shypasssion

There's something i don't understand....at least once a day... i get an email from a guy... and in the very first email he's asking for my yahoo ID... i mean.... don't we have profiles and an email account on this site for a reason?   This place is a.... safe venue (it's much easier to block someone or report them here than on say Yahoo)... for getting to know people in...what can be... a very dangerous lifestyle.... so why is it so difficult to take a little time here ...getting to know someone....seeing if you even have anything in common in terms of what you want out of life.... a D/s relationship... if there's compatibility...etc etc etc.... i mean think about it.... if we gave every person from here... our yahoo ID... after just one email....we'd have a ton of people on our yahoo messengers that we have absolutely nothing in common with.... and ...in some cases....some more than slightly scary, creepy & dangerous (not in a good way) people....but... even moreso... i'd think that a man would understand that us girls have to be safe and careful....cautious.... i mean why rush?  why jump into anything?   what's the hurry for goodness sakes.... take a breath....take some time.... get to know someone a bit..... i firmly believe that patience, common sense...and a sense of safety... are very, very important quality...for both a Dominant....as well as a slave or submissive....

i tell you...there is nothing more tacky...then "form emails"....when a guy sends you an email...that is so obviously not directed specifically to you....but one that he just uses over and over and over again...for every girl he emails.... that truly shows a lack of class, creativity and intelligence.....

i wonder if i'm the only one who sees this type of thing and just shakes my head....on more than one occasion i've been roaming through profiles and come across one wherein a guy has a few journal entries... in which he gives intimate and...detailed descriptions of his... rendezvous with girls... i wonder if these guys actually  think that... putting these things up on their journal makes them look more... appealing to other girls.... i'd think...that more often than not....girls would see that and think...wow... this guy is gonna meet me... hook up with me....and then plaster it on his journal...so that he can try and hook up with other girls... or just to stroke his own....obviously needy ego....kinna like guys writing on bathroom walls... i mean... honestly.... doesn't it seem like he's trying to... overcompensate a bit... bragging about his....supposed...conquests?   and let's be honest.... we all know that...95% percent of the time it's all bs..... so... in the end.... he just makes himself look like he's desperately trying to impress a bunch of people on the internet he'll never even meet....i mean... does a truly Dominant man....really need that?   Does he really need to brag to an internet full of strangers....about what he's done to this girl or that???

It never ceases to amaze....and somewhat amuse...me..that guys actually expect a girl to drop everything (including common sense)...and agree to meet a guy after two or three lousy....(and not very interesting or informative) emails...laughs softly....i mean seriously...let's be realistic (and safe) people....1. I'm not that desperate.... 2. i value my life.... 3. I've done that in the past (when i wasn't as selective...and wise)...and usually ended up sitting through an intolerably boring hour of lunch...some people just don't...appreciate...the mutual benefit of spending a bit of time getting to know each other here via emails and then a couple of phone calls before meeting... it can save both people the time and energy of meeting somebody you really have nothing in common with... and it can give a girl a bit of time to feel comfortable with a guy before meeting him which some guys just don't seem to understand or care about.... and yes... bad things can happen to a girl... when meeting a man in a public place....

a guy tried to tell me tonight....that D/s is all about a man's "physical strength"...and a woman's "physical weakness".... i have to strongly disagree... i wholeheartedly believe that D/s is actually about mutual strength...i believe that each has their own type of strength.... and i firmly believe that D/s is all about each person's inner strength...and passion... it takes great strength to control a person.... but it also takes great strength to surrender everything you are....surrender complete control...and trust another person...so implicitly...with who and what you are......

i was talking with a few friends the other day....other mothers... and one of their children asked her mother if she could watch a certain show on Disney...the mother said no... one of my other friends asked her why her child couldn't watch it....and she said... "because on that show...all the kids are rude and disrespectful...and the parents are portrayed as stupid and gullible"... i said  "hallelujah!  finally someone else sees it!".... it's so very sad (and somewhat upsetting) to me...how tv shows and movies portray people nowadays... in children's shows...quite often... the parents are portrayed as stupid and weak... the children constantly pulling something over on them... and in adult shows.. especially tv shows... the husbands or boyfriends are portrayed as stupid, weak and just downright moronic and lazy most of the time.... the women are the strong and intelligent ones... and so often it's said that... in a marriage... the woman is the one who's really in charge....

now while i don't see women as stupid and weak.... in the least.... i definitely don't see men as stupid and weak either....i know that there are quite a few women out there... who just have given up on finding a man who is strong, intelligent...and can treat a woman with a certain level of respect and compassion.... but i refuse to give up on that hope... i refuse to let society twist and mutilate what a relationship between a man and a woman should really be about.... equal amounts of strength (each has their own type of strength).. intelligence.. passion...common sense and respect for themselves... as well as each other....each having their own place in that relationship.... knowing who they are... what they're about....and feeling contentment and serenity in those roles.....

it seems more and more ... as i wander through "Dominant" male profiles... i see so many talk about how "true slaves have NO limits".... that "punishing" a girl for "disobeying" or "disappointing" them is something they do often.... first of all... i'm so glad that when i experienced my Awakening...that i did so surrounded by a group of Old Guard... people who actually lived the Lifestyle.... people who actually understood what submission and Dominance are about.... what a ...healthy...D/s relationship is about....that... it's not... how much a girl let's a man do to her... how much she lets him beat her.... or how many men she'll fuck for him...that truly shows the depths of a girl's submission.... on the contrary it's how much she gives of herself... how much she opens herself to him...emotionally...and mentally.....even moreso than physically.... how deeply she grows ....more and more... to feel that aching need.... burning... deep in her belly....to please him...and make him proud that she is his....

i wonder about these ...men......who feel that "punishing" is such an important and integral part of their D/s relationships.... i mean honestly.... if you need to constantly punish a girl... to get her to obey you.... please you.... isn't there something wrong there?   to me it would seem that that suggests 1 (or more) of 3 things..... 1. she's not really on that submissive.... if she doesn't feel the need and ache .... deep inside to please.... 2.  he's not very Dominant if he doesn't inspire her submission and need to please... 3. he's really just an abusive man... who uses a D/s relationship as a way to get what he really wants.... harming (not just hurting, big difference) a woman... physically and emotionally abusing her....

i was reading the other day....and i came across this Buddhist Proverb...that i found just so...apt.....

When the student is ready....the Master appears....

i never understand....when i read dominant's profiles...and they say that they want to "break" a girl....or "tame" her....why...would any man ever wish to squelch a girl's fire?  wouldn't he rather have that burning flame in his hand?  in his control?  manipulating it yes...controlling it yes....but never...ever... blowing it out.... it should be something he'd wish to stoke.... to bring to life... to watch burn so brightly and so beautifully....proud that it is his.... to control....to shape.... to feed.....

This is a warning to all you other single mothers out there, if you get an email from newBeachMaster run for the hills....this is a man who wants to dominate your children as well as you....  i've reported him to CM but i thought i'd send this warning out to the single moms too.....