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Female Submissive, 46, warren, Texas
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About ShyDragonfly86
I am looking for some new friends in this lifestyle. I am a beginner in this lifestyle, therefor I am looking for more of the daddy Dom type. I need/want someone expierienced, caring, patient, and understanding. I am aware of how to spot the real from the fake. A good Master is always honest and in control of himself. He is also sincere and respectful at all times. He is aware of making you feel comfortable and safe.
I am expanding my search to include the entire U.S.
A consideration period is needed, this is to find out if the two of us fit. If we seem to be a good fit, I would be willing to consider relocating. I request that you visit me for our first visit. This is due to a traumatic expeirence I went through, when I decide to up and move for someone. I do not want to put myself back into that type of situation and make another mistake.
Finding the right match takes time. I am aware that submission is a gift and not something to be f0rcced or taken lightly. This type of relationship takes trust and understanding, for without it this type of relationship can never truly work.
I am looking for a Master whom is well educated, financially independant and well grounded. A Master whom is familar with all aspects of this lifestyle. Someone whom can guide and take care of me, and keep me on track.
I am unable to work to an illness, I have bi-polar depression and anxiety. This is the main reason in which I need someone patient and understanding. Someone whom can deal with any and every situation.
I am very willing to be trained and enter fully into this lifestyle. At some point I wish to be fully owned and eventually collared.
I have posted the Master and submissive creeds below for they are very important to me. I am looking for a Master whom is aware of them as well and follows them.
I would also like to add I am not looking for the sadistic type that is into alot of pain control.
A Master's Creed
* Above all else HE cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift
the submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all.
* HE is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to HIM, but knows
how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.
* HE is in control of Himself first and foremost, so that HE may control others.
* As a stern and demanding Master, They can cause Their submissive to cry real tears.
* As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.
* In times of trouble, a Master will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never
forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals.
* HE is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.
* HE would never ask a submissive to put Them before their career, or family,
just to satisfy Their own pleasure.
* To win a submissive's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, HE knows They must
first win their trust.
* HE will show Their submissive humour, kindness, and warmth.
* HE must always show that Their guidance and tutoring is deserving of their submissives attention, that HE is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust HIS direction.
*HE is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, They
will fight for Their submissive's honour.
* HE proves to their submissive that HE is someone they can lean on, and
depend on.
* When it comes time to teach Their submissive their lessons of obedience, They are a
strong and unyielding professor.
* HE will accept no flaw. Nothing less than perfection from Their student.
* Never does a Master use discipline without a good reason. When they do punish Their
submissive, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.
* HE is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear Their
submissive's wants and needs.
* HE is patient; taking time to learn Their submissive's limits, and knowing that as
their trust of Them grows, so will they.
* HE never has to demand ritual behavior from Their submissive. Their submissive
responds to Them out of the want of pleasing them. Compliance comes from the wanting
to please, not the fear of punishment.
* HE understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Them.
* HE is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Open minded
enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.
* HIS tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love.
* HE understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other.
* And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.
The Submissives Creed
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience.
I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm.
I will not try to manipulate my Master.
I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should.
I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to or comfortable with and expanding my limits.
I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being.
I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill His wishes and desires.
I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused,
I know that submissive does not equal "doormat".
I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives,
I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been,
I will take the time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.
I will be responsive to my Master,
I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist Him in His responsibilities as my Authority,
I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Master to know thought or feelings which I do not share.
I will never think myself a "better" submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another.
I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a sub.
I know that my actions reflect upon my Master, and will do my best to help others see him in a positive way,
I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Master.
Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honor,
I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or subhuman.
I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.
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The Submissives Rights
i have the right to set limits, and expect them to be respected.
i have the right to trust, providing I have earned it.
i have the right to expect You to believe I am an intelligent, caring and loyal person.
i have the right to ask for Your attention, without having to misbehave to get it.
i have the right to expect You to administer Your punishment on me with care and caution.
i have the right to question your motives, should You deny my requests, as long as I do so with the proper respect.
i have the right to speak up if I feel O/our relationship is not giving me what I need.
i have the right to tell You what I need in a respectful manner.
i have the right to expect You to understand my reasons for doing so, and the right to expect You to listen with an open mind and heart.
i have the right to walk away from our relationship if W/we cannot come to a common ground on these issues.
i have the right to expect tenderness, love and understanding after a scene is completed, should it be what I desire.
i have the right to ask You for that tenderness if I've had a bad day, or if I just feel the need for closeness.
I understand that there will be times when You and I will disagree about this ~when You will want a scene and I will not.
i have the right to voice my opinion, and expect You to listen to and consider my reasoning,
I expect You to have final word, but i expect You to wholeheartedly consider my feelings, whatever they may happen to be.
i have the right to expect You to understand that deep trust often breeds love, and i expect You not to repel me if i tell You that i love You. For my Master i will love You, should O/our relationship move ahead, should O/our trust continue to grow.
i have the right to expect You to tell me, at any point, if You do not feel You can return those feelings, so that i may decide what i want and need,
For it is Your pleasure that adds to my own, and makes it real. |
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