SeaGreenIz

READ IT ALL BEFORE YOU WASTE YOUR TIME AND MINE!??

~ Labels and stuff ~

I so dislike labels and labeling.

My journey of self includes my being an owned slave to a wicked nasty Sadist and a submissive to a Dom who treated me like gold. Other than those two instances, my life has been spent in FLRs.?

Like most people, all of my life experiences lead me to where I am today and who I've become.?

There is no one label that defines who I am.? I believe all relationships in our lives, should be allowed to define themselves.? This belief may make me an anomaly in this venue, but since I'm seeking a person, not a label, it makes sense (at least to me.)?

I don't believe anyone can be any one thing 24/7.? A TPE relationship is certainly possible, but it's so not possible 24/7 if one lives life at all.? If this is your goal, I'm not the one for you.? I want someone to share life with, not simply someone who lives for their brand of kink or label.

So I'm clear:? I'm NOT seeking a man who identifies himself ONLY as a Dominant.? A union of that nature would create nothing positive.? I would inevitably Top from the bottom effortlessly and someone would be all sorts of unhappy (and I'm certain that someone wouldn't be me.) ? I' m not in the business of causing trauma/drama/hate and discontent so, please!? If you identify yourself as a Dom and nothing more?? Please respect that I'm not for you and don't attempt to convince me otherwise.

~ Who I'm looking for ~

I'm looking for a man who's firmly grounded in his interest in this "lifestyle".? I'm nearly positive he identifies as a submissive, but maybe a Switch.? I'm only interested in something that will lead to a LTR.? I'm NOT bi-sexual, bi-curious or poly-minded ~ you shouldn't be of these mindsets either.? Yes, as rare as it is, I'm hetero-monogamous and that's not open for discussion, and he should be hetero-monogamous also.? There are very few things about me that are written in stone and the few things written in stone about him?

1)? He's firmly grounded in his vanilla life. He has vast interests and many hobbies and none of those include anything BDSM related;

2)? He's either single/divorced/widowed and if he has children, they're adults (the happy and healthy type of adult children.)? I'm NOT step-mother material of small children nor am I interested in all the Baby Mama Drama that goes on when someone has shared/joint custody of minor children. (Kudos to those who do their part as a co-parent.? It's just not something I'm interested in being a part of);

3)? He's emotionally happy/healthy and available. This doesn't mean he's got no past.? If he has no past, he's either dead or a liar.? We all have a past.? Deal with it and move on!;

4)? I don't care if one is "out of the 'lifestyle' closet" but he needs to be secure in his choices in life.? I'm not here to be someone's therapist.? If you are just figuring out who you are, please do so and then pursue your chosen path when you know, for a fact, what that is;

5)? Kink/interests/hard limits?? These things should be ever-evolving.? However, if you're into the extremes, I'm not interested.

6)? He's very near my age.? This means 40 and over, preferably 45-50.? (NOT NEGOTIABLE!!)

7)? MOST IMPORTANTLY:? He needs to be healthy/fit.? I am and I have little sympathy for people who let their weight/teeth/eyes/spirituality/mental and emotional health decline for no good reason.

~ The Bottom Line ~

Mutual physical attraction matters.? Shared goals, interests, core values, etc., matter.? Intellectual compatibility is paramount.? And for God's sake, a wicked sense of humor is required.? Who on earth could be in situations of a BDSM nature and not be somewhat or all kinds of humored?? :-) ?

Yes, I have photos and am happy to share them with those who I want/need/choose to do so with.? NO, I'm not sending them to someone simply because I'm asked to do so.? And for those out there who think they can demand total strangers to do stuff?? GTFOY!!