My favorite characteristic in persons I'd like to keep forever and ever is a healthy attention to, and appreciation of, minute details. It makes me smile and the smile inspired when someone remembers something I have said to them, or better yet something they have inferred correctly about me from something I said, is worth annoying commutes and serious effort on their part. And no, I won't go on cam to show this smile to you.

I'd like to write a really positive blurb about things I like, the characteristics I like in people, about my excitement and recent passion for spiritual integrity and self discovery. But really, I feel like that is none of your business; you whom I have never and most likely will never meet. Why am I so certain?

If you are like most people on this website, you will not pay attention to a word that I say. When I take an interest in someone online, I tend to ask them simple questions about themselves, about their beliefs, about their vanilla interests to discern their ability to follow through when asked to do simple things or anything that they say they are able to do (such as being online at a certain time). They rarely answer me. Oh sure, they respond, with their desires, with their fetishes, with their fantasies, with a list of actions they want done to them. They respond with what they want. That is not what I've asked. I don't care what a stranger wants from me unless that stranger happens to be compatible with me.

If you are like most people on this website, you will barely pay attention to what you say in conversation with me. I invite people I'm interested in to ask questions and I answer them. They proceed to repeat these questions ad infinitum until I cease speaking with them. I do not believe I can adequately express my hatred for this behavior without tiring out my wrists.

I'm starting to realize that I am a minority among minorities: A black female dominant a skilled rope top and I've started learning pretty young. And since most femdoms on this site are looking for money (or so I hear) it seems to be rare to find a femdom who is looking for long term service and hopes (cautiously) for romantic involvement. I've decided to put this out there: yes, I am a romantic (in my own bossy, sadistic, territorial and neurotic way). Yes, I am playing for keeps (hah! what an awesome pun!). I am doing the arduous work of finding mentors I look up to, and who are more experienced than I, to guide me to the safest practices involved in really interesting stuff. The more effort I put into... myself, the less I tolerate "clients in denial." I am active in my local community, a fast learner, a cautious person,  friendly, generally sexy and fun. Why in the world would I be home and online trying to link up with someone who is not a potential partner but a client in denial? Let me clarify this last part because it is important.

A Client...

is someone who because of his work, his marriage or the shame he has associated with his sexuality must be discreet. He cannot commit to service that involves his time or effort or his physical appearance in front of anyone a femdom knows. This is sometimes stipulated to exclude only male acquaintances but it still counts. This person may also fixate on varying fetishes or sexual activities or maybe even one singular activity and expects femdoms that he messages on this site to accommodate his fixation; he doesn't need to know them very well, he need only find them attractive.

If any of this criteria refers to you and you are not looking for a professional dom's services than YOU ARE A CLIENT IN DENIAL.

You would be what I affectionately refer to as an energy sucking wanker. I do not mean to suggest that clients are energy sucking wankers (I'm not a pro I can't speak to their trends) no that's not what I'm saying. It is the "client in denial" I mean to single out here. I also do not suggest that there aren't women sucking energy with their financial schemes, but honestly, those women can only be successful with men who have a need that they must fill but who will not take the time to find the right woman to fill it (ie: actual pro doms). If you are female and you have bothered to read this far, please say hello! I seem to  get ONLY wanker men when I say I want women only in the "what you seek" section. Here's what I wish I could check off: I am looking for attentive human beings who are comfortable or at least familiar with the amount of communication it takes to have a healthy and fulfilling poly (or possibly cuckold) relationship with a demanding but sensual, young dominant. Does that sound like it implies answering simple questions truthfully is a must?