SlaveGoldie

The Dominant's Creed

Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all.

He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure.

To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction.

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on.

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

When it comes time to teach his submissive her lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they.

He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.

He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.
 
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TorqueDom3

I did not actually write this.  I do not know who did.  I did change a few parts, but I think that it shows very well the kind of Dom that I am looking for.

A Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care.  He believes more in you than you believe in yourself.  He relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline. 

His love for his girl goes without saying. He loves her for who she is. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped her to create it. She holds the tenderest part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

 
This love would not be possible without respect.  He is a Dom that needs to feel pride in his girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase its value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. 

In order for the girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.  If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.  Yet there is a balancing act going on.  If he is to quick to punish or to harsh in his punishment she will just as quickly lose respect for him as well.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. 

A Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.

 
Just because he loves her in no way means he is not sadistic or has sadistic needs. Many Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship. 

Do not contact me if You are going to have an issue with me having a safe call.  I WILL NOT meet ANYONE without a safe call.

I saw this in someone else's profile and I can not remember who or find that profile again or I would list their profile and would of asked it it was ok to use this because I really liked it.  It is how I think of serving.  It was something like: 

"serve Him from your knees and you shall be cared for, serve Him from your heart and you shall be loved, serve Him from you soul and He shall never let you go"

Dearest Master,

I have the responsibility to set limits, and the right to expect them to be respected. I have the right to adjust these limits at any time. I promise to always respectfully make You aware of my limits. I will expect You to push them, to force me to create new limits and boundaries. I have the right to get up and walk away from a scene if You have crossed the line and expect You to not think less of me, or abandon me because of it.

I have the right to privacy. I expect You to be concerned about time we spend apart and whith whom I spend that time with, but I expect You to understand that I am a person, separate from You. Thusly, having problems and situations in my life that I will not always need Your help with. I expect You will respect me for my independence and not criticize me for it. I have the right to ask You for help, should I need it. I have the right to be trusted, providing I have earned it, and I have the right to expect You to believe I am the intelligent, caring and loyal person I promise to be.  I responsibly respect your privacy and your need for it.

I have the right to ask things of You, and have You listen to my requests. I have the right to ask for Your attention, without having to misbehave to get it. I have the right to ask You to contribute as much to this relationship as I do. As long as my requests are submitted respectfully, I expect You to consider them as You would from any friend or colleague. I have the right to question Your motives, should You deny my requests. I promise to always do so with the proper respect.

I have the right to expect You to administer punishment with care and caution. I promise to be responsible and do my very best always obey and respect You even when You are not with me. I promise to always be honest and upfront with You even when I fear I have failed You.

I have the right and the responsibility to speak up if I feel our relationship is not giving me what I need. I promise always to tell You what I need, in a respectful manner. I expect You to make a real effort to understand my reasons for doing so, and I will expect You to listen with an open mind and heart. I promise to always do my best to give You what You need. I have the right to walk away from the relationship if we cannot come to a common ground on these issues.

I expect tenderness, love and understanding after a scene is completed. I promise to always give as much of myself as I can. I have the right to ask You for that tenderness if I've had a bad day, or if I just feel the need for closeness.

I understand that there will be times when You and I will disagree about things -- when You will want something, and I will not. I have the right to call for a talk about this, and expect You to listen to and consider my reasonings. You will have the final word, but I expect You to wholeheartedly consider my feelings, whatever they may happen to be.

I have the right to expect our relationship to progress, for trust to continually be renewed by both of us, for our souls to be as close as our bodies are. I promise to tell You if I need more from You, and I expect You to respect my decisions about what I want and need. I expect You to understand that deep trust often breeds love, and I expect You not to repel me if and when I tell You that I love You. For I will love You, my Master, should our relationship move ahead, should our trust continue to grow.

I have the right to expect You to tell me, at any point, if You do not feel You can return those feelings, so that I may decide what I want and need. For it is Your pleasure that adds to my own, makes it real. And mine, that adds to Yours.