SlaveBoy222

If you are here for money at least have the decency to say so. Why pretend? why hide behind URL's and ridiculous chat invitations... i would say it's silly but it's not - it's disingenuous and rude. don't destroy the culture you care nothing about. No one expects honestly anymore... but how about some level of decency.

Humiliation is another dangerous word. One the one hand is can be used by the "power" Domme/Dom to "break" a submissive in. The way army breaks in young soldiers. But, although its is not for me to judge, i worry about long and even short term effects of such methodology. The other extreme - the self-humiliation of the submissive before the Domme/Dom can be problematic as well. Firstly, it can be self-involved or downright selfish - the submissive's need for self-humiliation is all effacing - the Domme/Dom are just the vehicles carrying out the humiliation. Secondly, such need for humiliation can be often traced to inner psychological insecurities and thus are damaging to the relationship since the submissive is unable to fully serve because of the preoccupation with this insecurity. And yet - pure humiliation of the self before the Domme/Dom - where neither extreme is met but rather as an homage to HER/His power (without effacing one's own worth)... can be some of the most beautiful and inspirational moments. One needs to look at art, sculpture..poetry ...the examples are easy to find.

trust... trust is the cornerstone of any relationship - vanilla, bdsm, bromance, gymnastics..
no matter what the connection is between the people it will not last without trust.
But trust comes in many forms - don't expect the perfect bond to appear right away -
build it up from the simple things. and that's what people forget - the simple things -
trust comes from listening, from responding..from understanding. So many expect trust
to be given to them just by virtue of their position - that is not realistic - and such
one-sided relationships are headed for an early crash. But many are also afraid to
trust altogether, they hide their feelings inside... never showing, never sharing. That
too is a sabotage - a self-sabotage in fact. It doesn't allow a trust to be built... and the
partner is left out in the cold...

usefulness..its all we subs wish to be.. useful.. that's our version of wanted - to have a use - to fulfill a need. but how often even that situation requires a different outlet then is available in the accepted situation. to be useful to the Shining One. to see that a need has been met by our eager but honest efforts... to feel full from our own use... ah ... too often a frustrating dream

Adoration...to adore.. to worship...to place above oneself....but.. there is a problem with this word... it feels right...or rather sounds right..but is it?
it seems that the word is mixed up with a very masculine subtext, and no wonder it has Latin roots. This subtext suggests that the one being
adored is somehow objectified... by the one adoring. This word...so key to courtly love..perhaps is too steeped in patronizing male rhetoric..
A new word is needed.... a better one...

defiance... its all in the eyes... if you have seen that look...from a child or a student or a sub... oh i would guess its a terrible look to see form a sub -
that look leads to only 2 choices - brake or leave. and if you choose to break... well who am i to judge. buts its not ever going to be the same...but
that look from a child or a student - that's the one you do want - its not the cowardly "idunwanna"; not the bullish "no cause i am stubborn"... its a look
of "i have caught you with your pants down, i know THIS... i know it better, deeper and with more conviction then YOU". its a look of challenge, of
open war (that's really its meaning anyhow - from old french). And there will be no prisoners... the wings are grown - let them fly...or cut them down..
who am i to judge anyhow.

warmth... its one of the most important early ideas of humanity... there is a seldom used word in the modern English - tepid. its origins are sanscrit - and thus perhaps even older - back to the roots of the indo-european language. tepid in english - teplo in russian, tene "fire" in old irish, in Welsh tes "heat"....we need warmth... it speaks to us from the depth of the ice ages, from the caves of the ancestors who huddled around a fire for warmth... but in our modern day there is another warmth we need - a spiritual one... one that used to be a given - one that came from family and community - thats no longer available to us... we are units.. no longer truly part of the larger WE. we miss that warmth, seek it, hope to find that one other that is to answer the call perfectly - shocked when that doesn't happen although its often because it cannot...

tepid... used to mean warm.. now...its just tepid.