The power of submission lies not in the ability to kneel before another, to give over one's body or in the wearing of a collar. The power of submission can be found only in the heart of one who gives their love to another freely knowing what joy and pain will come from it
♥ I'm beautifully broken... Shaped by the wind..♥
My heart, my soul belongs to only One, always
Ownership So, you have done it. The negotiations are over and the collar has been accepted. You are the proud owner of a slave. You know what to do next, the fun and games begin and a good time will be had by all.
Not so fast now. Let's look at what you have done. Just like getting a new car, it's time to check out the owner's manual. Hmmmmmmm. Let's see, just where did I put that, I know that it was around here somewhere. Well, I guess that I don't have one. I can just wing it, what can go wrong? It's all just fun and games, right?
By the way, the light you see at the end of the tunnel is from a headlight of a oncoming locomotive.
Those in the lifestyle for more than a few years have seen this more than once. They hook up, have a great time, but something happens. You hear the rumors later. He did this, she said that, promises broken, and lies told, sooner rather than later there is a break-up and the real pain begins.
The lifestyle holds a great advantage in interpersonal relationships. It strips off social conventions to allow two people to get to know each other very quickly. It is also very dangerous, in that the protections provided by society are bypassed. It allows posers and players to pass themselves off as experienced, caring people. Groups, both on-line and real time is a firewall to protect people. You are only as good as your reputation. It takes years to get it and you can loose it with one word.
What does this have to do with ownership? Quite a bit. In the lifestyle, you are only as good as your word. Lies hurt you, your lies can hurt others. Be honest, with yourself and with others. Never assume more experience than you have, an emergency room visit and a questioning by the police is never helpful forming a relationship. The last thing you want to tell anyone is "I'm sorry. I didn't know." Some scars don't heal.
Will you, as an owner find problems? Yes, you will, and you will have to find solutions for them too. The lifestyle is emotional dynamite. Let me repeat that.
THE LIFESTYLE IS EMOTIONAL DYNAMITE!
You cannot predict what will happen. How people will react. What others will do. The best you can do is to anticipate what could happen and prepare for that. Both the good and the bad.
Your word is your bond. Everyone will know how you act. Honor is your shield. Respect is earned, not given. Your reputation is only as good as your last act, make it count.
Is it difficult? Yes. Is it impossible? No.
Many do talk the talk and walk the walk. They are all around us, you may never notice them. You may never hear of them. They shun drama. They do what they do and share with whom they will. In each way, they advance the lifestyle out of the shadows and into the light.
Be with them, be one of them..... Be honorable.
♥ ♥ ♥
Life
"Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."
Thoughts to reflect upon . Have we really ever lost ourselves on life's journey or have we ignored the gifts we have and set them aside?
We come into this world not lost, but a blank canvas on which we have a daily opportunity to add another color, change a texture, and explore the light and darkness of who we are.
Taking the time to be creative in your "self" work leads to acceptance of who you are without getting lost and hoping someone will find you.
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I must admit, re-joining the House of Caprus was something I had considered for quite sometime. It was only after a brief conversation with my dear sister, who is on the first steps of her own new journey, that I made the decision to do so.
I always say, it is my sandbox. If you do not play nice, find another place to play. My sandbox, my rules.
This is true for many things. When you enter anyone's house or space, you are dealing with their perspective. We each bring to the sandbox our own unique selves. How we interact with one another is important.
In the honor of my best friend and twin of which I will always hold good memories, I decided to re-join the House of Caprus and teach people NOT to be like me, NOT to embrace my way of thought or life, but to be open and vulnerable to expand on what knowledge they have. I have done my "self" work. I am where I wish to be today and I am grateful for the love and support of so many who helped me get there and helped me stay focused.
"self' work is so important. We cannot expect to begin a relationship and have someone fix us or make live better for us becasue we cannot or will not make it better for ourselves first. It has to start with "self".
It is the mirror of self that I hope to hold up so others might take a deeper look inside. To be vulnerable to see both the good and flawed and to be brave enough to change it on your own. To come to the presence of another, confident on who you are, not broken in body, mind and spirit, is important to give a relationship of any kind a fair chance.
Be vulnerable. Be unafraid. Be willing to look in the mirror and accept what you are happy with and change what you are not. It starts with you first before you can offer to share yourself with another, either as a Dominant or a submissive. Do the "self" work.
As for my sister "Lucy". I wish you the best on your new journey. Our walk together has come to a crossroad and as You take the hand of your new Owner, it is with love in my heart that I wish you well my sister. You deserve the best and I trust you know yourself well that you are confident you have made a good choice as you now learn His ways as it should be.
/ SinIncarnate
Reason
Reason says-- i will win You with my eloquence...
Love says-- i will win You with my silence...
Soul says-- how can i win You when all i have is already Yours?
And for you who seek to know me...know that your seeking and yearning will avail you not...unless you know the mystery...
For if that which you seek..you will not find within yourself...you will never find it without.
For behold, I have been with you from the beginning.
I am that which is attained at the end of desire....
" Only within Your bonds do I truly know freedom "
If you have been abandoned, then your Master is not much of a Master,
I liken this to commanding a ship. when one is given command of a ship, (so much like a woman, and I mean this) the Master of that ship must learn her ways. he must study her moods, her moans and her waywardness in confused seas and learn to master her, to trim the mainsails, the stunsails and the stays.
A Master must learn to control her movement as much through the rudder (the mind) as by the sails (creating an environment for her to prosper, and move freely and grow to her full potiencial)
A Master can not resign this charge because she has a mind of her own. chainsaws have a mind of their own, cars have a mind of their own, dogs, cats, cows, deer, snakes of all things, have a mind of their own, it is unreasonable to think a slave does not have a mind of her own.
But she is YOUR charge, YOUR duty is to guide her, protect and nurture her to her fullest expressions of her being.
Steps of silence
How this happened, I am not sure. Where it will go, I am even less sure of. Should it come full circle, I will have met the person who would hold my soul in the palm of his hands and dance with me to the music of the gods.
Should this be a deep and endearing friendship, I am thankful for the opportunity to know such a man.
Time will tell . . . for only time knows the truth.
For now, she kneels by the side of Him and walks in silence to learn more of who He is and more about herself.
"in steps of silence . . the Ryder and His Angel walk." _
I miss my friend...You got me through when times were tough. You were always there, even when I did not understand why You barked orders at me.
Just letting you know that I miss You...and thank You for all that You have done.
Squishy
Vea dentro de oscuridad y arrebate lo que usted. La mirada profundamente dentro y yo le frecuentaremos. Grant yo entrada y su alma sangrará para mí. Tome una respiración para mí y dibújeme pulg. Ciérrese los ojos como el mundo derrite lejos. Susurre mi nombre y termine el encanto.
The room was filled with the night's moon glow She lay sleeping, lost in her dreams The rise and fall of her every breath Tightly captured within moonlit beams.
He lay there watching His charge as she sighed and turned with a half knowing smile gracing her lips His eyes traveled over the length of her They rested upon her moving hips.
What was she dreaming of, this lovely minx Were they dreams of passion and play? Was she dreaming of kneeling before Him Was she dreaming of surrendering this day?
Surrendering all that was safe and sound Surrendering all of her pain Surrendering all of her secrets Surrendering even her name.
He reached out for her sleeping form He leaned in and kissed her face He wondered how long it would take her Before she claimed her rightful place.
Deep within her the fires burned Kept fueled by an ache to please The slave inside would soon emerge She would live her ancient dreams.
He watched her just a moment more She moved and softly moaned She lay there wrapped within His arms This girl, His property, the slave who He owned.
This is something I have been meaning to write for quite sometime. I've discussed this with a few of My F/friends and many have been anxiously awaiting My writing this. To say the least this will indeed be a work in progress...
To Me and My trained eye I see many a "Scene" a term I do NOT like, which is really just Topping and bottoming. There is NO D/s it is ONLY S&M "Play" another term I do NOT like. What do I mean? That's simple: If it is really BDSM and based on either a strong D/s or M/s dynamic it involves much more than just the physical acts of S&M. One of My many motto's is: "Anyone can wield a flogger, but ONLY a few can wield Their mind!" The mental, physical, emotional and psychological connections are an important ingredient, which I often see missing. To Me One must engage the mind. It could be a glance, touch, kiss, inflection of One's voice, the whispering in ones ear...the possibilities are infinite. This is not just when together, but also when apart. What is referred to as the "subtle 24/7" and something I do love and enjoy. It is My way and not for A/all.
D/s and M/s can and should be one of the most loving of relationships. Let's be honest with O/one another W/we all know what it is W/we do...not ONLY is trust a huge factor, but in a true relationship like those in the "vanilla" world respect and communication are also vital. This is also true and even more so in BDSM. Another ingredient to Me is the love and romance. Yes, there can be both in a D/s and M/s relationship. This includes and is not limited to the adoration, devotion and other feelings as well as emotions experienced by both Dom/Master and sub/slave. I should mention and reference that Daddy/baby girl relationships are applicable too. To many the ritual(s) of a collar are with deep meaning and significance as it should be and is to Me. However, to some it is without the significance and what I call and term a "Velcro collar" easy on and easy off.
BDSM when all of the above ingredients are present should be an intimate, electric, and erotic exchange between both Dom/Master, sub/slave and Daddy/baby girl/ Not only can it be seen, felt, tasted, smelled and heard, by those involved, but also those watching and observing. Even in public the subtle 24/7 mode is present and known to O/one another.
Love and romance...if it is a real relationship and not one based upon kinky sex and S&M...both should be present and evolve over the course of time. A logical progression...F/friends first, D/s second, and then M/s. There are many aspects of M/s I do like. However, it is the D/s dynamic that I would say is the major component and foundation. Sometimes I hear the word "dating" in reference to D/s and yet another term I do NOT like. To Me D/s and M/s is NOT dating. It is a journey of both exploration and discovery. An erotic dance of the minds and body.
It is often written and referenced: "Mind, body, heart, soul and spirit", but seldom seen or experienced.
To Be Continued...
Collars
General Collars as they were once given and accepted
I am often asked about my formal training and what it was all about. I have seldom put to words what I actually learned but thought this would be a good time for me to re-visit my formal training and share it with others. I also am using this as a way of journaling. It will help me to maintain my own mindset as I serve my Sir as His slave .
Please remember, what I learned and how I learned is neither a right or wrong way in regards to how things are done today. This is simply my journey and lessons I learned to make me into the person I am today.
Collars are given and accepted for many reasons and are as unique to the people involved and the people themselves. Should you extend and accept a collar, the intent and purpose of that collar should be clear to all parties involved. If someone asks about the collar and what it means, the answer should come easily as the meaning of that collar is clearly understood by the person wearing it and the person giving it. If a collar is noted in an online profile, again the type of collar, the intent of the collar and purpose of the collar should be noted.
GENERAL COLLARS These can be asked for by the sub/slave and given by a House or a Dominant and does not imply or suggest an intimate relationship between the two. The Relationship Collars are ones of intimacy and how they are extended and asked for depends on the couple involved.
House Collar - this collar can be worn to denote membership of a House. It is not one of ownership. It can be given to someone to wear while traveling and under Protection of the House. It can also be offered to someone owned by another if the Owner is not present and has requested one be worn. This is rare, but some Relationship collar are very expensive and often traveling with them could lead to misplacing them. It can also be extended to House members who are learning under the House and means the student has accepted House rules. (yes, every House has rules. It keeps the sense of order within) This collar is negotiated, often with specific terms so there are no misunderstandings.
Collar of Protection - this collar is meant to be a safe harbor to someone should they need one during a transition from being in a relationship to being solo. This collar can be extended to someone attending an event alone and they wish to align themselves with someone of authority. In it's most basic terms, this means a Dominant is willing to step up to the plate if and when they are needed to assist.
Collar of Training - This collar can be given and excepting in two ways. The first is a general training collar. This is usually a mentor/student relationship. It needs to be spelled out carefully so there is no confusion. A general training collar is non-sexual. It is given during the time of learning the art of service. If the collar of training is offered and accepted with the intent to move to a personal relationship, the rules change drastically. The building blocks of a new relationship have been laid down. The difference here is that the sub/slave has a desire to learn from the Dominant his personal needs and wants. In turn the Dominant wishes to learn more of the sub/slave through a more intimate training method. Sexual preferences, types of play, a more personal vested interest in the relationship is expressed by both parties. Although discussed, even at this level sexual intimacy was not introduced because most held to the belief that the first steps in training were not physical but mental. Also, this was the point at which the training could end with the least amount of emotional difficulty.
respectfully, Sin
comfort zones
D/s and Comfort Zones
A simplified thesis of the interaction between the two
Definitions of terms
D/s is a commonly used acronym meaning Dominant/submissive. That while it has many uses and social meanings, really only reflects the hierarchical nature of the chosen relationship(s). This relationship is not directly related with the other commonly used term of BDSM. For that term is more accurately used to refer to the intense, out-of-the-norm sexual play. While these terms are often intermingled, doing so offers more confusion and disappointment than helps. There is no need to include the definitions of Sadism or Masochism here, for that is a pathology beyond the scope of this narrative.
Description of behavior
Comfort Zones refers to the nature of the mind to cope and survive, as well as grow in a manner that is often based on history or experiences. While it’s a coping mechanism, it may not always be a “spot” that will lead to an improved life. In actuality it is often a less than great spot to exist yet it also reflects a predictable existence, even when it’s counterproductive.
The easiest analogy to illustrate this behavior is how an abused woman reflects upon her life with her abuser. “I just have to not say “that” and He won’t hit me.” or when a person stays in an unsatisfying job, yet makes excuses for not looking for something better.
In a nutshell, Comfort Zones removes the stress, fear and uncertainty when faced with the risk of making the efforts in improving their life. More often than not it is due to a sense of low self esteem or low self worth.
Source of origins
The pain and emotional scarring from living life lands on each of us differently. Sometimes it is a motivation for change or learning. Sometimes it rests upon our emotional psyche as just a bad memory. Yet sometimes it can become a symbol of feeling a failure. The stronger the comfort zone reflects upon dysfunctional existence the probability of it being a mirror of low self-esteem or low self-worth. See our brains are hard wired to survive. That survival “instinct” is the highest priority we have and will manage, massage, dissuade, disguise, compromise and hinder us, whenever we allow ourselves to believe we’re not capable or don’t deserve better. It is a powerful impulse because knowing, that even if we’re neither happy nor content, it’s either better than the unknown or “I” don’t deserve better, or “I” am not capable of having better.
It requires the total conviction, either internally reinforced or externally reinforced, to make the mediocre today, more acceptable than the improved tomorrow.
Impact on life
Stagnation is the clearest impact on a life that protects Comfort Zones. Acceptance of non-productive, dysfunctional and/or unhealthy behaviors or even dangerous existences are
typical of embracing these “lily pads” of life.
Conflict with desires
While in the short term, Comfort Zones seem to provide a sense of stability seeming to reinforce their worth. In actuality, the opposite is normally the ramification. Emotions and energy for growth, curiosity, learning, goal seeking, dreaming or even the nurturing of others are all affected when the foggy nuances of dysfunction are allow to take root.
External sources affecting self worth/esteem need to siphon off that energy to feed their own retarded maturity and self hate. Internal sources affecting them are “dams in the river” for increasing development and a greater sense of contentment.
Manner of overcoming
Introspection, a sense of security, strong desire with personal inventory and possibly seeking external feedback are the sources of beginning the process of dismantling Comfort Zones.
To say that one wants to quit smoking, yet gets gratification from smoking is a conflict that won’t be overcome with just desire. Nor losing weight through exercise or diet without a sense of feeling empowered to do either. The same is true for relationship Comfort Zones. Desire needs self confidence or the belief that “I deserve” the accomplishment. Now saying that, don’t think that external reinforcement isn’t helpful. It is. A Dominant can lead, motivate and positively reinforce. If the Dominant can offer the insight that the submissive is worth an abandonment of counter-productive behaviors, then the submissive as well as the D/s relationship itself, will flourish.
Eventual Pursuit of Growth
As self confidence and self worth flourish, so will the evolutionary growth of the submissive as well as the relationship. Trust is a huge risk to a Comfort Zone. Trust is generally the first victim to emotional/physical pain and suffering and with the most intrinsic need to survive being genetically sought, trust in oneself and the person the submissive chooses to submit to, requires a powerful energy to acquire and let envelop the person, then the relationship.
If this premises sound like they apply to general “vanilla” life as well as the dynamics of a Dominant/submissive relationship, then good, because they do. The nature of D/s isn’t really much different than what everyone wants in life. It’s just the structure is more dynamic, intimate, powerful as well as better defined than what general society strives for.
Hopefully this narrative will cause some thinking and support for achieving the sense of contentment and aid in the establishing of principles to achieve the desires we all strive for in life.
Don't write a check with your mouth that your ass can't cash !
Now, this IS funny
sector10...GET A LIFE, preferably a REAL one !
I am waiting your message idiot SLUT, I am expecting your respect and your submission through your message.......... I am a cruel but honest MASTER. my rules are your rules, my desire is your duty, your job to satisfy my wishes..... as a return I will be your MASTER and I will protect you, you will be my pet, you will be my object, you will be may fucking propery...........
Always you have to call me Sir or Master unless if I change my opinion.
Have you understood Fucking Bitch ?
I hope that for your own interest, you have understood.....
Your Master
IT'S FUNNY...YOU CAN GIVE SOMEONE YOUR ALL, LET THEM KNOW YOU COMPLETELY, HIDING NOTHING FROM THEM. AND YET, AT THE SAME, THAT PERSON CAN LET YOU DOWN, AND HURT YOU BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. THE SAME PERSON THAT BROKE DOWN ALL THE WALLS AROUND YOU, NOW BECOMES THE PERSON THAT CAUSES THOSE WALLS TO GO BACK UP, STRONGER AND COLDER THAN EVER. WALLS THAT WILL NEVER BE BROKEN DOWN AGAIN. A HEART THAT MAY NEVER FEEL AGAIN, A LOVE THAT IS LOST FOREVER. SO WHEN YOU SEE ME, SHE THE SMILE ON MY FACE, ENJOY THE OUTTER APPEARENCE, BECAUSE ON THE INSIDE, THE PAIN IS RIPPING ME APART....THANKS TO YOU
About me
I'm beautifully broken... Shaped by the wind.. I've learned that it isn't about the destination, it is the journey that is important. The many twists and turns on the road to self realization. There is no beginning and no end. It is a circle that goes unbroken, except by One. It is a never ending process of growth, learning, pleasure, pain, joy and sorrow. It is a journey with no ending, only rest areas along the way, to see how far I have come, and to explore the beauty of myself as a submissive and a woman. It is struggling to do what pleases Him, setting aside my wants, and focusing on His pleasure, knowing that in turn, He will nurture, protect, guide, teach and care for me. There cannot be a giving, without a taking. I give, He takes. And in return, He gives back. Two people, the same, and yet different. Apples and oranges....both fruit, and yet not the same. I've learned that these are not the days of wine and roses. But out of a misty dream, our paths have emerged, then closed, within the dream... I cannot wish for more... I cannot wish for more... Well, that's not quite true. I wish for "longer"... and I "love with a love that is more than love"
My Music: I've had a song on my lips, and a guitar in my hands since I was 16 and the thrill of the music hasn't lessened with time. My music is a way to express what I can't explain; my emotions are cradled by songs... Some people think in colors, I think in melodies... I continue picking my strings one by one; a personal dance between me and my guitar, tearing inside the open wound. It is meant to burn, but the burning will subside and will begin to heal. During this moment, each word strips a raw piece of me. Soon enough, I am naked. The most personal thoughts slip through my lips, painting my room with the sound of pain and honesty. This is the power of music. I submit to the music, I follow where it leads me, without hesitation...
I Love: Fresh air, coffee, contradictions, creativity, intellect, crying in the rain, dancing upon mother earth, dementia, delirium, dreams within dreams, eclectic friends, eclectic music, empathy, erotica, erasing you, eradicating negative emotions, the eternal sunshine of my spotless mind, existentialism, feathers, fragile dreams, gibran, garters, good sleep, gypsies, high heels, honesty, hope, ice castles in the air, kissingfordays, lace, literature, love, moral fiber, my art, my ever growing obsession with the human heart, painting, obscurities, pale skin, pearls, photographic moments, moments of melancholy, rain, ravens, raven roses, reading, regret, running away, self worth, sensuality, silk, silver, skinagainstskin, soul mates, stockings, stolen moments, summer, sweet surrender, tenderness, the look of love, memories that elude me, memories that haunt me...
the sound of his rough voice whispering in my ear, things that make me smell pretty, thinking too much, timekillers, translucent skin, Victoria's Secret, vintage finds, veils, velvet, wicked games, winter, wisdom, writers, zen or the absence of... And most of all, I love it that my heart is soft as the petals of a rose, but my spirit strong as the thorn...
When did we loose sight...?
In our quest for more knowledge, in our need to explore, in our RUSH to become that Master/sub/slave that we think this is all about . . . . Have we become lost within our own vision?
I must be getting way to old or perhaps too set in my ways as I find I have less and less tolerance for the new "mindset" of the current Lifestyle.
I find many of the well seasoned lifestylers are stepping back, going private again, and even leaving the lifestyle behind. How sad is this?
I have encounterd more Doms that feel this is all about cock addiction for the slave. Worship the "cock" and you are slave. I have shared thoughts with people that work hard every day to recreate that fantasy of the Story of "O", Marketplace, Gorean Books, and the Beauty Series as a way to live. Re-read the books carefully. The reality of it is, if someone actually managed to make it through some of the physical extremes in the books, they would be mindless. Strip someone down to zero, and they become lifeless. This is not Lifestyle, or a chosen way of life, a discipline to follow and embrace.
Many slaves I have run across are so eager to throw themselves, their beliefs, their thoughts away, as they think this is what service is all about.
We are becoming more of a Fetish society, meeting our kinky needs, rather than a lifestyle community. It is more about how many times you can get "Off" sexually instead of learning about yourself as a person and honoring who you are. It is a wonderful experience to learn to dance under the orchestration of a Master and his whip. It moves from the swirls and dip of a waltz to the passion of a heated tango. It is not about beating or whipping a slave into submission. It is not about "forced" anything. (except in role play),
We have moved out bedroom kinks into main stream lifestyle activities and made this the center of our goal. To "cum" to be "fucked" mindlessly and often passed all to easily from one to another. This has become a whore house at times and the they are not even well managed or with class. It is simply a new venue for most to give away the farm , milk the cow, fuck the farmers daughter, and walk away.
Hmmmm, somewhere, somehow, sometime, we lost sight of the beauty of a way of life and replaced it for instant gratification.
I have many friends in this lifestyle who express the same concerns that I have here. I see so many going private again. Perhaps that is what is needed to preserve and protect our Lifestyle for serious furture generations.
Just my thoughts for today . . .
~ Love all, trust a few, do harm to none ~
Today's quote: "Yesterday is a canceled check; tomorrow is a promissory note; today is the only cash you have—so spend it wisely."
Decisions
This weekend I removed someone from my friends list. I did this after a great deal of thought and had to follow my heart with it.
The beauty of this lifestyle is that one can mold it to what it is they wish in life. The problem, and this is my opinion, that many do not clearly state what it is T/they are looking for. That could be simply because T/they do not know T/themselves.
One may be dominant in their perception, but that makes them no more a Master than the average vanilla person that likes to be in control.
One may be submissive in some actions, but that makes them no more a submissive unless they are willing to give everything about themselves over to one they are to call Master.
It is a journey for B/both to explore and find that which will fulfill T/their needs not which others around them feel it should.
Yes, there can be an initial spark of attraction between two people, but if the rest does not follow, what you have is empty. There is a saying that the eyes are the windows to the soul, I am not arguing that point. But if that is your only basis for considering a relationship, you are fooling yourself. You are wasting time that is too precious trying to see something that is not there.
Any relationship, vanilla or D/s grows over time, the connection has to be there mentally, physically and emotionally if B/both parties are true to who and what T/they are and that which they seek.
It is not about providing financial security for each other, there is more to life than money. It is a spiritual walk, with each other hand in hand discovering everything that life has to offer and working together to make that happen. It is then and only then that one is truly fulfilled.
If you had a store called relationships, you would have to have one the size of the a mega store all by itself. The isles would have such interesting names and you could walk down each isle picking and choosing what fit your mood that day or what you thought for a lifetime.
Front Isles of the Relationship Store: (Impulse Section - Initial Connection) What would be on your shopping list? How attractive do you see this person on physical basis? Are you looking for your heart to beat loudly in your chest like the cartoon characters on television? Have the primal desire of need kicked in so loudly that you just have to take that first step and grab the bottled need from the shelf and experience right away? What are the initials connection needs on your shopping list?
Middle Isles of the Relationship Store: (Common ground Section - Growth) This is where comparison shopping begins. What are your interests and are they the same? Are there interests you can take or leave? Are their ones you just do not care about at all? These isles fill your basket up and you start to head to the check-out counter because there is suddenly little room left for the items on the back wall. Wow, decision time. Do you head up front, check out, move on? Or, do you wheel your cart slowly back to the area filled with the things in life that makes you look at you first. This is the section you really will have to spend some time in. How much time will you give it?
Relationship Decision Isles: (Do you really know what you want?)
Friendship? Teacher/Mentor? Friends with benefits? Play partner? Life Partner? Student? None of these?
What is on your list that helps you make these decisions. This isle requires you to really stop and think because the time you spend there is important. You are no longer working under the impulse or common ground aspect of a relationship. Are you willing to stop and read the manual from beginning to end so you know all about the person and can make a full decision. How much time do you give to that decision? What are your core values? Will that person still be by your side when you face critical changes in your life? Will that person see both the positive and negative in that person and be willing not to change, but to accept who and what they are?
This isle is about core values not surface needs. This isle requires time, patience, and a willingness to invest of yourself. How much time do you give it? That is the big question. If you require love in a relationship and you are not loved, how long do you stay? If you require kindness of heart, are you willing to see what else there is to offer. What are the core things you require to say you will stop in this isle, browse, explore, see all there is to see and make a solid decision not based emotions, eyes, ears, heart, or just part of us, but that we rather take all of who we are, be open and vulnerable, and in truth, be willing to take a chance.
~SinIncarnate
Mona Lisa’s Smile
For centuries men have asked the question what was the reason behind the famous Mona Lisa smile? What was she really thinking of? Only a woman can answer that question. She was smiling because she had a secret.
She had a secret that no one else knew, not even the artist Da Vinci, who captured her smile for all eternity. Perhaps she was thinking about a lover’s kiss, his touch, or the way he stirred her passions for more. Perhaps she was asking herself what it would be like to explore the more sensual side of her that lay buried in years of society’s perception of what a woman should be. Perhaps she ached to know the mystery and essence of being a woman. Maybe she was smiling because she secretly wanted to go there and she found a way.
Is your desire to find your place and learn to be self sufficient in today’s world or is your desire is to be like the biblical Bathsheba who captured the heart of a King? Women used to know the subtle art of seduction Somewhere in the 60's, they changed and felt a need to break out of the soft feminine mode and move towards a more direct mode in order to meet their needs and desires. Women today have lost the art of being seductive and mysterious because they removed the veils of the subtle invitation.
Gypsy Rose Lee was successful as a stripper because learned to keep the mystery alive. She used many different props in her acts that gave an audience only a glimpse of a leg, or an extended arm, but never a full view of her.
At the age of 15, Cleopatra was carried in the folds of a rug and when unwound, found herself at the feet of the mighty Ceasar.
A geisha learned to move within her kimono, only allowing a glimpse of a wrist or an ankle. It was the mystery of the woman behind the kimono that made them legends, even to this day.
Women of today have been forced to submit to the rules and guidelines of the society in which we live, rather than to experience the surrender of who we are, so we can be what we want to be.
Mona Lisa had her secret. What is yours?
Rest in peace my friend for You have earned Your wings......
Do not stand at my grave and weep. I am not there. I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that swiftly blow. I am the diamond glint on newly fallen snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the soft and gentle autumn rain
When you wake from sleep in the early morning hush, I am the swift, uplifting rush of quiet birds in circling flight. I am the soft, starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and weep. I am not there. I do not sleep.
God looked around his Garden and found an empty place. He then looked down upon his earth and saw your loving face.
He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest. His Garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best. He knew that you were suffering, he knew you were in pain. And knew that you would never get well on earth again. He saw your path was difficult, he closed you tired eyes, He whispered to you "Peace be Thine" and gave you wings to fly. When we saw you sleeping so calm and free of pain, We would not wish you back to earth to suffer once again. You've left us precious memories, your love will be our guide, You live on through your children, you're always by our side. It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone. For part of us went with you on the day God called you home
You will be missed and never forgotten.
What is a slave?
So many here, i believe are quite confused as to what a slave really is, what her role is, what her "limits" are...i think many see it as all sexual slavery, and in my humble opinion it's much more...perhaps this will help some understand what it means to be a slave, in our livestyle....
WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A SLAVE
A Master takes away his slave's free use of time. Her time no longer belongs to her. She rises in the morning when instructed, and her use of time is at Master's will. She will work at what Master orders when he tells her. If she works outside the home, she is expected back at a certain time, her time belongs to him. When she eats, sleeps, perhaps uses the bathroom, when she does her chores, and when and if she has leisure is not for her to decide. Her time is not her own. If Master calls her to his side, she goes, no matter what she was doing. Her time is not her own, it belongs to Master. When you take away a woman's free use of her time, it no longer belongs to her, but becomes Master's time. I think there is no more powerful psychological experience than that of not owning your own time.
Physicality: The experience of one's body as one's own. A slave's body does not belong to her. She is instructed on how to wear her hair, whether and how to use makeup, when to be clothed, and in what clothing, and when to be naked, how to care for her skin and nails. She can be stripped and inspected at will. She is denied free access to her own pleasure. She may not masturbate without permission. She may not climax without permission. She may not take aspirin for a headache without permission. She has sex when, how, and with whom her Master decides. She must bear whatever pains are inflicted upon her. She has no right to say "no" to the use of her body. After a time, her psychological reality becomes "my body no longer belongs to me." When you take away a woman's free use and handling of her own body, it no longer belongs to her, but become's Master's property. It is a powerful shock that first moment a woman recognizes that her body is no longer her own.
Privacy: We free beings are used to the right to privacy. We close bathroom doors. We perform our ablutions in private. We would prefer to be left alone when we are ill, perhaps, or cranky, or not looking our best. We hide the evidence of our menses: flush the tampons, wrap the used napkins. We take our deepest fears, our most intense angers, our illogical primitive emotions and hide them from others, lest they turn from us in disgust or fear. We note our dreams in morning and consign them to the dream ether from whence they come; they disturb us and we wish to forget. A slave has no right to any of that privacy. There is no private space in which a slave can hide from Master, either literally or metaphorically. She may not close a bathroom door. If Master wants her to experience her lack of privacy, he may choose to intrude upon her bathroom functions. She may not hide her fears, her angers, her emotions, for when Master intuits she is astir, he will be in her face until she opens them to him. When a woman has no privacy, neither physical nor psychological, she no longer owns her space, her external or internal space. When you take away a woman's privacy, she no longer owns her internal or external space, her very essence belongs to Master.
We can see why this takes time. It takes time because one must repeatedly, consistently, doggedly take ownership of a woman's time and body, and strip her of the right to privacy. And it's no wonder there is resistance along the way: it's not only willfulness that must be addressed, but resistance out of fear when a woman begins to be transformed, when she feels her ownership of her time eroded, her ownership of her body stripped away, her privacy gone. A woman enters this process a free agent, comfortably familiar to herself, and is truly transformed.
She becomes a slave.
Lessons I've learned...
I've learned that you can not make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just assholes.
I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.
I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better have a big dick or huge tits.
I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others - they are more fucked up than you think.
I've learned that you can keep puking long after you think you're finished.
I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities.
I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place.
I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones who do.
I've learned that we don't have to ditch bad friends because their dysfunction makes us feel better about ourselves.
I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get arrested and end up in the local paper.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones just never go away.
I've learned to say "Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke" in 6 languages.
Alright this most definitely has to be said ! WHY would anyone display their "junk" on a profile picture???
I really do not want to open up my mail, or Admirer list and find someone's junk staring at me ! Now, don't get me wrong....I am not against nudity..it's sexy ( really, it is )...but Guys.. seriously, THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE FOR EVERYTHING ! It is rude, it shows that you have no class !
Now we move on to those who display pictures taken in their Bathroom mirror, or the bathroom in general..with the Toilet in the picture behind them ????? Are you serious?
Happy Hump day to all !
Flying solo
There are many subs/slaves who dedicated themselves to One, only to find themselves left to deal with the damage control of such a relationship by themselves. Some run as fast as they can into their own safe worlds. Others throw themselves into a relationship just to be with someone because they fear being alone.
"Stop leaving and you will arrive" How encouraging these words are. They only confirm the thought if we stand still long enough to reflect on where we wish to go, we will get there.
"Stop searching and you will see". I have long been a believer in the thought that all too often we become slave or submissive to our search and our search becomes our Master, no matter what side of the fence you walk. Too many of us fail to see what we have in front of us and we would rather seek a new adventure in someone else than spend time getting to know themselves. "seeing" yourself as you are and "seeing" those close to you requires a full committment of getting to know yourself well. It means you do the self work needed so you do not conitue to bring chaos into your life.
"Stop running and you will be found". When we stop running away from ourselves, we begin to stand still enough to be found.
There are many seeking, looking, getting discouraged and even giving up. Others fall back into their old habits of using others for their gain and self interests.
I would encourage those who are flying solo to look for the comfort and strength found deep within our souls. We are only as complex as we make ourselves out to be.
Keep it simple. Keep it true. Keep it honest and all will fall into place.
Sharing one last quote that has helped me through my own transition of self love and self awareness.
"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is . . . discipline weighs ounces while regrets weight tons" --Jim Rohn
May you find the strength to discipline yourself, your thoughts, and your actions so that you have no regrets on how they refect on your honor, your self respect, and your character.
This is just one of my lessons I learned while embracing this Lifestyle as a Way of Life.
I'm beautifully broken... Shaped by the wind..
