sftopping

Creative, experienced dominant, seeking ongoing secondary partner.

Looking for a partner in crime I can build a good D/s connection with, at home and when going to events. I have a confident but generally informal style. I enjoy creating an intense experience through a mix of sensual SM, a mental connection, and simply following where the energy leads us.

Sometimes this would be just you and myself, sometimes with my primary partner present. My sub is straight but likes to watch me play, and likes to be tied up or dominated alongside another lady.

I'm a well-traveled professional with a busy life. Articulate, athletic, don't drink or smoke. I approach being a dom with empathy, confidence, and an appreciation that trust needs to be earned. I have a ready sense of humor about it all... you pretty much have to. ;)

I am skilled with the conventional tools of the trade -- rope, floggers, etc. -- and can be fairly sadistic if that energy resonates with my partner. I like role play (including scenes where my partner is 'forced' to do as she's told) and introducing my partner to new experiences. I have a taste for the erotic use of pain, verbal humiliation, some exhibitionist play, and would very much like to find a sub workout partner. But in the end, I am mostly about the trust and connection, controlling and guiding my sub. I adapt my toys and style to what works.

I make no claim to be as intense or kinky as some on this site (or as they claim to be, at least). Not looking for 24/7, no holds barred, etc. Just an experience we can both grow from and smile about as we plan our next meeting.

Secondary does not mean casual. I don't put myself or my partners at risk that way. For the right person we (that's my girl and I, not the royal 'we'...) hope this sort of arrangement will be ideal. It is okay if you have a significant other. I do require that they be fully aware of your outside relationship. How involved your SO is in all this is up to you. Perhaps they'd like to watch sometimes? Or be made to watch? Or actively join in or take pleasure from your training? It's all more fodder for our collective perverse imagination.

A cat and a dog spend time at my house, so anyone with pet allergies beware....

My sub and I are also open to friendships with other D/s couples, hopefully companions we can go to scene events with.