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Pleasantries: Messages that include cock shots are ignored (& oftentimes mocked in private or with friends). 

I love when I receive messages from Doms who are so wrapped up in describing how wonderful and accomplished they are that they forget to include a greeting or ask me anything about myself. It's like they just cut and paste their Dom resume and think that will be enough. Sorry boys, better luck next time. 

What I'm Seeking:

(Originally posted on the website that shall not be named.)

 People around here are really fond of asking, "What do you seek?" For me, that's a really complex question that usually can't be completely summed up in conversation without leaving some pertinent detail out. The question can also be frustrating when the person asking just wants some short, impersonal answer like, "Fuck buddies" or "Whatever happens."

 For the most part I try to remain open. I'm always open to making friends and those friendships growing into something more serious, but I think that when it comes to relationships, not being specific about what you desire can be just as limiting as being too specific (in this case I might drift towards the latter).

 With that in mind, I decided to organize the qualities, from physical to personality to D/s dynamics, that I am currently seeking in a long term partner. This list has been refined as I've explored and learned more about my needs and wants as a submissive/slave-type as well as an individual.

 Here it goes!

 Re: Long term partnership

Relationship Type: Monogamous (w/the occasional inclusion of other parties)
Relationship Preferences:
Male head of household, Taken in Hand, 1950’s Household, Service-oriented Submission
D/s status: Daddy Dom/Sadist/Master
Sex: Cisgendered Male
Age: 25-45 years old
Ethnicity: Open
Height: 5’10+
Location: Los Angeles County
Professionally: Specific occupation does not matter, but he should have a job, stable living condition and reliable transportation. I’d prefer someone who isn’t completely closed off to some participation in the BDSM “scene” (so if he had a job that required anonymity it probably wouldn’t work). He should have enough free time to see me at least once a week.

Other preferred (but not mandatory) physical characteristics:
facial hair/beard, full head of hair (or shaved if balding or receding), well-groomed, body modifications (piercings, tattoos), kissable lips, glasses, large/thick cock, high sex drive (The last two are kind of mandatory, heh)

Interests (some of which my partner should share):
literature, film, music, live shows &/or concerts (comedy, music, art, festivals, theatre, educational lectures etc), exploring different cuisines, travel, keeping an active lifestyle, road trips, museums/galleries, wine, 420, BDSM lifestyle events, current events and politics

Top Kinks (some of which my partner should share):
obedience training, orgasm control (forced/denied), rope & other types of bondage/restraint, impact play/spanking, abduction/damsel in distress, consensual nonconsent, humiliation/degradation, verbal humiliation/begging, objectification, service-oriented submission, anal play, pegging, public play/exhibitionism, sensory deprivation

Personality Traits/Character:
honest, trustworthy, domineering, opinionated, experimental, driven, intelligent, creative, assertive, capable of healthy debate, funny (and able to appreciate or at the very least understand my at times crass and sarcastic sense of humor), straightforward, open-minded, nurturing, patient, attentive, aggressive, strict, inventive, relentless

Specific Daddy Dom/Master/Sadist Traits:
As my Sadist he will push my limits and encourage me to approach fears and boundaries, while still respecting hard limits and ensuring my safety at all times.
As the Head of Household he will enjoy my service-oriented nature and want me to do the “stereotypical” female household duties such as cleaning, cooking, grooming, etc.
As my Master/Dom he will understand my natural tendency to resist and rebel and will institute protocol and structure without micromanagement.
As my Daddy he will understand my need for patience and guidance and will help mold me into the best sub/slave/babygirl I can be.