This is a combination of conversations that I have had with a handful of people, with some additions and parts edited. This blog serves a duel purpose: it gives me a place to collect my thoughts on everything I have been thinking lately and also gives you a much better indication of who I am and my approach to/feeling about pretty much every subject that unifies all of us on this site. Anyone interested in getting to know me better, Dom or sub, feel free to check it out. I encourage you to comment your reactions, even if they are disagreements on things I have said. This should cover just about everything you want to know about Sienna Sinn. If it doesn't, you know how I LOVE being asked thought provoking questions.
On Financial Domination:
I feel that the term 'financial dominatrix' is misleading. Maybe it should be online pro dom. I think when people see financial domination, they think of people just out for money. Financial domination isn't so much a fetish in and of itself as it is a category, for some people. I think it is a lot more common that subs are willing to pay for a domme, but don't have a fetish for the act of paying one. Some do, don't get me wrong. A lot have more of the mindset that they have money and they're willing to give it to someone, but they kind of have to work for it somehow, whether it's cam sessions, clips4sale, or whatever else.
They want some kind of interaction, and that makes sense. If there are tons of women with profiles that want your money, they want a way of picking one specific person that is going to be worth serving and the way they get to know that person is through the session interaction. I'm here for the relationship first, and the gifts second. Nobody says, "oh goody, I finally found someone that will take my money." Every ad you are bombarded with everyday is designed by someone trying to get you to part with your money.
Financial domination is a way of spoiling someone and showing appreciation, but it isn't the thing that attracts you to someone. If someone I am in a relationship with or I'm friends with holds my hand or is affectionate in some small way like that, I find it very cute. However, if some stranger comes up to me in the mall and grabs my hand, I'm going to be creeped the fuck out, pardon my french. The difference between the two is hand holding is an act of showing affection towards someone you care about. It is wonderful if there's a meaning behind it. The act of my hand touching, for example, my friend Beth's hand isn't a big deal in and of itself. However, when we were out at a party together 2 weeks ago and she gave my hand a squeeze and smiled at me, it was adorable. That's how financial domination is, at least in my opinion. Some people may disagree. I see it more as a show of affection rather than an act in and of itself.
On being a Dominant:
I don't think that being someone's dominant means that you have to take them for granted. I have been flamed and ridiculed by subs for the fact that I treat everyone with respect, regardless of gender or submissive tendencies until it is expressly consensual to do otherwise. Just as it is a privilege to be accepted as a slave, it is an honor to be given someone's submission.
There are tons of Dommes that truly just want your money. They hear that some girls make money doing no work by making a profile online, calling some guys names, and letting the checks come in. They only want money and have absolutely no interest in the BDSM community, much less the person tributing them. They literally do nothing and don't understand why they aren't rich a week later. They give a bad name to everyone else that is willing to put in work to gradually push someone's boundaries and open them up. You always hear about the "bad subs", but to be fair, the "good subs" are struggling just as much to find "good Doms."
When you're a Dom, you are taking over someone's life financially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It is a HUGE responsibility. Owning a person is no different than owning a non-human pet. You have to teach them, take care of them, nurture them, and fulfill a huge part of their life. A lot of people don't understand how attached slaves get to their owners over time. There is an amount of trust needed that goes beyond vanilla relationships.
On the D/s relationship:
People don't get on a roller coaster ride unless they know that the safety belt works. You are putting your life in another person's hands. It may not be literally life or death, but with the level that some D/s relationships get to, the subs are handing over the reins to someone else and saying, I hope you steer my life in a positive direction and don't crash.
The decision of a sub to give up control to you, should never be taken for granted. Finding someone for a D/s relationship is just as difficult as finding someone for a vanilla relationship. The same level of compatibility and trust is necessary.
I really hate when people say things to me like, "heh heh, so you like beating people with whips, huh?" or even "give me a list of your fetishes." I always cringe a little when I hear or read these things. While they are seemingly innocent questions, I feel as though this seriously undermines the depth of a true meaningful D/s relationship. That is like someone going up to a newly wed couple and saying, "so you like having sex with your husband/wife, huh?" It is such a small percentage of the overall relationship. Yes, sexual attraction is probably the first thing that attracts you to another person/Dom. However, if there isn't that deeper level of compatibility, then it doesn't matter.
On my Domme style, and what I'm looking for:
I believe that a D/s relationship should be just that, a relationship. Both people should demonstrate a high level of admiration for the other person. I have never been a huge fan of "loser talk" on a regular basis. It is fun during sessions, but afterwards, I believe that it is my job, as a Dom to give honest feedback after the session. I don't care how many people tell me otherwise, you will never ever convince me that I am "less of a Dominant" because I am appreciative of a slave that preformed well and reached a new level as a submissive.
While I have no problem with doing the occasional paid cam session, or having an occasional submissive, what I am really looking for is a pet. I have been an avid equestrian since the age of 9, so I know a thing or two about training animals. With any pet, I expect them to obey immediately when give a command. If not, they will be given a correction then given the command again. Unless there is a serious reason why the command cannot be obeyed, such as confusion as to what is being asked or a physical inability. In any pet, good behavior is rewarded.
I believe both parties should always have open communication, rest (or vanilla) periods where expectations and reactions can be discussed, and plenty of affection on both parts. I'm looking for an affectionate pet that can give to me physically, mentally, financially, emotionally and spiritually. In turn s/he must also be willing and able to accept my affection as well as discipline in return.
Maybe I should be called princess longwinded (I'm kidding, so don't ever call me that.) but this is something I feel passionately about and have struggled to put into words for a while, partly out of the concern that even if I did post it, I would still receive some of the same "ur hot i want 2 serve" messages. This is a lot to read, but I think it is only fair to expose myself completely. I can't get frustrated with simple, generic messages from people when all I have given them is a list of fetishes and a brief "About Me" section.
