slave that I know cannot afford it, I am not asking him to ruin himself, take out loans from loan sharks, or go to any other dangerous or illegal lengths to obtain it. This is where slaves must trust the fact that safe, sane, and consensual are concepts that truly do mean something to some of us who wish to own them. If the slave can afford it, he is expected to honestly  do so. If he cannot, he is expected to honestly show that he cannot. End of story.

Once the Real Estate has been properly purchased by the slave, and deemed fit for human habitation, by Tucson and Arizona health codes and as defined by the Mistress, the slave will relocate to it.. The exception being that if this purchase and “making ready” of the Real Estate threatens to take more than four months, the slave may be required to, instead, relocate to an apartment with, or nearby to, the Mistress for the purpose of commencing the relationship while still working toward the establishment of the Real Estate after relocation.Which, also, means that if the slave cannot purchase the Real Estate in the first place, he would be relocating to my apartment or to one nearby; because, obviously, if you cannot get a loan and put down a down payment, at least, then, it will take over four months to get a place. Right? Right.

3.0 Financial Service

The financial service of the slave, outside of what is mentioned in the Training Consultation agreement signed between the two parties, is not to be considered either as the paying of wages or the giving of gifts to the Mistress; but, it is to be considered, legally, as the Mistress agreeing to retain control of the slaves finances and assets for the purpose of the slave's enjoyment of the relationship. In other words, I am paying taxes on the weekly payment. If it is deemed necessary, legally, I will pay taxes on the property. Anything else that might be spent from the wages you earn  will be for the sake of your being in service, maintenance, health care, equipment, etc. Some of it will be set aside for your possible future need.

For the time in which the slave remains dwelling in separation from the Mistress, at the permission of the Mistress, the slave retains the majority of control over the earnings of the slave, to pay for the bills, food, and necessaries of life for himself in his current residence, including all taxes, insurance, health care, or any other reasonable expense for the maintenance of the slave and the property owned by the slave.

The weekly payments which are stipulated in section 3. of the Training Consultation Agreement, will have already begun before the signing of this contract. They will continue as per the agreement already signed between the two parties, regardless of if this contract is terminated, or not, by either party, except in regards to the stipulations made within the Training Consultation Agreement. Therefore, whatever the weekly payments are, while they are expected to be a bit of a sacrifice, they must be something that enables you to continue to pay for those things necessary to keep you healthy, fed, sheltered, and working.

By the signing of this section, the slave agrees to commence making these payments to the Mistress, from the date of his having signed the Training Consultation Agreement electronically, and, he agrees that, until he is released from this obligation by the Mistress, he is legally obligated to continue making these payments, with the understanding that if she is the one who terminates the relationship (which shall be in writing) after the electronic signing of the Training Consultation Agreement, she must release the slave from his obligation, if they have not, yet, reached the point of dwelling together or in close proximity. In other words, the slave may not shirk this duty, nor may the Mistress keep him suspended in a state of half-service simply for the sake of receiving these payments. Further exceptions are made in the Training Consultation Agreement.

Once he is properly established in the slave house, or an apartment nearby, so that the slave and Mistress are located on the same premises or a close proximity to each other, the Mistress will then be handed over, by the slave, all majority control of the slave's wages, but, not his property, bank accounts or other assets or means of profit. In other words, your wages are mine, minus whatever it is I may grant you to retain. However, if you make profits on property already owned, or in some other acceptable manner, you will set it aside in your own bank account or safe. It is yours. I have no interest in access to your bank account. I do have interest in seeing your pay check, to know that you are being honest and faithful with your Mistress.

From the point of their coming to the point of living together, or in close proximity, the slave will beg for his needs or desires which are not provided for by the Mistress. The slave may be given an allowance by the Mistress, if she chooses, which he will be allowed to spend as chooses, but, only when he has permission of the Mistress for the leisure time in which to spend it. In general, I believe that slaves should retain 20 percent of their wages (after taxes) to save, buy presents for others, invest, or do whatever is necessary or good to do with it. This is an allowance. Like with most allowances, you still have to ask permission to go to the concert, the mall, etc. This will be set aside from all other money. If you get wages by direct deposit, you will calculate 40 percent of your income and set it aside, in separate accounts. 20 percent for taxes and 20 percent for you. Then, you will pay me the weekly payment. Whatever is left is not yours, but, it is also not payment to me. It is for the sake of maintaining your slavery. This is because I would so much prefer to say to you "Arrange a trip to Hawaii."  and leave it up to you and what I know you have in your account, rather than to give you access to mine, or demand access to yours. You are a slave, after all.

At the point where the Mistress and slave are dwelling together, or in close proximity, and this contract has become fully validated, by the signing of it electronically, and then the other three times after it, on 30-day, 60-day and 90-day anniversaries of their having come to live together or in close proximity, the slave will further sign over to the Mistress the Real Estate, because he properly wishes to serve her in her home. Obviously, if there is no Real Estate before this point, this is null and void. Except, if there is Real Estate after that point, it would automatically be signed over, since it is already understood that once the contract is validated, the Real Estate is mine. If the relationship is terminated by the Mistress, or by dint of the slave's veto coming into play, within the next two years of his having signed the Real Estate over to her, she must return the Real Estate to him, if he wishes it to be returned. If he is the one who terminates the contract, for any reason other than what is covered by the slave's veto, the Real Estate remains in the keeping of the Mistress. In other words, I cannot use you to buy me a house. If I abuse you to make you leave, or if I simply dismiss you, after you sign the Real Estate over, it is yours - unless you do believe I had a valid reason for dismissing you and you accept it, and allow the Real Estate to stay with me for that reason. Likewise, you cannot put me in a position of being established in a home, and then just renege on the contract and screw up my life by leaving.

Further explanation of the second contract. Feel free to read, ruminate upon, copy and change to suit your own needs, curl your toes in excitement, or ignore altogether, just as you please.

1.0 Tone of relationship

This contract is a confidential extension of a legally binding agreement between two consenting adults of sound mind and reasonably sound body, who have signed it, for the express purpose of establishing a relationship of a non-sexual, non-violent nature, for their mutual pleasure. That's right. I said it: non-sexual and non-violent. This is not someone paying me for sex, paying to be sexed up, and this is certainly not about anyone commissioning a crime. It is good, clean fun which may or may not restrict movement and sting a bit. (grin).

We, the parties who have signed below, have come together and signed this contract, for the express purpose of sharing time together in a mutually agreeable manner. To the best of our knowledge, everything that we are doing, or are agreeing to, is completely legal and moral within the confines of the laws of the United States of America and in the eyes of God. Yes, this must be left in, because, "in the eyes of God" is very important to me. I will not do anything to you, for you, with you, or against you that I am sure is against God. Though we will be referring to ourselves as the Mistress and the slave, or Mistress Arletta and slave _______, within the contract, these are not titles or roles established to undermine the authority or laws of any government, foreign or domestic to the individuals, but are terms only used descriptively to establish the general, consensual tone of their relationship. This agreement is entered into voluntarily, with the knowledge that it cannot be broken except under the conditions stated herein, and is, ostensibly, a life time agreement in that both parties enter into it with the express intention of a long term commitment, of not breaking the contract, and of doing their utmost to remain in the relationship for the duration of their lifetime.  "ostensibly, a life time" is negotiable, if it must be; but, I find loyalty and banding together to be intoxicating, whereas planned obsolescence is kind of a turn off.

Regardless of all else this contract states, it is understood, tacitly, that the slave is free to pursue his own religious and political ideals, up to an extent that does not interfere with service to the Mistress. I get to eat pork, if I want to, regardless of your feelings on it. I go to the Kingdom Hall, regardless of how I feel about it. You may not berate me or my guests. If you are atheist, Jewish, or whatever, it is no excuse not to dust my books that deal with religion, read to me from them, chauffeur me to meetings, etc. It is a good excuse, however, not to enter into the Kingdom Hall, sit down, and start answering questions.

For his part, the slave will respect all of the religious beliefs and traditions of the Mistress, learning what they are and why she believes them, if it is necessary for his service to her. He is not required to engage in these beliefs or traditions, but, only to respect them and to aid the Mistress, where required, even in these ways. See! I told you!

Now, I begin to explain the second document, which is an enhancement of the first document. Keep in mind that this is not being posted here for you to sign it, but, only for those who wish to learn from it to do so.

This contract is a confidential document, stemming from the creation of the Training Consultant Agreement, already signed and in effect between insert name here and Arletta, and is an expression of the will of Two Free Persons who agree to come together for their mutual pleasure, entertainment, instruction, enlightenment, comfort, and companionship and written for their mutual understanding and protection. All of which is said to further make the point that this is by choice, because we both want it that way, and, that it is not an attempt to break any laws. You are a slave by "expression", not legal fact.

It is valid as signed by electronic signature, in that duties and actions shall commence as outlined; but, is considered irrevocably valid on the following date: _________, which date is 90 days after the date at which the slave has relocated to the Real Estate purchased per the Training Consultation Agreement, sections 4. and 5., to live with the Mistress, and/or in close proximity to the Mistress. Again, the purchase of real estate is negotiable; but, that we must live together somewhere, or live close to each other, is not. This contract will be signed once, electronically, You will type in your information and I will type in mine afterward. If possible, we will use a program that allows electronic signatures via emails for both this and the original agreement, which sends a copy to both parties after both parties have signed. then thrice afterward, on the 30-day, 60-day, and 90-day anniversary of the slaves having relocated into the Real Estate or otherwise commenced living with, or in close proximity to, the Mistress. On the date of the 90-day anniversary, upon the fourth signing of this contract, it shall become absolutely binding. This is for the sake of the slave understanding and for the sake of the Mistress not being held legally responsible for false claims made by the slave, the slave having proven that he understands the agreement and is a willing participant, who is not signing under any form of duress. The other signatures, in the various sections, need only be signed once, electronically, at the same time as the first full contract signature, as proof of them having been read and agreed to.

More sharing information regarding the meaning behind various bits of contracts. This is not a posting related to trying to entice someone into signing, but, it is for the edification of those who wish to know more about me, or, more about contracts in general.

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15. Confidentiality. Both insert name here and Arletta recognize that the other party has and/or will have the following information: personal and professional information of the other party, access to the Confidential Services contract, visual or written records reflecting activities related to this Agreement, knowledge of other persons who have entered into a similar agreement with Arletta, costs, affairs, lists, charts, and possible other information (collectively, “Information”) which are valuable, special and unique assets, thoughts, expressions and materials of insert name here and of Arletta, and need to be protected from improper disclosure. In consideration for the disclosure of the Information, Arletta and insert name here agrees that neither will, at any time or in any manner, either directly or indirectly, use any information for their own benefit, or divulge, disclose, or communicate in any manner any information to any third party without the prior written consent, or prior signed agreement on another document, of the other party. An exception is made wherein confidential facts, arrangements, or documents may be shared with other persons who have entered into a similar agreement with Arletta, or who have been mentioned in a document stemming from the creation of this Agreement as persons who are allowed to be made aware of the information in part or in whole, or in the case of employees, associates, or other parties who are to be a part of the training of insert name here. The parties will protect this information and treat it as strictly confidential A violation of this paragraph shall be a material violation of this Agreement. This is mutual protection from any form of using photos for blackmailing, because, if anyone who is involved tries, they can immediately be sued for breach of contract. We can only share the information in the signed contracts with other persons who are also involved in the same type of relationship with me. Which means, people you are serving at my behest might know, and people who are serving me might know.
16. Unauthorized Disclosure of Information. If it appears that insert name here has disclosed (or has threatened to disclose) Information in violation of this Agreement, Arletta shall be entitled to an injunction to restrain insert name here from disclosing, in whole or in part, such Information, or from providing any services to any party to whom such Information has been disclosed or may be disclosed. Arletta shall not be prohibited by this provision from pursuing other remedies, including a claim for losses and damages. Arletta does not want to be brought up on charges of abuse, mental cruelty, or be left in the lurch by slaves. Therefore, this makes the point even more clear, that what happens between us stays between us.
17. Confidentiality After Termination. The confidentiality provisions of this Agreement shall remain in full force and effect after the termination of this Agreement. This means there will never, ever be a time when anyone can spread rumors about anyone else who did anything in the house, or in the relationship, etc. Not just now, not just until the agreement is over, but, ever - what we do is always between us. Yes, I know, there are several sections about confidentiality. I want that to be fully understood, by the slaves, by anyone who is invited into the relationship to participate in any manner, and by anyone in any position to decide upon any legal action.
18. Notices. All notices required or permitted under this Agreement shall be in writing and shall be deemed delivered when delivered in person or deposited in the United States mail, postage prepaid, addressed as follows: IF for insert name here: Insert Address here IF for Arletta: Insert address here. Such address may be changed from time to time by either party by providing written notice to the other in the manner set forth above. You cannot email me and tell me "I changed my mind."  You cannot leave me a message on the answering machine or tell me over the phone, either. If you want to cease being a part of this relationship, you will write it out and submit it to me. And, vice versa. This is a matter of respect for the persons and the relationship, and, a matter of practicality - you cannot expect me to know something that I may have not seen or heard. 
19. Entire Agreement. This Agreement contains the entire legal agreement of the parties and there are no other promises or conditions in any other agreement, whether oral or written, which supersede this agreement. The Confidential Services Contract, any charts, lists, or other written instructions that come after this Agreement will be an enhancement to the parties' understanding of this Agreement, or addendum or revision to this Agreement. Not only is this true, but, it is further reassurance that everyone understands that, even in the worst case scenario, not only is it a breach of contract to "tell all", but, it is strictly unnecessary, because the legal terms are laid out here, the agreement is made here, and the rest is only the icing on this cake.

I am skipping sections 20 -23 as being very self-explanatory legalese which, in no way, actively defines the relationship.

So, that is all of the first contract. Which, as you can see, even though it does no once mention slaves, slavery, Masters, Mistresses, owners, being owned, does, in fact, state that you must do as I say, I will be garnering the fruits of your labor as should happen with slaves, and you will be trained, by me, to do my bidding. It also says that, in no way, should this be construed as me being allowed to abuse you or simply use you for money, but, that I must actually perform my part of the agreement, as well.

Further explanation of the first of two contracts. Hope you enjoy it, whether it is for getting to know me better or getting to know yourself better.

Relationship of Parties. It is understood by the parties that Arletta is an independent contractor with respect to insert name here, and not an employee of insert name here, insert name here will not provide fringe benefits, including health insurance benefits, paid vacations, or any other employee benefit for the benefit of Arletta.

11. Disclosure. Insert name here is required to disclose any outside activities or interests, including, but, not limited to, participation in other, similar arrangements. If you want to get involved with business, if you want to date someone, if you want to spend time with friends, etc. you will not only obtain my permission at the outset, but, you will absolutely answer any questions I have regarding the arrangements or relationships after you become involved, you will share your feelings, and you will continue or stop your involvements based on my permissions or commands. Which, of course, it will be more likely for them to be allowed if I know you are being honest and upfront.
12. Involvement of Others. Employees, consultants, other clients or anyone who is actively involved with this Agreement at the behest, or by the permission of, ____ or Arletta shall also be bound by the provisions of this Agreement, whether involved by work or only by knowledge, and may be sued for breach of confidentiality if they engage in the sharing of confidential information or the spreading of rumors regarding confidential information. No spreading rumors about other slaves or me; and, vice versa.
13. Injuries. Insert name here acknowledges insert name here's obligation to obtain appropriate insurance coverage for the benefit of insert name here. Insert name here waives any rights to recovery from Arletta for any injuries that insert name here may sustain as a result of Arletta performing services under this Agreement or any confidential agreement which stems from the creation and active utilization of this Agreement. You have insurance from your job, from the government or purchased with your own money.
14. Intellectual Property. The following provisions shall apply with respect to copyrightable works, ideas, discoveries, inventions, applications for patents, and patents (collectively, “Intellectual Property”): Any improvements to Intellectual Property items, inventions or improvements, and any new items of Intellectual Property discovered or developed by Arletta (or other associates of Arletta, if any) during the term of this Agreement shall be the property of Arletta, subject to the irrevocable right and license of Arletta's to make, use, and/or sell products and services derived from any such Intellectual Property without payment of royalties. Such rights and license will be for the term of this Agreement, any extensions or renewals of this Agreement, and continue on even upon termination of this Agreement until and unless some part of the Intellectual Property, or profit derived from same, is assigned to insert name here or some other party, by Arletta through written, notarized statement. I am writing stories, books, painting, working on sites, etc. If you help me with them, in any way, this gives you no right to claiming them as yours. However, if you are working on your own books, paintings, etc. they are outside of what is service to me. You will work on them during time I do not need you to do work for me, unless we are collaborating, and, therefore, unless we are collaborating and sharing in profits, your work is all your own and so is any money, acclaim from same.

This is further explanation of contracts, for the education and edification of any who care to read. If you do not, then, happy reading of whatever journals you prefer!

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8. Term/Termination by Independent Contractor:Arletta, only, may terminate this Agreement, without waiting for the signature of the other party, by written notice. This is exactly the same thing as a slave contract stating that the Mistress or Master has the right to dismiss you from their service, but, you do not have the right to leave them as you have committed yourself to their service and ownership. Arletta, only, may terminate this Agreement in regards to financial obligation, as outlined in sections 3. and 4. of this Agreement; with the understanding that if violations of Section 4.3 of the Confidential Services Contract have occurred, and the client has terminated the agreement as fully as he is able, and Arletta has not terminated the agreement in regard to finances, as well, within a full four week (28 days) from the time he has given notice, the agreement is terminated in full without further need of signing or request by either party at the end of this 28 day period .In other words, if I am really extra creepy, you may be a little inconvenienced, but, you can move to a safe distance away, make the last four payments by Pay Pal, and never have to see me again or deal with me expecting anything further from you.
9. Term/Termination by Default: If it has been determined by one or both parties to discontinue the process of validating the Confidential Services Contract, by not signing up to the 90-day validation date of _______, then this Agreement will be terminated, without need of further written notices or signatures, four weeks from this date. Payment for up to, and including, the week in which the 90-day signing was to occur will be made, and, then, for the next four weeks (28 full days) after this date. This is regardless of the date in which it was determined that either or both parties have determined that they will no longer validate the Confidential Services Contract. The exceptions to this is that there is an allowance of 7 business days leeway allowed to the 90-day signing when, if the contract is signed within that time period, this Agreement will be considered still valid, and/or a written statement that is signed by both parties which stipulates that the validating signing of the Confidential Services Contract must wait until a later date, due to circumstances of work or emergency – in which case the 7 business days leeway may also be applied to the latter planned date of signing. In effect, this says, if you freak out and do not sign the last time for a few days, the agreement is still valid, and if you need more time, we can make an addendum that allows for more time. However, if you decide to sign once, and then never again, you will be paying four months of the weekly payments before you are fully released - which is put in place because too many people do not take contracts seriously, nor do they take it seriously how much it emotionally affects, and otherwise inconveniences, their potential owners when they waste a lot of time and make false promises. So, don't sign anything, don't even ask to see anything, unless you are serious. If you ask to see my contracts, you are proposing to me. If you fail to follow through on the proposal, you will pay for breach of contract. But, you won't pay too much.

This is a continuing explanation of the contracts I am working with, for the sake of those who care to know more about them without feeling pressured to perform; or, for those who are simply interested in studying examples for their own personal education.

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5. Support Services. Insert name here will provide the following support services for the benefit of Arletta fulfilling her role, per this Agreement: Living quarters, in the form of at least one piece of Real Estate of her choice, as a place in which to engage in the disciplines which are related to this Agreement, whether those disciplines be physical, mental, or emotional in nature;As previously mentioned, the purchase of a house, in all or in part, is negotiable. However, this part is still fulfilled, if, for instance, I choose an apartment for us to live in, whether we are in agreement to stay in the apartment or to seek out a proper house later, because, if we live in an apartment together, you will more than likely be paying the rent on it out of the money you used to use to pay your own bills before we moved in together. That, too, is negotiable, depending on the total picture, however.  the following of all protocols and instructions to the best of his ability; As in, obeying your Mistress, without question. the performance of all assigned duties to the best of his ability; As in serving your Mistress and learning how to please her.and whatever material possessions it is in his power to provide, that are needed for this training. More serving, again with some limitations for your protection; because, obviously, if I went out and bought a diamond ring with your credit card, under most circumstances, it would not be needed for this training. Groceries, utilities, whips, cages, a throne, all sorts of other things might be justifiable, but, expensive baubles should be purchased by the owner with the owner's money (even if it is the money they receive from the slave's labors) or as a gift that the slave has given of their own volition -otherwise it is misuse of power, and extreme rudeness. Why? Because, they provide no sustenance, no physical comfort, no benefit to health, and they are not a tool for teaching.The best use of this Real Estate will be determined by Arletta, with possible input from insert name here. In other words, if in the unlikely event that I  have 6 slaves, and each of them wants to, and does, purchase a piece of real estate, understanding that it is some part of their training, there will be no expectation on the part of the slave that I will be living in all 6 houses, training each slave, individually. That would be silly. However, I might choose to devote one house to my parents and send the slave to serve them as their gardener and pool cleaner, as part of his total service - and all service is training. Another house might be in a foreign country and only used when we want to escape the heat, so the training will occur there, but, not all year round. It is for me to decide. It is for the slave to determine if he has the ability to purchase a piece of real estate in the first place, during or before contract negotiations.
6. New Project Approval. Arletta and ____ recognize that Arletta's Services will include working on various projects, including directing insert name here in his activities. insert name here shall obtain the approval of Arletta prior to the commencement of any project, activity, outside relationship, or other act, duty, or obligation which may, in any way, affect insert name's here productivity, loyalty or concentration in regards to the keeping of this Agreement or any confidential agreements between Arletta and ____ which stem from this creation and actualization of this Agreement. In other words, Arletta is your Mistress, your owner, and you must ask her permission to go camping with friends, change jobs, quit your job because your boss is a filthy jerk, try a new haircut, start the Atkins plan, or anything else that is other than what is already generally accepted or has been specif iced by verbal or written agreement or command. And, since you are signing this document, you have just given her legal permission to treat you in the manner that a slave is treated, even though you will not legally be considered a slave.
7. Term/Termination by Client:This Agreement may be terminated by insert name here with regards to physical, mental, or emotional duties of this Agreement or any confidential agreements which stem from the creation and actualization of this Agreement in the case of one or more violations of Section 4.3 of the Confidential Services Contract, which section, due to its confidential nature will not be quoted herein. Otherwise, he may make a written request for the termination of this Agreement and wait for Arletta to read, agree to, and sign the written request for termination of this Agreement. Section 4.3, as you will see later, is in regards to horrible, violent acts that no one should do to anyone else, ever. If I do them (which I never will) you can remove yourself from the home and refuse to perform any duties for me, etc. You may not quit the weekly payment YET, even in such a case-  but, have no fear, there will be relief for that, as you will see if you keep reading. You may also, even if I have not done something awful, make a written request for these duties to stop - it is up to me to decide if your request is valid. The reason for this is, say, your dad dies, your mom is living all alone and needs someone to care for her and you are the only one of your siblings who is not an utter dick. That would be a very good reason to ask to be released from the agreement, in part or in whole, temporarily or for good.
   

Still sharing information regarding the meaning behind various bits of contracts. This is not a posting related to expectations or demands of anyone signing - but, it is for the edification of those who wish to know more about me, or, more about contracts in general. 

4. Expenses. insert name here shall be responsible for the following expenses: Accommodations in the form of purchased Real Estate, to provide a place of privacy in which for these services to occur; any legal expenses which are the result of either entering into this Agreement in good faith of its legality or of actions taken, in good faith, in following this Agreement; obtaining and maintaining membership in Direct Buy, Sam's Club, and Costco in Arletta's name for the duration of this Agreement, or for whatever length of time Arletta desires these memberships that does not extend past the duration of this Agreement; and, travel expenses related to the relocation of parties, goods, services for the purpose of dwelling with, or ceasing to dwell with, Arletta in regards to the fulfilling of this Agreement.

 This particular section is highly negotiable, depending on income. You will see more about the why's and wherefore's of purchased real estate in the next contract. But, suffice it to say that I do not desire anyone to ruin their finances, be forced to sell the home they own now, or to otherwise do anything crazy for this to take place. Big, yeah - if it can be done - but, not crazy! The reason for the memberships is to save money on fixing up and maintaining a home. I would not want Direct Buy membership until whatever point a home was purchased, whomever it was purchased by, as, unless a home is being completely furnished, one is unlikely to save enough money to make the purchase price truly worthwhile. So, uhm .. don't sweat it. Give it honest thought and come up with an honest statement of fact as to if this could occur, or could not occur, and why; it is open for discussion.

I am writing this as a continuation of an explanation of contracts, for the benefit of any who care to read the explanations, whether it is to better understand what I am thinking about, or whether it is to better understand the use of contracts, or something else altogether. Happy learning! (I say to those who are interested).

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2. Performance of Services. The manner in which the Services are to be performed shall be determined by confidential agreement through contracts, verbal and/or written agreements, lists and notices between Arletta and insert name here. Which means, in effect, there will be no "tell all" books, release of any incriminating information, dragging embarrassing details into court or other public venues (except under very specific, easily avoidable circumstances). This does not mean that the contract would be null and void because you said to your friend "I can't meet you on Thursday, unless Mistress Arletta will allow me leave."

3. Payment. insert name here will pay a fee to Arletta for the Services based on $________per week. This particular bit is often taken in the exact opposite light that it is intended. Contrary to popular belief, this is not about taking maximum money away from the slave; it is about limiting the slave (because slaves love to give everything they have) to a reasonable amount. Reasonable is defined as something that he could pay, with a little sacrifice to comfort, while being sure of being able to have the food, clothing, gas, insurance, food, etc. necessary for his survival. This is also about giving. I am giving to you, in that I am putting my trust in your service that you honestly are a slave who wants to serve, who will make a choice that reflects this criteria. You are giving to me, both in financial service and in that you are obeying the restrictions of this criteria, and giving from your heart rather than me having to take it by force every time OUR utilities need to be paid, when we are living together. This also, of course, legalizes the transfer of money, to an extent where I can pay taxes on it, make purchases with it,  and that makes me feel much happier - as I am not interested in breaking laws or being sneaky.This payment is for the duration of this Agreement, and, as such, may only be altered, to become lesser in size, to a different payment schedule or in any other fashion by the request of Arletta and the notarized signing of an addendum to this Agreement by both Arletta and insert name here. Again, this is often taken exactly the opposite of its intent. You see, I keep running into slave potentials who want to be ordered into financial ruin. I am not interested in ruining someone's financial status. So, I am making the point - the only way this payment will be considered to be altered is by me, and the only manner in which I may alter it is to make it smaller. So, if I see that you have less work, or have been letting yourself suffer more than I deem necessary, to make the payment, I can change it and you have no right to argue with me .This payment shall be made to Arletta in cash, in person, commencing on the day that this Agreement is signed by both parties and thereafter on the same day of the week, each week it is made. If it is not possible for the payment to be made in cash, it will, instead, be made through PayPal payments to the address of artistworking@live.com. I prefer the payment be made in cash, not to be sneaky, but, because, I learned from a submissive that insisted on sending me cash in a card through the mail, that it means so much more, for both slave and owner, for the slave to come to their owner and make this offering, showing that they are thinking of the owner, and letting them see that their owner appreciates this sacrifice - much preferable to ugly forcing and demands. However, it is not entirely practical, before the slave and I are living together, to make payments in cash, as they are more likely to be stolen, and there are reasons why payments should commence BEFORE the moving. For one thing, it is one of the easiest forms of service, in a long distance situation, that has the most impact. For another, that way, I can set money aside for shopping for items necessary for our living together (both vanilla, like furniture, and bdsm related) rather than ordering you to make the purchases and the bank seeing it as a drain on your financial status, in case we need you to have a good credit record. The banks are getting highly persnickety, and, it is common practice to check credit records several times if someone is taking out a loan on a house. Therefore, if the slave is effecting the purchase of a home,  co-signing for me so that I can effect it instead, or anything related to that, he must have a stable credit record.  Insert name here may have up to 7 days leeway in which to begin, or to continue, making payments, without being found to be in violation of this Agreement. However, insert name here is still required to make full payment of each week's payment, so that if he signs on Wednesday, the 15^th, but, cannot pay until Wednesday the 22nd, he will need to pay two weeks worth of payments on the 22^nd. Exceptions to this, such as being allowed to catch up on payments through a scheduled increase for a duration of time, must be made by written, signed agreement between the two parties.

This is a continuation of an explanation regarding contracts I have written and am working with; not, in and of itself, a contract or an attempt to get someone to sign a document. Use it to learn more about me, to learn more about contracts, or ignore it, as you please. Thank you.

Therefore, the parties agree as follows:

1. Description of Services. Beginning on insert date here Arletta will provide the following services (collectively, the “Services): Training n the art of domestic skills; advice; serving as a focal point and figure of authority, somewhat like that of a mother figure, for insert name here's peace of mind; the writing of chore lists, protocols, and other documents to help insert name here live the lifestyle of his choosing; companionship of a legal, non-sexual nature; training through the use of non-sexual, mutually agreed to, physical and mental discipline; providing assistance in making life choices and decisions; providing assistance in grooming; providing assistance in self-help meditation, visualization, exercise and other practices acceptable to insert name here and his choice of lifestyle; research and/or creation and/or application and/or usage of disciplines, protocols, methods, instruments, tools, and/or whatever is deemed appropriate by mutual consent to enhance the public and private life of insert name here. Consent will be given by confidential written or verbal agreement, between Arletta and insert name here.

In other words, in legal language, Arletta will be your Mistress - the head of the household, of which you are the slave. She will train you to perform your duties, she will be the one to whom you give your service, she will direct your steps, discipline you, teach your mind to think as a slave should think (such as you might need that teaching), control what you wear and why you wear it, and possibly chain you up, tie you down, lightly brain wash you, cage you, make you sit in a corner, or  beat your silly little slave arse if, in fact, it is deemed either good or necessary - because you agreed to it, and you need it; or, because she darned well wants to, and, as she is the dominant figure of authority in your life, you wish to obey her.

Also, to some extent, this answers the age old question "But, what are you going to do for me?" This is what I am going to do for you, slave, and, it involves a lot of effort on my part. True, my effort will mainly be mental and yours will mainly be physical; but, that all gets reversed when the whip comes out, or the slave gets caged and the Mistress has to keep traipsing back and forth checking on him, now, doesn't it?

As my profile has stated, I  am making these journal entries, with bits of my contracts in them, so as to break it down into sections (as I think seeing the contracts as a whole, all at once, is overwhelming to most), and explain them, to some extent, as I go.

The purpose of these entries is not to provide a contract to be signed by anyone, but, only for the purposes of sharing what my contracts are, currently, and why I have written them the way I have, so that, those who are interested in contract writing, or interested in potential service, can have more information. So, please, do not report my journal entry as being inappropriate. 

It may not be for you, but, some people are very interested.

Thank you.

Part one of Training Consultation Agreement.

Now, first of all, I should explain that the reason for having a 'Training Consultation Agreement' is for the sake of there being a fully legal component to the relationship. Both I, and the slave, would be under obligation to provide what we have contracted to provide, or else we could be sued in a court of law.  That means, you cannot refuse to obey, and I cannot sit around on my lazy butt and just order you to do things, without teaching you any protocols, correcting your work, or otherwise providing training.

Training Consultant Agreement

This Agreement is made effective as of insert date here, by and between insert name here, of insert address here and Arletta Sloan, of insert address here.

Please note. You have my name. You can Google me. I suggest you do, because if you are seriously considering me as your Mistress, you should want to know everything about me that you can know. I am out there, a lot - on old sites and on one's I am still active on. Put in the time to research your potential owner!

In this Agreement, the party who is contracting to receive services shall be referred to as “insert name here”, and the party who will be providing the services shall be referred to as “Arletta”.

Arletta has an informal background in domestic arts and disciplines, as well as an employment background in customer service and confidential contracts, and is willing to provide services to insert name here based on this background.

This means that I, Arletta, have had a whole lot of years as a babysitter, mother, dutiful daughter, slave, training slaves for others, slave owner, volunteer, caregiver. I have been training myself or others since I can remember. I am telling you that I know how to train people to cook, clean, organize themselves to some extent, and, also, because I include it as part of domestic arts and skills, I know how to train you to think, act, and be more like a slave. I am guaranteeing you training, not just the use of your body and money for my own needs.

insert name here desires to have services provided by Arletta.

You are guaranteeing me that you want to be trained and are not going to turn around and call it abuse, later,  in a fit of pique. This is a bold statement that cannot be misunderstood. You want what I can do for you, even including what I do to you to achieve the results I determine are desirable.

... to be continued ....

This is actually a response message that I just sent to someone (approx. 12:24 pm 01/05/2011), but, it says things that I think anyone who is reading m profile should know, so, here you go:

"Nice definition! Then, to answer you: Yes, someone does really want a relationship. I want a relationship. I just don't want it to be based on romance, sex, or the horrible degradation and abuse of another human being. I want a real relationship, as much as possible, of a real owner (me) with a real slave - possibly along with other real relationships with other real slaves, who would also be in a relationship with each other, that would also not be founded on sex or abuse, and would only involve sex and romance if they happened to fall in love with each other - or, met someone else.

In other words, I want REAL LIFE with slaves, not pretend, role-playing, b.s. where people think "lifestyle" is all about whips and wanking off in corners, instead of it mainly being about getting the dishes done, working toward common goals, establishing and following rules, and actually LIVING TOGETHER

Mind you, I do think whips, etc. have their place - as part of punishment, or part of fun, but, not as the whole of either, and certainly not as the major component of living together.

I was just thinking about that. I mean, why have most people in history become slaves, who volunteered for it? Two reasons. 1) They owed their owner something (which none of the slaves, here, owe me anything).  2) Out of a desire to join into a common cause (ie: Lancelot, who was not a slave in name, but, obviously a slave by devotion, who would have properly kept himself in line if only either one of his owners had beat him for thinking of going there).

I need slaves who have a desire to join in a common cause - the helping of others - or common goals - the writing, painting, helping others, living together in a basically "normal" old-fashioned, slave/Owner relationship that is based on loyalty, fealty, obedience - positive things, where everyone is valued and no one is beaten, unless they truly deserve it.

That's what I need."

• Interesting how many men quote, or bring up, a certain Ms. Sutton, claiming they want such a domme, even though they cannot live up to her standards for males.
• Or, even more so, a certain Ms. Bellamare: whom these men send me the book of, whilst claiming they want such a domme, but, are unable to live up to her standards of what a man should be. Well, if you have read that book, which I keep getting sent: shame on you! I read enough to know that she did not want you to, man. Aside from that, if you have read her works, then, you should be able to grasp this concept quite readily:I tell you what I want from you. You have a short period of time to think it over. If you cannot come to a decision, by the end of that time, you are dismissed.
• I am told that I need to be harsher and more uncompromising than that. However, I am told that by "slaves" who cannot listen to what I want, think it over, and then come to a decision, so, I am not told it for very long at a time.
• I am not your God, Goddess, or any other form of deity. I am flesh and blood.
• I am not your accuser, your abuser, your  molester, your ruin or your destruction. I am your owner.
• If I were a cruel deity, I would not be on this site writing this profile. I would be out enslaving Johnny Depp, who is cuter than you and makes more money. Think about it.
• I am not your fantasy. I am reality.
• You are not my fantasy. You are my reality.
• Your fetishes will not be catered to, your whims are not my concern. That you do as I command, as you are taught, giving generously of your time, body (for labor), brain, and finances, is my concern
• .I can be loving, caring, concerned, giving rewards at odd times, bestowing a little usage upon the slaves in ways that they hope to be used particularly, for the slave who does not tax me with his petty needs and ways.
• I want to be kind, to share my life with a slave, or a few, who I like and who like me, person to person  - but -  I can be cruel, harsh, unforgiving for the slave who does not listen, does not learn.You will be questioned, you will be tested. I do not demand immediate perfection. However, if you fail to give any sort of satisfaction, you will be summarily cut from my life.
• It is none of your business, slave, if I say please or thank you, if I give you a warm bed or a cold floor, if you eat beans and rice or steak and salad. You have no right to judge me, to question my ways that do not threaten your life or your limb, or to, in any way, inconvenience me with your whining wants.
• If it is a NEED, we will discuss it. If it is a desire, keep it to yourself unless you are asked about it.
• Queue 10 screaming "slaves" telling me I want too much. Reply: Why yes, yes I do. I want it all, except what I have no use for. If you are not willing to learn to live by my standards and to give to me, I don't care for your opinion. If you are, then, I have already given it to you.
• The second photo was taken on 01-04-2011 (January 11, 2011)
• I have used these little dot thingies, off the left, as it is the only way I can keep there from being enormous gaps of space between paragraphs. Something weird is going on with the html around here!

(sigh) Another week, another several hours of wasted time.

This is my last email to the latest "slave" who was allegedly interested in being a real slave, who was owned. If you might be interested in being a real slave, or want to know anything about my experience, it could be worth reading - if bitchy.

Please note that the collarme chat system does not work on my computers,

so I do not accept chat  requests here. Please also note that I am the one in charge,

according to me, so I do not accept chat requests anywhere else.

If I want to chat you up, you will be informed.  

I need a slave roommate. Age, sex, and looks do not matter.  You must be local, or be ready to make yourself local ; discreet, obedient, loyal and fun.

You would live here in secrecy, as my slave, and would  cook, clean, shop when needed, chauffeur, perform some minor grooming duties, keep track of supplements and appointments;  and, of course, whatever else is required of you, none of which will be sexual in nature. Please note that while financial service is part of the relationship, so you would have to work or have an income, you would retain all control of your bank accounts, etc.

Please read my interests to better understand what other aspects of your service to me might be.

I might also consider persons who wish to live some aspect of this lifestyle

I have described, without being roommates. Ask politely and I'll let you know.

For those of you who do know me from my former profile, I have not decided against any of the longer term goals. I've just decided I'd be better off seeking something for now, and seeing how things progress.

It is the beginning of a new week, and, with that new beginning, comes a freshly clean inbox.  Do not expect me to remember what passed between us, since it is now erased. If you are not blocked, you may return, when you are serious.

Let me explain something to you slaves:

One cannot write a profile, contract, or anything else, that is going to please everyone, all the time. Hence why a contract negotiation is a NEGOTIATION.

This is a three part process.

1. I show you the contract.

2. You read the contract and get back to me on what you need, that isn't in it, or that you would like changed that is in it. And, once we are in agreement ...

3. I rewrite the bloody thing into something we both agree with and then we sign it.

I can usually get slaves to go all the way through the first step. Then, they freak out over what is missing, or what is there, and, because of something that is totally negotiable (usually) they cancel the whole process and run screaming.

There is some vast misunderstanding over the importance of ... oh, most everything. What is important is very simple:

Willingness to serve, desire to be owned, obedience, loyalty, some compatibility of personality in the ways in which we are likely to come together. Such as, for instance, humiliation. I think humiliation is more about having one's true faults pointed out and worked on, to make them a better person. If you think it's about that, great. If you think it's about you wanting to wank off, but, not being able to do to the chastity device, while I sit on your face, then, we are not compatible.

So, willingness to serve, desire to be owned, obedience, loyalty, some compatibility of personality. Oh, and, also, trust. Because, quite frankly, there is no good excuse for a slave assuming they are never going to get to exercise any of their fetishistic needs, just because I have not written it into the contract that they are definitely going to get to.

You have to trust that you are a person, I am a person, and I know that people, sometimes, work better when they, sometimes, get something that makes them happy - and that I am a 42 year old woman, who has raised children, owned slaves before now, and has some idea of how to give people enough of what they need and want to keep them working hard and fairly happy, even if it means hiring other people or letting them go out to play after their chores are done, while still maintaining full control of the basic situation.

(sigh)

Basically, my views on slaves is that most people have it backwards.

There are many people who think "true slavery" is all about being degraded, and, what they seek out is a mean, out of control, person who hates them and wants to crap in their mouth, ruin their credit rating, and expose them to possible legal action; but, they reject the ones who are dominant while being in control and who are capable of holding their slaves in affection, all without resorting to unsanitary or illegal acts of inhumanity.

I get rejected, quite often, for being religious. Whether their owner is religious or is not religious is no business of slaves. They are there to serve, not to pass personal judgment.

However, whether or not their owner is likely to ruin their health or make it impossible for them to care for themselves, later, if they are released, is very much the business of slaves.

What happens to your body, reputation, spirit, and finances should concern you greatly. What happens to me, as a soul,  is strictly my own business.

It's messages like this, that keep a body going:

"Well in my humble opinion, you should find what you seek fairly soon. You are intelligent, beautiful,  and obviously not a game player. The trouble is that most slaves seek the fantasy as opposed to the reality."

And, while I cannot tell you his ID, I can tell you that he is a he, and he is a slave.