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Female Submissive, 50, Edinburgh
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Female Submissive, 38, Aberdeenshire
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Transgender Submissive, 23, Dublin
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About SelkieLady
Mid 40s Domme with an interest in D/s for many years, but limited experience or opportunity to explore it in person up until now. Part geek, part tomboy, and all lady.
I am open to social conversation with all, but my availability is very limited and erratic. In regard to establishing a real time interaction with a submissive, I'm interested in someone between mid 20s to mid 30s, with whom I can find a broader level of interest and friendship than just D/s.
The below is indicative of my own views and expression of D/s (and not a judgement on anyone else's):
What might work for me? Submission that is a need, that is proud, sane and thoughtful and that enhances the person and their sense of self-worth. A submissive who is fun and comfortable in themself, and who approaches life and D/s with a sense of humour as well as respect. Someone who is a whole person and can carry on a conversation outside of D/s, and who is prepared to communicate honestly and freely. Who is interested in sharing the journey with a Domme who brings to the table a lifetime of ideas but who will have to find her way. Who is mature enough to accept it if the dynamic doesn't work at some point for either party, and chalk it up to growth and experience.
What definitely won't? Subs who come with a shopping list of 'acts' they want someone to fulfil and don't care who it is. Who think that there is nothing inherently contradictory in statements such as 'I like forced feminisation'. Who have pictures of their cocks and arseholes on their profile - if that's all that D/s is to you, then we have nothing in common, and frankly, there's something to be said for a little mystery (and exclusivity). FORM MESSAGES and messages from people who obviously either haven't read my profile, or understood it. Switches, trans, cross-dressers and sissies - you have my respect for your choices, but that's not what I'm seeking.
I have a long term life partner who understands this aspect of who I am, and who is supportive of my exploration, but who is not personally interested in D/s. Any D/s relationship in my life will be respectful of this situation in every aspect.
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It turns out that when life gets busy, this falls by the wayside. Contemplated deleting my account, but maybe one day I'll have the time, energy and interest to come back to it all.
In the meantime, if there is a genuine reason to reach me I will continue to monitor messages.
Be well, enjoy the journey. I hope you all find what you're looking for.
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Promising connections are heartening. Lack of available time is frustrating. For the foreseeable future my time and attention are fairly well committed. I will check in when I can to read messages, but other than that I'm afraid I will not be around much.
That being said - please take the time to read my profile before messaging - obnoxious, unthinking or just plain lazy messages will not be replied to, and just make me annoyed. If there is no good basis for your contact and you're simply messaging 'any domme' - please don't bother.
And to the lovely people who do take the time to write thinking, intelligent messages - I thank you. They are appreciated. I may not reply quickly, but I will endeavour to reply.
So for the meantime - travel well, and may you all find what you're seeking. |
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Weeks without a proper internet connection - so frustrating on top of moving house. But hopefully that's all sorted now. Hopefully now to find the time to reply to overdue messages. |
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Pedestal last night, or should I say, this morning. Feet sore (despite excellent foot rub from lovely boy), eyes tired, happy smile. Great night with friends and meeting some amazing new acquaintances. London femmedomme scene continues to feel friendly and welcoming. Looking forward to the next one. :) |
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Am I fussy? Yes. Am I cautious? Yes. Do I expect courtesy and a certain level of literacy? Yes. Do I expect people to demonstrate at least a modicum of attention and comprehension in their correspondence? Hell, yes.
I'm not in a rush. Trust only comes with time and knowledge. Assumptions and agendas just aggravate me.
And in return I generally won't rush my answers, either. Because if a message is worth answering, it's worth trying to answer well. (or sometimes I just don't quite know what to say).
So if your message has not been answered, think about why that might be.
But at the same time, I'm aware that I tend to over-think things. And I realise that I'm repressing my own natural humour and lightness in doing so. This saddens me. It's hard to find a balance. |
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