I'm a 49 year old SWM in Southern California (San Diego) searching for a strict woman who is interested in establishing a Domestic Discipline relationship. In public we would be a regular couple, but behind closed doors she would be the one in charge.

The domestic discipline relationship which I am seeking would be where the woman is in charge, she sets the "rules", and she demands my obedience to her. She would use her own training methods, including physical discipline and bondage, to enforce my obedience. The "methods" would be of her own choosing, but could involve standard discipline techniques like spanking, strapping, and caning. I would wear a chastity device, or submit to her using a strap-on, if that's what she wanted. While I myself am not into cross-dressing, I do realize that some women like to have their submissives cross-dress as a means of punishment, and I'd be willing to do that. I do have some hard-limits: cuckoldry, animals, anything inherently unsafe, and absolutely nothing whatsoever involving children.

I am not exactly a "submissive" type guy; in fact, I can be quite headstrong. As such, the type of woman I am seeking would have to be genuinely firm, no-nonsense, and very strict. She would have to be willing to absolutely insist on my obedience to her at all times. It would be up to her to train me in ways she feels necessary to achieve that obedience from me. I'm not looking for someone who will "act" the dominant role, but someone who is, by nature, very dominant and controlling.

It would be up to her as to what the household rules would be and how she would want to enforce those rules. If she chooses physical disciplinary measures, such as spanking, it is important to me that she alone chooses the implements to use; I should have no say whatsoever in which particular implements she chooses to buy. She simply needs to say "I have purchased this paddle, and I will be using it to discipline you". No if-ands-or-buts from me, it's what she decided and that's the way it will be.

I'm looking for a relationship, possibly leading to marriage. I'm looking for commitment. The domestic discipline can only be a part of that relationship. There has to be a lot more: common interests and activities, common goals, give-and-take, compromise, and course, love and affection. All relationships evolve, and I would hope that the domestic discipline aspect would grow stronger over time as each partner learns the ways of the other.

In general, I am left-of-center politically and not religious. I have a college degree in Business Administration. My hobbies include cooking, hiking, going to the beach, growing cactus, and working out. I enjoy most sports (football, baseball, hockey, basketball), but I'm not a fanatic about "catching the game" (lately most of my teams haven't played well anyway). I read the newspaper daily and am well read regarding current events (local, national, worldwide). I have never been married and have no kids; as such, I already do a fairly good job at cooking and cleaning. I love Italian food, and do most of my cooking from "scratch" (no microwave dinners).

I'd like to correspond with women who are interested in domestic discipline, even if we are not a match. I want to know what they, as women, expect from that type of relationship. Very importantly, what else besides domestic discipline are they searching for in a relationship?